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How to get over someone you have to see everyday?

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Last Updated: 03/16/2023 at 3:13pm
How to get over someone you have to see everyday?
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Top Rated Answers
RainaJolena
December 4th, 2021 1:07am
Surround yourself with new refreshing people who give you care and happiness. Try focusing on something that you are passionate about, and eventually the person won’t seem that important after all. Activities such as sports, baking, or crafting are great examples that can help put your mind in a more positive mindset. If you still have trouble not getting over someone, it could be that you don’t have enough closure to do so. If possible, reach out to the person and have a respectful conversation. By explaining you feelings to each other, it may allow you to get over the person. I wish you luck!
Sleepingducky
December 10th, 2021 3:56am
Trying to get over someone you have to see everyday can feel like the hardest thing in the world sometimes. It might feel as if they are right there, but you can't reach them nonetheless. However, focusing on why you are trying to get over them might be of help. Maybe your relationship didn't work out well or maybe it was a one-sided crush that you're finally giving up on. No matter the reason, looking ahead and deciding to focus on keeping yourself happy instead of what they are doing will help you realize that they are not that big in your life. It may seem hard now, but someday, you will look at them and realize that you love yourself much more than you ever loved them. I wish you luck!
Anonymous
January 16th, 2022 1:24pm
Personally, I try to find and list any negative traits and magnify it 100x in my head. Every time I see that person, I would force myself to think of this list and gradually my perception of this person would turn more and more negative and I would eventually lose feelings. Try to see things in an objective point of view. Try to take of the rose tinted glasses that feelings give you and see their negative traits, or even make up some. For example, 'Why are they laughing so loud?', 'Why are they sitting like that?', 'Why are they friends with (person who doesn't have a good reputation)?' Even if you have no problems with any of these examples, just repeat it in your head many, many times until you eventually believe and come to hate it.
Anonymous
February 2nd, 2022 3:15am
Hey, I get this. I really do. Infact, I have to face this too. It seems like a living hell. However, it is possible to get over this. Understand that everything happens for a reason. Life is here to teach lessons to everyone living it. Likewise, life may have something even better for you in store. Keep pushing through and realize that the real prize is you, not them. If they miss out on you, it means that they have missed out on the opportunity of a lifetime. I can tell you that no matter what, you are more valuable than you think.
Anonymous
March 12th, 2022 11:23am
it's not easy to get over someone you see everyday it will take time you have to distract yourself and give your heart time to heal you need to embrace the feelings once you think you are less affected by the presence of that person your emotions will weight less and you will see life from another perspective and you will feel like you are ready for a new adventure it might be a little scary but new things will keep you excited and soon you will be able to see the person without being afraid of the emotions
Anonymous
April 10th, 2022 4:40pm
Change your routes, acknowledge them with a smile or a wave and then carry on. Don't let them linger in your mind for more than the instance of which you see them, to get over someone you must be able to push past the temptation to give them your attention. Avoid them solely to the extent that they know you aren't attached to them anymore and are now acquainted strangers. Seeing them everyday may be hard at first but by creating a new pattern to not give them what is desired, you are able to get over them slowly but surely.
bellarina74
April 28th, 2022 1:04am
This is always difficult. Especially in the early stages of a break up. Trying to end things on a pleasant note does help because at least you could still be friends. However, if it is too difficult for you to see this other person immediately - maybe take some time out and explain you need to have a bit of distance for the time being. Hopefully, the other person will respect your wishes and cease contact for a period of time also. If they don't, maybe have a firm word with them about what your needs are at the present time.
rayofsunshine225
May 5th, 2022 11:57pm
Remind yourself everyday about how that person made you feel and why you both can not be together anymore. Sometimes this can be hard and you might have to actually remove yourself from the environment completely. Looking for new friendships to occupy your free time and thoughts could also be helpful in a situation like this. Don't be ashamed that there will be days that miss them, but just know in the end that separation is for the best. When people show you who they are believe them. If someone hurts you once, they will certainly do it again.
Healtogether702
May 13th, 2022 1:31pm
it is very challenging to get over someone who you continue interacting with or at least seeing regularly. The most obvious course of action is of course to try and minimise the frequency, as in changing your routine slightly if it a neighbour or switching to another project at work if the person is a colleague. But this is often easier said than done. If you can't change the circumstances, you can only change your attitude to them. Perhaps writing a list of all the things that you aren't thrilled about in this person can help. Then you will be more aware of them when you see the person and that might help you to look at them objectively, without a flair of romantic attachment. Don't punish yourself by deliberately seeking more contact. This may seem like something you want right now, to feel better for a short moment , but it is like scratching a healing scar. It will scab more if you don't leave it alone.