I'm dating someone who has been cheated on. What should I do?
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Ask them if they would like to talk about it. See if your partner would like to open up and tell you about the experience.
Anonymous
June 17th, 2018 2:44pm
Make sure you stay loyal to them and gain their trust. Trust me, the pain from being cheated on is unmeasured. But the safety of a loyal person outweighs the pain.
Make sure he knows you love him. ANd hes the one for you. Ive been going through the sme thing. ANd honestly, i never want him to get hurt again, and when he realizes that, he will trust you more. Just don't take it to heart, his brokenness. :)
Anonymous
October 30th, 2020 2:28pm
I haven't dated anyone who has been cheated on. Instead I have faced a similar situation in my life, not once but twice! I was heart broken both the times but never gave up trusting others. Either I am way too stupid or way beyond optimist! I have risked myself that way, hopeless in love! I think it will be little harsh we tend to judge others on the grounds of one individual. We will never see how others may not be the same. At the same broken hearts are difficult to be repaired. But again, enough love can be the ice breaker!
Building up steady trust is key. Since they have lost trust before, they will be on guard, even if it's to a different person like you. Confide things in them when they tell you things. Do favors for them and don't shower them with compliments but still occasionally compliment them. Showering makes you look suspicious, like you are trying to get something out of them.
Anonymous
March 30th, 2018 4:37am
It can be difficult to navigate the emotions that come with having been cheated on in the past. This can lead to trust issues that are a natural response to the hurt of past betrayal. Understanding and expressing support for someone whose trust was broken can help to mend a wounded heart. Encouraging healthy boundaries is also important.
Anonymous
March 30th, 2018 4:29pm
you should try to make them feel more secure and in safe hands this time. try winning their confidence but be cautious and patient.
Anonymous
March 30th, 2018 9:54pm
Earn their trust don’t let them think that you would do anything to hurt them it might take some time but they will be fine afterwards
Anonymous
September 2nd, 2020 8:48pm
People who have been cheated on tend to have low self-esteem or low self worth for a while. Has your partner moved on? Or was it not too long ago? If they are still trying to get over it, offer them your support and love. Ask them how you can be considerate of their feelings, if youre comfortable with that. Take in account their personality and form of loving as well. Show them your affection frequently, but dont overdo or drain yourself out. Just make sure you are always thinking of how they might feel. Best of luck!
Make them feel as though they are the only one in your world and that you will not repeat the same. You are different and should love them enough, giving them that peace of mind.
Probably just try to be honest and build a trust base. It's important to show them that you'd never do something like that.
Anonymous
April 12th, 2018 7:32pm
Earn their trust and be honest with them. Let them know you are not their ex and you will not do the same things to them.
Take things slow,build trust and heal with that person. Because they are emotional torn and support from you will build a trusting relationship between you two
Anonymous
April 27th, 2018 7:56pm
You should talk to them, don’t hide anything from them as they might think that it might happen again
If you're dating someone who has been cheated on, give them reassurance. Let them know they are loved & that the past does not define the future. If the love is real they will feel that. But you need to show them love in the way they feel secure in your relationship.
Always let them know that they are the only one in your life and comfort them. It might sound silly, but it goes a long way.
Don’t cheat on them. Reassurance is key, show love with actions not words. If you don’t want to be with them, let them know straight out. Love and care for them, they can be sensitive, don’t do anything to break their trust.
Anonymous
May 23rd, 2018 12:39am
They’re probably going to be quite insecure and potentially paranoid. Be cautious of their feelings but don’t stop being yourself
Anonymous
May 23rd, 2018 9:09am
make sure they have your trust and that you have theres. that is the most important thing in a relationship.
Anonymous
August 30th, 2020 7:53am
Talk to them and see what they want out of your relationship. You need to try and understand how they feel and try to have a transparent relationship. In a relationship, you need to be able to lean on the other person and be able to help your partner in any way that you can. One thing you need to do is see how they feel about talking through what it was like to be cheated on. Thye might be a little bit more controlling. If that happens you need to talk to them about how you are feeling about what they are doing.
I've too been cheated on and the best thing you can do is let that person go because 9 times outta 10, the relationship was either draining or toxic due to arguments that mostly led up to the cheating and/or afterwards. Take time to gain the strength back with on you mentally and physically. Learn to love yourself over again and watch someone will come to love you better than the person who cheated on you
Try to be understanding. They may be insecure at first. Give them time and love and they should feel better in time.
Nothing. Be present, be caring and patient but do not try to walk on eggshells around them in order to make sure they don`t get to the idea that you might be cheating on them. If they have trust issues, they shall work on them, you did not cheat on them, and you cannot take fault for their hurt.
Let them know that you won’t do the same. If they can trust you as you trust them they can be more involved in the relationship.
Treat them with care. Be prepared for jealousy and a very close very clingy boyfriend or girlfriend. Reasure them often. And just hold them close for a LONG time as often as you can.
Anonymous
June 30th, 2018 2:06pm
Comfort them and make them know that every guy is bad and that you'll never do the same. Put yourself in their shoes
Be kind to them. Best thing would be to not bring up the past in important conversations and be mindful of the things you say.
You should be patient and act carefully. Respect him/her because of a bad experience, not give reason to doubt your fairness.
Be open to listening to their story. Tell them you want to understand how it effected them so you learn what things will make them feel like you are doing the same. people who have been cheated on will usually assume it will happen again. You need to show them that you will not be that person. and work and compromise with them on boundaries and making each other feel secure and loved
Anonymous
August 15th, 2020 10:11am
Show them that you are not the same as the others that the person has been with and let them know that you will not cheat on them like other have done before. Also if they are still worried let them look at your phone and be open about what are you doing on your phone so they can know you are not texting someone else. The most important thing is to make sure to build trust with this person and show them that you will not hurt them and that they can open up to you without fear of you leaving them for another.
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