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Whats the best way to get over your ex moving on before you do?

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Last Updated: 01/29/2022 at 11:37pm
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December 20th, 2014 7:59pm
Distract yourself. Live life to the fullest. Moving on is not a content, and the person who lets go of their feelings first doesn't win the game. Life is about you and your journey. You can't measure your progress by that of your ex or anyone else.
December 3rd, 2014 2:02pm
It is always extremely difficult to get over this situation. And a lot of people would refer to the phrase 'get under someone else'. However, I think this is the worst thing to do. You haven't moved on yet because you aren't ready. All that means is that maybe you thought about the relationship differently to your ex and cared more. Don't feel disheartened because you haven't yet moved on, you will when you're ready. I know it's hard to see your ex with someone else, but if it is recent after the break up it's often not due to them being 'over' you. Instead, it's most likely to be a rebound, because they feel alone and are missing you. It could just be their way of dealing with it. Most importantly, you should deal with break ups in the way that is best for you. You know you best and you must do what's right for you and what makes you happy, and if that means it takes you longer to move on, it doesn't matter because it's what's right for you.
March 15th, 2017 4:55am
Stop checking his/her social media's and letting it hurt you. Try to move forward & don't look back.
December 8th, 2014 5:36am
Remind yourself that it's okay not to be over someone. Just because they're over you, doesn't mean you need to be over them as well. Take your time, and eventually your feelings for them will pass.
May 13th, 2017 7:07am
The best way to get over your ex moving on before you do is by completely cutting off any communication and severing all ties with your ex. If you're still connected via social media or mutual friends, you're bound to check up on their life and run into them. Delete them from your life in every way so as to not feel the pain, heartache, jealousy, etc. Out of sight, out of mind.
October 30th, 2016 4:23pm
Take a step back, breathe, concentrate on looking after yourself and focus on setting and achieving goals. Try to distance yourself from your ex and most importantly, stop comparing yourself to him/her.
December 21st, 2016 7:50pm
There's no best way to get over your ex. Each individual is unique and different in their own way, including how they handle things emotional. Some handle it better than others. Focus on yourself, mentally, physically and emotionally. Don't blame yourself for the break up. He/she made that choice and it will be hard for you but take every day one step at a time. Cry if you must but the harsh truth is that crying and worrying and dwelling on the past and on the break up won't help you get better. Start to find you passion again. Start to find out what is your new favorite food again, music, game, drink, movie, television show etc. Find back your passion for those simple things and you will be on your way to recovery. Some people say the words "move on" and it doesn't necessarily means "find another guy", I usually mean "move on" to friends and family members who are dealing with these issues as in move on from the grief, the pain, the sadness. It means move on from this dark phase that is trying to take over you life. Of course you will hurt and feel like the world is ending but it's not. You will never be fully able to get over you ex before they do, you simply move at your own pace and that is okay..
November 25th, 2014 8:42pm
Concentrate on what makes you happy, whether it's seeing your friends, or working out, try not to dwell on the past.
October 15th, 2016 4:36pm
Find something to do so you won't think of them move on and delete them from your heart and don't have much talking
February 17th, 2017 12:15am
The best way to get over anything or anyone is to just let it happen. You must allow yourself to feel and think and be sad. Be patient with yourself and realize that moving on and letting go takes time. There is light and happiness at the end of the tunnel, even if you cannot see it yourself.
November 24th, 2014 5:17pm
The best way is to stay away from them, but you can't always do that. I'd suggest just doing things that make you feel good about yourself. You're a great individual and the only person who need to really love you is yourself (and God if you believe in Him).
November 26th, 2016 3:28pm
Hold your head up high 😊 Let him see that you don't need him/her and are perfectly fine without them, just because they moved on before you did doesn't mean that they got the better of you or they are happy
May 17th, 2017 7:30pm
Focusing on your own goals and taking care of yourself. The more you distract yourself from your own fantasies by helping others or helping yourself, the less of an effect the fantasies will have on you. When I say fantasies here I am not actually talking about good things, I'm talking about the negative thoughts of hopelessness, sorrow, or just bad self talk.
April 3rd, 2015 3:11am
Try to focus on yourself. Find a new hobby, a new found love within yourself. Make sure to give yourself time to heal.
June 24th, 2017 2:22am
Try not to see his social media platforms or try to avoid him. Dont stalk and be curious and just believe that you are not rushing into anything that is why you havent have a new relationship yet. That you are waiting for someone worth your time and yourself.
August 8th, 2018 2:01pm
Just think, if your ex gets over you fast then maybe that person was always there before the breakup so maybe they weren’t really the best person for you to be with and you’re lucky you got out.
August 4th, 2015 1:34am
The best way to get over your ex moving on before you do is to realize that you both might have different views on your relationship and the best way to to realize that you will get over them when you do. There is no "true" answer.
September 21st, 2015 1:49am
the best way to get over an ex moving on before you do is simply to invest time in yourself. This is a time of self exploration and which you did I discover the person you are without a mate and sometimes well the majority of the time that's an incredible person because you are you are an incredible person know that we that live that and so it shall be
September 15th, 2016 7:46am
When an ex moves on before you do, it's rather tough to get over, Sometimes one wants the ex to still miss them and need them so that they feel important, others feel insignificant if an ex moves on before they do. But a decent way to cope is to as effectively as possible avoid putting the ex in your line of sight until you are over the breakup yourself. Until you have your mind occupied that her presence in places with people that would have made you jealous, no longer does.
September 25th, 2016 7:14pm
Try to think about how much pain you will have after that , its better for today then for tomorrow .
May 31st, 2017 3:33pm
You can start by moving on for you. Not for your ex. Moving on takes time. Try not to worry about what he/she is doing. I know that it's hard, but you have to try. There is no easy way to move on. Meet new people.
August 4th, 2017 4:10pm
Understand that you're experiences are for you to learn a lesson. To not regret it as well. You should spoil yourself when you figure out your ex moves on before you. Hang out with some friends and make sure you're physically and mentally healthy and happy.
August 25th, 2015 2:54am
its simple. you feel happy for them that they moved on before you so that it helps you realize that you could move on too.
November 9th, 2017 6:18am
Take your mind off things. You could try taking up a new hobby or sport. You can talk to your friends and ask for their opinion or even talk to your parents. There were young once.
November 9th, 2017 12:42pm
Do not look at their social media pages! Try to keep contact with them to a minimum (if at all), keep busy and try to spend lots of time with family and friends. Every day will get easier
April 26th, 2018 3:23pm
One thing I found useful is get out of their life! An ex that is still lingering around tend to make us compare our own lives to theirs. We each have our own journey and to compare yours to anyone else's will leave you disheartened. Just keep moving forward and don't look back at the situation. Just because someone has moved on, doesn't mean they are having a better life than you. Just be patient with yourself and give yourself time to heal in your own way.
February 9th, 2019 12:17pm
When an ex moves on before we do, we feel like we are deeply inadequate because their new partner seems to satisfy them when we couldn't. However, although we know ourselves from the inside with great detail, we know others only by what they choose to reveal. We can imagine that this new person your ex is interested in will inevitable have many flaws, insecurities and will be extremely problematic to live with at close range. Our ex will eventually understand this too. At the same time, we can understand that whatever traits we loved about our ex, whatever experiences we treasured with them, we could potentially find in another person, who doesn't come with all the annoying traits that our ex had. Our next journey is to get over the ex, focus on improving our own life and finding that new special person.
November 29th, 2014 5:35am
Listening to empowering music, meditating over the past, accepting change, and embracing the future.
December 29th, 2014 5:37am
It's not a competition so don't let it bother you, the important thing is to make sure your okay and healing from the situation, and people have have different healing periods than others
April 2nd, 2015 12:38am
Everybody has their own time! Don't be upset because your ex moved on before you. Maybe they didnt, who knows.