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Why does my girlfriend hate me all of a sudden?

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Last Updated: 09/03/2021 at 8:17am
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May 21st, 2016 4:31pm
MAYBE:- *She found someone else. *She got bored of you. *You hurt her in some way Unknowingly. *You hurt her Knowingly. *Mood Swings. *SOME REASON THAT HAS NO EXPLANATION.
May 21st, 2016 9:06pm
She's probably just upset at something in her life, she does not hate you! It's probably just been bugging her and doesn't know how to deal with it.
June 10th, 2016 12:44am
She is so frustrated that she cannot bear it any longer. You have been ignoring all her attempts to get what she needs.
May 19th, 2016 12:32pm
My significant other use to think I was careless about our relationship because we didnt communicate well
June 2nd, 2016 1:45am
She could be going through a tough time, or maybe just having a bad day. if she is your girlfriend I'm sure whatever she is feeling at the moment is only temporary. and since you are the closest person to her she takes it out on you. but let her know you are there for her
July 9th, 2016 7:25pm
In life you don't forget someone no matter how much you may want to; you learn how to forgive and let go of the person. Everything takes time, it may not be today, tomorrow or the day after and so forth but there will come a day where you can pass him and not feel anything at all
May 29th, 2016 10:03am
Well, it depends on what your relationship with her is. Think about previous actions that you have done. Was there anything that could hurt her feelings and make her angry? Maybe you didn't give her enough attention or anything that has to do with her? Talk with her about it in an accurate but self-respected way.
May 21st, 2016 10:23pm
You might want to think back to when you started thinking she felt this way. Is there something you said or did to make her feel this way? If you can't think of a reason ask her about it'll be the best way to talk and figure the issue out.
July 9th, 2016 10:16pm
She is on her period. Periods do that to people trust me, I am a woman! Aw, but it will get better, you will be okay!
June 2nd, 2016 3:39am
Girls can be hard to explain sometimes. Your girlfriend probably doesn't hate you at all. She just has a lot on her plate.
September 4th, 2016 2:54pm
I think the answer of this question belongs to your girlfriend. You should ask her directly, talking can solve many things
May 15th, 2016 9:15am
Maybe she's just going through a hard time. Ask her to talk, maybe she's just upset or maybe you did something wrong without knowing it.
April 19th, 2018 5:26pm
In my experience, sudden negative feelings toward a significant stem from that person feeling attacked or neglected by their partner. These people want to be heard, they want to be listened to, they want to feel like they matter. When they don't feel these things, they get hurt and the pain comes out in negative emotions and actions.
May 21st, 2016 10:36am
As I am not in your place I cannot give you the exact reason. However, relating to my own relationship, there have been times when I was mad at my significant other without informing him why. I would say do things that would make her happy and get her in a good mood. Then politely discuss the matter and explain that it is causing you distress.
May 20th, 2016 12:44pm
She might be going through some things. Time and space and a little support go a long way when someone is upset.
May 22nd, 2016 8:55pm
Maybe you upset her or offended her in a disrespectful manner,ask her for her reasons why she hates you
June 1st, 2016 6:05am
Ask her what's disturbing her and thn come to any conclusion. I hope she will discuss with you the reason frankly.
June 2nd, 2016 6:15am
try to talk to her, i doet think she haten you cause you are in an relationship with her. talk to her and maybe she's just not happy. and that doesnt mean its your fault.
June 4th, 2016 6:36am
maybe , you did something that she dont want .
June 16th, 2016 1:02pm
What gives you the impression that she hates you? I'm sure she doesn't! Is there anything she is going through that may be stressful for her? in most cases when under a lot of stress people tend to push away those closest to them. I suggest you sitting down with her and having a long , meaningful chat. Tell her how you feel and inform her you are there for her no matter what! I hope everything works out for you! :)
October 28th, 2016 2:20pm
Maybe she has found out something about you. Or maybe she is just not that into the relationship anymore. You should try talking to her so see exactly why. Maybe she doesnt even hate you at all.
May 20th, 2016 8:12am
There might be an unsolved issue between the two of you and it is eating at her. Try getting her to tell you what it is and solve it.
June 11th, 2016 12:18pm
i dont think that it can be really sudden,you need to think well of what led you to this point,the only case that she is suddenly changed and you are pretty sure that you didnt do anything wrong is that if she is emotionally unstable and in this case maybe the break up is the most wise decision
May 18th, 2016 8:27am
She probably doesn't hate you. You just feel things have changed. If you're concerned, air your concerns without trying to argue
May 22nd, 2016 7:36pm
You can ask your girlfriend to talk, face to face is the best idea, you can try to explain that she gives you the feeling that she hates you, talk things out! pretty sure she doesn't hate you.
June 2nd, 2016 11:19pm
You can ask your girlfriend what's wrong with her and tell her how you feel, you can also try to think about any previous arguments you have had which could cause her to feel such a way towards you.
June 3rd, 2016 9:26pm
no one may never know unless you ask. She could just have a lot going on she just might need someone to lean on when times get rough
June 23rd, 2016 9:23pm
There's probably something she's had to deal with, and it's hard for her. Try talking to her about what happened and see what's been going on. She's most likely just stressed out about something.
May 25th, 2018 7:49pm
All the hate she has may not be directed at you: She could be dealing with issues with friends, family, school, work, etc. Since you are one of the people who spend the most time with her, you're more likely to feel the brunt of that anger. Take some time to ask what's going on and how she's feeling-- see how you can help take some stress off and if any of it is due to you.
December 8th, 2019 12:01pm
Your girlfriend may hate you for a few reasons but one she probably doesn’t hate you she can be having a bad day or something in her personal life could have happened so show support and ask her what is going on. Think back and see if you can rember doing anything wrong that could have upset her and I’d you do ask her about it and apologize. If you can’t she may have lost feeling and that is something she must come to you to talk about face to face and give you the respect you deserve from your girlfriend