Why does my girlfriend hate me all of a sudden?
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Anonymous
July 30th, 2016 12:25pm
The best thing to do is to ask her, so you're not making all these assumptions, but if that doesn't work then look into the things you do, and see if any of them could possible make her angry or displeased.
Anonymous
July 30th, 2016 11:12pm
There could be a sudden change in your relationship that she doesn't like. Or she might have a personal fear or regret towards something in the relationship.
Have you done anything to make her angry? If the answer is simply "I don't know it's weird", then maybe it's time to ask her. Going up to her and saying "Why do you hate me all of a sudden" is sure to make her defensive and get even more annoyed. So perhaps trying to give her a little extra care and love than normal while asking some sort of question such as "Is everything okay?" or "How are you doing?" will make her answer your questions.
Women are controlled to some extent by estrogen, she might just hate the way she is feeling and sometimes women are moody -its part of riding the estrogen horse
Anonymous
August 11th, 2016 1:06am
It is possible that she may have become uninterested and have problems in her own life that she needs to deal with. Never blame yourself unless you did something to make her mad. Just kidding, NEVER blame yourself for your significant other suddenly hating you.
Maybe you should talk to your girlfriend. She may be experiencing a difficult time right now and just doesn't know how to express herself positively. Or maybe she just isn't interested in the relationship anymore and its time for you to get yourself out of that situation.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2016 4:36am
I think if it does happen, the first think to do is to communicate with her. Otherwise, you will try to guess without really knowing what happen. Communication is the key in all relationship. She might hate you because she has some concerns about something and does not know how to talk to you about it.
Maybe your girlfriend found out something about you from someone you both know, or she seen you doing something you shouldn't be doing.
It is also possible that she's going through something you may not know about.
Anonymous
September 2nd, 2016 2:19am
She may not hate you, so much as your actions. Maybe you're doing something she doesn't like. Maybe you should try and sit down and talk to her,
Try to think of anything you could have done to upset her or is there has been any sort of change in either of you lives that might cause her to feel that way?
Do you actually know this or is this suspension you have made. We as humans tend to make small situations seem bigger. You need to actually talk to your girlfriend and confront her with these feelings.
Well she could be going through things. But its important to address the issue you are feeling to her.
Anonymous
September 9th, 2016 10:26pm
It's unlikely she hates you. It may seem like it, but there's a thin line between love and hate. Maybe she's upset about something and wants your attention? Something could be bothering her which is making her angry and making her seem like she hates you, when in reality she doesn't. It doesn't do any damage to ask.
Perhaps she's rediscovering herself. There are instances when people change their outlook on life. It'd be best if you two have a heart to heart and figure things out.
Why do you think she hates you? Have you discussed or asked why she is not acting correctly? You must try to find out what it is.
Anonymous
October 7th, 2016 8:45pm
There could be tons of possible answers. You could have said something, or maybe she doesn't hate you and she's upset about something else. Calmly ask her and try to fix the problem.
Communication within the relationship is key! try not to assume she hates you! She might be dealing with some personal issues herself. Try a different approach.
My attitude towards her...Not having time for her when I obviously can talk to her if there is also anything that bothers me...I miss my ex...
Anonymous
October 16th, 2016 5:22pm
Because suddenly she remembers how she had been misunderstood or how lonely did she feel when you were not there with her. She might also remember the time she was hurt by you, and the thing was actually never sorted out.
You thinks she hates you, why do you feel that is what is happening? Have something changed or is she acting different?
Ask her what the problem is nicely and if you've done something wrong to upset her in any way. Tell her you won't be angry with her whatever she says and show her as much as support as you can.
Anonymous
October 26th, 2016 6:12pm
may be its something you did.
Anonymous
October 28th, 2016 1:58pm
It is hard to say, but the first thing that comes to mind is that she is upset with something that you did or something that you did not do. Try to talk to her .
Maybe it was something you did that reminded her of a bad past experience in her life, or maybe she has some issues of her own. Try to be in her shoes and open a honest discussion about both of your feelings. How her attitude makes you feel and ask her why she feels the way she does.
You should ask her what's wrong. If she doesn't reply just give her time to cool off. Perhaps she just needs some space right now. You're probably very confused but there most be a good explanation for it.
Hate between emotionally involved parties do not start at once, or to say "all of a sudden". Every tension increases by a certain rate, and if the communication quality is not good, it forms a buildup of resentment and sorrow that eventually turns into a major frustration in either party and then we say "My girlfriend/boyfriend started to hate me all of a sudden." What should be done is, building a healthy and comprehensive basis of communication. It will help the situation from erupting at once greatly.
Simple solution - just ask her! After listening to her, evaluate if there are genuine reasons and see if you can work on them. If you find the reasons shallow, discuss it with her.
Maybe she just had a worse day or there is something she struggles with, just talk with her about it.
I'm not sure "hate" is the word preferable for this. Maybe she needs space and could be going through something. Try asking her if she's okay... If she snaps if her space and tell her that you'll always be there for her and that if she's going through something she should feel free to talk to you. Or maybe you did something to anger her ask her if you're the problem and the Two of you should talk and figure out the next steps to your relationship.
Anonymous
January 12th, 2017 3:42pm
Sometimes its not hate what she might feel. Its resentment. For some people its hard to express their feeling and they come off as hateful with out noticing. You might want to sit down and talk. That works for me a whole lot. Goodluck!!
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