Do I have the right to feel depressed even if I'm privileged?

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Do I have the right to feel depressed even if I'm privileged?
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Anonymous
June 26th, 2016 7:01pm
No matter who you are or what you have been through, no human being in this world is immune to mental illness. Don't ever be ashamed of who you are or feel like you do not have the right to seek help. Everybody deserves the right to be healthy.
amisfit
September 20th, 2016 7:51am
Yes you do. They are tricked into believing that they shouldn’t feel down because some people have it worse, but it doesn’t work and they can’t control the things that make them feel sad, they end up hating themselves because they feel like bad people. It’s true that whatever you may be going through, someone out there is going through something worse, but don’t confuse feeling bad with not being grateful. They are two complete different things that people associate with one another. Be grateful for what you have but know that feeling upset is absolutely fine, it’s something natural and never apologize or feel bad for the things that make you upset. 
Anonymous
July 1st, 2016 6:02am
No one needs "permission" to be depressed - if you have depression, then you are depressed. But to answer your question: yes, you do. Depression doesn't take privileges into account. Even if you're privileged in other ways, this is one way that you are not.
Anonymous
June 28th, 2016 6:42am
Of course you do. Depression can affect anyone at all. Mental illness doesn't discriminate. If you feel depressed you should talk to your doctor about the signs and symptoms in order to find a solution. Good luck! All the best.
Anonymous
July 21st, 2016 6:52pm
Absolutely! When I was 13 or so, I was extremely depressed. Unfortunately, my family wouldn't let me get the help I needed. My parents believed it was impossible for me to have any problems at all. The thing is, I was privileged as well. My parents were together, I had my own bedroom, and I had food. I had problems too. My mom was verbally abusive, I was friendless, and I had a bad relationship with my parents. I was depressed, I self harmed, and nobody understood how horrible I felt. Everytime I had a problem, my mom would say I was just feeling sorry for myself. I feel like a selfish, worthless human being who didn't deserve my life. (I could go into detail about some other things that happened to contribute to my depression, but I'd get a bit carried away.) Listen, No matter what you're going through, or how privileged you are, you have the right to feel depressed. And you also have the right to chat with me anytime. @alexisheretohelpyou2
Devexed
August 5th, 2016 10:20pm
Of course you do. Everyone has their high and low points in life and being "privileged" doesn't change that. In fact, it's kinda irrelevant. I'm fully aware that word is often thrown around by people these days to win an argument or to further depress / upset so I would honestly suggest ignoring anyone who tries to call you 'privileged'.
Anonymous
July 6th, 2016 1:41am
Yes you do! Just because you're privileged doesn't make you any different. You're still a human being with feelings.
Anonymous
July 17th, 2016 9:21pm
Of course! Life is not easier because you are privileged, it is just different. Everyone has the right to feel and sometimes the way that we feel is not always good. You also have the right to express your feelings. If you are feeling depressed, talk about it. Everyone feels down sometimes and having someone to talk to can really help. Sometimes talking to strangers is easier, sometimes talking to someone that we care about is. Ultimately, it feels good to get it off our chests and to be honest with ourselves about what we are feeling.
Anonymous
October 8th, 2016 9:28am
Feelings aren't about rights, they are not good nor bad, they just are. You can not control a feeling more than you control a sneeze. If you feel deepressed, you feel depressed. You will have better success healing from your suspected depression by acknowleding it head-on rather than trying to second-guess or judge it.
CopperSkies
June 28th, 2016 6:31pm
Whether or not you are privileged in any way, it makes no difference to a persons mental health. A lot of people say "Money can'd buy happiness" and i think that they do have a valid point with that :)
JBlue
July 2nd, 2016 8:16pm
Feelings are never something one earns; they simply are. And feeling depressed is not a pleasant thing in the first place; the right NOT to feel depressed would be worth fighting for! It sounds as if either others, or you yourself in your self-talk, dismiss your negative feelings by pointing to positive things, and suggesting that it is somehow wrong to feel depressed so long as anyone else in the world has things worse in some way. But this is not a very sensible view; it almost seems uniquely reserved to feelings of depression. For instance, suppose you were very wealthy and you broke your arm; nobody would even consider suggesting that you "have no right" to a broken arm, or to the feeling of pain that accompanies it. Someone might say, "At least you can afford a doctor" or "Broken arm or not, you're still wealthy." Neither of these responses, however factually true they might be, strikes me as particularly helpful or empathetic. The same is true regarding depression. It may be easier to understand why someone in a less privileged position might feel depressed, but that seems far removed from the fact of feeling depressed despite that, and useful responses to it.
Stellis
June 30th, 2016 6:11pm
Yes. Depression does not care if you are poor, it does not care if you are rich, it does not care if you are white, black, purple, orange, pink or live on the planet Mars. Depression is a flaw in our body Chemistry and that can happen to anyone from 90 year old people to little children. Money does not guarantee happiness and you have every right in the world to feel and experience what you are feeling.
HopieRemi
July 3rd, 2016 10:01pm
Anyone can be depressed. Depression doesn't discriminate. It's alright to be depressed and you shouldn't feel ashamed that you are. Just because you're privileged, doesn't mean you can't get depressed.
Anonymous
July 23rd, 2016 9:29pm
From personal experience, I believe yes because although you may not be facing the same trouble as someone less privileged, you may have other worries, other things that get to you. Depression is an illness that can be cured. People don't believe privileged people don't break bones so why would you believe they can't get depressed? It's like the saying 'money can't buy you happiness' and it can't cure depression either, in my opinion anyway.
delightfulOasis62
June 30th, 2016 8:13am
Of course ! We all are humans, and humans have feelings. Depression is a big mix of a lot of emotions, and being privileged doesn't make your emotions less worthy. No problems aren't important..
bubblegumStar74
July 2nd, 2016 6:19pm
Anyone can get depressed, just like anyone can catch a cold. You can be depressed no matter how much or little you have, and no matter who you are, you deserve to get help.
Anonymous
July 2nd, 2016 10:49pm
Yes. Depression is an illness, and privileged people can still get sick.
omica
July 2nd, 2016 11:58pm
Yes, of course, anyone can feel depressed for their own personal reasons. Being depressed is not designed only for lower people.
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2016 1:14am
Sweetie, everyone has the right to feel however they feel. If you feel you're suffering from depression, you should consider the help of a mental health professional. As for being privileged, I'm assuming this means nothing "went wrong" in your life; while this is really good and isn't something to be ashamed of, this suggests that your depression may simply be a chemical imbalance rather than a situational result. Best of luck to you in your progress to recovery!
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2016 10:29pm
Yes, you have. Feeling and emotions are different for anybody so they might suffer from things other persons would not even care about, because everybody has different views on things and struggles. Just because you have it better than other people you are still allowed to be sad.
Anonymous
July 5th, 2016 3:13am
No matter how many things you have, or how privileged you are - you will always come across a low point in your life. You have every right to feel depressed, your income or your material items should not determine your emotional rights.
Pandette
July 7th, 2016 3:59am
Depression can hit anyone at any point in their lives, if they are privileged or if they are not. Don't ever think that you are not allowed to feel depressed no matter the situation. Certain circumstances or chemical imbalances can lead to the occurrence of depression. If you feel like you are depressed, please seek help and know that we are here to help as well.
smolbirb
July 9th, 2016 1:46am
Yes you can. Depression can be caused by all sorts of reasons. If your privileged, poor, in the middle, or anything, any person some all sorts of backgrounds can have distressing emotions that can cause depression. .
YourSanctuary
July 15th, 2016 5:59am
Yes. Everyone feels some sort of depression. Even if you may have everything you ever wanted in the world, there are still things that will prevent you from being happy.
Anonymous
July 27th, 2016 11:33am
Everyone has the right to feel depressed. Being privileged has not got anything to do with it. You could be the richest person in the world and still be depressed.
Akadaniella
November 10th, 2017 12:03pm
yes,because we all feel feel depressed for a reason even if any of us have everything we want still theres things we cant get so
Anonymous
November 16th, 2017 2:13am
Of course you do. We can't choose how we feel, so we certainly shouldn't feel guilty about it. Depression can come to anyone, privileged or not
MsGoody2shoes
December 12th, 2017 1:02pm
Depression has nothing to with wealth or status. It can affect anyone irrespective of the fact that they're privileged or not. So of course you have the right to feel depressed and your feelings are totally valid.
BlueRoseAoiBara
January 23rd, 2018 7:25am
Being privileged doesn't necessarily meant that you will be happy all the time. Mental illness is something that no one is immune from regardless of your background.
peacefulTurtle94
July 7th, 2016 6:58am
Absolutely yeah, whilst some would disagree, it's wrong to assume that someone who "has everything" wouldn't get depressed. There can be a number of causes to depression, some situational and some biological, and even if you're privileged there can still be things wrong in your life that bring you down. Anyone can feel depressed from time to time, and don't feel guilty because "people have it worse off", you can't help it