I'm dating someone with depression and anxiety. What to do?
Last Updated: 01/04/2021 at 8:46pm
Dominecaa White, LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor
Emotional challenges take a toll on who we are and can limit us from being our best. My desire is to help all clients experience freedom from emotional bondage.
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If you love them, please never let them forget you're there to support them. Listen. Do little things that make them happy and spend time together - loneliness sucks. And if it seems like they're pushing you away, trust me, they need you more than you think.
As someone who has depression, I like it when my partner texts me something random to let me know they are thinking about me. My issue is that I have the feeling of never being good enough and alone, so when my partner texts me even if its just a smiley face it cheers me up. I also like it when I am with them to be reassured if I am down. Sometimes I go really quiet and my partner will just give me a hug or play with my hair and it puts me at ease. Obviously, everyone is different and likes their own ways but I hope this helps. It might be worth talking to them to see what they like. That in itself will help :)
Don't offer solutions. I know, someone you love is hurting. You want to offer support. But someone with depression doesn't hear "I care about you and I want to help you" when you offer solutions. They hear "Why are you sad? Why aren't you doing anything to fix it? Why are you so lazy? Why can't you just be happy?" I'm not saying you shouldn't encourage them to do things that will benefit them or to seek professional help. By all means, if they say "Do you think this will help me?" Encourage the hell out of them. If they ask. Don't bring it up unless it's the last resort, otherwise listen. Listen to how they feel, how they feel about these feelings, listen to them cry or get angry. And ask others to listen to how you feel- you matter too. Just listen.
Always prepare a ready ear to listen to what they have to say. It will make them feel incredibly important, especially when someone that is important to them is doing so. Make sure you are with them as much as possible, this will give them a sense of security and warmth. In general, keep their company and always tell them how much you love them.
First you must ask yourself, if the relationship is leading toward commitment, are you willing to put forth the extra effort that will be required to make the relationship work? If the answer is yes, I would suggest doing a little research on the symptoms of depression and anxiety. There are probably credible sources on the internet that will provide guidelines on how to deal with the symptoms when they are present in someone you love
Dating somebody with depression and anxiety can be very difficult. Make sure that you are not influenced by the other too much - don't play therapist to that person and make sure that your relationship is not harmful to either of you in any way. You can of course always support the other while still taking good care of your own mental health.
Living with anxiety and depression is really difficult, and dating somebody with those disorders is also really hard. I think the most important thing is to be accepting of them for who they are, and work on supporting them throughout their recovery.
There is no one size fits all answer. I have both and listening and understanding go a long way. Nothing anyone says really helps,it's their patience and support that make me feel like I'm not alone and things will be okay.
Some people aren't emotionally stable enough to handle a relationship with someone who has depression or anxiety and that's fine. It's not your fault. If you really like them them the you should talk to them about it and see what you can do to help or minimize it. If it really bothers you emotionally then do what's right for you.
Reassure them that they will never be alone. Be there for them. They need you more than ever. Just comfort them through everything and never get annoyed at them for their feelings.
It's important you don't push them, but just be there for their support. Make sure they're receiving proper professional help if needed. Don't try too hard to cheer them, because it will make them feel worse when they don't want to disappoint you but neither aren't able to "just cheer up". Take care of your own well-being, it's really important. Be supportive but remember that it's ok to have your boundaries.
First of all it is important for you to know that there will be hard times ahead, depression is like a desolation and it can consume you. Your partner is dating you and therefore the first step has been made; they have let you into their somewhat lonely world. Always be there. Whenever you can. Be there for them to listen and simply hold them when they cry. At times there may be no reason in which they will cry, they will simply cry and it is your duty to tell them everything will be okay and hold them close to your chest. There may be days in which you have plans to go out however your partner may decide against these plans at the last minute. Do not be angry with them. Do not blame them. A table can be booked for another day, the rejection they will feel as a result of your anger will remain. Depression and anxiety are disorders in which can be treated with both drugs and CBT. It is important to note that these drugs hold side effects such as being tired most of the time and therefore it is likely your partner may not always be up for doing the things in which you wish to do. Remain patient, remain calm and one day you will look at your partner and see a wide grin as opposed to an anxious smile. You will watch them grow and flourish, the love in which you give them will save them. It will remind them there is reason to go on, that happiness can be found and this is the key in fighting depression and anxiety. Never give up , if your love for them is true and requited you will get through the hard times, together.
Support them in a way you know how while also caring for yourself. Many people date others with these issues without having concern for themselves or thy stuff down their emotions because they think its what's best for the other person. You can only help someone If you are kind to yourself and help yourself as well as the other person. Remember support goes both ways.
Listen. Often the scariest thing is opening up for the first few times, or when it's really bad. I still struggle to tell my boyfriend how I'm feeling when I have episodes. Who wants to tell the one they love they feel "empty" "ugly" "worthless" and all of the above? It's hard to show our dark sides- as a significant other, just be there to listen, love and support them. That's truly what we need, reassurance that we're not alone in this.
Give them the space they need. I bet youvare concerned, but they need their own time with depression. If they ask for a helping hand, give them that. Anxious people also need freedom.
Just be kind and don't be offended if they don't always react the way you expect them to. A little bit of love goes a long way when you're feeling depressed and anxious, and some of us need more frequent reminders of our worth than others :)
Understanding and being there for that person. Understanding is the best way to help someone who has Depression and Anxiety!
All you can do is be there for them. They will get paranoid only because they're scared you'll leave. Just be understanding and let them know as much as you can that they make a difference in your life
Educate yourself on depression and anxiety and keep open lines of communication: reach out to your loved one if they are struggling with anxiety or depression. Ask them how they feel you can best support them, and make a plan for what they think would be helpful when they're having a rough time. Most importantly, though, be sure to take care of yourself ~ giving yourself space to breathe, process and rest when you need it is the most important thing. In order to help anyone else be their best self, you must be your best self first.
According to me you should talk to that person and try to help them. And dont leave them jut cuz they're depressed and have anxiety.
Treat this person like every normale one :) Remember that depression and anxiety is a real and serious disease, so comments like "don´t complain about everything" etc is not helpful. good luck :)
The best suggestion I could give is to be patient and don't give up on them if they are someone you truly care about. Those are two ailments with difficult symptoms to manage. If it effects your relationship, perhaps seeking help from a therapist and. depending upon how involved you would want to be in their path to recovery, maybe it is something the two of you can do together. If the person you're dating feels like they have support and does not feel alienated by someone they care about (you), it could help them on their journey. Depression and anxiety are very complex, and (from personal experience) have layers that lead to other layers that need to be addressed to begin healing. Best of luck!
Always give them comfort. Never get angry or upset at the person and always be patient. when something goes wrong just stay calm and work it out.
Support them and let them know that your willing to listen and be there for them through the good times and the bad times. Let them know they won't always feel this bad.
The best you can do to support them through their depression and anxiety is to show that you care. Do your best not to be angry at them for being anxious or unmotivated. Ask them how you can help, and be willing to support them.
Firstly, you should be patient more than normal. If you are not patient and considerate, you can afflict this one without notice.
In my experience, the most important thing is listening to them. Maybe you don't always know what to say or how to make them feel better, maybe sometimes you don't even understand the issues they are dealing with. But most people feel much better when they feel like they can open up to someone and not be judged or criticized. Try thinking "I may not fully comprehend their feelings, but their feelings are real and valid. They are going through a hard time". Take care of yourself too. Depending on how bad your partner's depression/anxiety is, being there for them can use up your energy. So make sure you are well rested and fed, engaging in positive activities and generally not neglecting your own well-being. Take care!
Make sure your partner knows that you are there for them and listen to them sincerely. If it seems out of their control, refer them to a counselor
first of all come out of it , be with him\her all the time , give full of your attentions. show your loyalty, love , caring towards him\her .
Let them know you are there for them. When they are depressed, being there for them is the best thing you can do for them. If they are getting really anxious, remind them that you're there and you will help to the best of your abilities.
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