Why do I always think everything I do is wrong?

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OutOfRoses
July 6th, 2015 1:13pm
This is probably because you're letting negative thoughts win over. You're not trying to think about pros and cons of what you do but only about cons. I myself try to see what is good about what I do, because at the end there is always something positive you can think of if you try.
Wanderlust
June 17th, 2015 7:00pm
The real question is, were you always told you were doing something wrong since you were a kid ? By parents, teachers, peers, older siblings perhaps ? This could be a reason why you tend to feel as though everything you did was wrong. Although, realizing your own value and supporting yourself rather than blaming yourself for everything can slowly change this way of thinking. Forgiving yourself and realizing that you are human, whenever you feel like you did a mistake is a way you can feel much better about situations and feel more confident in your decisions and actions. Good luck !
Anonymous
March 2nd, 2015 7:38pm
because you don't have confidence in yourself and always are overthinking things just trying to find a little mistake so you can say you did it wrong. Or maybe you get too nervous and do it wrong, but you say you think you are wrong, that means its related to thoughts, you need to do meditation to control your thoughts much better and do activities to build up confidence which can include speech giving, and stuff that requires you to be in front of public.
AbsoIet
September 29th, 2016 3:13pm
Maybe because you didn't receive enough encouragement from someone who was important to you or someone you were expecting that encouragement from, a father, a friend or a relative, or maybe because you constantly had people telling you that you weren't good enough at certain things.
MarcoTheCreativeGuy
March 13th, 2015 7:26pm
I bet you're doing the most things right, society is just full of high standards in which even the best people won't fit. Remember Albert Einstein? Keep your track, do what you love and do it with passion.
shoulderforu
May 18th, 2015 9:07am
self love is ur answer...u need to value ,love and respect urself... :) see the potentials u have :) focus on making them better....forget everything els :)
jaaymeee
September 21st, 2015 9:11pm
You always think you're doing something wrong because you don't know how to be confident in your choices and decisions. People are good at disciplining themselves for the things they do wrong but don't know how to reward themselves for the things they do right.
therapinto
March 6th, 2015 6:28am
This is the depression talking...telling you that you are cursed and responsible for everything wrong and that you are not good enough. These are illogical and false statements. You are good enough and you deserve to feel better about yourself. Sometimes bad things happen and they are of no fault of our own. We cannot be responsible for everything. It isn't humanly possible.
Anonymous
July 26th, 2016 1:52am
If you're conditioned to think you are wrong...you will always question your ability and be uncertain about all decisions you make.
Anonymous
October 2nd, 2016 1:16pm
I always think that everything I do is wrong cause I am a perfectionist, meaning I have high standards that mostly turn out to be hardly achievable. Also, probably cause I depend too much on the approval of all who are involved in my activities. Another important thing is a too critical parent in the childhood, who was mostly more interested in deconstructive feedback and less on constructive support and patience.
gracefulAngel96
September 17th, 2015 7:56pm
Sometimes we put a lot of pressure on ourselves to always know the right answer or right choices, and when we struggle we think we are doing something wrong. The ironic part; sometimes the things we view as "wrong" are actually "right" in the long run. We all make mistakes, but if we didn't, how would we learn?
peacefairy
October 6th, 2016 10:34am
I think it because the people around me become sad and angry whenever I do a task and it makes me guilty
Anonymous
September 29th, 2015 6:52am
Low self-esteem can lead to feeling unsure about yourself. Anxiety can also possibly a factor.
theradianthero
December 14th, 2015 5:02am
It's a confidence thing. I am like that as well. I do not completely understand why, but I will give it a go. So basically, the more you do one thing the more you are confident in it. The vice versa applies as well. What does that mean? If you rarely spell difficult words, and someone says a word you spelled is wrong, you will immediately doubt yourself. The key is to catch these moments and practice with repetition to increase your confidence.
calmParadise87
June 22nd, 2017 6:50pm
You may feel this way if you don't have any good support system. If you have no one that ever compliments you for the things you do or encouragement from your family & friends.
kindDreamer26
September 14th, 2016 1:59pm
Because we as humans love to criticize our every thought and decision. And lack of self confidence I'm sure is a key issue. I've been there FOR SURE. It's easy to feel wrong in all that you do. It's hard to stand by your decisions when you feel like you're wrong. But you know what? As long as you aren't hurting anyone or yourself, you aren't wrong. You're you. And you make the decisions you make for a reason. Don't second guess yourself, and if you feel like you've made a wrong decision, learn and move on and do the best you can next time. You're going to be wrong sometimes and that's ok. You're also going to be right a lot. But I'm sure not everything you do, is wrong 👍🏻
KintsugiLady
September 21st, 2015 11:43am
Sometimes our brains trick us into thinking and/or believing things that are not true. Ask yourself: is that really true? Do you really believe it or is it just a thought that comes to you way too often? Think of it this way: nobody is perfect, and nobody should be; just the same, nobody is completely imperfect. You do some things right, and some things wrong, and what those feelings really mean is that you care, that you want to do better.
Anonymous
June 3rd, 2016 10:34pm
I had to answer this, I the exact same way. I was only inches away from my arm when I had the knife and decided I wouldn't do it. I have one thing to say. Don't give up. No matter what. It was hard for me to choose life but for a persons with low self asteem I do know I'm better than this. Writing this letter seems perminant. Now I won't do anything drastic. But remember that we all go through things, and you're better than this. Now we both need to calm down and begin living life the way were suppose to. PS. eat chocolate, it helps.
FriendlyBear95
October 11th, 2016 4:30pm
Sometimes when people have a low opinion of themselves, they find it hard to believe that they're capable of doing anything correctly. That could be it. It could also be related to stress: when I find myself having to do maths, I often get so stressed that I have to double check almost every sum I do because I've convinced myself I'm not doing it correctly! It could also be related to past experiences, perhaps you had/are having a really rough time at school, or maybe there has been someone in your life who has put you down at every opportunity- that person for me, for a while anyway, was my mom. We don't speak anymore, but for a while I still had her words ringing around my head. These are the answers I can give you from personal experience.
cdname
March 7th, 2016 3:56am
Because doubts are natural phenomena. It's okay to feel wrong even if you aren't but always try reasoning why you are wrong. Maybe you'll find out that you're wrong about being wrong :D
Anonymous
September 3rd, 2017 8:12am
You 100% of the time think 100% of what you do is wrong? That does sound very difficult. When we have self-critical thoughts it can be a sign of self-esteem issues or depression or anxiety issues. Challenge these thoughts with more realistic versions and over time your thinking may change. For example, instead of "I always do everything wrong," think "That's not entirely true. Asking that question on 7cups wasn't wrong. Getting up this morning wasn't wrong. Having concern for myself wasn't wrong. I'm doing some things right. I also make mistakes, but I"m only human." Mathematical probabilities help me have hope; for example surely you must 1% of the time not be thinking you did everything wrong, or surely you must do at least 1% of things right? All-or-nothing thinking and comparative thinking is often hurtful to us and to the things we are comparing ourselves with. Have patience with yoruself as you change your thought habits and remember to love yourself because you deserve it.
Anonymous
December 14th, 2015 10:56am
Well first of all, erase this from your brain that everything you do is wrong. Consider your decisions keeping in mind that to err is human. So it's not possible for you to do everything in proper way and that's literally justified. You are thinking this as you are stressed and terrified. Forget your stress, regain confidence and do everything with a smile on your face :)
BCWC
September 25th, 2016 6:09pm
You can not trust yourself. You can not believe yourself. You think that you can not do anything but that is wrong! If you want to, then you can do.
JeniiMiranda12
January 25th, 2017 8:34pm
The reason for that could possibly be that you've been told so many times that you mess up things and it gets stuck in your head even if you do something perfectly fine.
helpfulSkies2120
October 6th, 2015 11:27pm
maybe most likely to be the environment around you?
calmLove29
December 28th, 2015 12:09am
because others are putting it into your head. sure you'll make mistakes but everyone does so they need to get over it and realise that whatever you were doing was for the right reasons
VerenaBiscaya
September 18th, 2016 8:35am
Because there is really no way to satisfy everyone around you with the choices you make, Try to satisfy yourself.
Anonymous
December 14th, 2016 5:40am
Because we live in a world where we always look to others for validation, and if we don't get it right away, then we believe we did horrible, and now we can't help but think that about everything we do
Anonymous
September 15th, 2015 1:15pm
You do not trusy yourself enough. The decisions you make, you aren't confident about them. That's completely fine. It happens. Just know that you need to believe in youself. Making right decisions in life isn't always possible, we all aren't Illuminatis. We learn from our mistakes. So, believe in yourself, take a deep breathe and go for it!
Anonymous
November 17th, 2015 3:06am
Every now and then people feel like this, don't think your the only person. You haven't done anything wrong x