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Why do I feel like a failure?

94 Answers
Last Updated: 11/15/2021 at 6:34pm
1 Tip to Feel Better
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Lindsay Scheinerman, MA, LPC

Licensed Professional Counselor

My work with clients is to help them recognize and build on their strengths to find solutions for the conflicts presented in their lives.

Top Rated Answers
Anonymous
December 12th, 2017 8:08am
We feel like a failure if we always see the negative in every situation. If we feel that way, it's better to think that you only fail if you quit on trying, and that failure is just a stepping stone to success.
Anonymous
June 26th, 2018 8:35pm
Sometimes pressure and fear can lead you to believe you are a failure. It could be doubt in self, as well.
SynSavory
November 12th, 2019 12:37am
People feel like a failure because they have a tendency to compare themselves to the success of others. Others show you a highlight reel, while you only know your true story. By contrast, the highlight reel seems nicer, but only on the surface. It's best to look at life as a series of steps where you operate on your pace, on your terms, for the goal path you intended. If you don't know what that goal is - that's perfectly OK as that's human. It takes time to grow and develop that goal-oriented acumen. What matters is what makes you happy and gives you meaning. Every one of us has potential. I've seen it happen. As long as we know our limits, even doing one thing is a triumph. I hope that helps.
DaKine
November 15th, 2021 6:34pm
Everyone goes through challenges in their life and life is full of successes and failures. If you feel like a failure remind yourself of your successes. Then ask yourself why you don't focus on your success and what you are missing in your life to feel successful. Feelings of failure come from not being happy in your life and wanting a different experience. You can always change your path and your experience so that you can feel better about your life. Sometimes the changes are small and other times the changes are large. Don't be afraid to start your new life :)