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Why do I feel so alone?

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Last Updated: 04/21/2020 at 1:47am
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Top Rated Answers
interestingBerry24
November 20th, 2015 12:51pm
Maybe overthinking things can make you feel this way. Call a friend to go out. Or even come here to talk. Just know your never aline.
cherishedJet13
November 20th, 2015 12:46am
You aren't alone, I am here and so many other people around you are here to help and support you when there is no one else there. You may feel lonely but trust me you aren't.
Bazinga88
November 19th, 2015 3:37pm
We feel alone because we believe that no one understands or feels the same way that we do. Sometimes it is helpful though to talk about how we are feeling, then we realize there are others who feel things similar to us.
summer31591
November 19th, 2015 7:09am
Because you think no one can understand you. No one can feel what you feel. You think no one is interested to you
nlpinspiration
November 18th, 2015 7:25pm
Well it is really strange situation when you feel empty deep in yourself. A good change is to determine which activity fulfills you and makes you happy, and start practicing it. That activity itself will make you feel Happy
exuberantWheel7566
November 17th, 2015 2:33am
I don't know. I feel alone too. I don't think it's worth getting through this for me. It's only going to come back again.
Anonymous
November 15th, 2015 6:30pm
you may feel alone because you have forgotten how many people truly care about you. At 7 cups we are here how can we help you ?
wonderousSunshine82
November 15th, 2015 5:39am
Many times we get so busy with every day life that we forget to take time out for ourselves. When we don't have much time to ourselves this means we also may not have time for the people in our lives. Take some time out today to call, message, or visit a friend or family member.
Ryocent
November 14th, 2015 11:06pm
I think you feel alone because you think no one is there for you. Someone is always there for you, even when you don't know it. I remember when I felt that no one was there, that no one cared about me. But then I looked around and saw a whole community of people that loved me, and cared. It takes time to feel this way, I would know, but its there. People are there for you. You just can't see them yet. If you look around, and really focus, I'm sure you'll find at least one person to lean on.
RC93
November 14th, 2015 7:33am
There may be many reasons for this. Without knowing your story specifically, it is hard to answer. Try striking up a conversation with a listener. If that does not help, seek professional help.
AmyLynn93
November 10th, 2015 6:11am
So many things could be causing your feelings of loneliness; I know one of the worst things in the world is feeling emotionally alone when someone's physically with you. It's in those times that you have to find peace in whatever makes you happiest; God, or being your own best friend, etc.
Anonymous
November 8th, 2015 5:12am
According to a study of more than 170,000 people published at the Psychology Bulletin in 2013, the average adult’s network of friends and colleagues have shrunk over the past 3 decades. It’s no wonder many people feel lonelier than ever. Feeling lonely, however, is not a direct cause of being alone. It’s possible to feel lonely in a crowd.
thr33days
November 7th, 2015 1:47pm
you probably feel alone because you want to be alone with out realising. it happens a lot when going through depression you just want to go through what you are going through alone and would like not to waste other peoples time but that is not true you need to just stop and take a breath and look around you there is going to be some one there that cares about you and can help you with your current mental state of feeling alone x
4CinderandSage
November 6th, 2015 6:21pm
Personally, I went through a period last year where I felt very alone. I didn't have friends, I lived in a new city with my boyfriend. Depression can be the cause. Would you like to speak to a listener?
Greatlistener87
November 6th, 2015 2:09am
I think that age, gender and situation is a big impact on why people feel alone. If example you are in your 30's your probably looking to settle down and all and if you have no one to settle down with loneliness is bound to kick in. Always try to stay positive things will come in due time :)
Anonymous
November 5th, 2015 11:53pm
Its human nature to crave contact with others, so maybe its been to long since youve hugged someone, or in an other case, maybe you just are trying too hard to find friends, that you dotn realize that you already have alot of them.
OvercomeDespair857
November 5th, 2015 5:17am
I can relate to this question far too much. I feel alone, almost every second, of every day and night. I mean, I know I'm depressed, but I'm getting better! Yet I feel like this still... And I don't know why I feel this way anymore. I know I'm not alone, and that I never was alone. But I feel alone. Why? I'm tired of feeling this way. I'm used to it, but that doesn't mean I'm not tired of this. It's the same day, almost every day. The same night, almost every night. I'm tired. I wish I had someone I could go to every day and ask for a hug or for them to cuddle me or just simply hang out with me. But my "friends" don't seem to get the hint. I just want to feel safe, not alone. Is that too much to ask..?
Anonymous
November 5th, 2015 5:03am
I feel so alone because I don't really know who I am or who I want to be so I don't know who to hang out with or if anyone has the same problems as me.
PhoenixB
November 4th, 2015 7:01pm
Maybe because your freetime is spent alone. Try reaching out and engaging in conversations and social activities.
Fitrandi
November 4th, 2015 4:51am
It might be for various reason, you might feel alone because you feel no one understands you or it might be because even though you have a lot of friends none really seems to be present for you. Being alone and feeling alone are 2 different things. The question I would like to know is why do you think you feel so alone.
braveNight89
November 1st, 2015 9:08pm
Sometimes I feel alone because I don't know who to talk to.. Because I am alone.. because I feel as though no one understands me. Usually this is associated with my depression but at times I really just don't have anyone around I can talk to and I don't want to bug anyone either so I usually stay to myself. I don't like feeling alone all of the time, sometimes its okay because it means I get time and space to myself. But sometimes I just want to be in someone else's company they don't even have to say anything, just knowing that they are there for me if I need them is enough. I just want someone there who will understand, who will not judge, who doesn't mind me for who I am.. no matter how odd I can be.
iona
November 1st, 2015 12:34am
Feeling alone in a busy place is isolating. It is soul-destroying. It makes you feel just so small and unnecessary. I know how it feels to be made to feel like you are worth nothing. Loneliness moves on to be depression, as you're so alone. Well let me tell you that you are AMAZING. Being lonely won't change that, don't let that little pod of characteristics you have change. I hope your loneliness reduces soon.
Anonymous
October 31st, 2015 6:12am
Maybe you just feel alone because you need someone to talk with, or just someone who listen to you. And that's why we are all here, to support people, guest, members or even listeners.
Anonymous
October 31st, 2015 12:06am
Feeling alone can be a horrible feeling especially when there are people around you but you still feel alone and sometimes even being around people can make you feel worse if they don't know what you're going through because they are still happy while you're there carrying a weight on your shoulders all on your own. Speaking up and reaching out to someone can really help as long as they are willing to listen and be there for you so choosing someone you know will be understanding is important.
XxCourageAndLovexX
October 30th, 2015 1:42pm
The feeling of being alone can come and go or seem to stick with you for a long period of time, but everyone feels it at some point in their life over the years. Even while being surrounded by friends or family you can feel alone. It's not just psychological, but also on a physiological level. If your body isn't producing the right amount of serotonin then you can being to feel less like yourself and more isolated. If you feel alone because you don't think you have anyone, then talk to someone on here. There are plenty of people who would love to befriend you and show you love and compassion.
beautifuldevil
October 30th, 2015 9:33am
One of the most destructive symptoms of pain is isolation. Our negative emotions make us subconsciously isolate ourselves, making us feel more alone than we actually are. The truth is that not everyone cares about what you're going through, but there are so many who do: friends , family and the listeners here at 7 Cups. It is important to try to remind yourself that you are never as alone as your pain makes you feel. There is always someone who you can turn to for help or support.
dmbLover41
October 29th, 2015 12:54pm
Sometimes the weight of the world can be overwhelming and feel like no one is there to share the weight.
Anonymous
October 28th, 2015 9:30pm
Loneliness is the absence of emotional connection. Some people can't really emotionally connect with others for one reason or another. You can feel connected to a character, an artist or his artwork maybe a relative you didn't really have the patience or time to talk with, a neighbor? anyway.. when you feel a warmth, you'll know. keep it. that way the physical absence wouldn't matter that much. love yourself.love.
VisibleForEveryone
October 28th, 2015 9:17pm
Human beings are naturally social animals. When we find ourselves becoming isolated, we should take that as a warning sign that we are turned against ourselves in some basic way. If not already there, we are on a path toward feeling bad, lonely, introverted or even depressed. When we start feeling isolated, we may have thoughts of not belonging or of feeling rejected by others. What we overlook, however, is that when we are alone, we are often in the company of our worst enemy- the onewithin ourselves. An isolated space is the perfect breeding ground for negative, self-critical thoughts. These thought patterns make up the “critical inner voice (CIV),” an internalized enemy that leads to self-destructive thought processes and behaviors. This inner critic feeds into our feelings of isolation, encouraging us to avoid others and remain in a lonely state.
thatmiley
October 28th, 2015 2:48am
Because sometimes we feel like there's nobody out there that really cares about us, but here in 7 Cups I learned that we always have a shoulder and someone to talk to