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Anonymous
April 21st, 2016 1:32am
My little sister and I do our best to understand each other. I /don't/ hate my little sister. In fact, we're best friends. I usually try to place myself in my little sister's shoes, and do my best to cherish our relationship. She's a precious girl that I've been given the privilege of being able to call "sister".
Anonymous
April 27th, 2016 11:47am
If she's younger, she may not realize what she's doing. Talk with her or maybe your parents about it. Being at home will become stressful if you're in a close environment with her, and you'll find yourself getting annoyed at her and maybe other members of your family a lot quicker than usual.
The word 'little' is a keyword here, if she's younger than me I'd like to play my elder sibling role being more responsible, she's little now but when she'd grow up she'll think of me a good brother/sister and will love me. I'd do anything to protect her from the wrong people, time will teach her about respecting elders. I will care for her and love her even when she's angry with me, because we're family and that's what we do :)
Anonymous
June 11th, 2016 11:15am
Ok, so I deal with this as well. But I kinda have an explanation (based on my religion, but I am no trying to impose it to anyone, just the explanation might help): we usual reencarnate with people that we must work past life problems with; so, I suppose I had huge problems with my brother. I remember myself everyday that he doesn't have this knowledge therefore I can help raise him into someone good and not let him keep being this person that for a few reasons makes me hate them. So, I teach him about matters that are important to me (e;g; lgbtq+. feminism,...). However, is important for you to know that even though if you work on your hate you'll be evolving, feeling anger eventually is OKAY, is human, it's okay for you to not like anyone. You can work on your hate, and still you don't have the obbligation of loving her. Just letting the hate go is a huge step; xx
There must be a reason why you hate her, find out the key reason and deal with it. She is your sister and no matter what you do and where u go she will always be. So learn to forgive and let go to have a better relationship.
Think of how cute they were when they were younger. Then remind yourself what you were like at their age, and try to think of their needs. Most of the time, as elder siblings, we are more selfish and fail to see how our actions may affect our younger siblings. Be kinder, tolerant, and realise that you were once as, if not more annoying at that age.
Anonymous
April 9th, 2016 11:31pm
Think about this: Hate is such a horrible feeling. Maybe you have your reasons but it's not healthy to hate your sister. Try to erase that feeling and think about good things of her.
Firstly, assess the reason behind the hate - have she done something offending towards you or does she have a habit that you dont like or are you jealous of her (she gets more attention/love) -- To move on you need to be honest with yourself and ask what is the reason? If this is something her fault then talk to them -- tell her the truth and try to mend the relationship. If its your own inferiority then you need to work on yourself.
Hate is a strong word. You're probably just annoyed with her. You have to realise that she is your sister, one of the strongest relations of them all. Remember that she is only little and she honestly in all sense of the word is clueless compared to most. Be patient and what I like to do is just observe her, know that she is living too. Remember she wont be small forever, so try to build a connection at a young age because you might regret it at later years.
Well first off you need to try to pin point why you think you hate her? Once you have piece that together well now its time to find a solution. This hate is actually hurting you, stressing you out and eating at you. Try to find an outlet for your anger, Like working out or music or writing whatever you like to do when you are stressed out.
hate is a strong word,and for your family you don't hate, you love her,try and forget the way she is
Family is important, and siblings can indeed really push our buttons sometimes. But having a sibling can be a wonderful thing too. It is someone who is in your house who can be a friend who is around a lot, someone you can rely on and also be there for. Every relationship even friendships and sibling relationships benefits from communication, if your younger sibling is doing something to make you upset, then you have to let them know and let them know that it hurts your feelings. Then explore solutions to move past that issue, if this is young siblings, parents can be great to assist in this regard. If we are talking about adult siblings then do something nice for your sister, or suggest you both get coffee and treat her before you tell her why you are feeling the way you do. I think that could lead to some pretty surprising positive results.
In order to stop hating your little sister, perhaps is a good idea to play with her, share time toguether...
Sibling rivalry has been around for as long as there have been siblings. If you're an older sibling, you likely find some of your younger counterpart's behavior frustrating. Little sisters can be annoying. Sometimes they are still learning how to behave with maturity. Sometimes their behavior tempts you to use immature tactics yourself! Fortunately, you can lesson the annoying impact of your little sister's behavior by remembering one important fact: she looks to you as a role model.[1] Respond to your sister's annoying qualities with maturity, and encourage her when she behaves well. Soon you'll find that she annoys you less -- and you'll enjoy your sibling relationship more.
Allowing yourself to love your family no mater what, and understanding that they too, are only humans, and are allowed to make mistakes just as you are.
Anonymous
October 2nd, 2020 7:52pm
First of all, maybe analyzing the reason why you hate it so much might be a solution. Some brothers end up hating their younger siblings just because the amount of attention they get. However, there are a couple of things you might consider first : there is a blood connection between you. Family remains family remains family, no matter what. Maybe it is just a phase, siblings usually fight when they are young but end up being great friends in the future. So you might waot for that to happen, you'll realize that having a brother or a sister can be useful in many ways. Besides, if you think that they receive more attention, maybe consider that having a young child is hard for the parents. They have to take care of everything, just as they did to you. :)
Start spending time with her. Hang out with her and care for her. Take time to understand her and the things she loves.
Siblings may experience being the best of friends at times and the worst of enemies at other times. Though it is common for siblings to irritate one another, this irritation can escalate if both siblings are not properly caring for themselves and the relationship. Self respect is an important quality in a person in order to have stable and healthy relationships and fair boundaries. Many times an older sibling may feel responsible for his or her sibling or may feel guilty denying their younger siblings, however it is essential to learn that each person is solely responsible for his or her actions. When one child attempts to control the other, possibly mistaking supervision for control, spats can occur as one or more persons may feel disrespected or out of control of themselves. Older siblings should discuss the need for a safe space in the home so that they can take a break from other members of the household including younger siblings. Personal space is important for self care activities, self soothing, journaling or to develop mindfulness of present emotions. Older siblings may need to learn to set healthy boundaries with a younger sibling who is trying to seek attention in any number of undesirable ways. Older siblings need to become comfortable with saying “no†and sticking with their choice not to interact more frequently than they are comfortable. Older siblings can reward respectful behavior from younger siblings with attention or interest in what the younger sibling is interested in. If there is a history of bullying in the relationship, one of the siblings may want to request that interactions with one another occur only when an adult is present to ensure the interactions are fair and respectful and to seek adult help to foster healthy and safe interactions. Remaining calm and polite but firm with younger siblings can go a long way toward mutual respect in the relationship.
You have to realize that your sister is going to be there for you all your life long. She's going to be the one who you can go to when everything seems against you. Sometimes she is going to be hard to take but she's still young and she will learn to become mature as time goes on. You just need to be patient with her
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2016 6:25pm
its too easy simply just start to love her. And accept the realty don't compare yourself with anyone.
Try to love her and care for her. If you show her your love and care you will end loving her for real and she will love you back
This will be very difficult without introspection into why you developed these feelings in the first place. There are many ways to accomplish the end goal of not hating her, whether through therapy, religion, personal choices, or others. However, you first need to fully examine where these intense negative feelings toward her are coming from.
Try to talk to her, get to know her better, relate to her as much as possible. Remember, feelings go both ways, and try to feel how she is feeling. If you still cannot stand her, then maybe limit your time with her, but still be calm and casual. Just because you have specific feelings about her, doesn't meant that you have o make her and other people's day bad as well. Hope this helps! :)
By starting to love her. Dont think that u have become less imp because of her you are equally imp and will be. Dont be jealous just love her
Start loving them, you can't change people, but you can only love them. And you can walk away, but it won't make anything better. You decide.
Sometimes hating a sibling is all we seem to do but try to remember the good memories. Like the time you went fishing or when she was learning to cook.
By simply accepting that they are your siblings can help you love them more. Think of the time they first learned your name. Think of the happy moments u have spent with them.
Anonymous
December 16th, 2017 9:03pm
Find commonground beyond being family. Get to know her. Find reasons to be grateful for having her and write them down for days when she gets on your nerves.
Anonymous
July 13th, 2018 12:08pm
Try to see positive things in her. Try to support her and may be that result in love. With the help of your parents try to spend time with each other and understand her. The family bonding creates compassion.
Just start by respecting and listening to her. You don't necessarily need to like her at first - give it time. Respect is the foundation to everything. Understand that she is your sister, part of your family and deserves your respect. Try to put yourself in her shoes. Try making an effort to be kind and calm. Spend time with her - play board games, or do braid her hair or take her out for ice-cream. Ask her questions, treat her like an adult. You'll find your hatred slowly disappearing.
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