How to stop hating your little sister?

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Anonymous
April 21st, 2016 1:32am
My little sister and I do our best to understand each other. I /don't/ hate my little sister. In fact, we're best friends. I usually try to place myself in my little sister's shoes, and do my best to cherish our relationship. She's a precious girl that I've been given the privilege of being able to call "sister".
AmicableBud
July 3rd, 2016 3:10pm
The word 'little' is a keyword here, if she's younger than me I'd like to play my elder sibling role being more responsible, she's little now but when she'd grow up she'll think of me a good brother/sister and will love me. I'd do anything to protect her from the wrong people, time will teach her about respecting elders. I will care for her and love her even when she's angry with me, because we're family and that's what we do :)
Anonymous
April 27th, 2016 11:47am
If she's younger, she may not realize what she's doing. Talk with her or maybe your parents about it. Being at home will become stressful if you're in a close environment with her, and you'll find yourself getting annoyed at her and maybe other members of your family a lot quicker than usual.
Greatlistener87
April 8th, 2016 6:40am
There must be a reason why you hate her, find out the key reason and deal with it. She is your sister and no matter what you do and where u go she will always be. So learn to forgive and let go to have a better relationship.
Anonymous
June 11th, 2016 11:15am
Ok, so I deal with this as well. But I kinda have an explanation (based on my religion, but I am no trying to impose it to anyone, just the explanation might help): we usual reencarnate with people that we must work past life problems with; so, I suppose I had huge problems with my brother. I remember myself everyday that he doesn't have this knowledge therefore I can help raise him into someone good and not let him keep being this person that for a few reasons makes me hate them. So, I teach him about matters that are important to me (e;g; lgbtq+. feminism,...). However, is important for you to know that even though if you work on your hate you'll be evolving, feeling anger eventually is OKAY, is human, it's okay for you to not like anyone. You can work on your hate, and still you don't have the obbligation of loving her. Just letting the hate go is a huge step; xx
Anonymous
April 9th, 2016 11:31pm
Think about this: Hate is such a horrible feeling. Maybe you have your reasons but it's not healthy to hate your sister. Try to erase that feeling and think about good things of her.
kindMoment44
May 6th, 2016 5:52pm
Think of how cute they were when they were younger. Then remind yourself what you were like at their age, and try to think of their needs. Most of the time, as elder siblings, we are more selfish and fail to see how our actions may affect our younger siblings. Be kinder, tolerant, and realise that you were once as, if not more annoying at that age.
keepitrealbri
April 17th, 2016 3:55pm
Well first off you need to try to pin point why you think you hate her? Once you have piece that together well now its time to find a solution. This hate is actually hurting you, stressing you out and eating at you. Try to find an outlet for your anger, Like working out or music or writing whatever you like to do when you are stressed out.
Legionnaire1
May 25th, 2016 3:36pm
Family is important, and siblings can indeed really push our buttons sometimes. But having a sibling can be a wonderful thing too. It is someone who is in your house who can be a friend who is around a lot, someone you can rely on and also be there for. Every relationship even friendships and sibling relationships benefits from communication, if your younger sibling is doing something to make you upset, then you have to let them know and let them know that it hurts your feelings. Then explore solutions to move past that issue, if this is young siblings, parents can be great to assist in this regard. If we are talking about adult siblings then do something nice for your sister, or suggest you both get coffee and treat her before you tell her why you are feeling the way you do. I think that could lead to some pretty surprising positive results.
BronaghC
August 12th, 2016 1:57pm
Hate is a strong word. You're probably just annoyed with her. You have to realise that she is your sister, one of the strongest relations of them all. Remember that she is only little and she honestly in all sense of the word is clueless compared to most. Be patient and what I like to do is just observe her, know that she is living too. Remember she wont be small forever, so try to build a connection at a young age because you might regret it at later years.
mindfulBeing92
April 14th, 2016 3:06am
Allowing yourself to love your family no mater what, and understanding that they too, are only humans, and are allowed to make mistakes just as you are.
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2016 6:25pm
its too easy simply just start to love her. And accept the realty don't compare yourself with anyone.
justanotherteenhelping
April 24th, 2016 11:05pm
hate is a strong word,and for your family you don't hate, you love her,try and forget the way she is
SoothingMelinda
April 24th, 2016 11:44pm
Try to talk to her, get to know her better, relate to her as much as possible. Remember, feelings go both ways, and try to feel how she is feeling. If you still cannot stand her, then maybe limit your time with her, but still be calm and casual. Just because you have specific feelings about her, doesn't meant that you have o make her and other people's day bad as well. Hope this helps! :)
heretohelp177
April 27th, 2016 1:11am
Sometimes hating a sibling is all we seem to do but try to remember the good memories. Like the time you went fishing or when she was learning to cook.
1000years
May 4th, 2016 3:13pm
In order to stop hating your little sister, perhaps is a good idea to play with her, share time toguether...
simran14
May 4th, 2016 11:01pm
By starting to love her. Dont think that u have become less imp because of her you are equally imp and will be. Dont be jealous just love her
ALStella
May 12th, 2016 12:39pm
Start loving them, you can't change people, but you can only love them. And you can walk away, but it won't make anything better. You decide.
RoseAngel
February 24th, 2017 2:51pm
Firstly, assess the reason behind the hate - have she done something offending towards you or does she have a habit that you dont like or are you jealous of her (she gets more attention/love) -- To move on you need to be honest with yourself and ask what is the reason? If this is something her fault then talk to them -- tell her the truth and try to mend the relationship. If its your own inferiority then you need to work on yourself.
giggleShoulder61
July 27th, 2017 1:33am
You have to realize that your sister is going to be there for you all your life long. She's going to be the one who you can go to when everything seems against you. Sometimes she is going to be hard to take but she's still young and she will learn to become mature as time goes on. You just need to be patient with her
SoulHealing
August 11th, 2017 7:39pm
Try to love her and care for her. If you show her your love and care you will end loving her for real and she will love you back
JDust
January 24th, 2018 7:05pm
This will be very difficult without introspection into why you developed these feelings in the first place. There are many ways to accomplish the end goal of not hating her, whether through therapy, religion, personal choices, or others. However, you first need to fully examine where these intense negative feelings toward her are coming from.
AnnaPlusAHusky
April 11th, 2018 4:43pm
Siblings may experience being the best of friends at times and the worst of enemies at other times. Though it is common for siblings to irritate one another, this irritation can escalate if both siblings are not properly caring for themselves and the relationship. Self respect is an important quality in a person in order to have stable and healthy relationships and fair boundaries. Many times an older sibling may feel responsible for his or her sibling or may feel guilty denying their younger siblings, however it is essential to learn that each person is solely responsible for his or her actions. When one child attempts to control the other, possibly mistaking supervision for control, spats can occur as one or more persons may feel disrespected or out of control of themselves. Older siblings should discuss the need for a safe space in the home so that they can take a break from other members of the household including younger siblings. Personal space is important for self care activities, self soothing, journaling or to develop mindfulness of present emotions. Older siblings may need to learn to set healthy boundaries with a younger sibling who is trying to seek attention in any number of undesirable ways. Older siblings need to become comfortable with saying “no” and sticking with their choice not to interact more frequently than they are comfortable. Older siblings can reward respectful behavior from younger siblings with attention or interest in what the younger sibling is interested in. If there is a history of bullying in the relationship, one of the siblings may want to request that interactions with one another occur only when an adult is present to ensure the interactions are fair and respectful and to seek adult help to foster healthy and safe interactions. Remaining calm and polite but firm with younger siblings can go a long way toward mutual respect in the relationship.
StellaD
April 15th, 2018 11:00pm
Start spending time with her. Hang out with her and care for her. Take time to understand her and the things she loves.
Fadi
May 6th, 2016 9:19pm
Give her some attention, in order to know her more also try to take good care of her and make her feel that.
SenpaiXD
May 11th, 2016 6:04am
Find out why you hate her. Then decide is it worth it in the long run? After all, you are family with her. Families are forever, don't let a small obstacle be the stop of having a good relationship with her. After all, some people would love to have a little sister.
plumflower
May 11th, 2016 9:37pm
A lot of people hate their siblings, it's completely normal! Deep down inside we all love them so much. Try being nice to her, usually if they see you're being nice, they won't be so annoying.
Anonymous
May 12th, 2016 9:45pm
Sibling rivalry is always going to be around. I have a sister who is four years younger and there are days I absolutely despise her. In your question though it's probably a little more serious than just normal sibling rivalry. Onne way to fix it is to work on figuring out the main reason she makes you so mad and then narrow it down on trying to find a way to fix it.
Anonymous
May 13th, 2016 3:12pm
I don't think you really hate her. Hate is a strong word. Bonding with her and spending time with her can help build a healthy relationship. It might help to just get to know her better.
blitheGrace36
May 15th, 2016 3:26pm
Find a subject to talk or find the hobbies you both will be enjoy. Try to understand her and forgive her mistakes. I believe if you try to understand her and love her, she will do the same thing for you :)