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I hate my family and want to move out right when I turn 18... is that okay?

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Last Updated: 08/24/2020 at 12:22pm
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wonderousShoulder94
June 13th, 2016 7:30am
your family is important, never turn your back on family. yes it is okay to move out when you are 18. just remember that you can always count on family to help you get through it. never hate your family because you never know when those you hate will one day die on you. all that hate in your heart will leave you feeling guilty after their death.
Anonymous
August 15th, 2016 1:22am
In my eyes, this is definitely okay. Sometimes family get along much better when they are not living in the same household.
ameliaglazner
August 16th, 2016 1:44am
I have the same feeling and so does my boyfriend. Yes,it's ok to move out right when u turn 18, but; think about how it'll affect ur life in both good and bad ways
Anonymous
January 9th, 2017 1:18am
First of all, why do you hate your family? Are they emotionally/physically unsupportive of you? Are you in an abusive situation with them? If there is an issue that you think can be addressed through (gradual) communication, it would be helpful to make attempts at salvaging your relationship with them. Perhaps (and I do not know your personal situation nor your relationship with your family members), they may mean well but due to some misunderstanding and lack of proper communication, you have misinterpreted their intentions. With that aside, I believe that it should be fine to move out as soon as you turn eighteen. It may be difficult for many people to set out for their own lives straight of high school, but if you believe that you can find a way to become financially independent (e.g. working at one or two part-time or full-time jobs, having your own car or means of transportation, and renting an apartment), then it is definitely possible. Again, I would advise that you attempt making amends with your family members first.
Anonymous
June 20th, 2017 8:40pm
I think that whatever you feel is best for you and your happiness, whether that is moving out or not, is what you should do. Make sure you have the resources and means to do so, it's a big decision.
Anonymous
December 4th, 2017 7:44am
It’s okay to move out but make sure you’re stable before moving out. Bills cost a lot of money now days. The best advice is to move in with a person who you know such as a friend.
Anonymous
January 29th, 2019 6:49am
Is there a reason why you hate your family? Why do you want to move out at this ahe? Have you tried talking to them about what is going on? Have they done anything to hurt you physically or mentally? Have you done anything to them to make you feel like you have to leave? Your choice is your choice but you should talk to your family about it. They might not hate you, some people have trpunles showing emotions sometimes. Don’t be worried about it to much. Just talk to them and I’m sure they will understand everything that has been going on for you.
thedancerwithin
April 20th, 2020 3:14am
Your emotions are most valid. However it might be important to work through the reasons in which you want to move out, and weigh the pros and cons as moving out is not an easy feat! For your sanity in the current moment (assuming you're not 18 yet and still have to live with your family), what are the reasons in which you feel you hate your family and what steps have you done to try to resolve them? For example, have you set up a meeting with them to talk to them about your concerns? What are their responses like? Is there anyone who can help you mediate the conversation? Perhaps a mental health professional could help you with communication tips. It's ok to feel what you're feeling, and there are a few ways that can help get you through your situation :)
Anonymous
August 24th, 2020 12:22pm
That's entirely your choice if you do or do not move out. If you're of legal age in your country (I'm not sure where you are), and feel safe doing so, by all means it's your choice. If your family is toxic or abusive, then it's your safety that you need to consider first and foremost. It's not always an easy choice, but you do need to consider that your safety and well being (mentally and physically) are important. If you need to set those boundaries regarding they are abusive or toxic for you-- then you need to do what's best for you.