I hate my family and want to move out right when I turn 18... is that okay?
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If you feel like you're ready to live alone then yes. Sometimes it takes a little distance to understander how to love your family right.
Yes it is ok but you might want to make amends with them and think about why you hate them so much.
I understand that feeling and it is perfectly okay, sometimes getting away from the stress is needed.
Wanting to move out after you turn 18 is always every young person's aspiration. Remember, the best time you spend closer to your family is now, after you over 18 you will spend the time in college after which you will be out there looking for a job, then you will be thinking of starting your own family. Now is the time for you to love your family. Tolerate them for now for soon before you know it, they might get old and you might be busy taking care of your own needs away from them.
Before moving out research what help is available to people in your situation and make sure you have the ability to support yourself.
Its okay to want to move out when you're 18 but you should make sure you are financially stable enough. If you dont have the money or cant alone or with housemates for any other reason, relatives or close family friends are also a good idea.
Anonymous
January 17th, 2016 8:10pm
What is it about your family that makes you want to move out? Is it an unsafe situation or would you prefer being independent?
Anonymous
January 20th, 2016 4:12am
Yes that is perfectly ok don't worry about anything no one can stop you from doing what you want to do
You should love your family and be thankful for the people you have. It's natural for someone to want to move out as soon as they can, to feel older, more free, and happier.
It's perfectly natural to rebel against family. There is nothing wrong in wanting to leave when the time is right providing you have somewhere safe to go. Possibly if you are all not living together you will get on better. Try work out why you hate them so much and if there is a way of correcting this. Speak with myself or another listener on here.
No. It's never ok. Family is the most important thing in the world. There may be ups & downs with family members but know they always love & care for you even if they don't show it.
Your family has raised you up till now for 18 long years; with so much of care and love. If something is not working out talk about it to them :)
But moving out is not a solution :)
You shouldnt hate them because they are their to help you through situations but wanting to move out when you are 18 is okay
Anonymous
January 22nd, 2016 7:35pm
As a growing child, you will need and demand more space. As a family, they should have granted you that space, if they don't then it's perfectly normal that you'd want to leave for that much longing time of freedom.
You should try talking to them to see if you can resolve any large issues, but you have to have a comfterble living situation.
Before attempting to move out, try to have a heart to heart with your family or try to seek professional help. But if you do move out try to come up with a plan first.
Moving out when you're 18 is perfectly fine. There's nothing wrong about that. If you think you'll struggle moving out then you can maybe seek support from friends or others that would love to help.
Anonymous
January 28th, 2016 9:43pm
Yes, it is okay if you want to since you'll be an adult, however it brings big responsibility like you now need to fund yourself, get a place to say, make income for food, etc. which for most fresh 18 year olds is very difficult to do.
You don't actually hate your family, hate is a strong word that should not be easily used all the time. Take some time to gather your thoughts and think it through, speak to them and tell them how some things they do or say hurt your feelings or upset you. Do not always assume that your family are mind readers. I used to feel this way when I was your age about moving out, but it was more that I thought they didn't care about me, growing up really showed me how wrong I were. Don't always rely on your temporary emotions :)
Anonymous
January 29th, 2016 5:38am
its okay that you are seeking independence :)
Anonymous
January 30th, 2016 6:33pm
Sometimes you just need a break from family. Usually once you get away for a little bit you calm down.
so you have to talk to your family about what is annoying you first before you take any step and you have to express your feeling toward actions that lead you to hate them
It may depend on country, but I believe that would be in your legal right. My suggestion would be finding housing help before moving out, as there are a lot of factors that can present themselves as unforeseen challenges! I also moved out when I was 18, and found that my relationship with my family improved because of it! Best of luck in deciding, and I am willing to offer a listening ear for support :)
Anonymous - Expert in Family Stress
February 9th, 2016 10:11pm
When you're 18, you are an adult. Therefor you have the freedom of choice without parental consent. You don't need to stay if you don't want to, it's up to you. There are a lot of people who move out at this age so there is no need to feel guilty about it.
Even though I hate my family sometimes too, I realized that your family will always be there for you
I feel like before deciding that you should truly try to enjoy your time with you family. They want what's best for you, and you should try to put yourself "in their shoes" and try to understand them more.
That is absolutely fine! When you're 18 you're able to move out without parental permission. However when you're 16 you are allowed to move out but only with your parents permission.
i dont think so, no matter how much you hate them you should remember who is the one that always be with you when you have a hard time, and then you should remember to who is the one who help you grow up and pay for anything for you (ex:school). andn when you leave them i dont think that you will not hate your family anymore. you just make your hate grow and grow and then run from reality
Yes, the way you feel and moving out at 18 is okay. Launching from the nest/family is an important part of young adulthood and completely normal. Some people live with family until they are married, some until they finish college, some never move out. Then many people do move out at 18,19,20. often people who move out in late teens live together as roommates or college dorms or find jobs with housing.
Anonymous
March 15th, 2016 11:47pm
I have to let you know moving out is always easier than it sounds, Make sure you have a job making enough to have an apt and buy food and pay bills. This is difficult if you wish to go to school as well. I had trouble with my family as well but when I lost them fairly young I realized how much I needed them for support and how much they really cared about me. They were annoying and totally didnt get me but some of the things I like most about myself came from how I was raised
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