I want to see a therapist. How do I tell my parents?

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Top Rated Answers
KaySea
November 8th, 2014 12:56am
"I believe my current mental status would improve If I were to speak to an impartial third party.. "
Bikki
October 31st, 2014 12:53am
If you want to see a therapist, make sure you see one. You don't NEED to tell anyone anything, but if it makes you feel better, then you can tell your parents. The first priority is that you are happy.
loveguru
November 3rd, 2014 12:28pm
Best way is you see your family doctor first. Make him understand your situation and based on that ask him or her to talk to your parents. Chances are that if you talk directly to your parents they might doubt your situations. But if a medical practitioner says it they will believe.
Anonymous
April 24th, 2015 4:24pm
sit them down and explain to them what you're currently suffering. Then explain to them that you believe that a therapist might be able to help you with it and you want to try it out. Then ask them to please support your decision because it would mean the world to you to have their support.
psych2life101
September 22nd, 2015 8:04am
Let your parents know that seeking a therapist will be helpful for you during your time of need. Sit them down and explain to them the pain and stress may be reduced by speaking to a therapist for multiple reasons-reduce the risk of being shamed, embarrassed, unaccepted, misunderstood, etc.
PsychiatristPatty
October 27th, 2016 6:16am
Many parents are understanding about needing guidance or help and are willing and happy to let you and help you to go see a therapist. One way is to sit them down and just tell them that you want to. If they ask any questions about why, it is up to you to decide if you want them to know or if they should. Sometimes, if they are not supportive, there are other ways (through schools, online, hotlines and calling methods, etc.) There are many different ways to reach out and to get help. Just know that you are not alone and remember to explore your options. Whatever is right for you and that you want and need, that is the path to go down and follow.
Reneepeace6
September 25th, 2014 5:58pm
Try and lay out to them how you are feeling and why you want to. Make them understand this is important.
Michalla
October 26th, 2014 8:19pm
It might be awkward a lot to tell your parents you have some problems and need to see a therapist. Sometimes parents could even think, you are overreacting to some situation etc. I can't figure out a better way than calm discussion with your parents. Just try to explain them and son't fight with them, you all just should stay calm and listen to the others :)
Anonymous
September 29th, 2016 3:04am
When I needed to see a therapist, I sat my parents down and explained that when I'm upset it's hard to talk to them. Talking to a therapist wouldn't be biased and it would be private.
Anonymous
October 14th, 2016 11:02pm
Telling someone that you want to see a therapist may be scary. I know I was a little scared myself. For me, I just kind of forced myself and my mom was surprisingly accepting. In my opinion, I would simply have a heart-to-heart with your parents because your mental health is just as important as your physical health.
jess3456s
October 27th, 2015 11:52pm
You ask them straight up that you would like to sit down and talk as a family. Tell them what is going on in your life and the reason you would like to see the therapist.
miley1997
October 24th, 2014 11:08am
i understand and am here to help, try explain why you want one doing so may help them understand your needs.
RollingOcean10
November 20th, 2016 9:59pm
Ultimately your parents should have your best interests in mind and your happiness should be paramount. Talk to the parent that you are closest with first. That way when the time comes to tell the other parent, you will have someone on your side. Tell them the hardships in your life that have led you to want therapy and also allow them to voice their opinion. Have a healthy conversation where everyone feels like they can speak.
Anonymous
November 6th, 2014 2:04am
Express what your feeling; anger, depression, anxiety. Your parents want whats best for you, tell them you want help and they will find you help!
Becca0926
July 27th, 2015 1:19pm
Tell your parents that you have been struggling with whatever it is, and in my experience, they will be fully supportive! If you truly think seeing a therapist will help your situation, your parents should understand and be supportive of that.
ForVanGogh
September 23rd, 2016 4:41pm
Just be honest. You can tell them how you have been feeling and that you would like to seek help (perhaps for fear that this feeling becomes larger). Be clear tends to help, you can try to make them understand that you are seeking help because you feel you need that.
PilordeParadox
October 6th, 2016 8:34pm
Tell them the reasons, or tell them that it is really important. If they trust you, they should accept your request.
Game0ver
October 12th, 2016 4:14am
Sit them down privately, and explain that you are feeling unwell, and that you would like to talk to somebody. Be prepared to answer questions. Remember that your parents love you, and are likely trying to understand why you're feeling this way and if they can help.
alexluke
October 27th, 2016 12:16pm
Tell then exactly whats going on and see how they feel about it. Tell them the reason that you need to go to a therapist and help them understand exactly why you need help
Anonymous
November 5th, 2014 12:49am
I found that there's no better way to tell them than just say it as straightforward as you can. If that's what you want to do, then they should understand.
Anonymous
April 16th, 2015 8:23pm
Just tell them. Remember they are your parents everything will be fine talk them about your feeling and tell if you see a therapist you'll feel better :)
Anonymous
October 27th, 2015 11:23pm
Be open, communicate the reasons why you believe you should see a therapist, and most importantly, don't be afraid.
generousEnergy13
September 21st, 2016 6:23pm
Sit them down and have a conversation tell them how you're feeling and how you can't cope on your own and you need some advice.
PuddinsHarlee
February 11th, 2017 5:57pm
The easiest way to tell your parents would be to sit them down and explain the issues you are having, that you are a member on 7cups, and its beneficial for you, that you believe therapy will help with the issues that you are having, they are your parents, they love you and want what is best for you.
AlyBabba
April 20th, 2017 7:43pm
It depends on how they view therapy. If you want to gauge how they feel about therapy, you can find a news article or talk about a popular show that addresses therapy (13 Reasons Why, for example). Then, based on how they react, you can adjust how you will bring it up. If they react positively, then just say, "hey, mom and dad, I haven't been feeling well lately, can we talk about finding a therapist for me? I think that it would help if I had someone to talk to about what I've been dealing with." If they react negatively, then you can say something like "mom and dad, I know that you don't necessarily approve of therapy, but I would at least like to try it for a few sessions. My friends have seen therapists and said that it really helped them. I've been going through a lot right now and I feel like this would help me." If they outright refuse, then I think you can still find somewhere that does therapy on a sliding scale or you can talk to your school counselor about helping you find a therapist. You can also try online therapy like 7Cups! Know that you're not alone
Fivo
November 10th, 2017 2:26pm
Well, this all depends on how close your relationship is with your parents, as well as what or how much you want to divulge to them when they giving your reason for wanting to try therapy. Is there a specific reason you are unsure about how to approach them with this? Also do you NEED to tell her because of insurance coverage, or you need transportation, or anything else? If there is no absolute reason need to tell them and you can proceed without them knowing, there is nothing with that until you get to a point you are comfortable telling her. The short answer i have to offer is based on an assumption that seeking therapy is either taboo or just foreign to your family. Breaking the ice is always the hardest part. Just get your family in a good relaxed time where you can bring it up in conversation. You have your reasons for needing to tell them about this, and i don't know of a better way than to speak what is in your heart to them. You don't have to say exactly what it is that is troubling you - keep it general and let them ask questions if they want to know more. I don't know where you are in life, but the easier thing to say might be along the lines of "I've been thinking a lot lately about ( insert superficial aspect of career/ school/ friends/ family/ that wont sound alarming) and i think i would like to see a therapist to help me figure stuff out. If your family has a negative reaction to your request, remind them that they are your family and you need them in your life to help you navigate through difficult or seemingly impossible situations. Sometimes being vulnerable or transparent is risky because we place our hearts in the hands of someone we want to trust. I hope this helps a little. :)
PriscilaOrellana
October 18th, 2014 5:45pm
It's something I really need, It will help my relations with them and my entire life... "Dad, mom... I really need to fight for my life and I need your support in this part of my life, I need professional help".
Uniqueg
October 23rd, 2014 9:29pm
Maybe you can have a family meeting and tell them how your feeling and what you feel is the best route for you.
Kathlyng90
October 24th, 2014 11:59pm
The best way to tell them is to just sit down with them, be open and honest, and just explain that you are feeling a certain way right now (whatever that might be) and you are struggling with coping. Explain you'd like to see someone, and that you'd appreciate their support.
Kyra0608
October 29th, 2014 1:00am
The best way to tell them is to come right out and say it. tell them you feel a therapist is neccesary, im sure they will understand.