I want to see a therapist. How do I tell my parents?

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March 5th, 2017 3:02pm
I asked my therapist to explain it to my parents. You have to explain to them that you are going through a difficult time and need professional help.
March 8th, 2017 5:41pm
I would just say you are struggling with a few things and think you need someone to talk to about it. As a parent if one of my children felt counselling would help them I would be happy to support that decision.
March 12th, 2017 12:07am
The best way to tell them is finding a time where everyone is comfortable but you also have a safe place to go if they don't react the way you want. For example, telling them at a restaurant isn't probably the best idea. Be open and honest with them about why you want to see a therapist. Your parents love you and if they see you're hurting they will hopefully get you the care you need.
March 16th, 2017 7:41am
Explain to them that you want to see a therapist in a calm manner. Be assertive and insist that you think this is the best course of action for you.
March 16th, 2017 1:41pm
Start by telling him your problems and how you feel about them. Tell them that you need professional help and that you want someone neutral but understanding to help you deal with your issues. They may think that you are overreacting or that they a little angry that you chose a therapist rather than them. If so, tell them that you love and trust them but you need someone who is an expert in your issue. Ask them for their support since that will help you cope up with your issues.
March 18th, 2017 2:42am
I've found that the best way is to be honest with your parents and tell them. All kinds of people goes to see therapists at many different points in their lives and hopefully your parents will be understanding. A good way to tell your parents is to sit down together and in a calm way you can tell them how you have been feeling lately and why you think it would be a good idea to see a therapist. Best of luck!
April 13th, 2017 8:48am
That's a hard thing to do. Your parents might react differently than you expected. Tell them you need to sit down and talk to them, and explain your reason calmly. They might not understand first, so they might ask questions. Just answer them the clearest way possible. If things get way out of hand, tell them to think about it and leave them alone.
April 27th, 2017 10:49pm
You should go up to them and tell them that you'd like to discuss something important and them tell them you would like a therapist. Tell them some of the reasons why if you are comfortable. They should understand you are being serious and they'll think about it.
May 5th, 2017 1:01pm
You could say that being a Teenager can be very hard and that you are overwhelmed by some situations or often feel lonely or whatever the reason is that you want to see a therapist.
June 2nd, 2017 10:47pm
You should just be honest about it, while you don't exactly have to them the exact reason. Just say "I want someone to talk to privately that can help me work through my emotions" or "I'm not sure why i'm feeling the way I do, I just want a professional to help me.:
June 3rd, 2017 5:13am
Set a time where the mood is right and sit down and start talking to them about your situation a bit. You don't need to get into specifics if you don't wish to. Tell them you wish to speak to someone that while is a professional, has an objective position to your situation. Assure them that you're not in danger and that you just need support from another person in your life. If they don't respond to your suggestion well, stop the conversation. Some parents need time to adjust to the idea that their child is interested in seeking counseling. Tell them they did nothing wrong as a parent, but you just need to learn how to get through things on your own and have a safe and private space to discuss important life issues and sort out uncomfortable feelings. Good luck!
June 9th, 2017 6:30am
Your parents are the most trustworthy people in your life , be honest and deliver the idea for them in a right way that they just don't panic amd get worried about you so much , just make sure they'll totally understand
June 15th, 2017 4:38am
Explain your reason to your parents so they know exactly why you would like to see a therapist. If your an adolescent then you have every right to see a therapist, hopefully they will accept your feeling on the situation.
June 29th, 2017 5:44am
I would just sit them down, and tell them you do and why. They'll be proud of you for wanting to go.
July 8th, 2017 9:43am
Just go up to your mom or dad and say "hey we need to talk" then you sit them down and you just say it. "Mom, Dad, I would like to see a therapist for *insert the reason why here*"
July 13th, 2017 11:51am
If you're over 18 there's no need to tell them. However, if you're a minor perhaps you could do some research on local therapists, find one you like and present the findings to them. I'm sure they'll want you to seek help for whatever struggles you're dealing with.
July 26th, 2017 2:07pm
Since I've been through this situation myself as well in the past, I think that the best way to approach this is to tell them that there have been some things which have been concerning you and causing you trouble lately and that you believe you'd be greatly benefited if you seeked help from a professional.
July 28th, 2017 11:47am
Be honest and sincere. Tell your parents you need to speak to someone who is trained and would be able to help you to see things from a different perspective. Tell your parents you love them , respect them and value them greatly. But you would really appreciate if they can arrange for you to speak to a therapist. Also assure them , you would speak to them after you have sorted out your thoughts with the therapist.
August 10th, 2017 11:09am
Hello! I think the best thing is to ask to sit down with them and talk. Tell them that you need their support and help and that you want them to understand why this is important for you. Good luck.
August 10th, 2017 11:17am
Do they know you have a specific problem? If no, try talking to them about it first, before deciding on therapy, as you have to consider the cost too. If they know about the problem you have, and you have spoken to them about it, write out a list of reasons why you think therapy is the best choice for you and how it will help you. They should be supportive if you make it clear why you want to do it, as they can't argue against good reasons :)|
August 16th, 2017 3:35pm
They'll most likely understand if you want some extra support in life. When they might say, "We are all the therapy you need", remind them that a profesional would have less emotional attachment and be more blunt with comfort and advice. Just tell them straight out. Easier than waiting and feeling horrible, right?
August 16th, 2017 8:14pm
Just be straight to them. Tell them about your problems and that you feel the need for specialized help. Explain to them how you're feeling and your thoughts and they will, very likely, support your decision.
November 9th, 2017 3:00am
Honestly, tell them exactly how you feel. Try something like, "Mom, dad, can we talk?" When they agree, say something like, "I've been thinking and I thought that maybe it would be good for me to start going to therapy." When and if they ask why, just explain to them you are going through some internal conflicts and they should understand. Goodluck (:
November 10th, 2017 10:20am
Your parents should be understanding and supportive of a decision like that, just sit them down and tell them in a calm manner and have valid reasons as to why you want to do this.
November 16th, 2017 3:39pm
If you feel comfortable enough to do this, sit your parents down and explain whats going on and why you believe you should speak to a therapist. If you are too afraid to do this, set up a doctors appointment and ask for them to refer you to a therapist. From personal experience, the latter tends to work best.
November 17th, 2017 6:31pm
Tell them how you feel and try your best to communicate it clearly and in a way that will hopefully help them betterm understand your situation and the help that you need
November 17th, 2017 6:39pm
By having a normal honest and open conversation, explaining them why you feel the desire to see a therapist and answering the questions they may have.
November 18th, 2017 10:21pm
I would get my parents together with a teacher or counselor at school and tell them. Sometimes it's easier if you have the support of a teacher or school counselor
November 19th, 2017 2:04pm
Be honest and clear about what you are going through. You need them to understand the problem and to support you.
December 7th, 2017 5:42pm
It’s best to just be honest with them. You can try to let them know how you’ve feeling for a while, and why you feel you want to. I would recommend to best to tell them when you’re sitting together in a calm setting, so you can really have a conversation about it.