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My dad likes to touch me. Is this sexual abuse?

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January 18th, 2018 7:21pm
If the nature of this touching is unwanted by you or makes you feel uncomfortable in any way, you have the right to tell social services and move somewhere that you feel safe.
January 20th, 2018 11:32am
If you feel uncomfortable about it and he touches you in inappropriate places, it is considered sexual abuse.
February 3rd, 2018 9:21pm
It definitely is, if the touching is happening in a sexual way. It is not appropriate for a parental figure to act in that way with their child.
February 6th, 2018 3:02am
Touching is not sexual abuse. It's depends on where he touches. There is a limit for everything right. No matter, even if he is your father he cannot touch you in some spots. Normal touching and huggings are not an issue. Make sure you know the difference between abovementioned.
February 15th, 2018 3:14pm
Yes! Especially if you are uncomfortable, and it’s sexual. Make sure to talk to someone you trust, outside of your mom or dad.
February 15th, 2018 6:14pm
Any touching that is not consensual can be considered sexual abuse. It is important to make sure he knows your boundaries. If he does, but still continues to cross them, then yes, this would be considered sexual abuse. If someone is touching you and it makes you feel uncomfortable, trust your gut that you know what is crossing a line and what is not.
February 28th, 2018 9:27am
Hey love! Your dad likes to touch you. It actually depends on the way he touches you and the parts where he touches you. How do you feel of his touch? Disgusted or you feel love and care? It actually depends on that!
March 23rd, 2018 2:00pm
Setting boundaries is important as you grow older and mature. When it comes to our parents, what used to be cute and cuddly can be over stepping our personal boundaries which should be respected. You are well within your right to be assertive when you feel uncomfortable. If you are not heard then it is emotional abuse and can border on sexual abuse. You have a right to feel safe and to be respected. If your father touches you in a sexual place (your breasts or between your legs) without your consent or understanding then this is sexual abuse and you must report it honestly. You will be heard and you will be acknowledged.
March 28th, 2018 5:49am
In order to understand definition of apparent touching is a very broad word to use first off exactly where is this touching taking place is it touching the nose touching hair touching your arm to get your attention until you know exactly more details one cannot jump to the conclusion that it's sexual abuse. But of course if there is such a case it should be immediately reported
April 5th, 2018 6:09pm
Are you safe? This is sexual abuse, No one should do that, it's not your fault, How long has he been doing this?
April 13th, 2018 5:27pm
It depends on where he's touching you. But if you don't like it you should totally tell him about how you feel.
April 15th, 2018 4:52am
Sexual abuse, also referred to as molestation, is usually undesired sexual behavior by one person upon another. It is often perpetrated using force or by taking advantage of another. When force is immediate, of short duration, or infrequent, it is called sexual assault. The offender is referred to as a sexual abuser or (often pejoratively) molester. The term also covers any behavior by an adult or older adolescent towards a child to stimulate any of the involved sexually.
May 6th, 2018 9:35pm
This is a hard question to answer. How does your father touch you? Where does he touch you? If you feel you may be a victim of sexual abuse you can reach out to local resources to help guide you, you can also reach out to us here at 7 cups for additional support
May 30th, 2018 12:50am
it certainly sounds like it... it depends on where, though. if its a pat on the knee, it is not sexual abuse. if its somewhere he shouldnt touch, like the chest or other areas, then it is considered sexual abuse. if this ensues, contact someone instantly. give them details of the situation, remain strong, and keep in mind that it is not your fault at all. you can and will get through this. if needed, contact a therapist- or a doctor, if anything
June 3rd, 2018 3:35pm
Inappropriate touching is absolutely sexual abuse and should be brought to the attention of someone you completely trust. It is not okay for anyone to be touching someone else, inappropriately. It doesn't matter what the relation/gender is. Sexual abuse is NOT okay. Talking about it IS okay.
June 13th, 2018 11:03am
It depends on the way that he touches you. If you are not comfortable with it, then sadly it is sexual abuse. But, it does all depend on your boundaries you have with him.
June 13th, 2018 7:01pm
Do you feel that the way he touches you is no appropriate? If yes and you are not in terms with it then it can be considered as sexual abuse
June 19th, 2018 11:04pm
It can depend. If you dad likes to give you a hug after they get back from work, that's probably not sexual abuse. But if he touches you in your bikini areas, or in any way that feels in appropriate, that may be more like sexual abuse. Reaching out to others for help can be good to get an outside perspective.
June 21st, 2018 4:08am
I think that you should talk with some responsable adult who was confident and you feel comfortable and tell him or her about this, that person can help you more than i can
June 26th, 2018 7:21pm
If he is touching you in an un appropriate way then yes! tell someone as soon as possible. This is not okay.
June 28th, 2018 1:17pm
A hug is o.k.! Its a very good thing in fact! And you should accept it as such a good thig as it is. Any touching of your private areas would not be good! And abusive!
June 28th, 2018 1:20pm
Where exactly does he touch you? But from what I see yes, it is. You should report it to someone immediately
June 29th, 2018 3:35am
That depends on how the touch is. As we learner in school, there is a good touch and a bad touch. So you need to figure out if it is a bad touch, if he is touching you in intense areas. Talk to your mother about it, or contact a helpline.
June 29th, 2018 2:36pm
Only if its in ways that you dont like or feel akward, or uncomfortable. If it is uncomfortable or akward for you.. Please tell a trusted adult or call for help
June 30th, 2018 3:29pm
I feel so it is. Depends on where and how he touches you. If you feel that the touch isn't good then it is sexual abuse aka molestation.
July 1st, 2018 3:37pm
Hello. The intent of the toucing depends on where and how he touches you. If he touches you in on generic areas of your body such as the shoulders, arms, head, face and there in intent is affection then you can rethink the sexual abuse. However, if he touches you in the genitalia, or caress or gropes other areas of your body then that is sexual abuse. Listen to the vibe you get when he touches you and please confide in an adult you trust.
July 8th, 2018 9:56am
Most likely, even if it wasn't you should still talk to your dad about if it's making you uncomfortable.
July 8th, 2018 9:20pm
If you are referencing touch in that way that is assumed (your genitals, any other sexually explicit sensitive areas) then yes. You should let someone you care about (and that will believe you) know immediately.
July 13th, 2018 5:19am
Yes if it makes you uncomfortable and if it is inappropriate touching it is. You should tell a trusted adult because sexual abuse is serious.
July 13th, 2018 8:20pm
It depends on how and where he touches you. If you feel threatened in any way you should talk to someone immediately.