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My dad likes to touch me. Is this sexual abuse?

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Anonymous
November 17th, 2017 8:22am
It depends on where he likes to touch you. If he touches you on shoulder, hand etc then it is sign of affection in most cultures. But if he likes to touch you on your private parts then it is sexual abuse
cherishedLight73
November 17th, 2017 7:25am
YES! if you are being touched in any way that you do not want to be that is inappropriate then yes! If you have a disability that prevents you from performing certain person tasks that hes helping you with then no. Bit if it goes beyond performing said task and makes you uncomfortable report him!
Anonymous
November 15th, 2017 6:06pm
No sweetheart, that's molestation and could lead into rape. Make some calls because you don't need to be in that surrounding.
creativePalm12
November 15th, 2017 7:42am
Unfortunately, based on the description you've give in your question, it would be impossible to give a conclusive and responsible answer to your question. "My dad likes to touch me" could mean so many things, so to draw any conclusions just on that would be dangerous. If you were able to talk to someone privately and maybe explain his actions more, you might be able to get a better idea of what's going on.
Sinlua
November 9th, 2017 11:02pm
If he is touching you in areas that make you feel uncomfortable and they are areas that should not be touched. Then it might be sexual abuse. Please talk with another guardian about this! Don’t stay quiet.
Anonymous
August 10th, 2017 7:40pm
If he likes to touch you in inappropriate areas, it is considered sexual. If it feels sexual and awkward to you, and sometimes you don't like it, you shouldn't pretend to ignore it because that isn't okay either. Cuddling and sleeping with your child is okay till a certain age. After that it can become much more sexual than beforehand. I'd talk with your mom about this (if you can). She might have some insight.
tjb28
July 26th, 2017 9:07pm
Depending on where he's touching you and without you saying yes if he is touching you down below (private parts) Then yes that is sexual abuse and you may have to tell someone
wonder22
April 19th, 2017 10:14pm
Not unless he's touching you sexually. Hugging & ect. isn't sexual, but if it is, call the sexual abuse hotline.
LetsTalkandChill
April 16th, 2017 8:08am
As we were taught during our childhood, do not let anyone touch you in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable. If something doesn't feel right, there probably is something wrong with the situation. Is it something you can share with your mother to get insight? There's always help from professionals that you can seek to get support if you don't feel comfortable sharing. But remember, there is someone who is gonna get you the help you need - you just need to seek out!
Anonymous
April 5th, 2017 12:04pm
As we are always told as kids there are two types of touches, good touch and bad touch. We need to know how to differentiate between both. Some people show their affection by touching, some people are just generally touchy so we need understand the motive but should not rule out bad intention all together.
promisesR4ever
June 18th, 2016 8:14pm
If you feel like he is touching you in an inappropriate way, then please confide in an adult you trust and they will help you settle it. Sexual abuse is not okay.
Anonymous
July 24th, 2016 3:36pm
I wouldn't know for sure because I'm not the one in the situation however if you have a hunch that it is please contact a sexual hotline
UniqueHeart
August 25th, 2016 12:56am
In what way does he touch you? If you feel uncomfortable with the way he touches you and you believe it's inappropriate than you should report it.
NumberEleven
July 15th, 2016 7:04pm
If he's touching you inappropriately and you don't like it, yes it is. If not, he's probably just expressing care and concern in one of the ways he knows how to.
Ashley132
July 15th, 2016 10:16am
Not entirely, but if he's touching anywhere thats inappropriate you should definetely tell someone about it.
Katie263
August 31st, 2016 5:46pm
Thank you for your honesty. This is sexual abuse. I strongly recommend calling an abuse helpline or talking to your mum/guardian. You shouldn't be left alone in this situation and I'm always one message away to give you more help if you need it! But my best advice is to contact a helpline
Anonymous
July 14th, 2016 7:53am
It depends on how he touches you and where. If its a simple touch between father and child and he is simply showing familial affection, then that is not sexual abuse. If he touches you anywhere inappropriate and makes you feel uncomfortable then yes it is,
YourPalAmy
July 10th, 2016 2:51pm
Depends on how it makes you feel, and where he's touching you. If he is making you uncomfortable, tell someone!
Anonymous
July 10th, 2016 12:46am
If the manner of which he is touching you is sexual, then yes. This type of physical contact is completely inappropriate.
Kat140615xx
September 18th, 2016 3:15pm
Yeah if he is touching you in sexual way yes that is sexual abuse, if he is only touching your arm, or giving you a hug nope.
wintermoon74
June 22nd, 2016 5:49pm
If it makes you feel physically uncomfortable and you have told him to stop and he persists ...then yes.
RogerDan555
June 17th, 2016 7:30am
If he touches you on your private parts without your consent, then yes it is sexual abuse. Let your mother know about it. If it doesn't help then please report it to Sexual Abuse Hotline
Supergirl94
June 16th, 2016 8:27am
If he touches you without verbal consent then yes it is sexual abuse. If you give him any verbal consent to touching you than no it is not sexual abuse. Don't be afraid to say no and speak out.
sweetnutella
October 16th, 2016 2:23am
It depends. But you have to distinguish between sexual abuse and an expression of love from your dad. I mean, if he likes to touch your hair, wipe your cheeks gently, I think this must be one of the way to show his love. But if he starts to touch your thighs, your chest, and all of those sensitive parts of your body, you must be aware! This could be the indicate of sexual abuse.
Anonymous
March 5th, 2017 1:44pm
Any sexual acts that isn't wanted or giving permission is a form of sexual abuse. That is if the person that is doing these acts are gaining pleasers from the act. And the victim isn't willing or doesn't understand what is right or wrong. Sexual Abuse comes in many ways and forms and its best to understand what to look for and here is a link https://www.7cups.com/forum/SexualAssaultSupport_96/Resources_364/SexualAbuseAssaultFacts_25764/
AthenaD39
March 8th, 2017 2:46am
If it's more than a hug or a kiss on the cheek, then, yes, it's abuse. I would refer you to a professional for this though.
tranquilJewel64
February 23rd, 2017 4:04am
That was a very vague question because I do not know in what way your "dad" is touching you. If he is touching you in your private areas then yes, that is sexual abuse. If he is pinching your buttocks or grabbing your breasts, that is also sexual abuse. If your "dad" is talking to you in a sexual way or showing you sexually graphic pictures or movies, that too is sexual abuse. If you have gone to your mother and she either does not believe you, is not present in the home or in your life, or becomes abusive to your for trying to get help, please, either go to a relative that you can trust, go to a school counselor and let them know what is happening in your home or if you feel you are old enough, call the police yourself from another location outside of your home. This is a very serious situation, so please if you are being abused tell someone.
Anonymous
October 3rd, 2019 4:03am
Depends on the situation but most likely I would say yes. If it strays from something you're comfortable with, even if just remotely, then definitely. If it's just pure affectionate perhaps hugging, and your father tends to do that with any family members and is himself a very open and touchy, then still be on guard but it would likely be okay. However if you ever get a bad feeling from this, feels uncomfortable, or if you feel like your father's affectionate with perhaps only you or only a group of people that you're included in, such as your age range or your gender, than be very careful about this. And since you have this suspicion, always be ready to be able to distance yourself away if anything goes wrong.
starryYellow6821
April 13th, 2022 1:50am
I'd like to be honest to you, i think yes because father doesn't touch their children that way especially if its uncomfortable. I hope that you would find courage to seek help on this matter. You deserve protection and there are people who can help you with this. Don't be afraid, that's okay. And also, if you want to make sure if what was your dad's purpose on doing it, you can ask him but protect yourself. Call for help before doing this just for anything happens. Anyway, I wish you are in the right place and take care. Hope this message will get you.
Anonymous
October 17th, 2019 3:10pm
He is your father so maybe he is just the touchy type; however if you feel uncomfortable then let him know and I'm sure he'll stop. However, if he is touching you inappropriately then yes, that can be classified as sexual harassment/abuse.