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What age is too young to leave home?

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CedarSapling99
November 14th, 2020 4:27pm
I think that the right age to leave home is all up to subjective experience. It's up to the individual to evaluate where they are in terms of their maturity level and decide for themselves as to whether they are ready to live on their own or not. It also depends on their current living situation. Some family homes are volatile and toxic spaces. If one's space inhibits their growth and ability to feel secure more than it enables their happiness, then it may be time for them to leave. Each individual must know themselves and their situation in order to make an informed decision in the end.
Anonymous
December 18th, 2020 2:43am
I believe when you're above 16 you are technically able to work and you should be able to leave home so anything under is too young. I believe if you have an idea of where you want to go out of life and if you have a career plan and an apartment you're planning on going to then you should be able to. But if you don't have a job and you are failing high school then you really should not be planning on running away. Because if you can't support yourself on your own then wait a while until you can.
Anonymous
December 30th, 2020 4:34pm
I do not think that there is a set answer for this question, or a specific age that should allow for a child to stay home by themselves. You should never leave an infant toddler, or preschooler home alone, but once they get into mid to late elementary, it depends on their responsibility level and the knowledge they have. For example, do they know not to turn kitchen appliances on, do they know how to call 911, etc. If they have this responsibility, it is probably okay to leave a mid-late elementary schooler home alone for only a little bit.
Midnightcry998
January 16th, 2021 9:06pm
First of all, this is no right or wrong answer. Most people leave home when they're ready to be independent and emotionally unstable. That is a lot of different ages. It might be 20 or 40. It really depends on the individual. Personally, I left home when I was 19. I had a baby on the way and I was ready to start my own family life. However, if there is any kind of abuse going on and you don't feel safe, then age is never a concern. You should seek help if that is happening. So, in conclusion I don't think there's ever a "too young" person to leave the home taking circumstances into consideration.
Anonymous
January 27th, 2021 11:09am
I feel as if 18 is too young to leave home. The reason I say that is because once you’re out there on your own it gets hard. You have to figure out ways to provide for yourself as well as take care of your responsibilities and that could be a lot for someone at the age 18. It causes you to feel as if you need to get your life together faster and that can cause unnecessary stress and anxiety. It allows for young adults to feel as if they are failures as soon as one inconvenience pops up in their life.
TheWonderlandSystem17
February 20th, 2021 3:36am
Well it's illegal to leave home before the age of 16 i'm pretty sure, but aside from that, I'd say 13 and younger is too young. This is not because I don't trust younger people, it's just that it's really not safe to leave home that young. If your home life is truly that bad, then go for it, but make sure you have a plan. But please remember that the streets are a very dangerous place to be, and don't live out there unless you have to. If you're thinking of leaving and living with someone else, I don't know if that's legal? And unless you know the person really well, that's a very sketchy offer for anyone to give.
kindcherry2
February 26th, 2021 6:55pm
When you're too young to leave home. Well I would say you can leave at 18 but no earlier than that. Because you may not be mature enough to do things on your own. I understand you may think that. But it's wrong. If you act all crazy and things you should keep on living with your parents until you understand what responsibility and maturity is. I don't much on this but I know some people leave their homes before others. I think some may mature earlier than others and be able to go out into the big wide world. Some may not be though.
Anonymous
March 3rd, 2021 6:45pm
This question has multiple answers depending on what is meant by "leaving home", and whether the question was posed with respect to legality or maturity. Legally, the answer depends on the location of the person (and the home they are leaving) and what laws or governments they reside under. In many places in the US, a person can seek to be legally emancipated from their parents and leave home as young as 17 years of age. However, if the question is more akin to "At what age is someone ready to leave home?" then the answer depends on the maturity of the person and their ability (or lack their of) to take care of themselves. Taking care of oneself usually entails attending work or school independently, paying for food, clothes, and rent, and maintaining good health and hygiene. If a person is under the legal age of emancipation, and/or is unable to maintain themselves in such a fashion, they are probably too young to move out. If, however, by "leave home" you meant "temporarily", such as for sleep away camp, boarding school, or similar pursuits, then if the person feels ready and is capable of independently performing basic activities of daily living (brushing teeth, brushing hair, getting dressed, bathing, using the toilet), then they are probably ready.
Latika01
March 18th, 2021 7:48am
Honestly I would say 15. You would be at a point in your life when everything become unnecessarily difficult. Staying home would relieve some of the stress that's built up. Of course each person experience things differently so it would all come down to what you believe to be best for you. However, while thinking it over do keep in mind that your brain is technically not fully developed yet and your hormones are going everywhere. Though it may seem hard or difficult remember that things will get better. If you know that the house your living in is doing more harm then good then I don't think leaving at 14 is too young.
Anonymous
March 31st, 2021 3:23pm
'd say 10-17 years olds are too young to leave home. That's the puberty period,a child grows up to be a teen, a teen grows up to be a young adult. It's an important bend in the road that we call life. A child's mind comes to form into a shape within this timespan. So many things occur at once, physical changes, psychological maturity... A good family can walk a kid thru this time, patiently. If that doesn't happen properly, if the kid doesn't have proper guidance and care, he/she is destined to divert from the path of destiny. It's tremendously important. One single mistake- and your child is scarred for life. And sometimes those scarred for life kids just can't take it anymore. The family stress, the drama... it all feels like a heavy burden on their shoulders. And as they are kids, not mature enough and no mature one to teach him enough- he thinks running away is the best answer. Running away from home, which is the root of it all. Escaping the situation because they are too young and naive and impatient to deal with it all.
Anonymous
April 7th, 2021 9:01pm
it can depend on a wide variety of factors the legal age to leave home is typically 18 in the us and 16 in the uk however due to time constraints your ability to partake in education to the best of your ability would likely be hindered and age may be a large factor in terms of renting living space or filling out certain types of paperwork such as bills or insurance. due to the large number of people leaving home for university at 18 or 19 the number of people working full time jobs is higher so you would be on a more even metaphorical playing field. if you are considering taking an apprentiship at 16 then there would be less time constraints involved but there would still be the issues of accommodation and paperwork as with the issue of any future ambitions you may have that would require a levels. it really is only recommended to leave home at 16 or 17 if you are escaping from an unsafe or *tw* abusive living situation and even so it is still preferable to try to find other options. depending on your location you may be able to sign yourself into care.
ForeverAndEver123
May 8th, 2021 12:04am
It will depend on one's situation... if someone lives in an abusive, controlling household... whether that's physical, emotional and sexual abuse... no age is too young. Kids will either suffer their (furthur creating trauma) or may run away and that is not for anyone else to judge especially in a situation like that. But if it's for other reason, it's important to ask this young person, why they want to leave home? What are their reasons, oftentimes it will be valid such as not feeling like they are themselves or are supported by their household... when they are kids, especially under 18... it's important you communicate with them and CREATE that space... if they want to leave the home, then there is something wrong with the household they are in and those in that space are responsible for how they treat this young person. Make sure you don't belittle, make them feel less than and give that love and support they deserve so they don't have to leave home so young. I believe legal age in your country/state/provinces is IDEAL but it must be paired with maturity... do they have the skills and the mindset yet (this will come with growth)?
keirashepherd123
May 9th, 2021 12:36pm
Look at the laws for your area if you are planning on moving out by yourself and have the capabilities to do so, for me the minimum age where you can move out is 16. If you are just talking about going out on a walk or meeting friends then I think as soon as you have a phone is a good age as then you can get in contact with others. If you feel as though you are too young and are in danger please speak to someone you trust to get help. Perhaps a teacher is you trust one enough
caringDancer30
May 13th, 2021 9:10am
In my opinion, any age under 18 is what I would consider "too young" to leave home. To be able to leave home, one must learn to be independent and also be able to fend for themselves once they leave their home. I'm not saying a 17 year old could not care for themselves but realistically, if it's for a long period it might be difficult for them. Most job vacancies only hire 18 or above and it can be quite hard for someone below 18 to find a decent job to be able to support themselves once they have left home.
fantasticApple15
June 17th, 2021 11:50am
I don't think there is a particular age, you say that is too young to leave home. Leaving your home is a decision you need make based on if you feel ready or not to start living on your own. A feeling that you need to explore what it is like to live on you own and being able to take care of yourself in a good healthy way. The moment you get that feeling differs for everyone and I don't think you really could put an age on that. From my personal experience it just comes naturally when you get a more professional job or decide to start studying at college or university or just when you feel you need to explore the world on your own a bit.
Anonymous
July 4th, 2021 7:24pm
This depends on ability and maturity. One could feel able, capable and matured at the age of 18 and another might only feel comfortable and ready at say 25. There's no right age as to when to leave home. But if you're still very much dependent on your parents for a lot of things, then you're probably too young to be leaving home. Though I would suggest waiting until you're at least a legal adult to leave home and not when you're a minor unless you're in a toxic/abusive situation/environment and need to escape from that then by all means, please reach out and get the help and support you need regardless of age
CuddlyCaramel
July 30th, 2021 10:48am
Age can be considered an important factor in many ways especially because of its relation with law. Depending on the age of threshold' which basically refers to the age you'll be considered as an adult in your country. It could go up to 16,18,21 etc. This is important because this age determines whether you'll have bodily autonomy, that is to make decisions about your healthcare, opening a bank account, getting a full time job (because child labor is a thing) etc. A simple answer to this question would be any age that you would be considered a minor in the eyes of the law, is too young to leave home and sustain yourself in a safe way. Hope this helps :)
sourpatchsnail
August 15th, 2021 9:36pm
Typically, if you are looking to apply for a declaration of emancipation, most places require you to be at least 16. To do this, though, you would need to be able to prove your age, that you have a way to make money, that you are financially responsible, that you do not want to live with your parents/they don't mind you leaving, and that you would benefit from being on your own. If this is what you're looking for, so long as you meet those requirements, you should be alright. Some places allow you to be even younger, so I would advise that you look into your local laws. Good luck!
BlackWolf1002
October 4th, 2021 5:32pm
Below 18? I believe leaving home means you are now financially independent, You can work in most jobs, Spend on yourself, you can take care of yourself, you can legally own properties or Rent them, and I think it all comes after 18, below 18 you are probably still in highschool, not fully mature, Illegal to own property or Rent them, Illegal to work in some jobs, and probably don't have a degree to provide you with at least a decent full time job, more if you wanna go to college you def need a job with a good salary..❤
Anonymous
October 21st, 2021 4:16am
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Anonymous
January 21st, 2022 12:37am
I don't think, personally, that there is an age to leave home, if you're mature mentally, emotionally, then, you can. Maturity varies from person to person, some might become mature at 12 because of responsibilities thrust on their shoulders at such a young age, maybe they had issues, and then, they had to grow up so young. Others might be 18 still living in their parent's house, to me, it doesn't matter the age, just the level of maturity. But we also have to consider the money factor, a 12-year-old can not make money for themselves, no matter how mature the person is. So, if anyone needs to decide or think, they will need to consider in a lot of factors, they should be able to support themselves- mentally, physically, financially. I hope this helped
KindKoala33
February 6th, 2022 4:03am
Being too young to leave home can be a different age for everyone because each of us mature at different rates and have different life experiences at different ages. Additionally, we have different goals, have a different home life, and have access to different resources. I think "too young" is when we don't have a plan, a way to support ourselves, and aren't really sure what we are going to do. If you have a plan, people to live with and support you, as well as a reason for needing to leave home than I think you can be ready no matter what your age is.
Anonymous
February 17th, 2022 10:39pm
It depends on the situation. What is the legal age of the country? Does leaving home mean that there is a stable place to live at, or does it simply mean trying to live seperately from wherever you are at now? If it is the former, then as long as you have all the support you need, for example, living with trusted friends at a trusted area/dorm/house then I imagine 16+ should be a good age to be able to leave home. If it is by yourself, I don't think it is advisable to leave home at an early age due to lack of experience that you could have.
enigmaticButterfly8052
March 25th, 2022 9:23pm
In my personal opinion the ages that are too young to leave home alone or without permission would be 10-14 cause they are most commonly not mature enough. If you are wanting to leave home permanently then you would have to go to court and get emancipated but that requires a parent or guardian signature and the state has to ok it. I don't know what you are going through to be asking this question but if you need to talk there are lots of willing people on this site and I am one of them. Things may seem tough but all of us here on 7 cups are here for you as a community and you are worth fighting for.