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What age is too young to leave home?

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heyitskris117
December 15th, 2016 7:20pm
I think a good age to leave home at would be when you're ready to support yourself completely. Think things through before making such a huge decision. If you can support yourself without anyone's help, that should be a good enough age.
wonderfullEndfoftherainbow27
January 13th, 2017 5:23pm
This question is quite difficult to answer as people feel ready at different times in their lives. However, unless they have an alternative housing option that's free and safe it might be worth waiting until a sixteenth birthday. Then they'll be legally able to work and meet their costs of living like rent, gas, electric and food. Before someone's sixteenth birthday it may be considerably challenging when you factor in the relationship between expenses and basic wages. Safety should also be a priority do they know who they will be living with well enough? Do others close to them find this person or plural suitable?
Anonymous
February 10th, 2017 12:14pm
Legally that is decided by your states laws, however I moved out at fifteen and lived with my friends family for a year and a half. It was extremely difficult to make ends meet on my minimum wage job and not something I would recommend for people so young.
Anonymous
February 15th, 2017 5:08am
Any age under 18, I know everyone is always in a hurry to leave and explore the world but it's harder than you think.
PeacefulWinds
February 17th, 2017 4:41am
I think maturity is the real measure of how young you can be to leave home. If you're mature enough to know your priorities, what you want in life, what the society around is like instead of what you want it to be, and can see both sides of arguments and avoid fights, you are mature enough to leave home. Age is just a number, maturity is a personality trait you gain from experience.
Anonymous
April 29th, 2017 4:37am
18 is still too young to leave home. As a young adult, you still need your parents guidance. Do not leave just because you think that and you know you are capable to support and take care of yourself. Do not forget it is good to eat a home cook meal prepared by your mom which you will not be able to eat when you leave home.
Anonymous
June 8th, 2017 3:24am
my sister was 16 when she left home to study, two years ago. when i met her last month, she seemed mature and experienced, when i asked her about her time away, she said she wishes she hadn't left, she had cried herself to sleep most nights because people weren't caring like she was used to as she grew up, she couldn't even tell mom and dad cause she had left home even when they asked her to reevaluate her decision. At 16, you are still immature and are easy prey to being abused, yes it did make my sister independent but she could have learnt the same things at a slower pace than how she did so rapidly while away from home. her study suffered and confidence broke, and she became more vulnerable.
calmApple67
June 9th, 2017 1:40am
Leaving home is a big step. I wouldn't put an age on it. Maybe more of looking at if you can support yourself.
Anonymous
July 14th, 2017 7:38pm
I think you should be at least 18 years old if you want to move out. You have a certain degree of independency then and can work and earn money for yourself and legally, as you are an adult, you don't need your parents to sign agreements for you or things like that. But also, if you are in an abusive household or your parents are treating you badly, you shouldn't hesitate to leave that home as soon as possible. If you have someone you trust or a place you know is safe for you to go to, that is.
kvo8
July 29th, 2017 2:51am
There is no number. Its based on your knowledge and understand of the world and how it works. You could be 26 and be so lost and confused and have nothing behind you to support life on your own. You could be 16 and experience so much already that you know how to live on your own. Of course I would never recommend or encourage someone younger than 18 to do so, its all based on what they've experienced. Whether that means home life is unhealthy or they just have the ability to move forward alone.
Pernia
August 11th, 2017 6:07pm
Age isn't the determining factor. It is dependency. If you are dependent on your family, or whoever you are being sheltered by, then it will not be wise to leave home until you build independence. When you are independent, you can leave home. Granted, age does correlate with some things. It is unlikely to be independent at an age that is not legal to have a job most places. It is unlikely to be independent at an age where you are legally limited in to many ways (can't sign a lease, can't get a job, can't sign for your own responsibilities and needs). But, it isn't impossible. It is just harder. You can be independent of your family and the people you live with being under 18 if you take the help of another adult you are comfortable with. Maybe have them help with legal responsibilities you will have living on your own and coordinate with that person. However, there is only your mental state, financial situation, and level of independence in general that will determine whether you can leave home and be safe/survive. There is no number that determines that. People develop differently, and learn at different times. Some may learn the things they need to learn earlier than others, and have the motivation and means to put that information to use. You just have to work towards independence.
Anonymous
August 16th, 2017 7:33pm
I think that answer is going to depend on your personality! Some kids are comfortable leaving home when they're really young to go off to boarding school and such, others may need to stay home for longer periods of time. Think about what's causing you to want to leave home and work from there.
Anonymous
August 19th, 2017 11:12am
You might want to consider staying at your home until you're done with college or High School. If you think you need to leave your home, you might want to consider talking to some organizations like the Connie Maxwell Children's home.
Anonymous
August 28th, 2017 12:42pm
there is no right age, it could be 18 for some and maybe older or perhaps even slightly younger for others. as a good rule of thumb just ask yourself a few questions like: do you have a job ie: able to pay rent or a mortgage? (have a look online and see how much houses or apartments are to rent\ buy to help gauge if you are able to stay on top of bills) Do you feel you are ready to look after yourself ie: you have learnt life skills like doing your washing, or where a fuse box is or can you feed yourself cook or be happy to eat read and things while you learn to cook? and if you feel like moving out is the right thing to do then make a plan, set a timeline of when you feel you will be able to move out and also think if there are things you might need for your place and if buying them in advance might be useful? like a kettle or cleaning products (so you can keep your place clean) a lounge or couch and bedding and a mattress protector or even a new mattress is even better.
Kanga
October 19th, 2017 8:12pm
I know that legally, in the US you are under your parents care until you are 18. I think it is best to stay with your parents until you are mature and responsible, unless they are abuse or harmful, and then maybe you should seek help on how to get out of a toxic home environment.
Arkelight
November 8th, 2017 3:39am
Anyone under 18 should seriously consider if it's the right thing to do, it's a difficult path to take.
FakzWift
November 15th, 2017 3:19pm
To me there is no specific age that makes you too young to leave home. It is completely relative on how your life is and how you are treated at your home.
Anonymous
November 17th, 2017 3:01am
Depends on your circumstances, try having a chat with a listener or talking with a family doctor. :)
Anonymous
November 18th, 2017 1:48am
I feel like it depends mostly on how much knowledge you have and how much growth you have accompanied to adapt , I think it fits differently with each individual. but i certainly would say if your parents knew or we're okay with it! then that's a definite answer
herelisteningforyou
November 22nd, 2017 8:23am
I think if your under 18 years old is too young to leave home
Anonymous
November 22nd, 2017 6:56pm
I think that the appropriate age to leave home would be eighteen. And that sixteen would be too young to leave home.
circledFlight
December 13th, 2017 2:56am
We never really leave home. Our body and thoughts may leave and wander, but our heart and soul stay firmly rooted at home.
LetsTalkLife24
December 16th, 2017 6:55pm
As this is an opinion, it is subjective and will vary between people, but I believe that any age below 18 is too young to leave home. When you are not yet 18, your parents still have a legal responsibility to care for you, and you are not yet a legal adult. Most people by the age of 17 will have had very little experience in caring for themselves, so most stay at home until even past 18.
EmRivale
December 21st, 2017 10:17pm
I don't think there is a specific age. It's all down to how mature you are and how ready you are to live outside in the real world. Do you feel as if you're ready to take the next step in your life?
Anonymous
December 31st, 2017 4:12pm
I believe to leave home at 16 is the youngest you should go, 18 being the perfect age. By the time you can support yourself you should be ready to leave, however if you are not capable of supporting your self emotionally then perhaps you should seek help.
SympatheicSeal7329
January 18th, 2018 2:47pm
Any age is too young if you do not have a very solid plan in place for survival. You need to know how you will get food, shelter, education and any other resources for at least the next year.
Jasmine7860
January 20th, 2018 6:00pm
A minor and a person who can't be independent mentally, financially and emotionally should not leave home .. preferably below age 18
youarespectacular
February 1st, 2018 4:02am
depends on the person. if you are fairly independent then you should be able to leave at around 15-18. however u are still young at that age, and it might be difficult without parents or a caretaker.
Anonymous
February 2nd, 2018 8:35am
For me personally would probably anything under 16. I remember how I felt when I was 16 and I wanted to run away from home... I thank God I didn't.
Anonymous
February 4th, 2018 6:29pm
I think a young age is under 18 because you are still a teen, learning how to be independent. When you are 18, you are an adult meaning that you don't belong to your parents