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What age is too young to leave home?

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Anonymous
July 6th, 2019 12:22am
There's no age too young for being independent. But get this: Are you able to? What's your purpose of living alone? If you can't find a good, meaningful reason, then it means you're still too young. If you're not able to take care of yourself, then you're still too young. But even though there's a 10 years old boy who owns big company and wants to live alone already while having servants to take care of him, doesn't mean he's quite ready. Mentally, does he still need his family's love? Does he have that maturity? If not, then I believe he's still too young. Living alone is not about "ability" or "leisure". It's about "maturity" and "being independent".
amiableSun7287
July 21st, 2019 2:45pm
In my opinion, it's not the age, but the context of the situation. Why do you need to leave- is your safety at risk? Do you have resources to help the transition from leaving home to being on your own (This could be anything from a place to stay, a job, a youth/transition shelter, a friend's family to help, a support system- do you have a way for your basic needs to be met? Note that in situations of violence, there are resources to help you). You know yourself, your situation, and your needs best. It is also important to consider what legal processes might happen if you are under the age of majority- will you continue going to school, etc. There are resources to provide guidance in many different cases.
Anonymous
August 18th, 2019 1:16pm
You're too young to leave home if you can't provide basic daily things like a home, a bed to sleep on, food to eat and all other necessary things you need to sort out while living away from parents. It costs a lot to live on your own and you need to have alright income or take huge loans to be able to do it.
Anonymous
October 30th, 2019 8:28am
13/14. I still think 15 is also too young, but I feel as if by around 15 you start learning enough independence to be able to figure out at least how to live on your own. Some people hire as young as 15. Ideally, if a person needs to leave home, due to toxicity or other extenuating circumstances, I think 16 is the best time, due to more job prospects and having a license potentially. But I only encourage that for people that absolutely have to out of necessity. It's never an easy thing to go through when you make the decision to leave home.
gentleSun78
November 6th, 2019 3:28pm
Age which is too young to leave home depends on local laws and customs. In Europe and USA person is considered adult when they are 18 years old and they can leave home by this age. In some other countries different rules or customs my apply. But for financial safety you have to take into account whether you wish to study (and whether you are eglible to scholarship) or you wish to start working. Also getting a flat on your own can be tricky when you don't have got enough income (without enough income you can neither pay rent nor get a credit to buy your own flat). When you are financially indepedent, you can leave your home safely.
Anonymous
December 26th, 2019 3:56pm
That depends completely on the person. In order to leave home, a person should be able to take care of them self. This means they should have a steady income, a place to live, and be able to buy things like food, clothing, and other necessities. This means that even a person as young as 16 could live on their own. However, that doesn't always make it the best option. If a person is very young, they may not be emotionally or mentally prepared for living alone as an adult. At the end of the day, it's up to the person leaving their home to decide if the pros outweigh the cons.
Anonymous
December 28th, 2019 9:31am
18 or below, this is because it is not safe out there, being 18, it would also mean you're legally an adult, as well as being more prepared by others and having some sort of experience with life and such, if they were to leave any older, it would also be alright as they could just have more experience and possibly be more prepared. However, I believe as long they are prepared and ready to leave home to possibly try new things and live their life, I believe they should be able to do that at most ages about 18.
Anonymous
February 1st, 2020 5:31am
i personally believe anyone under 15 should try to not leave home. this is because they cannot always support themselves. there are always exceptions in life, kids who are able to support themselves or can easily find work, but that is not always the case. i had to leave home at a young age and was not prepared. i do feel that fourteen to sixteen year olds can leave the home if completely necessary, but just ask them to make sure they can support themselves. support systems can also be a big help, sometimes staying with friends to get you out of the house can be a good option.
winterseb
March 9th, 2020 11:24am
Legally, a minor should only be able to leave home at age 18 in most countries. Before that, parents are legally required to provide you with all of your basic necessities (food, water, clothing, shelter, education, and a loving environment). With the consent of your parents and if you feel both morally and economically ready to leave at an earlier age you can do that too. However, if you plan to leave your home at younger than 18 years old, you will have to talk to your parents about it. Personally, I feel that 18 is the youngest a person should leave their home.
Anonymous
March 21st, 2020 7:31pm
There are many ages that are too young to leave home. Of course, you don't wanna leave the home while you're still in school. Even if you are to support yourself with a job and you think you seem financially set, there are always setbacks that could come. If you plan on going to college, that would be a reasonable time to leave home since it faces experiences in which you won't be under your family's care. Around 17 or 18, as that would be a time the average person would finish required schooling, would be the most sensible time since sooner or later you will no longer be able to be under family care.
Niktu58
April 11th, 2020 5:56am
A household with parents can be a wonderful place for many to stay until they are secure financially, continue to need a parents assistance due to a disability or until heading off to college. Unfortunately, this isn't the case for many teens who live in an unhealthy home. When this is the case a teen as young as fifteen or sixteen years of age can become emancipated and live independently of their parent or guardian. In many cities there are programs that foster and guide teens to live independently and complete a high school education. Other healthy adults can serve as mentors and guide you to positive outcomes based on your interests. It is a huge decision to leave home, requiring planning and guidance for success. Deciding to leave home brings many, many responsibilities. This is a huge decision; only you can decide the best course of action.
Anonymous
April 19th, 2020 5:59am
When you get the sense of saving. Moving out of home is a big thing . It’s not just about finding a new place but taking care of yourself in sense of financial security , mental security and social security. So when you are ready to face being alone, do all your chores, manage yourself, manager your expenses, manage your week being still being able to stay in contact with your home that is the right time to leave home. Try dong the stuff at your home by yourself starting from cleaning to food to laundry and expense and you will come to know whether you are ready or not.
Anonymous
May 24th, 2020 7:44pm
This is completely based on two things: 1. What age your parents/guardians are comfortable with and 2. If you can handle living alone, are you prepared to make money and pay bills, working and being completely independent. While most families are supportive, I know this is not the case all the time. Make sure you have somewhere safe to go and a plan on how you will live and survive. Transitioning can be hard, but with a good support system you can do it. If you are leaving for college/education purposes, that is different and more up to your maturity level. But in the end, the age to leave us based on your personal situations. Good luck!
Anonymous
June 7th, 2020 10:41pm
Questions like this are very subjective, they really depend on what the home situation is like, what’s going on in your personal life and obviously the financial area of things. I personally believe 16+ is the correct age to leave home. I know people who have had children young and therefore moved out and have coped very well with this situation. However I do also believe having the comfort and safety of a home with family members or guardians is somewhat important in the transition into adulthood. Also for many people financially it is not feasible to leave home, unless there is an income with some kind of work. I would advise discussing with those who you live with and get their personal opinion.
calmParadise87
June 12th, 2020 10:48am
I feel 17 is too young to leave home unless you have a plan and then I think 16 is too young to leave home. But, I definitely think young adults need to leave home at the age of 18 years old! As much as I love my adult children, they both had left home by the age of 18 and both have been very successful in life. Parents need to left their kids fly at age 18. Young adults were not meant to stay at home until they are 25 or 30. At age 18, it is time to either go on to college or find a good job that they can grow in! Parents encourage your children to find their own way for a positive life! Let those children be who they are!
CuddlyLlama
June 12th, 2020 11:07pm
Depending on your situation no age is too young! In certain countries the age limit varies and most 16 year olds needed parental consent to leave. Most people can not legally leave move out until they're 18 if their parents do not improve but if your home life is not good you may be able to contact someplace and see if you can leave home earlier. There's lots of options and it's something to for sure think through before you make any big decisions. But no age is too young depending on the different types of circumstances and reasons. :)
Anonymous
June 17th, 2020 4:55pm
I think a big decision like this isn't based so much on age as on experience and resources. Of course, depending on where you live, there may be legal concerns if you are a minor. Still, I think you have to ask yourself some questions before making such a big decision. What is your reason for leaving? Are there steps you could take to improve things before deciding to leave home? Do you have the financial resources to leave home safely? Is your physical and mental well-being going to be safe if you leave home? Do you have social supports outside your family that could support you as you leave home? All of these questions are really important before leaving home so that you can stay safe and healthy.
Anonymous
June 24th, 2020 4:25pm
Everybody’s path is different, you may leave home sooner do you certain circumstances that someone else might not be going through. If we where to generalize, between 10-15 would be too young to leave home. Just because between that age you are still becoming a teenager and still need some type of support. Around 16-18 you have a better sense of not only how to protect yourself but how to sustain yourself as well. Around 15 you might not even know what shampoo you should be using or simple things like that. The little details that become more important down the line. Again everybody is different you may be wise beyond your years but remember between 10-15 you still have time to grow.
calmIris3155
July 12th, 2020 8:36pm
My parents left me with my grandma when I was 13! Was the worst experience for me. I made a lot of mistakes in my life. After that I never wanted to live with my parents, I escaped when I was 15 and never lived permanently with my parents again which was very bad. I believe, while children are at college or university better to stay with parents at least first couple of years and then move to dorm or share apartment with other fellow students. Though it is different from person to person. Everything depends on culture, family, and maturity of young people. So, until 18-19 years its too young lo leave home.
Anonymous
July 17th, 2020 8:42am
Legally, you can't leave home until you are 18 but leaving home is something some people have to do if they are being abused, neglected, etc. I don't think there is an age limit if you are being hurt by someone in your home but if you are looking to move out and asking the real age to leave, it is 18 years old. Make sure when you do leave, it is with a friend who has a trusted parent, someone you can lean on and someone who won't force you to go back to the house if you are being hurt.
Anonymous
July 24th, 2020 3:50am
I'd say 10-17 years olds are too young to leave home. That's the puberty period,a child grows up to be a teen, a teen grows up to be a young adult. It's an important bend in the road that we call life. A child's mind comes to form into a shape within this timespan. So many things occur at once, physical changes, psychological maturity... A good family can walk a kid thru this time, patiently. If that doesn't happen properly, if the kid doesn't have proper guidance and care, he/she is destined to divert from the path of destiny. It's tremendously important. One single mistake- and your child is scarred for life. And sometimes those scarred for life kids just can't take it anymore. The family stress, the drama... it all feels like a heavy burden on their shoulders. And as they are kids, not mature enough and no mature one to teach him enough- he thinks running away is the best answer. Running away from home, which is the root of it all. Escaping the situation because they are too young and naive and impatient to deal with it all.
Anonymous
July 24th, 2020 4:03am
I know the desire to leave home can be super strong, especially if you're in a negative/abusive/toxic family, however, its best not to leave until you're an adult. Minors can be easily taken advantage of and also if you're not financially stable, there are a host of other problems that could occur such as homlessness. My advice to you is wait until you're a legal adult and have a steady job/cash flow before leaving home. Make sure you can fully support yourself before making a drastic move such as leaving home. Anything sooner could result in so many issues. Good luck!
Bjorn8001
July 29th, 2020 11:58am
Well, legality is a key factor, but not the only factor. Some young adults may be mature enough to leave home at an early stage while others need more support and growth before taking such a step. So it all depends on the individual circumstances. Obviously the person must be able to support themselves, this means that the person must be able to work and care for themselves. Yet some people might have enough maturity to leave home as soon as they turn 16 or 18 depending on location, while you get individuals that are dependant and might only be able to leave home after the age of 20 and succeed.
Anonymous
August 6th, 2020 10:53pm
‘Too young’ isn’t a thing. It depends on your circumstances. If you’re being abused sexually, emotionally, verbally etc it’s best to leave as soon as possible, as soon as you notice the abuse, you could be 10 or 19. It’s best to leave the situation no matter what age you are. But if it’s a situation where you just want to leave as you WANT to, and it’s not that you need to. The youngest is most likely 18 or 19. You're an adult now and should be able to make your own decisions and understand the consequences :))
Anonymous
August 14th, 2020 10:10pm
When you are not legally an adult. The typical age of attaining legal adulthood is 18, although definition may vary by legal rights and country. So the age of seventeen in most places would be too young. That said I personally left home younger than that and many people do, it really just depends on the individual. People mature at different paces which is why the world cannot even agree on what the legal age is for an adult. Perhaps if you are unable to have sex without parental consent you shouldn’t leave home but again that age varies between countries and even states!
HelenaxForever
September 3rd, 2020 3:54am
Age is only a number, what matters is the maturity of the one that ant to leave home, also how and with who does this person have a job, financial support to let say buy a house, also with who? a trustable partner, a roommate, alone. and where, in a safe zone or dangerous part? It's not easy to find the right moment to leave home. How is the situation at home? do she or he get along with parents or in some cases with a stepmother or stepfather? brothers sisters, own room, or shared with siblings. This is a question that has no general answer,m it's different for every person
Anonymous
September 10th, 2020 6:37am
If you are too young to provide for yourself by having legal employment then you are too young. Living alone without parents takes a lot of responsibility and the cost of living is very expensive. If you are leaving home make a check list to ensure you are ready to take on that responsibility. Do you have a job? Do you have money saved for emergencies? Do you have reliable transportation? Do you have reliable shelter or housing in place? Can you afford to feed and cloth yourself? If you answered yes to all of those questions then you may be old enough to be on your own.
Anonymous
September 26th, 2020 6:03am
Legally you cannot leave your home until the age of sixteen, therefore any age under that would be considered "too young". If you are financially able to move out, and safely able to, sixteen is a perfectly fine age to move out at. You could also look at becoming emancipated. This is were you are freed from control by parents or guardians and you are considered an adult, but with several restrictions. To sum it up, if you are able to support yourself financially, and not need the help of others for your basic necessities, you can leave home.
BeginnerPsych
October 7th, 2020 10:57am
Personally, I think it is too young to leave home if you have doubts about living alone and don't have enough money for that. Of course, it's better to have an ID and some certifications or even a good job. So the minimum age might be 17 or even 19. I would say the later the better, but it depends on the living conditions and the atmosphere at home. Another important question is why? Do you want to live independently and make your own decisions? Or are just trying to escape from yourself or someone else and make a lot of mistakes?
Anonymous
October 22nd, 2020 9:35am
In general, most teens younger than 16 aren’t mature enough to stay home alone overnight. But it’s important to base your decision on your teen’s maturity level. When thinking about your teen’s ability to safely stay home alone, ask yourself these questions: * Can your teen resist peer pressure? * Does your teen know how to respond to an emergency? * Do you have anyone to check on your teen? * Is your teen likely to be fearful? * How well does your teen follow the rules? Also very important if you have more than one sibling. It’s one thing for a 16-year-old to stay home alone for the night, but it’s completely different for them to care for younger siblings. Consider finding a place for younger siblings to go while you let your teen practice being home alone a few times before having them babysit siblings overnight.