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How can I be happy without friends and family?

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Last Updated: 12/18/2021 at 3:50am
How can I be happy without friends and family?
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Anonymous
November 10th, 2019 9:59pm
You can be happy by Being your #1 fan! Self love is the best love. Yes you will need friends and family but at then end of the day you only got yourself. Do things that make you happy:) friends and family are the most judgmental/ supportive people in your life. Although they will always be there for you they don’t always support your decisions/ the things that make you happy. As I stated before, do what makes you happy!!!! You are the only person you can count on and you are the only person that understands how YOU are feeling. Not everyone is going to agree with you.
Anonymous
November 22nd, 2019 8:46pm
Without friends and family, you need to love yourself. loving yourself is all that really matters. without loving yourself how can you love or be friendly to others? love is a very strong and independent emotion. anyone can have love or maybe not have love. either way show love the best way you can. You may think its hard but just sink into the thought of love and carry forward with it.
Anonymous
December 21st, 2019 8:47pm
Who says you can not be happy without friends or family? Happiness is not about people. It is about you, your inner self. Happiness is an emotion and like every emotion it comes from within. Firstly, you need to be at peace with your own self. Many extroverts have many friends and big and rich families but they still feel unhappy. While, an introvert may not have many or any friends but he/she can be happy because he is satisfied. Just stay away from negativity. Accept and love yourself. Do thing you like. Try to be a better person. Help people around you even strangers. Put a smile on others face and it will automatically come on your own. That is what you need to be truly happy.
YellowButton223
January 3rd, 2020 6:52pm
being happy can be hard even with friends and family around you. people relate having friends and family to happiness because having relationships involving giving and receiving love does increase happiness, but true happiness cannot be reached without loving yourself. this is why people participate in self care. self care is different for everyone, so you need to spend some time finding out what works for you. some recommendations are: going for a walk, writing a piece of poetry, having a bath, painting your nails, playing with your pet etc. connecting with a listener regularly, eating a healthy diet, exercising and getting the right amount of sleep can also make you feel happier. i hope this answers your question, emi
Anonymous
January 3rd, 2020 8:32pm
Humans are social creatures. Ideally in order to have a fulfilling life you need to be surrounded by love ones. But happiness may have definitions depending on who you are speaking with. Undoubtedly life would be easier when you have a supportive network to fall back on in crisis. But a lot of stoic philosophers would say fewer social attachments would make you a happier person. Attachments bring in responsibilities. Many loners would prefer the freedom over everything. Fewer responsibilities equal more freedom, which means happiness no strings attached. You can be happy without friends and family, as long as certain social interacts are in your daily life. Do whatever makes your happy as long as you are not in other people's way. Do do more of that something. You can be happier.
Birdie725
January 11th, 2020 4:44pm
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but you can't. Family is a relative term that can mean different things to different people, but friendship is wholly necessary to a happy life. This is because humans are designed to be social. The reason we developed things like language and facial expressions is in order to convey ideas to other sentient creatures. If you don't have family, that's fine, but I cannot believe that someone without friends can live a happy life. The thing that makes having friends so great is that their friendship is something they willingly gave to you. Many pets become friendly towards you because, at the core of it, you provide them with food and shelter, but with humans, both parties have to be willing to give up some of themselves in order to benefit the other. That's the definition of love. And being loved is so integral to happiness.
plushrain
January 29th, 2020 3:51am
True happiness comes from yourself. While happiness can most definitely be fueled by others, no one but you is in control of your own happiness. The best way to be happy on your own is to honor yourself. What do you like? What are your values? What relaxes you? Take care of yourself and engage in your interests. If you struggle to find interests, you can try using your values and things that are important to you as a starting point. The most important thing to remember is that your worth isn't dependent on others around you; you decide your own worth, and you create your own happiness.
calmDay
February 13th, 2020 4:26am
Happiness depends on how a person defines it. If happiness for you is being able to sleep well, travel around the world, or simply eating your favorite food, then that's it! No need to complicate the feelings. Happiness without friends and family is possible when you start evaluating yourself about the things that make up for who you are. Learning to accept yourself, your uniqueness is the first step. You need to learn that every person is good in their own way. Once you're able to realize that, then it will be easy for you to be happy because you know who you are despite of many influences in social media and other sources.
Anonymous
March 25th, 2020 10:02pm
what counts is that you are honest and that you make sure you are going out with each other but also respect their space. If they want to go out but you don't, they should respect your decision. You should also establish that no one is greater than the other. All of you are equal. You also should learn to stand up for yourself. If you feel you are being mistreated, ask who you think is mistreating you. Then confront them if you decide they are in fact mistreating you. Appreciate individuality and respect others' opinions and lifestyles.
ducksarecute5
March 27th, 2020 8:45am
There are many solutions you can try: traveling, pursuing hobbies or perhaps finding a new one or even meet someone new if you want to. The most important thing to remember is that you should focus on yourself, on what gives your life meaning. It can be confusing in the beginning but with time you will know, especially now that you are alone. Another good ideas would be to keep yourself fit and healthy, to indulge in self care or maybe you could volunteer somewhere close where you live. I hope you can find your hapiness soon and take care! :)
CalmCourage
April 10th, 2020 9:37am
Hey there, that's a great question given everything that's been happening at the moment. For me, LEARNING is what keeps me happy... I get lost in it and it keeps my mind busy. It doesn't matter if it's even something that's relatively useless like juggling... the act of trying, failing then improving and achieving it has a nice satisfaction. The other thing I woud say is helping others. For instance coming here and becoming a listener. Through listening to others problems and being there for someone is very rewarding for them and yourself. Nothing makes me happier than seeing someone benefit from a good chat! Hope this helps!
passingphases
April 11th, 2020 12:09pm
Family and friends are integral part of a person's life. But it is not essential that a person's happiness completely relies upon the number of friends that a person has. One can be contented with oneself. This can be achieved by having a good self-concept about oneself, thereby increasing one's self-worth in the process. This also includes avoiding self-criticism and being hard on themselves. A good cup of coffee, good music and even a good book can make a person happy. Thus, it all comes down to the fact that healthy relationship with oneself is enough to be happy and contented in life.
Anonymous
April 11th, 2020 8:23pm
At first we have to discuss what is happinness. I think that for every people it comes in a different way. Everyone should find their own way to develop joy in their lives. Try new things, ask yourself what do you like, what gives you joy, what can push you to develop yourself. Slowly expanding your world-view with new things could be one of the ways to bring doze of happiness to your life. Maybe after creating one hobby you will meet someone who would change your life? It is by accidents that some most beautiful things are born.
Anonymous
April 16th, 2020 11:09pm
Finding happiness begins with yourself. In my personal experience, I have dealt with loneliness. I didn't have a great support system, and I was not comfortable with speaking with people that could be able to help me with my feelings of loneliness. I was depressed and lost. I blamed myself for not finding friends or confiding in closer family members. It was a struggle that lasted for years. Being by yourself is difficult. It took me a while to find happiness within myself, or at least being content with who I am. It's a long process. Everyday I told myself that I can get through this, I am capable of being OK, and I have to fully focus on myself. I realized that the only person that you could truly trust is yourself. Once you are comfortable with yourself, you hold a great power. You gain confidence, you don't let others control you, you understand that life is something valuable. You learn to find beauty in the world. I became stronger mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2020 4:01am
I think you feel lonely. Sometimes being alone is something that is beneficial. When I am alone I take the time to journal or paint something that shows how I am feeling and it helps to make me feel better. Someone once told me that you are your bestfriend. Its important to love yourself and know your value because you are worthy of happiness. I can relate to your situation because I also feel like I can only be happy when I have people to share my happiness with, but I am trying to learn that I can be my own happiness. I
Anonymous
April 29th, 2020 4:04pm
Find activities that you can do you on your own that bring you joy. For example you can practice yoga which brings inner peace and joy and can be done on your own. Also painting your feelings is a great way to enjoy time on your own and is also a great and creative outlet. Most importantly you must be able to love yourself and learn how to spend time with yourself without feeling lonely. Though it seems like an odd complex being alone without feeling lonely means to be able to stand alone and enjoy your own company.
AnimalHugger
May 7th, 2020 10:12am
i am a firm believer in happiness being a state of mind that comes from within not from those around you. you have to be happy within your own mind to truly enjoy the presence of friends and family around you. do what you like and love not what others around you enjoy. while i understand that being around people is a relieve to the mind a lot of the time, it's only a temporary fix if you are uncomfortable in your own head. have the people around you be an accent to your own happiness not the source of it. plenty of exercises and activities to help you achieve your state of zen.
TheStoicListener
May 8th, 2020 8:33pm
By realising that true inner peace comes from within. Even people with a big family and many friends can feel empty without true self love. Being your own rock, your own emotional support and your own friend (!) is the first step towards happiness. Realise this, and you will be free from anxiety producing thoughts about being lonely ever again. By fully accepting this mindset, you not only get to know and love yourself, but will be ready to love truly the friends and family, should you ever want to gain them. But remember: happines comes from within, not from external factors.
Adrienne27
June 4th, 2020 5:35am
I think that finding happiness in other ways may allow you to accomplish this. For example, finding what makes YOU happy first :) This can be through doing activities that you enjoy or like. Personally, I find happiness through my pets, meditation, yoga, and watching movies. Practicing self-care can ensure that you are taking care of your mental and physical health. Self-care ideas include taking a long bath, going for a nature walk, journaling, eating your favorite meal, and stretching. Finding happiness with yourself, regardless of having friends or family, is very important. I can understand that it may be difficult, so feel free to reach out to any listeners or therapists for support.
safeshoulder2CryOn
June 11th, 2020 5:56pm
Hobbies is the core of life as it engages the mind. An engaged mind is often too busy untangling n organising things to feel loneliness. Even if one doesnt have hobbies, a creative mind will always seek solutions for mundane things. Creative thinking will stretch the mind to an elastic form that prevents boredom n loneliness. Some people feel loneliness even when they are surrounded by a large family as they are not connected nor feel they have suportive family. Hence happiness is really dependent on the adoption of certain positive thoughts or actions to improve the moods, feelings, sentiments and behaviours.
MLHG
June 19th, 2020 5:57pm
It all depends on the type of person you are - some people can derive great pleasure from being alone and having that freedom, while others feel alive when they are interacting with many people. To be happy in the opposite situation, I think it is important to set a goal for yourself, and make progress towards that goal. Being productive tends to feel satisfying, especially if the goal you set for yourself is one that matters to you, or has tangible results when completed. But honestly, I think it is not worth it to live entirely without friends and family. Keep yourself busy in the meantime, but don't isolate yourself and expect yourself to be perfectly fine.
loveAndsupport09
July 17th, 2020 4:27am
Experience new things and try to meet new people. Push yourself to the limit. Sometimes being alone is the best ime you can have. In my personal experience I have felt so alone but then I tried new things and felt amazing! Do not ever let life bring you down because life has meaning to it. You have a purpose in this world so sometimes it may be hard but if you keep your head up it will get better. Try new things every day, go to new places, change up something in your life, or even start something new.
Anonymous
July 31st, 2020 5:07pm
Find something that you can do daily. Give yourself a task goal that you challenge yourself to complete each week or every day. For myself, when I was busy. I feel less lonely because there are just no time. But sometimes, when like becomes busy, I feel lonely the solutions that I give myself is order some food online and then open up my Netflix then just enjoy my time or even provide myself some time for crying. I guess every time when I cry, I feel better because my emotions can be released and vanished. All things takes time.
Returncontrol2u
August 1st, 2020 9:43pm
"Without" is a relative term. When my brother died I learned that loving myself helps a great deal when a person you love dies. When people are away on vacation or isolated because of virus protection, you have a chance to do more things that only you enjoy. It is hard to have someone you love absent from your life, but it is also a chance to explore your own joy. Try new things, if you give yourself permission to have fun, you can discover more fun things. Perhaps even things you can share when you get back together. You deserve to be happy.
Anonymous
August 19th, 2020 3:59pm
By family, I’m assuming you mean people you are related to. However, this is a term that is changing more and more. For example, people may see their sports teams as ‘families’ or maybe their classes at school or their religious families. You might be part of the LGBT+ family, or the running family. Most of the 7 Cups sub-communities are examples of families! We don’t have to be related to the people that we call family is what I’m trying to say. Maybe you could have a look and think about what kind of families you might be part of? I obviously don’t know much about you, but I do know that you are part of our 7 Cups family!
Anonymous
August 22nd, 2020 10:03pm
Find something you love. Get a plant to take care of or a pet to take care of (if you want to and are able to). Participate fully in a hobby (collecting, crafts, sports, games, cooking, music, reading, writing, etc). Learn a new skill. Practice self-care and mindfulness. Even if you are alone, you don't have to be lonely. If you do want to make friends, get active in your local community doing what you enjoy (examples: book clubs, nature walks, conventions relating to your hobbies, etc).
VerseArt
August 27th, 2020 11:00am
Enjoy your own company like little children. Give them a plain sheet of paper and some crayons and they'll be happy. What they see here are resources, resources to enjoy their time and do something productive- drawing which will then be hung on the wall or refrigerator. Do the same thing. Find a hobby or a passion that makes you happy, makes you enjoy your own company and not rely on anyone to be happy. I always think that we should create our own happiness in order to be fully self-dependent. And also, it's okay to not find the thing that makes you happy because sometimes the process of finding is so enjoyable and filled with curiosity that that makes you happy as well.
hopebeyondpain
September 2nd, 2020 2:25pm
By loving yourself. by loving the person you are and have grown to be. by doing the things you love, eating the food you love, and being in the places you love. by loving others, and being kind to the people around you. by brightening up the lives of the people around you through being a good person. by helping people become better versions of themselves, and learning to be a better person everyday. by being humble, and honest, and thoughtful. by not giving up. by finding reasons to be happy by looking for the meaning of your life. of course, if the above make you think of your friends and family, then perhaps you'd be happier learning to be with them.
Anonymous
September 13th, 2020 5:31am
Looking within myself. Working and progressing on my own self-image and spiritual path. Who am I and what am I in this world? What do i want to be in this world? Friends and family feel like a lot and quite frankly can easily feel like everything but you need to let yourself take up space in your own life. Discovering who you are and searching for inner peace and balance. What can you do to better yourself? Meditation is an amazing tool here! FInd your own relevency in your life! Work on your own goals. There is a lot more to do with you than you may realize. You have so much space to grow that you may not see the potential there.
Anonymous
September 19th, 2020 6:59am
You have to build yourself. Try to learn more about yourself as a person. What do you enjoy? When do you laugh the most? When do you feel most fulfilled? As an immigrant who moved to America without my parents, I know what It feels to be alone without friends and family. I noticed that by building myself and thinking positive, I was able to be happy without friends and family. I started new hobbies and activities, which allowed me to learn more about myself. I would encourage people to focus on oneself, and not their surrounding. I guarantee that you can be happy even without your friends and family.