How can I deal with feelings I can't find words to express?
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find a way to express them through actions, writing a book, playing consoles or buying clothes online.
let them out, tell them someone, maybe they find words. Accept them, accept that your body can have feelings sometimes, that you cant understand. you are not alone with it.
I think you can deal with these feelings by expressing them through creative mediums such as painting, making music, drawing, doodling, etc. If you don't feel arty then you can still try to do those things, how your artwork look at the end isn't the main point it's the emotion and feelings that you put into it that really matter. And hey if all else fails you can always cry :)
I keep a journal. I just start writing about whats bothering me, over and over until I feel better. Then I look back and I'm usually able to see a pattern in my emotions. More often then not, I'll state my problem in a few different ways, and from that, I'm able to find the words to what I'm feeling.
Sometimes, I find that writing a letter to someone about it helps. It can even be to myself. It doesn't have to be sent to someone but I think when you arrange your thoughts to talk about an emotion, you also understand it better. And sometimes learn to manage it better.
As hard as it might be, it's super important to identify your feelings before you try to deal with them! Then you're not trying to aid sadness with help for fear.
Write them down may help also you could type them out to someone online like on 7 cups of tea and talk to a listener
Anonymous
July 16th, 2015 9:01pm
You can express your feelings in a healthy way through art or music. You can create a visual representation of your feelings. For example, staging scenes and photographing them, drawing and painting, or creating sculptures. There are limitless ways to express yourself through art.
Anonymous
March 17th, 2016 6:50am
Draw a picture! Art is a great and fun way of expressing yourself. You can try any sort of art style too! Sculpture, abstract, even cubism it all works. Try a few and see if art works as a form of expression for you :)
Anonymous
June 24th, 2015 5:34pm
you can write it on a piece of paper and then rip it apart
that way you can throw away all of those unwanted feelings
A lot of people often say they are sad, when really they are actually feeling lonely, or empty, or even just apathetic. For those that find it hard to describe their feelings, it may be best to note feelings that you are not having. For instance, I may know that I am mad, but a better way to narrow that down would be to ask questions like: "Why I am I feeling so angry? Am I jealous of the person that got the promotion instead of me? Am I bitter that my friends didn't invite me? Am I feeling down because I didn't do well on my test?" Asking a lot of "why-oriented" questions helps to narrow down our feelings to a point where it's easier to identify them.
There is no perfect answer for that. One of the way is to meditate on it. Take yourself to a quiet place where no one will disturb you. It could be a park even with natural ambiance. Then think about it, introspect, do it on daily basis if need be. The problem will unfold itself and you will find that you don't need to solve it, finding the truth behind it brings peace.
Anonymous
June 24th, 2015 7:44pm
Words are only one way of expressing feelings. You can be creative and draw and paint, or play an instrument to give a sound to your inner voice.
You can paint them, you can sing them, you can use them as a creative fuel and express them in any other way rather than words.
Anonymous
March 19th, 2016 8:03pm
Try to find out why you might feel this way, what has happened lately and how that should have made you feel. Drawing might help a lot to and listening to calming music. Talk to somebody, even though you might not get a solution but this will make you feel better and lift your mood.
Try to find people who have the same feelings. Having people to relate to can be really helpful in a situation like this one. Discussion about your feelings can make you feel better in many cases.
Find a way to express them which does not require words.
Keeping them inside would do you more harm than good.
And also words sometimes tend to spoil the actual feelings,
expressing them non-verbally might prove a boon to your soul. :)
Anonymous
December 29th, 2016 3:12pm
I talk to people and tell them that I'm finding it difficult to express myself and then I would write a poem, with words around my feelings
Anonymous
August 6th, 2015 3:52am
Sometimes we can't put our fingers on what we are feeling; we have lumps in our throat, we are seeing red, our face is hot with blush and it's confusing. We can't say what is is because we don't know what it is. The best thing to do is express ourselves creatively. By writing, painting, or composing we can gain insight on why we feel the way we do.
Draw something that helps you describe your emotions in a way you understand. If you can't get it out on writing, getting your feelings down on paper makes it a lot easier for you to understand yourself and put your feelings in perspective. Be creative!
Anonymous
August 14th, 2015 5:33pm
This can be hard and frustrating!! I have found that sometimes doing artwork, such as painting, can help us express what we cannot verbally describe. Also, I like to find songs that have lyrics similar to what I'm feeling because I tend to see those as explaining things better than I can in that moment.
When I have feelings I can't find words to express, I use art and photography to help me express them. Paintings, drawings, or even creative pictures, can express emotions and feelings without using words!
Start small. Begin by describing the event in detail and how each part made you feel. If you can't identify your emotion, try filling in the blank with one emotion at a time until the emotion feels correct.
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Anonymous
June 25th, 2015 1:49am
Anyway you want! Scribble on a piece of paper. Draw. Listen to music that you feel you relate to. Make music of your own. Scream into a pillow. Engage in physical activity. There are a lot of ways to deal with feelings without words just by using positive coping skills like the ones mentioned above.
Sometimes it's hard to identify feelings in words, which can make it difficult to communicate them, which in turn can cause frustration. When you're having trouble identifying your own emotions, it sometimes helps to think of yourself as a current, and the emotion as the charge running through it. Let yourself feel it and let it pass through you like an electrical current. And if this is difficult and you feel like you need verbal emotional support, you can browse support groups and forums to see if you can find anyone experiencing similar situations and feelings to yours. 7 Cups has some great forums to peruse!
Try writing your feelings down on a piece of paper or anything where you can write them down. Try to describe what it is, how it feels, what makes you feel that way, why do you feel that way, what you think of the feeling and what to do about the feeling. This will help you to understand your feelings and articulate them better.
Anonymous
January 6th, 2016 12:59pm
You should just leave at that. Don't try to describe it.
Thanks for going through the day. Thank you. You are awesome. Don't let the negative feelings put you down.
You could express yourself through art that way you can use images to express how you feel instead of using words.
Anonymous
December 24th, 2015 6:25am
Inorder to express feelings that you cant put into words you can do two things. One- You can express your feelings by drawing them. Or two- you can write them down in a story or book.
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