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How do I stop thinking about death?

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Last Updated: 06/24/2023 at 8:53am
How do I stop thinking about death?
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Tracy-Kate Teleke, PsyD, M.A., LMFT

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I assist adults and couples in CA experiencing relationship challenges and interpersonal struggles including anxiety, depression, and a myriad of other life challenges.

Top Rated Answers
huggerLover14
September 22nd, 2017 6:31pm
In my opinion, in order to get through depressive thoughts and stop thinking of things such as death you need to turn to the people who will support you and take your mind of such things. Go and do something you have never done before, explore, read, write, or just take some physical activity which will get you moving or going. It is always better to do it with someone else of course.
calmingFriend2210
November 4th, 2020 12:34am
Ok, on June 17 2020 I asked myself this question why do I fear death, cause no one has come back alive. So that‘s my reason for thinking about it. But as for you I have no information on why you may be thinking about this. These are my conclusions is that you want to die, or you just curious about death or that death is just something we learn to talk to ourselves about. So as for me when you want to stop thinking about something try to do something that prevents you from thinking of death. So probably no horror assassin movies or cemeteries ok. But to be real the thought of death is normal cause it’s going to happen. It’s something inevitable but there is always now, the present that we should worry about. So try to do other activities and learn that death is not something to be scared of cause it going to happen and that how life is. Wish best of luck with this. :)
LifeenRiched
July 30th, 2016 6:05am
The best way I have found to stop thinking about death is to first distract yourself with anything art, cooking, cute puppy videos on YouTube and then continuing to be mindful and present.
Anonymous
September 30th, 2018 3:07pm
If an idea has a strong emotional tie, such as fascination or horror, it can become very compelling. On of the best ways to re-train the mind to turn away from a thought and attend to another idea, comes from Mindfulness Training. In this system of personal development, a person deliberately sets out to change the way Thoughts (and feelings) are dealt with. Meditation is considered to be the fundamental building block for Mindfulness training, for good reason: it works. However, not everyone find that to be available to them. So people have developed CBT, or Cognitve Behavioral Training. This is, essentially, learning to watch one's thoughts and change the way they are expressed, evaluated, and responded to, which in turn can allow for the replacement of a distressing thought with one of more neutral, or even helpful value. There is another kind of personal growth training, called DTB (Dialectical Behavioral Training) which adds Mindfulness, Cognitive Retraining and Social Retraining. These three together can be a very powerful tool for change. My personal favorite is the Recipe for Change that i was taught, in 4 steps: 1) DECIDE to change; 2) decide WHAT to change; 3) CHANGE as much as you can, whenever you can; and 4) PRAISE yourself for every bit of change you accomplish! This last step is very important, as it allows the mind to clearly understand what is desired of it. Most of us do not get enough Self Praise, and a little bit can have a lasting effect.
Anonymous
November 20th, 2017 9:03pm
make new targets in ur life .. try to love .. love any thing .. love and hope only can beat the fear of death
Positivityiskeyalways
August 3rd, 2018 1:43am
Death is obviously inevitable. You just have to come to terms that we all are going to experience death and live everyday to it’s fullest.
Anonymous
February 1st, 2016 7:55am
When you start thinking about your life, and all the things you can do and try. Life is all about experiences, so go and get some! We were not born to die, at least not today.
Alexa101
July 6th, 2016 2:33am
Think of all of the positive and things you are thankful for. Think of the people who love you and would be devastated when you left.
Silvumination
June 26th, 2016 10:40pm
Up until just a little while ago, I used to be rather morbid. The theme of death seemed to surface often in my thoughts, conversations, and creative outlets. Everybody is different, but one of the things that helped me was just doing my best to surround myself with positive things. While I still do express my negative emotions, I don't encourage and embrace excessively death-oriented behavior. That translated more specifically as myself trying to limit the morbid side to my humor, artwork, and writing and also not reading, watching, or listening to really angry or depressing music. That might sound like I'm just shutting out my morbid side, but I think instead by doing so I'm able to focus on the more positive things in life :) .
Maricellac
June 17th, 2016 5:47am
Think about life. You get one of each. One you can somewhat control and enjoy... and one is simply inevitable.
Anonymous
May 23rd, 2018 7:17pm
Death is the inevitable thing and the ultimate destination of all of us.whatever happens everyone born on earth will have to die one day.life is just a journey from birth to death.but for different people the duration and qualities wary.this journey is unprecedented no one can guess how long we will live but when you live leave all fears and be peacefull and spread happiness.make a mark of your own..so that your life will be remembered by few.stop worrying and chill.death is there and it will come.let us face it as it comes and nit before it.after all great lives need not be long and long lives need not be great.
Zebrasarcastic
June 10th, 2016 1:33pm
Death is inevitable it has to come when it does don't think about it how just think it will when it will and live the moment
peacefulWinter66
June 7th, 2016 11:06pm
Figure out how it makes you feel when you think about it, figure out why you think about it and what causes you to think about it. Adress those feelings and situations. If you want to stop thinking about death it's up to you to make the mind-move from where you are right now to where you want to be.
Anonymous
February 8th, 2018 9:19pm
If I tell you not to think about pink elephants! .... what’s the first thing you think about? It’s natural to want to avoid thinking about things that worry, upset or scare us but, death is something that all of us will face one day. We’re all likely to feel grief at the loss of a loved one, and one day we will all experience death. So rather than avoid thinking about it, I’d encourage you to think and talk about what death means to you. Talk about how you feel when you think about it... what your thoughts are about what happens after someone dies? What has been your experience of death, life or loss so far? If you’re thinking about death a lot then it might be that your beautiful brain is telling you there’s something you’re processing, so let it. Maybe by talking, writing, painting, playing music...however you express yourself and process feelings. It’s better out than in. And once you’ve allowed yourself that space, you may may find you’re not so preoccupied with death.
Anonymous
May 11th, 2018 10:08pm
Start thinking about right now, focus on the present rather than the future, make the most of your time right now, fall in love with being alive
CaringMike
May 11th, 2018 8:58pm
Although many of live in societies where people not like talk about death, it is quite normal to think about death. If we lose a loved one we can be reminded that we too will have to face death one day. It can help put our life into perspective. However thinking about death all the time can be a problem. Perhaps we have a fear of death or the time leading up to it, that it will involve pain and suffering. Obsession with death can lead to depression and distract us from live full healthy lives. One way to avoid constant thinking about death is to use it as a reminder that we are finite and never know how we have left. This can motivate us to live fully in the present and take nothing for granted.
Jordynx
March 30th, 2018 3:03am
Try to preoccupy yourself with different hobbies to keep you busy. Maybe pick up a new sport, or an instrument. Anything to distract yourself from those negative thoughts and feelings.
Kalmkendrick231
September 14th, 2020 3:05am
By living in today! See we all are mortals. And its true to its core that the day we are born into this world, the timer of back counting starts. And this period is different for everyone and much of it also depends on how we treat ourselves. Though death is certain and everything has an expiry date, its better to focus on the journey rather than the destination itself! Take cheers, give support, do what your heart says, ask that girl/boy out, get that slim and fit body, travel the world and what not! The only good way to stop thinking about is actually seeing it something that would happen no matter what so not wait for it but live the best till we can.
Anonymous
April 25th, 2019 11:31pm
Death is part of life, good and bad, black and white, the cycle, the antagony, we generally start thinking about death when we gain consciousness in early childhood. You suffer for your own death and you suffer for the death of others. We can put it away with distractions, work, socialising, living in general, shutting it out. But we cannot stop thinking about it, being for us or our loved ones. It's a fact. Be active, seek people, work or have an activity and it will keep your mind off of it. I was suicidal myself, but i was lucky with a pharmaceutical nurse who identified my anguish on my face and gave me fake calming pills and she saved my life with her professionalism. When you think about death try to conect with someone or reach for help or do it yourself by waiting it out or thinking of good thoughts. For me it worked, i go on even though i have the troubles that i have myself.
benevolentSunshine
April 17th, 2019 3:45pm
By convincing yourself that death is not something abnormal, and it happens to meet all living beings alike. Further, as the saying goes, "one day we'll die, but every other day we'll live". So which one do you think deserves more reflection or attention? When we avoid attributing more significance to death than it really deserves, it becomes easier for us to stay in the present. This automatically gets reflected in our mindset, attitude and behavior. One thing more: never over think about finding a way to stop yourself from thinking about death. Paying too much attention to anything magnifies it. I hope this helps. Take care.
Anonymous
June 28th, 2018 11:21am
Think about the after life. Research on how to manipulate life. Research on how to resurrect. Has anybody got the book of death and teach me a few spells?
Thislittlelightwillshine
July 6th, 2018 10:17pm
When you find you have a preoccupation with death, ask yourself what it is in your life that is going on that you can control or change, if what makes you obsess over death is something related to your life, try removing the person or issue that is causing you to feel life isn't worth living.
Anonymous
July 18th, 2018 12:27pm
Well, what helped me was to start thinking of the complete opposite, life. What I like about life, what I hate about it, what I live for and how I want to live.
frostymango546
September 5th, 2018 10:53am
You can stop thinking about death by thinking about the happiness and success you have gained in this life with the help of your friends and loved ones. Once you leave this world you do not get an option to return. And this is your life. You should not be thinking to give up on this life because of some issues which will be solved sooner or later. These issues are not so worthy that one may start thinking about death in order to get rid of these issues. You are precious and worthy and you can not that to yourself
Anonymous
August 2nd, 2018 11:48am
by holding onto the one good thing you have. By holding on and thinking about that one good thing that makes you happy. Then those 100 reasons will look very small to end your beautiful life.
Anonymous
November 11th, 2018 4:23am
Take time to focus on the big picture. Do relaxing exercises, and put time and energy into something beneficial. For example, you could take up sewing, exercising, or baking if you really wanted to. Just try and take the focus away from something negative. It also might help to talk to a therapist or close family member or friend. just talking about it might help. If none of these work you could seek advice from a psychiatrist or physician who might be able to provide medications that can make the thoughts more manageable. The journey itself might be hard but you have to remember to keep your head up! c:
fantasticSnowflake65
December 21st, 2018 2:51am
Best way to escape thought's of death is to help others. Keeping ourselves busy with something worth, something we love doing will help us celebrate life. That is my take on life. people will die everyday and fear death because ultimately they feel they havn't done much in their life. Once gets the sense of incomplete, something lacking in real life. If we can find purpose of our life and have the sense of completion then death is never a terror. It would be work well done. So keep celebrating every precious second of our life with purpose and gratitude.
SirMaDDaM
July 18th, 2018 10:21am
By thinking about life, and it's worth. If you have nothing in result, then think about what you -could- have, and think about how to earn that. Setting up plans, and slowly executing them, will not let you have time thinking about death.
WowThatsABigHug
April 10th, 2019 10:05pm
Death is a vast, mysterious presence in all of our lives and it more than likely touches us many times before we meet it ourselves. We see death in the news every day, we hear about it in our communities and often we think about the death of loved ones for years and years. Sometimes we think about the death of ourselves, too. This is natural and thinking about death occassionally can add meaning and be a useful tool to focus our lives. At the same time, thinking about death too much can be troublesome. We begin to think life is hopeless and without newness, as all we are thinking about is its end. Life is equally as vast and mysterious as death - but sometimes we can get sidetracked by its negative aspects and events, and we can forget the simple gifts that life offers, such as this present moment. For one minute, try focusing on your breathing. You could also focus on really studying a flower, or talking to a friend, and really listening to them. The trick is to be in the moment, and focus all your attention on whatever it is you're doing. If you keep doing that, one day you might discover something precious - and you might not want to stop thinking about THAT. Can you imagine what it would be like - not being able to stop thinking about... life? ... but that's another problem altogether! :~) Good luck to you.
Kendall2000
March 17th, 2019 5:25pm
Death is inevitable. You can't escape it and sometimes you may want to run to it. So it is a topic most at some points in their life think about. But the thing is, you were put on this earth for a reason. You are hear because there is something inside you. Once you realize that you can stop thinking about death because you know you have a purpose and know that you need to be alive and that life is a great thing. Try and limit the amount of "death talk" you do. It will help get your mind off of it because you won't be having a conversation about it. Also try something new, like a hobby or new sport and you will be focused on that and focused on trying to do good at that that you will forget for the moment about it and soon once you get your mind off of it like that you won't think about it so much.