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Why is it so important to share your feelings?

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Last Updated: 12/29/2021 at 5:24pm
Why is it so important to share your feelings?
1 Tip to Feel Better
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Tracy-Kate Teleke, PsyD, M.A., LMFT

Marriage & Family Therapist

I assist adults and couples in CA experiencing relationship challenges and interpersonal struggles including anxiety, depression, and a myriad of other life challenges.

Top Rated Answers
Wittie96
April 28th, 2019 7:03am
For me it is important to share feelings so I can better communicate my wants and needs to my partner and friends and family. I have found that when I don't express my feelings and hold everything inside it all comes out at once. Usually that ends with me mentally exploding and crying and saying hurtful things to the ones I love. In other words it doesn't end well. Sharing feelings gives me the room to state how I feel and them the room to change their behavior accordingly. I hope this helps a little bit. It has taken me years to learn how to share feelings but I wouldn't go back to holding it all inside again. In the words of frozen, "Let it go."
cloudystarlight
May 8th, 2019 7:33am
By sharing your feelings, you open up to the people around you. You can connect with them on a deeper level, and they with you. It's important because it can help others understand - and relate to - you. Honest and empathic communication improves any relationship, and encourages further healthy exchange and support. It can also relief emotional tension that was building up inside. Trying to formulate how you feel requires you to first understand and name your feelings, which is a good exercise. It can be scary to be vulnerable and tell others how you feel, but it's almost always worth it.
ChristianMario
May 24th, 2019 3:50pm
Two reasons and the first is that research which has shown that communicating our thoughts and feelings is indeed cathartic in that the release provides relief. Literally the act itself is a step in the right direction regardless of whether assistance is offered. And secondly, everyone needs to be heard so utilizing our connections to others is imperative to our growth and development. Being able to rely on others, whether old or new, provides a sense of self-worth. Opening up and sharing to such individuals involves a more deeper physiological impact as we are and have always been social animals.
Anonymous
May 30th, 2019 8:28pm
Sharing our feelings, besides making others aware of what is going on inside us (which could have a positive effect if the others are willing to know or if they are afraid of what our opinion or feelings could be) is also a way to process and better understand them. Sharing means also having to express them in an understandable way, for our listener to get the right point and avoid misunderstandings: by doing this we are hence forced to sit down and think about them in a more rational and detached way: are they really justified? Am I overreacting or underreacting to something?
Anonymous
June 2nd, 2019 4:37pm
so you can get out how you feel and you don't have to keep it to yourself and feel sad all the time and feel guilty and it just feels better knowing someone else knows. I would highly suggest finding someone to talk to and you may feel alone but you never are alone there will be someone who has gone through the same thing. even if not there will be someone who experienced almost the same thing and can help you through this journey of getting better. You have got this i swear by that. Have a nice day.
Hanaa00
June 12th, 2019 11:46pm
I feel like it is one of the most important things in relationships, friendships, in social encounters, in any form of human interaction. At the same time, i do see why some people think that sharing feelings isn’t all that necessary— there’s a lot that makes them vulnerable and can potentially be used against them, or, they might be just afraid of judgement, or they might not be sure how exactly to share their feelings. However, sharing feelings is an essential form of communication, and it is a necessary component that someone needs to know in order to truly get to know someone for who they are. Let’s also not forget that feeling are often reflection of our thoughts (or vise versa), and therefore they must be communicated.
Anonymous
June 28th, 2019 4:52pm
Imagine a phone ringing. It keeps ringing and ringing but we ignore it, because it is someone we don't like. After years of ignoring this constant phone ringing, trying to plug our ears with cotton balls and loud music, our mind is exhausted and the phone simply gets louder. Until eventually, we feel that the only way to escape this ringing is by removing ourselves from the situation. If you pick that phone up, and listen...the person calling is just an older version of you. It says "Help me, I'm hurt. I need love, empathy, and care. I won't have to ring this phone anymore if you just let me into the room." If you can do that, you will forever be in control our your emotions. Empathy for oneself is the key to self-regulation.
Anonymous
June 30th, 2019 6:44am
okay, so this can be an important question. feelings come from emotions, and emotions come from thoughts. Feelings are connected with our perceptions of the world, of every situation we encounter in life. 2 people can look at a bush of roses, one can see the beauty of the blooms, and the other the danger of the thorns. It is important to express our feelings so the other person can see the world from our point of view, and we can see it and understand it better through their point of view, It doesn’t mean that we accept their view, but it can help us understand their thinking process.
AishaD
July 1st, 2019 8:19pm
It is very important to share your feelings so that you get the support that you need. Many people don't realize this but the first step towards feeling better is definitely expressing yourself. Sharing your feelings can also help other people put themselves in your position and it can help them help you. It is a good thing to do also because simply talking is good. keeping things to yourself is also unhealthy and can even further raise other issues. Telling someone that you are sad or angry and help resolve that. A problem shared is a problem halved. :)
Anonymous
August 3rd, 2019 2:37pm
It’s important, because, sharing how you feel to other people, will give them a better insight on how you are feeling or doing. It’s also very healthy to share how you feel, if you bottle your feelings up, you will be doing more harm than good to yourself and others. Also sharing them will make you get to know yourself better, if you voice them verbally, you can be like, “Oh this is how I feel, and I can work on this certain area.” It truly does give yourself a better knowledge about who you are as a person and to others. That’s why it’s so important to share your feelings.
Anonymous
August 31st, 2019 2:11pm
It is important to share your feelings so that people can help you. If you don’t tell someone they make you feel bad in some way, they won’t know to change. Also, I find that just talking to someone makes me feel better and helps a lot. I tend to feel very stressed and depressed when I hide all of my feelings inside me, instead of telling someone. Even telling someone you don’t know makes a huge difference. There is nothing wrong with how you are feeling. You are not the only one who feels that way. You are not alone ❤️
xoDIVINITYLOVExo
August 31st, 2019 5:21pm
Keeping feelings all bottled up inside is only a temporary solution and not something that I suggest you ever do. Holding in such emotions will only prove to be toxic and worsening your situation. You need to get that toxic poison out before it starts to eat away at you. There is no excuse anymore because now you have me and the other listeners on here who want to help you and care about the way you are feeling. You are not alone. Talking about anything that is bothering you will only prove beneficial. If you want to be the best version of you that you can be then you need to have a healthy mind body and soul.
PrimroseWoods
September 4th, 2019 3:24am
It is so, so, so important to share your feelings because nobody will know how you feel unless you tell them. Being able to share your feelings is a great way to help others understand you, and also, perhaps more surprisingly, help you understand yourself. When you talk about the way you feel, it helps your brain process what you're going through. When you share your feelings, others are more capable of empathising with your situation as well-- it's part of the healing process. Being able to share your feelings is important because it's what brings us together and helps us understand and live with one another.
EmpatheticSeashell007
September 4th, 2019 2:36pm
How is anyone going to know if you aren't going to share? Maybe you don't want the world to know but at least some loved close people should have an idea with what you are going through. They can't read your mind, you know, as much as you would like that. It is important to share what you feel so that you can find people who understand, people who can relate, people who can ultimately help you, lift you up. By keeping them all in, you are not dealing with them, you are just repressing them and repressed feelings almost always resurface. So, unburden yourself. Sharing is after all, caring
Anonymous
September 6th, 2019 9:26am
Sharing your feelings is important for so many reasons. If you keep your feelings to yourself, you risk to burst at some point. If you share your feelings and let them out, first of all it can help you process them and handle them better, and secondly it helps the others around you to understand you, to know you better and to know what matters to you, what bothers you, what you like and dislike, how they can help you. By letting others know your feelings, you let them in and they're more able to help and to share their feelings in return. Don't be afraid of sharing your feelings (with the right persons)!
spiritualstrength2077
September 15th, 2019 3:57am
Feelings are important to share because when we have someone who listens, it can help us navigate the feelings better. Feelings alone aren't always reliable guides. It can help make them more reliable when you have someone to bounce them off. Even if that person doesn't fully understand them, sharing the feeling can help the sharer better understand the feeling and what to do with it. In my experience, I have felt better sharing the feeling behind something. It forces me to look beyond the events to reveal more of my actual self, the one that isn't really seen to anyone but me -- and I'm the one that needs the nurturing, adventure, guidance, etc.
NigelS
October 26th, 2019 10:14am
Based on my own experience sharing your feelings feels like there is a weight that falls off your shoulders. I used to keep my feelings to myself , afraid of judgements or not being understood by others, but keeping it in was only making me feeling worse. I felt irritated and sad and it was making me reacting angry and defensive towards people but since I started to share my feelings I started to feel a lot more relieved and a lot less stressed, even if I didn't find a solution to my problem and I think sometimes people don't want a solution, but they just need someone to listen and make them feel like they are not alone and they are always people who are willing to listen and emphatize, whether it's a family member or a friend so go out there and share your feelings, I guarantee you that it will be worth it
Anonymous
November 13th, 2019 3:12pm
Because keeping everything inside is bad for mental and physical health and can be the reason for serious desease. Everytime you impress your thoughts and feelings you feel much better, you release your pain. Your body reacts immediately like you throw big weight off your shoulders and you mentally became more free and easy. Your sleeping became more deep, your daylife goes little bit easier. Then your body became more healthy cause your blood pressure goes normal, your heart work well without overloading. And of course it is good for your mental health cause you became more focused on positive feelings and you can set goals and move further.
Anonymous
November 22nd, 2019 12:10pm
Have you ever tried to pour more liquid into any sort of container which was already full? What will happen? It will overflow right? And when that happens, you are eventually going to explode. At wrong time wrong place, maybe on wrong person. And if not, even if you manage to keep everything inside, then you are gonna hurt yourself. There will always be a heaviness on your heart. You won't feel light. You won't be able to move on and will be stuck up on it. That will be a mess for you and you don't want to clean up the mess afterwards, right?
Anonymous
November 23rd, 2019 10:27am
Sharing is caring in all forms. It applies to sharing feelings in some manner. It shows care for others or for us. Feelings are the effects of thoughts and we are constantly bathing in a sea of thoughts and feelings which range across the whole gamut of emotions..pleasant, loving, hatred , scary, delightful, proud, anxious, guilty and so many. By sharing positive feelings we give it more strength and it has a pleasant effect on all, which helps cement positive relationships. The negative feelings too need to be shared but with certain sense of responsibility and maturity so as not to harm anyone with those. As its rightly said, the feelings have first effect on ourselves before these effect others. Modern science has established relationship between feelings and diseases so its not surprising that a many diseases are listed under psychosomatic diseases. Its all the more important to share our feelings , lest they pile up and effect us is some not-so-good manner
Anonymous
November 28th, 2019 3:53pm
So that I can be understood, making me less isolated in my "bubble" and more connected with the rest of the human race! It will also help me move past emotions by moving through them with another person, and experiencing a bond with them individually. Healthy connection will prevent me from pursuing unhealthy connection, such as obsession with sex or more manipulative, dependent and attached kinds of relationships with others. My resilience to social pressures will also increase to healthier levels, and I will feel more comfortable in my own skin. Vulnerably bonding with other people can increase my courage to exist more boldly in the world!
Aleespli21
December 28th, 2019 7:51pm
Sharing your feelings helps you understand them better. By keeping them locked away and hidden, you won't discover how you truly feel and others won't be able to either. By having others understand how you are feeling it helps in communication and communication is key in everything. Especially in relationships whether it be a partner or a friend, being open and communicative is very important in order to understand signals and form a stronger bond. Overall, I believe it is good to share your feelings because it helps you to understand how you are feeling yourself and how others may be able to help.
Anonymous
January 2nd, 2020 5:30pm
If we bottle up our feelings and don’t share them with other people, they can intensify and grow worse. This is more noticeable with things such as anxiety, trauma, loneliness, and depression, although it does affect everything. We may think we are strong enough to fight it alone, but if we don’t let people know we’re struggling, they may treat us in ways that worsen our struggle. For example, if people around you are routinely doing something that makes you anxious, they will continue to do that and your anxiety will grow unless you tell them how they’re feeling, in which case they’ll likely stop. If you don’t share, they will continue and your anxiety would continue to grow. Similarly, if you’re feeling uncared about because you haven’t seen certain things from your friends, you could tell them you feel lonely and they could spend more time with you and take more steps to show care. If you kept this to yourself, the loneliness would grow worse as they repeat the “uncaring” actions. Talking about it can help you realize that whatever it is isn’t as awful as you think it is- for example, a trauma. If you keep a traumatic experience to yourself, you are at a higher risk for flashbacks. If you tell someone, they can help refocus you on the present and see that it can’t hurt you anymore.
Anonymous
January 18th, 2020 11:51pm
Sharing your feelings can help prevent you bottling up your emotions which can be very difficult for you and others. The phrase: "a problem shared is a problem halved" really is true, we listeners are here to help and sharing your feelings brings you forward one step on your path to recovery. Sharing your feelings and emotions can help improve your lifestyle and mood. It can boost your confidence levels also. When you share your feelings you can help yourself to develop a healthy mind and body. I hope this will help you understand the importance of sharing your feelings with those you trust.
ElliotAnxiety17
January 23rd, 2020 12:53am
It's important to share your feelings because feelings don't go away. From my experience, when I feel a strong bad emotion, it will not disappear like happiness, it stays and grows. Even if it's a series of small bad events, they build up. Imagine is like a dam holding back a river. Every time a bad emotion comes and isn't let out, it flows into the river and builds up pressure. Eventually, your dam won't be able to hold back your emotions, and something very small could knock the entire thing down. All your emotions would come spilling out in one giant rage. Others, who don't know what's happening would call it an overreaction, scorn you, and thus builds the new foundation for another storm. Sharing your emotions makes sure you don't destroy the dam.
Anonymous
January 29th, 2020 5:42am
Sometimes keeping in feelings can be bad, but sometimes it can also be good. The times when keeping in feelings can be good are primarily only situations where you wouldn't be safe sharing your feelings. The bad times to keep in your feelings are when you are at risk for depression, anxiety, or other mental health problems. Sometimes when we don't tell others what's going on, our problems get worse. When we tell others what's going on, we can also share with them how they can help to make us feel better. When we do that, we can get the help that we need.
MissMicky88
March 21st, 2020 4:27pm
Awesome question!!! I have been learning about this more and more myself, and it's friggen confusing at first. First of all, your feelings are YOUR TRUTH. Secondly, most feelings happen at a non-verbal level and just kind of show up all of a sudden because our feelings were our way of communicating with the world before we were able to speak. Each feeling indicates very important information about what you are needing in a particular moment. For example, I had some strong fear surface recently when my partner was spending a lot of time with a friend who seemed to have all the same qualities that made me special. In that moment it would have been helpful for me to express my fear, and then also my needs. I did not need my partner to stop seeing this person, actually, and in fact, I just needed some reassurance that my value was still being seen, and that our connection was not being threatened. When we expose our feelings, it helps the other person or people know what's going on with us, why our energy is so up or down. It helps them ask questions about what we need. This is super hard, though, for people who have not taken the time to study communication. They feel threatened by emotions of our that may at first seem incompatible with what they actually want. This is where therapists come in. They want to hear what is happening inside you, and are not going to react to it because they are a third party. They can help you figure out how to talk to other people in a way that will create harmony. Something you can also do to support your process of expression is to study non-violent communication. This empowers you to get what you really want and need, rather than feeling powerless to your circumstances. It also humanizes and empowers the other people to really be there for you through well constructed requests. Lastly, I just wanna say, expressing emotions is awkward for all of us, so take it easy on yourself, just practice it a little bit at a time.
beautifuldarkclouds
April 2nd, 2020 5:02pm
There are a few reasons for that: Firstly, certain things which we carry act as an anchor, which will make us harder to move forward. Then the sharing those feeling may help to an extent. Secondly, take an instance, if you are carrying certain problems to be solved, and it is really making you frustrated, sometimes sharing can bring solutions to those problems. Thirdly, your experience can be someone else's lesson too. Fourth, some feelings can cause or create fear, fear cannot stand when it is exposed. Saying it out loud can keep those fear away. Fifth, what if the other might have gone through it or going through it. That way you both can help each other and sort that thing out. I would say there are many reasons you must share. In that way, we would be able to listen to ourselves and to others. And it can even bring peace in our heart.
colorfulMoon15
April 3rd, 2020 8:59pm
When feelings are stuck inside they can lead to physical pain, but if you do get it all out you will definately feel better. Keeping your feelings inside is also a way those feelings can grow into something bad, like hurting yourself or others, but when you share these feelings they will become less about physicaly hurting someone. Also when you get your feelings out you can also examine them, explain them and understand them. And understanding our feelings helps us cope with them and deal with them. When others know what you are going through it is more likely they will understand you better, so thats also why it is important to share our feelings. And you can also be an example for others or you will motivate them to do more about what they feel.
KaylaSpring
April 15th, 2020 6:57pm
It's important to share your feelings on certain topics because you need to be able to express your mind and point of view. You need to be able to show where you are at. Being quiet about a topic doesn't help, the only thing it "helps" is grow sadness inside of you, and that isn't a good thing. Sometimes it'll grow so much you want to take your own life, trust me, I know. Ask someone for help for whatever you're going through, please. I don't want anyone to go through that pain, that suffering. It sucks and affects your mood throughout the whole day. Talk to someone, I promise you it helps.