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Why is it so important to share your feelings?

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Last Updated: 12/29/2021 at 5:24pm
Why is it so important to share your feelings?
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Tracy-Kate Teleke, PsyD, M.A., LMFT

Marriage & Family Therapist

I assist adults and couples in CA experiencing relationship challenges and interpersonal struggles including anxiety, depression, and a myriad of other life challenges.

Top Rated Answers
Anonymous
April 19th, 2020 7:29pm
When you bottle things up inside, it can lead to a big mess. See it as a cup. When you add more water to it, the fuller it gets. (See it as the cup represents you and the water represents your feelings and emotions.) when you let out a little bit of water at a time, as in sharing your emotions here and there (it doesn’t have to be all at once) the cup gets lighter. But if you keep all of it inside, the cup gets very heavy and hard to mange on your own. Eventually the cup will overflow— or you’ll reach your breaking point. That’s why it’s important to share your feelings, because if you have so much going on and you keep it all to yourself, it becomes harder to manage on your own. That’s also why us Listeners are here, you can tell us what you’re feeling and lift off some of that weight. Talking about feelings and emotions is a lot healthier than some people think.
Sunnybutterfly2653
April 23rd, 2020 5:56pm
For others to understand the perspective the situation is taken by that person. Allowing communication to build stronger relationships/bonds.
CalmCourage
April 24th, 2020 11:38pm
I think it's a way of releasing them. The more I tend to keep my feelings in the more they build up and intensify. Which usually ends up in a big bang when things get too much! When I talk about them there is that thing of a problem shared is a problem halved. The more I've opened up the more people can see where I am coming from also, which helps them understand a bit better. How do you feel about sharing your feelings? Does it help you to get things off your chest? Would love to know how you feel about it!
wonderfulTurtle134
April 29th, 2020 5:23am
When i was younger i would never share my feelings. I would never talk to anyone. My emotions were all balled up inside me until one day they would just come out. I would scream, cry, punch, kick, yell, anything i could do to get my anger out. But none of that helped. Until I realized i have to talk about it. My family got my a therapist who i felt comfortable around. I would talk and talk and talk forever with her. After I went to therapy things were better, but not fixed. I still would lash out on my family because they didnt understand. Until I realized something. I cant just talk to my therapist, I have to talk to my family too. And after that of course I still got angry but, at least now they understood.
Anonymous
May 9th, 2020 6:07am
People are social animals. it is not easy to handle everything on our own. Sometimes, when you share your feelings, you reorganize your whole situation, and you may be able to see a different picture. Also, when you are sharing, you get to know more about yourself. Labelling feelings can help us to understand our situations, and these can be the reference for the future. Also, you may be able to get encouragement and support from your listener. This will give you some energy and even some help. Therefore, it is important to share our feelings, and that is why we need 7cups
Kai939
May 21st, 2020 12:21am
I feel that sharing feelings can help you feel less overwhelmed. If you constantly hold in your feelings, it can make you feel tense and bottled up. Sharing your feelings can help relieve stress and help you feel valued and heard. Another thing to consider is that if you don't voice how you feel, you may have issues with communication. If you don't share, others will never know how you truly feel, so they may say or do things that bother you, which could put a strain on your relationships. Your feelings and opinion are valid, and sharing them could prove to be beneficial for other people as well.
Anonymous
May 23rd, 2020 11:45am
It’s important to share our feelings so that we don’t get overwhelmed by them. Bottling up all of our emotions isn’t healthy for anyone. It’s kind of like filling a container to it’s maximum capacity, and what usually happens when we do that? The container ends up popping. So off loading some of these emotions or feelings we have leaves us with more room to feel more comfortable or even happier. Talking about what’s going on in your life will help you to not only feel better, but it may also help you to identify why you’re feeling the way you’re feeling.
MariB29
May 27th, 2020 2:30am
Sharing your feelings, whether it’s in a journal or with a friend, helps you to process what’s going on in your own head for new perspective. It helps tremendously for me to stop stewing on the same issues over and over, and put them on paper so I can let go of those thoughts, or discuss them with a listener who can help me see from a different point of view. Sometimes I realize the answer to a problem was right in front of me, or that something that seemed dramatic and life-changing was much simpler than it seemed! Sharing feelings is an important reflection process to move forward.
Anonymous
May 30th, 2020 1:09am
Sharing feelings helps others understand you as well as lets you connect. You are being vulnerable when sharing feelings and offering others to know you authentically. Its also important to understand and know your own feelings...sharing can help work those out and share some other perspectives if needed. Its a very healthy release...it can feel extremely powerful and fulfilling to share yourself and have made yourself clear. Being authentic can be a rewarding experience to our friendships and loved ones. But most of all to your own self. To keep things inside can lead to the what if's, I should have's and the whole in your own head situation that can cause distress or anxiety.... if its about something truly important to you. “Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen.”- Brene Brown
zealousWinter25
June 4th, 2020 2:19pm
Sharing feelings can be positive as it allows other people to express empathy, especially when they have experienced something similar. It can improve your relationship with them. Talking allows others to know what we are feeling. It is also important to share feelings with someone you trust and who you know doesn't judge you no matter what you say to them. Talking can help us process what we are feeling as well and saying things out loud can be a defining moment. It is important to talk as it allows feelings to be understood and shared. Don't bottle everything up and try and handle everything on your own.
Kiraa173
June 7th, 2020 4:10pm
1. Helps us to process thoughts 2. Helps us to organize our emotions & thoughts. 3. It registers the emotions associated with thoughts in our consciousness in a tidy manner. 4. It helps in alleviating stress 5. It helps in labelling of emotions 6. It increases acceptance of emotions 7. It helps in resolving issues 8. It increases clarity about self and the event that caused distress. 9. It helps in restoring equilibrium (Balance) 10. It reduces or resolves emotional entanglement 11. It helps in discovering new perspectives 12. It is a way of self expression 13. You tend to receive validation for your emotions which further alleviates your distress. 14. It helps you to come up with a plan on how to deal with it. 15. You learn to empathize with others as well.
genuinePeace16
June 11th, 2020 4:31pm
Only then will we see our issue from a different perspective. We will also feel heard and less burdened. It's important to feel and know you have people or a person for you to help in times of need. Sometimes we may be over-thinking or over analysing situations and making it more than it actually is. When we share our issues or concern with others we might understand that we were blowing things out of proportion. It also makes us realise that we also have to be there for people as others have been there for us. Only in vulnerability do we find strength.
Anonymous
June 13th, 2020 8:16pm
Imagine your mind is like a cup and your feelings are like water.. just like a normal cup can hold a specific amount of water.. you mind can only hold onto these feelings for some time after which it starts flowing..or i should say over flowing? thats when you feel overwhelmed or anxious and these feelings become more and more hard to process and some people even feel like they are losing control over their emotions. so once you let it out you can feel light and less over whelmed again :) Talking about them might also help you to feel more validated and feel like you have more control over the situation
Anonymous
June 14th, 2020 8:28am
It is very important to share your feelings because you might not even be sure what you're feeling, or whether if it's right or wrong. Moreover, restating what you feel may give you a third person view of your situation. The fact that there is someone there for you to listen to what you feel is a great feeling to have. Plus, knowing that you are not the only one feeling this kind of emotions will allow you to soothe your anxiety. It is important to remember that you're not alone in this, and people are here for you. Sharing your feelings will be helpful for you and for your listeners too!
ashlyntheordinary
June 24th, 2020 6:16am
Sometimes what we need, is to be heard. It will certainly clear your mind and keep you away from bottling your emotions which could make a comeback if you do bottle them up. I used to bear it all as my friends would talk bad about people who tend to speak out how they're feeling all the time. So, I kept it to myself piece by piece until what I collected ended up destroying my friendship and leading to fights. I became the person I despised but I couldn't do anything about it so I kept moving on until I found great people in my life who share whenever they're going through something so I decided to do so as well and the feeling was remarkable, almost like a 50 kgs stone was left from my shoulders. The purpose of 7cups is to lift that burden off your shoulders so you could make decisions freely without focusing on carrying all that weight. We share burdens here and we are ready to help anytime :)
strawberrychar
June 28th, 2020 8:11am
Bottling up your feelings will only make you feel worse. You will have to carry all of the weight of how you are feeling to yourself and you may explode because of it. And it lets your friends or family know how they can help you and what you need to feel better. It helps friendships have healthy impacts because you feel like you can trust each other and feel open telling it about what is going on. It also makes other people realize that is it normal and natural to ask for help and to share your feelings if you are upset.
Anonymous
July 12th, 2020 11:46pm
It is important to share your feelings because if you bottle them up you will eventually get overwhelmed by them which can result in something like a panic attack. Your mental health will suffer from this and your mental health is just as important as your physical, so you don’t want to do anything to hurt it or rather yourself. Also sharing feelings and relating to others improves your social competence, EQ and interpersonal relationships! It will strengthen your friendships and help you towards leading a healthy lifestyle. You will generally become more relaxed and happier and let’s be honest who doesn’t want that!
darija64
July 21st, 2020 3:13pm
Sharing your feelings can make it easier to understand them yourself and sometimes even just naming and classifiying your emotions can help you find a way to cope with them and accept them as a part of yourself. Through the process of sharing your emotions, besides helping yourself just because you are not alone with your emotions - but someone else is aware of them, others can help you with the acceptance of anything you are feeling. Sharing also makes it possible to find new solutions on how to deal with them and find a possible way of understanding what caused them.
ronrackson
July 22nd, 2020 4:32pm
Keep filing your cup with water and it will start overflowing. Water is our thoughts and our emotions and when we keep them inside of us for too long, they tend to get out. I think being vocal about your feelings doesn't make you less of a person but an emotionally strong person. It helps you in clearing your mind and moving on. It is very important to move on in life if you want to progress. What's really important is sharing your feelings with someone whom you trust. Therefore, it is also important to have a support system. 7cups is also one such support system that helps you progress in life.
SpaceCirrina
July 23rd, 2020 12:45am
The longer we hold things in, the heavier it gets. You can share your feelings verbally, crearively, whatever, as long as youre expressing yourself in some way. If we don't, it builds and becomes more complex. It's not healthy to carry it around with us. As an art therapist, I always encourage people to reflect on their creativity and use that as an outlet. It could be drawing, painting, baking, how you dress yourself, building, or creating. There is no wrong way to he creative and once you figure out what works for you, you have a go-to coping skill that often makes you feel productive.
redemptionblue17
August 7th, 2020 5:58am
It's important to share your feelings as it won't simmer inside yourself. Do you know why a trauma is called that term? it's used in medical term, which is about a wound that's afflicting inside the body. There are open wounds, but there are wounds that need some surgery to recover it. The more you just let it away, it could get deteriorate and perpetuate the effects in a later day. It works the same way with our feelings, the more you conceal it, it will detonate. You could image you'd have lashed out or projected your feelings to others which affect the relationship. And you definitely don't want that! I believe you just want to ease yourself from lingering thoughts and feelings, hence you could try being honest to others, by placing what you feel instead accusing of what others do. Let others help you to provide emotional supports. You could try first being genuine self of you, and talk with someone with less risk.
Anonymous
August 14th, 2020 2:37am
Sharing your feelings allows you to both recognize and process what emotions are present in your body. By recognizing these feelings and allowing another to share in that space with you, you can move forward. Additionally, by speaking out loud some of what is happening inside, you are able to recognize and sometimes name things that can otherwise feel overwhelming. Often, when you share something you are going through, you gain new clarity and can move forward with a new perspective. You deserve to be supported and seen in all of life's moments and emotions. Don't be afraid to share parts of yourself that seem vulnerable.
Anonymous
August 23rd, 2020 6:24pm
Because by sharing our feelings to someone-anyone, it can sometimes help ourselves to identify with our own feelings and problems. By identifying the root of problems, we can start to see the end of the problem that we're facing. Maybe we won't find a solution right away, it's noemal. But identifying the root of the problem is the start of reaching a solution to the problem we're facing. Sometimes, we won't understand how we feel until we start to question it ourselves because humans are complex being. The answers to these questions have been there all along. We just need to make it clearer by sharing things with others.
gentleSun78
August 28th, 2020 5:38am
It is very important to share your feelings in order to let people know what you like, what you dislike, what are your boundaries, whether there is something in their behaviour which bothers you, if you wish that something is done differently (for example, if someone cooks lunch for you and you don't like too spicy food, you need to tell it to person who cooks for you). With telling our feelings to others we estabilish our boundaries, tell to others that we can't tolerate something because it hurts us or that we really enjoy something and like it very much.
Alex670
September 4th, 2020 12:02pm
I know that from personal experience, bottling up those feelings can make you feel embarrassed or scared to share and make you feel like you have to go through your hardships alone. It took a lot of time until I was ready to talk about my own feelings, and that's okay. You shouldn't have to share if you don't feel comfortable with it. Don't be afraid to talk to someone you trust, or to one of the many Listeners here, because in the end, it will take a lot off your chest and help you feel a lot more relaxed.
calmthestorm98
September 9th, 2020 7:46pm
It is so important to share your feelings for multiple reasons. Being open and honest will allow someone to get to know you through your vulnerability in sharing. It is hard for someone to know what you are going through unless you are communicating what you are feeling. It is worse to keep your feelings/emotions pinned up because it will wear on you mentally, psychically, and emotionally. We all need an escape sometimes and opening up about what is going on and how things are affecting us is the best way to feel better. The goal in everything we do is to be the best versions of ourselves.
ingeniousBeauty4518
September 9th, 2020 9:56pm
it is so so important to share your feelings as of you keep all your feelings deeply bottled up in your mind you will most likely become stressed and this could also lead to anxiety and even depression. By sharing your thoughts, you could be saving your mental health and maybe even setting a great example for others around you that could be suffering. i suggest opening up to close friends or family or anyone else you trust a lot. try not to open up to people who have hurt you in the past as they could use this as a way to hurt you.
patientturtle2
September 20th, 2020 7:17pm
It is important to share your feelings because your emotions are your mind's signal to the body that something is not entirely right. Therefore, every feeling is valid and has a purpose behind it. Emotions can become tricky when an emotion does not fit the facts of a situation. Your emotions are signaling to your body that something is wrong, but sometimes the intensity of the emotion is not appropriate for the situation. Regardless, it is important to share and talk through your feelings because by doing so, you learn when your emotions fit the facts and when they do not, leading to better internal emotion regulation.
bubblyJulie
October 1st, 2020 5:27am
Sharing your feelings helps the people around you to understand what on your mind is. Sometimes, it's best to keep those feelings to ourselves, but things always build up and we might get extremely overwhelmed by our own feelings. So just share what we think, little by little, when we feel confident and when we feel safe. Though it sounds easy, sometimes it's not easy at all. To some people, it takes courage to be able to express themselves, but that's what makes us grow. We share, and we learn from each other. It's so important to have our voices heard since each of us is a significant individual.
warmLove3625
October 6th, 2020 1:45pm
I personally think it is important to share your feelings to connect with those around you - who may have felt similar before or may in the future - and to keep a healthy flow of energy and emotions through the body. To share your feelings is to bring into the outside reality what one is experiencing on the inner reality. This is a gift to the world to share. It is much better a gift to share this and bring any darkness to light, than to have everyone in the world bottling up the dark parts of being human, simply for each and everyone of us to hide within this darkness alone...Seems much brighter if we all do it together through sharing, listening, and compassion.