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Why is it so important to share your feelings?

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Last Updated: 12/29/2021 at 5:24pm
Why is it so important to share your feelings?
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Tracy-Kate Teleke, PsyD, M.A., LMFT

Marriage & Family Therapist

I assist adults and couples in CA experiencing relationship challenges and interpersonal struggles including anxiety, depression, and a myriad of other life challenges.

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Anonymous
July 15th, 2018 9:20am
Feelings are a build up of my thoughts. When these thoughts involve another person I think that to validate and possibly clarify my feelings I need to share it with the person involved. In some cases it can be wise to share your feelings it with a third person before going to the person involved. Especially if I have even the slightest sensation that sharing my feelings could make the other person upset. When ever I know I should share my feelings I need to do it professionally and compassionately. In addition to clarification and validation it also gives a physical effect of relief in my body to share my feelings.
fantasticShell40
July 15th, 2018 4:02pm
Because you might feel overwhelmed if you save your feelings for yourself. It’s also a great way to have the right people on your side
MattInWonderland
July 19th, 2018 11:42am
Although there will be no right or wrong reason, I can give you my perspective! Sharing your feelings with someone who you trust can help you to get a renewed understanding or viewpoint; You might come to some realisations of your own while you express them, or the trusted person might be able to offer their own perspective for you to think about*. Another way that talking about your feelings can help is by allowing people around you to understand how they are impacting on you with their actions, and how they can support and respect you. Of course, there are also plenty of valid reasons to keep your feelings to yourself, for example you may feel it would not be safe or constructive to do so. In those cases, a good Listener or Counsellor is here to let you get things off your chest! :) *Remember though that Listeners, although they are here to help, are not here as counsellors or advisors, and that these services should be given where you can be certain that the person is qualified.)
Lordetori
July 20th, 2018 1:42am
It is important so you don't mentally destroyed from within. But do be careful to who and how you share your secrets.
Anonymous
July 20th, 2018 4:49am
Sharing your feelings can help you feel not as alone in your thoughts and it can help you process what you're going through with someone by your side.
IzzyTheAbstract
July 25th, 2018 1:13pm
Feelings are often quite misunderstood. We believe that some feelings are "good" but we often neglect the feelings we judge as "bad." Feelings serve as a messenger and we can all benefit from paying a little attention to ourselves.
Anonymous
July 26th, 2018 4:05pm
It's important to share your feelings so you don't bottle your feelings up. If you bottle your feelings up eventually you will just "explode" and not be able to control your emotions.
Diya83
July 26th, 2018 5:57pm
So that you don’t bottle them up, because that will affect you more. If you tell someone about you negative feelings you’re letting out a lot of stress by talking about it and you could maybe think about getting help that way but if you keep it to yourself there’s no way of that happening
Anonymous
July 27th, 2018 12:14pm
Bottling up emotions can be harmful in the long run, emotions and feelings tend to find a way out of coming out eventually and often it can be at times that might not be appropriate, so it can be good to share what you are feeling with others and it can help to lift the load off your shoulders, it might even make you feel better. If you feel like sharing your feelings with others is not an option then I would suggest finding an outlet for those feelings, such as drawing, reading, walking, playing sport.
Waves53
August 4th, 2018 5:44pm
Sharing our feelings helps others no what's going on with us. It also helps us. By telling people how we feel and what we need, the people closest to us are better able to support us. And it feels good to be honest with people!
Akor1
August 5th, 2018 2:56am
Sharing your feelings allows you to release the pent up feelings and tension inside of you. Think of your feelings like a river, and when you hold them in you're building a dam for those feelings. Some dams can hold a lot, but eventually if you continue to hold them in it's like your dam gets overfilled and then it can burst. And when it bursts it can be absolutely bad. For some people sharing feelings can be difficult, but it's important to find someone that you feel comfortable enough to share with. Don't let the dam overflow, talk to people.
OrageuxJames
August 5th, 2018 10:38pm
When we don't share our feelings, we keep it inside and it has a term. It's called 'bottling it up'. It can cause stress and deeper emotions if we don't share them. So opening up either anonymously or to people we know can help to limit the stress. Remember, a problem shared is a problem halved.
KurtCups711
August 8th, 2018 1:33pm
Talking about negative feelings helps you process and move past them. Whether it be grief, anxiety, fear, regret, etc. these things effect us much less when we self reflect and identify them.
lyricalWillow92
August 9th, 2018 9:54pm
Sometimes, people don't know how there feelings work with the big picture, that is their life. Sharing your feelings forces you to think about them. This helps not just to control them but to add them in the big picture!
Wolfboy2
August 11th, 2018 10:27pm
I feel that it is important to share your feelings because to me it helps you feel relieved. When talking to someone about how you feel you can really feel like there are people out there who care despite not knowing who you are as a person. It's bad to let feelings "bottle up" inside of you as this will make your mood and attitude in general worse. Talking to a close friend, or just anyone about your feelings can help brighten up your day and make you feel more motivated to do things. I always recommend talking about your feelings rather then sitting quietly and having to deal with them yourself.
LittleRaccoon
August 25th, 2018 2:22pm
When you share your feelings, it can help people better understand you, resonate with you and may help someone else have the courage to talk about their own feelings. It can make people around us feel less alone to know that someone else is experiencing things in a way they thought was specific to themselves, which can be isolating. Sharing our emotions also frees us from the damage they can do when we keep them bottled up inside. Sharing them, even in a small way can be a great first step into liberating ourselves from emotional distress and pain.
ripplesofcalm
September 1st, 2018 8:49pm
Sharing your feelings with trustworthy people helps you process the hard stuff and move past it. If you stuff them and ignore them, you won't be able to be healed from them. Like cleaning, it get worse before it gets better! But if you have kind person going through it with you, it feels so good to just get it out. Also, for me and many other people, chronic pain (especially back and neck pain) can come from emotional buildup. Also, when you share feelings it helps relationships become stronger, deeper, more connected and less superficial!!
Anonymous
September 11th, 2018 1:30am
to let others know how you're doing, to let them know you are alive and happy and caring, or on worse days, to let them know you might need a little space, alone time, or a shoulder to lean on. feelings convey a sense of humanity, and without them we would be blank canvases. feelings set you apart from others, good ways and bad. different is good, different is the best. when you share your feelings, it lets others know and try to understand where you are going and what you want to do. keeping in touch with your feelings makes you a better person, for yourself and everyone around you.
noblesoul87
November 4th, 2018 5:04pm
Its important to share ones feelings since there are so many emotions that get accumulated in our sub conscious mind and change our behavior accordingly. If there are too many negative emotions inside then it may affect the thinking and person may get irritated very easily. Sharing helps to lighten up the heart and makes person free of self suffering. Usually person is victim of his/ her own thinking, when we share we can get different perspective of the situation, a different angle which might not be visible to person who is in that situation. Most importantly sharing helps a lot if someone wants to let their regrets out. It makes person more free. Yaa off course its important that the person one is sharing with is understanding and has empathy towards the speaker!
cucumberjones
November 7th, 2018 2:09am
Sharing your feelings, in any form, validates your own feelings. The more your mind can process the feelings themselves, the less control they they have over you. Writing them down, talking them out in a vlog, talking with friends, or just any kind of expression legitimizes the feelings and allows you to process them. Expressing your feelings also makes them more manageable and tangible. Not to say that any of this is easy, controlling emotions is not easy by any means. Bottling up feelings only builds them up that in the short term may seem like a good idea but is not. Sharing your feelings is like healing a wound, it will hurt for sure, but only by addressing the wound will it fully heal.
Anonymous
November 7th, 2018 9:40am
Closing yourself off to the world will only make you feel worse more isolated from your surroundings. Sometimes to relieve yourself you need someone to talk to. Sharing your emotions helps release any anxiety you may be having. It can also help improve communication between people.In this society, we are taught to share our feelings, but only to an extent. We are taught that people want to know what’s happening on the surface of your life, but not deeper down. We are taught that if we share our sadness then others will think we are looking for attention. We are taught that if we share our happiness then we are conceited and self-absorbed. We are taught to be guarded and trust no one. We are taught to mask our true feelings. We are taught to live an unhealthy lifestyle. this is wrong
TomTheAbacus
November 10th, 2018 5:16am
I think sharing your feelings is the most important thing to maintain mental health, people think showing emotion is a weak thing, but it takes true strength to be truly open to somebody else. When sharing feelings you are normalizing the way you feel and relating it to other peoples experiences. Being open with other people is also beautiful because its breaking down social boundaries and shows true self. If you don't share your feelings it can make other people around you who care about you worry and deal with situations poorly as they are in the dark about what you need help with, communication is a huge part of relationship and it should be done to the fullest extent.
Anonymous
November 16th, 2018 4:28pm
It‘s important to share your feelings because if you don‘t, you hold everything inside yourself until you "explode“ one day. Until the pressure is too much and you can‘t hold it inside any more. Also it‘s important to help other people around you, understand you better! It‘s for your safety and the others too... Feelings are so important in a human life that‘s why you should share them Okay? Did yoj understand why? I hope so! What are your feelings right now? Share it with us :) Feelings and emptions are so important Oh yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah Bye bye bye bye bye bye bye
competentCloud36
November 21st, 2018 5:50pm
Sharing your feelings is so important for numerous reasons. We were all built with feelings and communication, such as talking or body language. A lot of people don’t share their feelings and it keeps building up until they explode with emotion. This can be shown by crying or laughing. It is important to share your feelings, weather it is with a family member, friend, or even a stranger. This is so you feel better as a person and you aren’t just hiding those feelings away. In a relationship, you have to share your feelings to create a positive environment for the both of you.
Brittneym101
November 24th, 2018 4:39am
It is so important to share your feelings so that you don't bottle everything up. Doing so will put you in a place you don't want to be. It is not healthy to keep everything in. Trust me. Eventually it's all going to come out and it's not going to be good or healthy when it does. Try to get things off of your chest before you explode even if you have to talk to yourself. you can always reach out to a listener or therapists here on 7 cups of tea for further assistance if you don't have anywhere else to turn
EzraM
November 29th, 2018 4:50pm
It is important to share you feelings so you know who you are. Humans are social creatures! We used to live within a much longer home group and had constant interaction with each other. You needed to communicate back then or it would be a threat to your safety. Humans love to stay in packs because that is safety in numbers. It is also important to share your feelings because otherwise it builds up. When you aren't allowing yourself enough time to process the experiences you're having, your brain goes into overboard. There have been many studies done about the physical toll bottling up your feelings has on your body. It is truly best to let it all out! Sharing your feelings will also bring you closer to those around you. The people in your life care about you and they want to hear your feelings! Let 'em out!
LittleMissJoy
January 9th, 2019 12:18am
It is important to share you feeling with others because its prevents you from bottling things up which can cause stress and greater affects upon your emotional, physical and social well-being. Sharing your feelings with others can be comforting and opening up to people gives you the chance to get the support you need. It may feel better to not share your feelings openly but doing so will be beneficial for you. Its also helps better understand your feelings and thoughts and be reassured that what you are going through is not something you have to go through alone.
Anonymous
February 3rd, 2019 7:21am
Sharing your feelings is one of the most important things for humans to do. We can relieve stress, recieve help, and create connections based on that action alone. I know that in my life, sharing my feelings has brought me closer to friends and family. When i spoke up about how it made me feel belittled when my father spoke to me in a certain way, we got closer and hes been working hard ever since to watch his tone. It seems silly, but speaking out about our emotions, it can make life easier on just about everyone around us!
Pozy
March 15th, 2019 12:19am
It is so important to share your feelings because allowing them to grow unchecked, unheard, and unacknowledged is a path straight to feeling overburdened. As listeners, our first suggestion to our users is to unburden themselves. We can't be effective at helping shoulder that when we carry the weight of our own heavy feelings everywhere with us. Sharing our feelings with another listener, or journaling about them, or confiding in an important person in our lives can go so far toward helping us feel as heard and accepted as we make our users feel. It helps us to be kinder to ourselves and others, and helps us to be more effective in listening, and in living.
Anonymous
March 21st, 2019 8:27am
In my personal experience, I've found that sharing my feelings provides an outlet for the turbulent state of my mind. It helps to put into words what I'm experiencing, and it helps to have someone validate these emotions and help me explore their causes -- to have someone guide me to a solution to my problems. Oftentimes we know what we're feeling and why subconsciously, but we're unwilling to confront these ideas. It's very helpful to have someone else there in those times so that you can come to understand what it is that's making you feel the way you are.