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7 Cups Behavior Reporting Process & Tracking - Updated Version
by ASilentObserver
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3 days ago
...See more All, The post below outlines an updated behavior reporting process! We had originally launched this in 2016 and we are now updating it and re-emphasizing it as we move forward. Our objective to streamline the process and keep you well informed. Not many people struggle with a number of behavior points, but for people that do, we want to ensure that you can take steps to improve your behavior and be part of the community. We are figuring out the best ways to manage unhelpful & un-supportive behaviors on 7 Cups. Once you have reviewed the entire post, please ask any questions or share your constructive thoughts. This process is designed to provide you an opportunity to improve. We do not have any intentions to punish anyone but we do need to keep people accountable for their behavior. It is your community and how you behave, impacts it as well. Our purpose is to provide a better help & support and compassionate environment to all. We all want to be part of a community that fosters high warmth and high expectations. It is the best way to lead a community because everyone deserves support and compassion. Growing a plant, for example, requires a lot of effort, care, and the right treatment. Not every plant growth is similar but the basic process is somewhat the same. Suitable environment, the right proportion of soil, water, sunlight. Knowing the right conditions is significant for a seed to grow into a beautiful plant. Similarly for a community: If you have high warmth but low expectations, then structure or its culture is low. If you have low warmth and high expectations, then it has a structure, but limited reliability and safety. If you have low warmth and low expectations, then neither has a structure nor culture. If you have high warmth and high expectations, it has structure and reliability and safety. So here we are focused on providing both so that the community can have increased trust, support, culture, safety, and compassion. A few points to keep in mind when reading the below: * We believe in second chances. We know and understand no one is perfect and can improve. But, we need to understand when you have an opportunity to improve, you strive to improve and show that you improved. Value the opportunities you have. * We believe in inclusivity. We welcome all constructive feedback. Because we are also not perfect and striving to improve. Feedback is a two-way process. Ensure to provide feedback in a compassionate, constructive, and respectful manner. * We believe in accountability. Everyone is responsible and accountable for their actions. Because action has a reaction and impacts someone. We are in a community setup, so how you act impacts community activities. If you are supportive, the activities flow in a positive way. If you act unsupportive, the activity flow gets interrupted. * We believe transparency is helpful. As a community member, it is your right to know what is happening with the reports and how it gets processed. So, we want to provide better transparency in our actions in this system. However, there are also natural limitations too. We will not be able to share or disclose in detail with the community at large things that are happening on an individual basis. Because a wise person said, Praise in public, criticize in private. We want to give everyone a second chance to improve and feel encouraged to improve. The below behavior rating system has been specifically designed to meet the community's needs. We considered all inputs and tried to include all that was feasible to add. As you review this post, please remember this is a work in progress and always be updated as per the community's needs. Please share all constructive feedback, inputs, and ideas on what is missing or what does not make sense and what can be done. Introduction The aim of this guide is to provide information and to help you understand how the Behavioral Points System would work. What is the Behavioral Rating System? It is a process we would be used to assign points based on the infractions they did in the community at a point in time. Every time, they commit a violation, they will be getting points assigned and informed through email so they know what violations they did, and what points assigned to them for the violations. So they can have the opportunity to learn from the mistakes they made and improve. But if they do not improve and they cross the threshold, they will face consequences. This is modeled after other point systems like having a driving license in the US. If a person drives in a safe and smart manner (they are a good member), then they will receive no points. If they drive through stop signs, then they get a point. If they drive dangerously, then they get more points. If a person accrues enough points, then they are required to go to driving school. If they still do not improve then they can lose their license and no longer drive. It is a systematic process where all reports will be included for a user. How does it work? * The system will be applicable to both listeners and members. * Each behavior report or flagged forum thread will be evaluated using the below point criteria. Points are cumulative. * Each point expires 6 months after it was earned. * If no reports within three months from the date of action, an 80% reduction in the points. Note: One can be able to apply for a leadership role. This includes Mentor roles, teen star, group mod, peer support, and project agent roles. * If zero reports within a month from the date of action, 40% reduction in the behavior score. Applicability of the system: The process will be applicable moving forward. It won't consider past reports. Except for the reports which are severe. It will be up to the Community Management Teams' decision for those reports. How reports are filed? Reports filed via specific behavior reports: The incoming report will be reviewed by the concerned team. It will be reviewed for accuracy and if one of the below behaviors is identified the following actions will be taken: The authority sends a warning message to the reported user letting them know about the report. If the user would like to provide their side of the story, they will be invited to do that. Point(s) will be assigned if the user assumes responsibility for the action and agrees that it happened. The authority will let the user know the point has been assigned. If the user does not accept responsibility for the behavior and the evidence that the behavior did occur is clear, point(s) will be assigned. It is requested of all reporters that they submit relevant screenshots to prove their accusations for a user. All points will be tallied and tracked on the community management team's backend panel. Dates will be logged to monitor the timing. Please click here for more information on how to provide constructive feedback. [https://www.7cups.com/forum/SafetyKnowledgeat7Cups_181/CommunityGuidelines_1374/KeepingForumsWelcomingandSupportiveForumGuidelinesUpdate_229098/1/#2446886] You can learn more about triangulation here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenersOnlyForums_38/LaurasOffice_169/WhatisTriangulation3StepstoAvoidingStoppingitfromhappeninginthecommunity_35107/1/] Learn more about rumors spreading here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TeensOnlyClub_123/IarasStation_590/RumorsandGossipHowtoprotectourcommunityfromsuchbehaviorMemberSideedition_39670/]. Learn what open communication is here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/SafetyKnowledgeat7Cups_181/Guidesonhowtomanagesituationson7cups_1059/OpenCommunicationTipsTricks_26627/1/]. Important Notes: � All the behaviors identified above are common behavior identified in the specific areas. Though, if the same behavior is found in other parts of the community as well, the points and consequences will be applicable. Zero Points Behavior. They are applicable for the first instance only. If the behavior continues, the points will be assigned according to the severity of the reported behavior. Except for a few specific behaviors that are subjected only to listeners. All other behaviors are subject to both listeners and members of the community. Adult Teen Listeners- In case of violations, the badge and access will be removed instantly. Below you will find the corresponding consequences of the above behaviors. Red Flag Offenses: � Forum Spam - If you are repeatedly spamming the forums with inappropriate content or advertisements you or your account may be removed Post inappropriate or graphic pictures, your account will be removed Sexting and/or repeatedly sexting (after a given warning not to) will result in account removal Underage or in the wrong age community (you must be 15 to be a listener & 13 to be a member) Red Flag Consequences: Immediate removal from 7 Cups community Protocol on Getting Support from a community leader: If you are having a problem, you may approach a community leader for support on how to manage that situation. However, please refrain from telling them specific details. As a general rule when communicating with community leaders: we should avoid using names and specific details about a person or a given situation. For example, if you are having a conflict with another listener. You could go to the community leader and say I am struggling with a difficult situation. Could you give me some tips on how to use conflict resolution? In this example, no specific details are mentioned, but you are still able to ask for help as you work through a difficult situation. Footnote: The protocols are similar to earlier ones and shared from the previous update with few changes. Updated the constructive feedback point in accordance with the new forum guideline [https://www.7cups.com/forum/SafetyKnowledgeat7Cups_181/CommunityGuidelines_1374/KeepingForumsWelcomingandSupportiveForumGuidelinesUpdate_229098/1/#2446886] on Sep 23, 2020 - Hope Link here to Heather's clarification post on BPS https://www.7cups.com/forum/SiteUpdates_100/HsHangout_1970/SomeclarificationonLLReports_230570/ Guidelines with better view available in the Community Guidelines page, Click here [https://www.7cups.com/community-guidelines/7-Cups-Behavioral-Points-System-70ccca9adfef4babba74119da05a91d4] [edited by MistyMagic to remove scripts and add in H's post 30 Oct 2020]
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Apply for the Safety Patrol Team! (Now Open to Listeners and Members)
by Heather225
Last post
August 20th
...See more Are you passionate about our community? Are you always looking out for the safety of others? We are looking for dedicated community members to scan for inappropriate profiles and flag them so they can be removed quickly and efficiently from the site! We are very excited to announce that members can now join the team! Here’s what being on the Safety Patrol looks like:: - Scan the browse listeners page [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/] daily and flag any inappropriate profiles - Scan the general request queue daily for inappropriate profiles - Scan forums or group rooms for inappropriate profiles - Be proactive to help flag any profile you have seen anywhere that is inappropriate How do we know if it's inappropriate? - Sexual or graphic profile picture - Sexual or graphic username - Sexual or graphic bio text - Profile bio text sharing social media handles, email Id..etc. Prerequisites & Expectations: ✓ Listeners: You must be a Verified Listener [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/VerifiedListenersProject_1839/IWanttobeaVerifiedListener_46935/1/] ✓ Members: You must be a part of the community for at least one month (no longer have the Newbie badge) ✓ You must be active on 7 Cups a few times a week (roughly an hour minimum) ✓ You will be required to read a document on best practices [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1vBXLvo7gLMewIM1lhnZ2g8MXAnq4sMwxqXgxzTJCDos/edit] and pass a test to prove your knowledge. ✓ Once you have read the guide in full and understand the material, apply and take the test here. [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeiPkuyjGZs7x2NY5b1tgkO5QoRRiXzFFobMpHiWthKUxgaKg/viewform] Primary Points of Contact Team Leader: Rebekah Thank you so much for your interest in keeping 7 Cups a safe and supportive place! [ Updated by Rebekah on 4th January 2023 to display newer guide. ] [ Updated by Rebekah on 25th February 2026 to amend the leaders list. ]
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Community Safety Awareness: Listener Conduct, Soliciting & Offsite
by Heather225
Last post
August 11th
...See more Hi everyone, Your safety, privacy, and trust are the most important things to us at 7 Cups. You come here for a safe, supportive space to be heard, and we are committed to protecting that. We want to post a critical reminder about the rules our volunteer Listeners must follow. This is to ensure every member knows what to expect and what is never acceptable. Listeners are volunteers. Support is always free. 7 Cups Listeners are volunteers. They are here to provide empathetic listening and support, and they are never paid for their time. * A Listener should NEVER ask you for money, donations, or payment of any kind. * Listeners are strictly prohibited from soliciting or promoting any personal, paid services (e.g., "I am a therapist, here is my link, my sessions cost $X"). To protect your privacy and safety, all conversations with Listeners should stay on the 7 Cups platform. * Listeners are not permitted to ask you to move the conversation to an off-site, personal platform (like  Tele*gram WhatsApp,, social media accounts, or personal email). * If a Listener sends you a personal link to chat elsewhere, do not click it. This is a serious violation of our guidelines. Listeners are trained to listen. They are not therapists or healthcare professionals.  * A Listener's role is to listen, not to give diagnoses, medical advice, or tell you what to do. * Offering their own paid therapy service (as mentioned in point #1) is a severe violation of this boundary and our community's trust. If a Listener ever does any of the following: * Asks you for money or payment. * Tries to sell you a personal, paid service (like therapy or coaching). * Sends you a link to chat on a personal, off-site platform  Please take these steps immediately: * Do not click any personal links, disclose any of your personally identifying information (including your social media), or send money. * Report the Listener: Use our Helpdesk HERE [https://help.7cups.com/hc/en-us/requests/new/]. Make sure to add screenshots when submitting your report so the team has evidence to corroborate the report and take appropriate action. It's also important to understand that these rules are fundamental community guidelines. As such, they apply to members too. Review the Community Guidelines for all users to abide by HERE. [https://www.7cups.com/community-guidelines/] ------------------------- Thank you for helping us uphold these core principles and safeguard the 7 Cups experience for everyone!
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'What Do You Do' Mega Thread!
by Rebekah
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December 29th, 2025
...See more Hello! I've been doing a big clear out of the sub-community, and came across some old posts that follow a, "What do I do?" format. I decided to create a mega thread for these as there are quite a lot! Even though they're old, feel free to have a go at them. As always, please feel free to message me with any questions or concerns regarding safety stuffs! 🤔 What Do I Do? 🤔 Asked for Photos [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/SafetyAwareness_2705/WhatDoIDoIwaschattingwithsomeoneandtheyaskedmetosendthemapictureofmyself_84276/] Blocked by a Listener [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/SafetyAwareness_2705/WhatDoIDoMylistenerjustblockedme_84275/] Blocked by a Member [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/SafetyAwareness_2705/WhatDoIDoMymemberjustblockedme_84274/] Confrontation is Scary [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/SafetyAwareness_2705/WhatDoIDoIwanttoconfrontsomeonebutImscared_160459/] Discomfort in Rooms [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/SafetyAwareness_2705/WhatDoIDoSomeoneismakingmefeeluncomfortableinagroupsupportroom_163537/] Doesn't Believe the Member [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/SafetyAwareness_2705/WhatDoIDoIfeelasthoughthememberismakingtheirissuesup_277395/] Offsite Chatting [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/SafetyAwareness_2705/WhatDoIDoIwaschattingwithsomeoneandtheyaskedmetochatwiththemonfacebook_84277/] Needing to Leave a Chat [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/SafetyAwareness_2705/WhatDoIDoIwaschattingwithsomeoneandIhadtogetgoingleavetheconversation_95327/] Overwhelming Chat [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/SafetyAwareness_2705/WhatDoIDoIwaschattingwithsomeoneandthechatwasoverwhelming_96074/] Rude/Inappropriate User [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/SafetyAwareness_2705/WhatDoIDoAmemberyouarechattingwithisbeingrudeandinappropriatetowardsyou_258782/] Triggering Chat [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/SafetyAwareness_2705/WhatDoIDoYoutookachatfromthegeneralqueuebut5minutesintothechatyourealisedthetopicistriggeringyou_251699/] WhatsApp Number [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/SafetyAwareness_2705/WhatDoIDoAlistenermemberandyouarechattingandtheyaskyouforyourWhatsAppnumber_163908/]
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[What Do I Do?] I want to confront someone, but I'm scared...
by Laura
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March 9th, 2025
...See more It can be scary to confront people because....
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"Safety is an ongoing conversation"
by Heather225
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November 6th, 2024
...See more I was having a chat with @PetiteSouris about the power of education in online safety and it got me thinking about how I view safety as an ongoing conversation. I think one of the most effective methods we have for keeping ourselves safe online is to be talking to each other, sharing experiences, lessons learned, and wisdom from our own research and experiences with safety. Some of have extensive experience, and others are still figuring out how to navigate the wide world of the internet, including 7 Cups. We prioritize safety, given the nature of our platform, and we want to empower everyone to take control of theirs. We can do this by sharing what we know! Here's where you come in: Please share some tips you've picked up on keeping yourself safe, especially as it relates to our community. There's no overcommunicating when it comes to upholding safety so let's keep talking!
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Weekly Prompt #2: What are some best practices for creating and managing passwords to protect your online accounts?
by ASilentObserver
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November 6th, 2023
...See more Hello everyone, I hope everyone is having a good week. A couple of weeks ago we discussed- Do you think that online anonymity is important? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/IIntroductionsQuestionAnswersGeneralConversations_36/WeeklyPrompt1Doyouthinkthatonlineanonymityisimportant_310998/] If you haven't checked yet, please click here to add your thoughts. [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/IIntroductionsQuestionAnswersGeneralConversations_36/WeeklyPrompt1Doyouthinkthatonlineanonymityisimportant_310998/] This week's prompt is: Are you aware of the importance of strong and unique passwords? What are some best practices for creating and managing passwords to protect your online accounts? One of the ways to keep yourself safe is to create strong passwords to protect your account. Please share and discuss some of the best practices here among us. -------------------------
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Ask Me Anything (AMA#1): Safety and 7 Cups
by ASilentObserver
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September 4th, 2023
...See more Hello everyone, I hope everyone is doing well. This week I am initiating an AMA thread and answering any questions about online safety, cyberbullying, best practices for safety, and teen safety, All are welcome to ask me anything on the above topics. Please know there are no big or small questions. Questions are good tools to learn, educate ourselves, and spread awareness on the topic. I will take questions until Sunday (Sept 10, 2023). I look forward to discussing safety and its practices with you all this week. ------------------------- Here are some other posts that you might to check and participate in! * Weekly Prompt #2: What are some best practices for creating and managing passwords to protect your online accounts? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/IIntroductionsQuestionAnswersGeneralConversations_36/WeeklyPrompt2Whataresomebestpracticesforcreatingandmanagingpasswordstoprotectyouronlineaccounts_311511/] * Safety Quiz II - Let us know you made it through the quiz by posting here! [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/IVSafetyResourcesEvents_1059/SafetyQuizIILetusknowyoumadeitthroughthequizbypostinghere_310672/]
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Weekly Prompt #1: Do you think that online anonymity is important?
by ASilentObserver
Last post
August 16th, 2023
...See more Hello everyone and I hope you are all having a bit easier week. How are you all feeling? I am starting the Prompt Series with the goal to share our thoughts and supporting each other on safety-related discussions by responding to the comments and thoughts in this thread. Today's prompt is: Do you think that online anonymity is important? Why or why not? I feel in the context of 7Cups, anonymity is bliss for us as fosters open discussions and encourages individuals to share their authentic selves and focus on their struggles and challenges related to mental health without any judgment, leading to a diverse array of perspectives, support, and compassion. Take a moment to share your thoughts and discuss with or support others as well. Tag anyone to encourage to share their perspectives too. ------------------------- Have you tried the Safety quizzes yet, try here! * Quiz-I [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/IVSafetyResourcesEvents_1059/SafetyQuizILetusknowyoumadeitthroughthequizbypostinghere_309633/] * Quiz -II [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/IVSafetyResourcesEvents_1059/SafetyQuizIILetusknowyoumadeitthroughthequizbypostinghere_310672/]
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[What Do I Do?] I feel as though the member is making their issues up...
by LavenderHere
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April 26th, 2023
...See more Sometimes members say seemingly bizzare things in groups or PMs with listeners, and we have trouble believing it is possible. What to do in that situation?? 😮😮 (Everyone please feel free to answer below and tag a listener friend so we all learn together hehe) (Tags a "few" friends @Izzy274 @AveryLove @sunisshiningandsoareyou @considerateParadise6717 )
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[What Do I Do?] A member you are chatting with is being rude and inappropriate towards you...
by Sunisshiningandsoareyou
Last post
May 6th, 2022
...See more A member you are chatting with in PMs is being rude and inappropriate towards you . How will you deal with this situation? 😮❤ ( learning is more fun when we do it together, so tag a fellow listener and invite them to share their insights too )
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[What Do I Do?] Someone is making me feel uncomfortable in a group support room...
by Heather225
Last post
May 6th, 2022
...See more Someone is making me feel uncomfortable in a group support room... [what do you do] Share your replies and best answers here
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Issues with Inappropriate Messaging! TW: Mentions of sexual topics
by cocoakrispies121
Last post
September 17th, 2021
...See more Hey all! I decided to make a post in an attempt to spread awareness about a topic I feel is not very heavily talked about on 7Cups. Usually, I try to be very bubbly, and happy on the site, but I feel this is a serious topic, which should have a serious post. Before you start reading this post, this is a trigger warning We will be discussing serious topics about sexulization, and inappropriate messages <3 thank you loves! I had my profile picture as a cartoon of hello kitty for the longest time. I decided, after months of being on the site, that I trusted it enough to change it to a picture of myself. I asked for other people's opinions on it, and I too had decided I trusted the people on the site. I later found a picture I loved of myself, I had just taken it and I really really liked it. It was perfect for the site, as it wasn’t inappropriate, and I felt it really showed my style. Once set as my profile picture, I soon realized my mistake. Messages came pouring in from users, about my profile picture. Some were sweet, encouraging me, and giving me lots of positive feedback on the picture! It made me feel awesome that people liked it, and thought I looked good in it, as did I. However, it is apparent all good things must come to an end. I quickly received multiple sexualized and/ or inappropriate messages. It really started to bring me down. After changing my profile picture back to a cartoon, it took a bit of time for me to revisit the idea of having an actual picture. After having a chat with a good friend of mine, I decided I could brave through it. Other people have theirs as themselves, so why couldn’t I do it? Trying to ignore messages quickly became an incredibly difficult task. Mind you, I did not have my profile picture as myself for very long. It was only a couple weeks. To see this kind of feedback over a profile picture was absolutely devastating. It put me in a bad space mentally, and made me view 7Cups in an unwelcoming and unkind way. Coming on Cups with a fear of being sexualized, makes me not want to come on Cups at all. It fills me with great sadness, because I love the site, and I have met many amazing people on it, but having this continulley happen to me, and others, over something as trivial as a picture is greatly upsetting. I asked the wonderful Mary-Kate (@enchantedlove) to come here and talk about her experiences with this issue, and she (being the amazing person she is) agreed to help me out, and share her experience. Hey there you lovelies! It’s mary-kate speaking! I agreed to share my experience on this post, to hopefully help some of you who may also be feeling this way, or dealing with something similar! Just as cocoa states in her story, I too had a picture of my favorite flower for the longest time! I started to switch it up, and changed it to a picture of me! Almost instantly I felt the supportive kindness from many of my friends and acquaintances, yet at the same time I started receiving many messages from users about it that were inappropriate! At first, I was flattered! Sort of like “oh look people think I'm pretty” kind of flattered. After some time of receiving these messages I started to realize, they aren’t being kind. It's not a compliment to be sexualized, or anything like that at all! I really enjoy having a photo of me, because that way you all can see there’s a smiling face right here to support you! It makes me sad that I experiment to see which photos gain less/more negative attention. I feel as if this should not even have to be a worry in my mind, but it is <3. This is a struggle that not just I face. Many of the lovely people I know have faced an issue similar, whether on 7 Cups or not! You aren’t alone in this! I know it may seem really really sad and scary, but we are always here for you! If you ever feel in need of some support with how to handle a situation like this that may be happening to you, feel free to pm either @cocoakrispies121 or me (@enchantedlove) I'd like to discuss a few ways we can handle this!! Personally, i send a pm to the person of whom I’ve received and inappropriate message from, explaining that I don’t feel comfortable with that, and it is not okay, I explain I'm still here to support them, if they are able to refrain from saying such things <3 Everyone has their own way of dealing with it though! You can always message a trusted leader on 7 Cups, or even someone you trust in real life. There is always help! Thank you for listening my loves! *hands mic back to cocoa* Thank you Mary-Kate, for sharing! This really is an issue we both felt needed more attention, and it's quite upsetting to see people who I care about going through the same thing. Having somebody reach out to you in a sexual, or otherwise derogatory way, can be extremely detrimental. Especially if you are a person who has done it, this is us telling you to stop. 7 Cups is a platform used for supporting others, a platform where people should feel safe. Having this happen can trigger somebody greatly, and you may never know. It ruins Cups greatly, and all the progress the site has made gets thrown away when people behave like this. It truly hurts my heart that I have to write this post, but I am hoping by writing it others will think about their actions before they do it. Thank you all for reading, and feel free to spread the post around :)
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[What Do I Do?] You took a chat from the general queue, but 5 minutes into the chat you realised the topic is triggering you...
by Sunisshiningandsoareyou
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September 10th, 2021
...See more Hey all , I really like this practice chats idea, so thought of reviving it lol ! Here's a new situation for y'all , You took a chat from the general requests queue which had no topic selected but 5 minutes into the chat you realised the topic member wants to speak about is out of your comfort zone and triggering you..what will you in such a situation? Let's think of something together and see how best we can deal with this very common situation! Good luck ❤
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Online safety - my shared experience - And how to stay safe. 💙💛🍭
by MollyT
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August 27th, 2021
...See more Hiya everyone I'm Molly and this is my first forum post (: 🥳 I'd like to share something from my personal life that taught me alot when it comes to internet safety. When I was 14 social media was new to me, I followed my friends and downloaded the same apps they did and overall we had a great time online. I was added by someone who I didnt recognise, they said they lived in the same area I did and his parents were friends with my parents. I had no reason to question this? (: So we got to talking, more and more, getting closer and friendlier and I couldnt go a day without speaking to him. After a few months of talking we agreed to finally meet up, I was really excited to finally meet him.. It turns out the guy wasnt the one in the pictures he was sending me, He recognised me straight away and started waving and calling my name.. I freaked out, luckily I got him to agree to meet in a coffee shop, and I had a few friends walking around the town who could come find me if I needed them.. I walked out called my friends and blocked the guy immediately. who knows what could've happened... I felt so stupid.... I think the moral of the story is that whilst being online is great and most of the time innocent and friendly we have to remember that sometimes people arent who they say they are... Or that what they are saying is even true... Sadly some people are great manipulators, they will come up with amazing stories about stuff that isnt true just for the attention and your sympathy.... And as a big softie I run to their aide 🤦‍♀️... Its important to step back look at the situation from outside your perspective and question... "Does everything seem right here"? Heres a few rules I now live by (: * Be careful who you trust online and remember that some online ‘friends’ are really strangers. * Keep your personal information secret when completing your profile or chatting online (name, address, telephone number, mobile number, private email address, picture), even if people ask for this. * Remember that you can always log out to avoid unwelcome situations, or change your screen name. * Do not hesitate to block people you do not want to chat to. * Think before you answer private messages. * Take action if you think your friends are at risk. * Learn how to keep/save a copy of the conversation in chat – this may be useful if you want to report something. * Report people breaking the rules to the moderators. I hope this helps wonderful people.. remember to stay safe! And keep do everything you can to keep your most personal information as close to you as possible 💙💛 Love and hugs Mol 💙💛 xoxo @Angelx28 @CalmingMermaid5761 @pebble7447 @sofiastardust @Imlistening01 @Jessrabbit7 @emily328 @whenitsdarklookforstars @Heather225 @Power

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Here at the Safety & Knowledge sub-community, our focus is on creating a culture of awareness and support. Please join us to learn how to keep yourself safe online!

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Community Guidelines Series
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Part 2 
---> Behaviour
Part 3 
---> Account Safety
Part 4 
---> Boundaries and Behaviour
Part 5 
---> General Safety for Everyone


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Safety Quiz - 2024


Safety Team Information
Safety Outreach & Discussions
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Admin Oversight ---> Bookworm4

Community Guidelines

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As this is our Safety sub-community, these guidelines are extra extra important! 🌟 here they are below;

1. Please be kind to all users. Forum posts/comments that attack or otherwise offend another user will be removed.
2. No offsite contact sharing. This is strictly against site rules.
3. Please stay on topic to the best of your ability!
4. Please keep confidential information to yourself. This means no sharing of usernames, messages in a 1-1 or a group setting, or any details about a member chat. Take any and all issues that you'd like to discuss in more depth to Rebekah.
5. Please try to post threads within the relevant sub-forum! We understand that this might not be easy, but posting a thread such as "Hello, I'm new!" would clearly not be suited to Safety Awareness or Teen Safety 🌞

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