Is it hard to think critically about something you love?
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Anonymous
March 31st, 2018 12:35pm
Sometimes it is. You just have to have the right mindset. When you have that mindset, it can and sometimes can`t be hard to think critically about something that you love.
Yes it is hard to think critically when emotion is involved. Love can be biased. Seeing things critically can help provide a new perspective.
It can be because you're very invested in it with positive feelings towards it. What might help is opinion of people you trust. They can help you to realise what's the truth.
Anonymous
April 6th, 2018 7:03pm
That ca be true for some people, when you're totally in love you fail to see or think critically about something/someone you love because your heart tends to focus more on their positive traits than the negative ones. But it can also be harmful in some cases because not everything meets the eye.
No. You can think deeply and critically about something you love. If you cannot, it may be a type of obsession.
Anonymous
April 21st, 2018 10:28pm
For a lot of people, yeah it is. People forget that you can love and appreciate something, like a film or a song, whilst also recognising the things you don't like about it, and that doesn't mean you have to throw away the positives. Appreciation and criticism can exist in the same space.
critical thinking is not that complex...Critical thinking is the opposite of regular, everyday thinking....Without critical thinking, it’s easy for people to manipulate us and for all sorts of catastrophes to result.
yes. it is. it is also difficult, if not impossible entirely, to be objective. although I do not know your exact situation, I can tell you it is very human and entirely natural to feel unsure or hesitant. stay strong. reach out to people wherever you can. handling things alone only makes them tougher
It is very hard, yes! Naturally, you'll want to avoid anything negative about what it is you love, because frankly, you love it. But it is important to try and see both the good and bad in all things.
It can be difficult to critically view something you care about. You will have a general bias towards it and will focus more on the positive aspects. However, if you are aware of your bias you can recognize it and try to view it fairly.
Yes, I believe so because it involves a lot of emotions. And where you're clouded with intense emotions we sometimes can't think objectively. What we need to do is to brush aside all those intense emotions and focus o what is it you want to achieve.
Anonymous
May 16th, 2018 8:25pm
if you love something or someone then for your own sake you will have to prove what you are thinking critically off. if you 'have any evidence of it then you are giving your hope into something without knowing the truth.
Anonymous
May 17th, 2018 4:09pm
I think it is hard to think that way. It's because you are wanting to think simply or passionately, so it doesn't make sense and sometimes it hurts to think that way.
No, it's not. Its easy to be critical, but whats hard is being the right amount of critical. Criticising myself is hard, but its good to know that a small amount of critique helps me be a better version of myself.
Anonymous
May 31st, 2018 7:55am
yes, often when it comes to thinking rationally or critically about things you feel strongly about or love, it can be very difficult and often challenging.
No, but it would depend on the kind of love you have for that object. Is it just a caring kind of love? or infatuated? Or is it unconditional. The more you think about something the easier it is to think deeply about it especially if it is unconditional or caring type of love.
Anonymous
June 9th, 2018 10:20pm
Yes, it can be. Sometimes your emotions and love make you blind to certain things that you rather not think about. However, for some and about some things, you might find it easy to think critically.
Anonymous
June 15th, 2018 7:21pm
Not at all but sometimes we convince ourselves that we love some things even though if we were being honest we actually do not. Sometimes though you are stuck and have to work on getting unstuck. (FYI work doesn't continue to feel like work when we absolutely love doing it even though other people might see it as work. It won't feel like work to you. It will feel more like play or fun or enjoyment.)
I think if you really love something you would be able to think about it from many perspectives but it may be hurtful to see any negatives about the object
From my own experience, I think critically about the things I love when I am questioning myself. I don't want to be blindly in love with something or someone, I need to reassure myself that they have flaws, and that I need to be okay with that. If I'm not, then I am not in love with them, I am in love with the idea of them.
Personally don't love a lot of things. Therefore it is easier to take the time to think about things which do mean dear to me. It does take a good deal of will and courage when judging something that you love which is why it can be scary and often overlooked. Overall I think that love is weird and things take time so it can be hard. :P
Anonymous
July 19th, 2018 7:19am
Yes. It becomes hard to criticise anything/anybody that you love/like. It’s because of your belief in that thing. Breaking up a pre-notioned belief is very difficult thus it becomes hard to criticise it.
I'm not a perfectionist, but I guess you can say I'm cynical. Doesn't matter if it's something I love, like Cinema Sins says, nothing is without sin.
Anonymous
July 29th, 2018 5:08am
It’s not hard, it’s a part of being human. Thinking critically means you care for the thing that you love.
Anonymous
August 1st, 2018 4:06pm
love is simple yet complex. it's very intricate yet it is also very simple. from the experiences I've had, love is something that's very personalized and no one can speak for the other. i believe that you can decipher this only when you find out the meaning of that specific person/ object to you.
It doesn't hurt to get an objective second opinion. Sometimes, in the case of addiction it can be hard to separate what is healthy and what is compulsive. I'd find a good friend to ask about it.
I think you always know the downside of even something/ someone you love but you overlook it hoping things will be better. Anyway love covers a multitude of sin.
Absolutely! I find it's very difficult for me to think critically because when I love something, I don't want to see the flaws or faults in it too much since I worry it might "ruin" what makes the thing I love so much. I also find that thinking critically can be quite challenging since there's so many potential angles you can think critically from! Depending on what you're criticizing, or why you're criticizing something can also make it varying levels of difficult. So for me, I struggle a lot with this. :( I'd love to get better about it though.
Sometimes it is hard becuase you may love them so much that you overlook their faults. You may only see positives or think that their actions are acceptable becuase they love you or you love them. In that case you should take a step back and think of them through an outsider's perspective. Try to put yourself in the shoes of someone unrelated and see if you are able to see clearly and objectively then. However, if you are unable to, don't be dissapointed because loving someone is a good thing and you can always ask for someone ele's perspective on the matter.
Anonymous
November 9th, 2018 7:50pm
Sometimes, especially at the beginning of the relationship, we tend to leave the reason behind and see no flaws in our partners. However, as the relationship develops, and we learn more about each other, discover the other's and our own flaws, it becomes easier to look with the more critical and sensible eye at our beloved. Nobody is perfect, a lot of us, especially with BPD, tend to idolise our partners. And sometimes this may end up badly. But, I think, we're all more or less reasonable creatures and can think critically about our loved ones. It may be harder with the things we love, though. Especially, and I'm not being facetious here, you actually love learning how to think critically!
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