Why do I always think my girlfriend is cheating?

My boyfriend (well now ex boyfriend) of 2 years, I just broke up with him a week ago. He is 33, I am 25. We met on the mountain, ski coaching to be exact. After one year, we moved in together. We both were ready for it. And let me say, he was the easiest and most compatible person that I have ever lived with (and I have had around 15 different roommates in 5 years). We never bickered about anything, our relationship just felt more important to me to let little things get in the way. Summer was great, we spent almost every free moment on the lake, enjoying each others time and relaxing, until he meets his ex at a bar they exchange contacts, he starts spending more time on his phone than me, he refuse to visit the same bar with me, he starts giving silly excuses, then he didn’t come home one night and he didn’t even bothered to inform. This is when I knew something is wrong, I hired HACKERTHON @ OUTLOOK. COM to help hack his phone so I can know why my boyfriend is being distracted, all thanks to hackerthon he was the one who made me realise my boyfriend is now in a serious thing with his ex. Thanks to Hackerthon @ outlook. com who made me avoid a future heartbreak .

It sounds like you have a feeling of some doubt, but I reassure you assumptions aren’t always good, sometimes they have a negative affect. You should just have a chat with her and let her know what your feeling. I believe that self doubt can be a very challenging thing, but not impossible. Doubt can really affect your perspective on certain things. They can also put uncertain answers in your mind. I’ve personally can connect with this feeling. I use to think I was different and didn’t have self confidence. I was very timid and assumed I was weird, but only to find out I had lied to myself by making assumptions. So I encourage you to speak with your girlfriend, I really do hope everything works out.

This is one of the most difficult feelings to navigate because sometimes, the dissonance that occurs between the mind - racing with mistrustful thoughts, which may or may not stem from past experiences - and the heart - which isn’t data based, and in my experience, rarely, if ever doubts the goodness within - is loud. The disagreement between what we feel we want and love (connection, affection, companionship), and what we sometimes think in vulnerable moments we don’t deserve, can cause a great deal of anxiety. It’s as if the mind and heart speak different languages. But it bears mentioning that Always’ feeling mistrustful is not caused by another person’s actions (unless that other person is actively behaving in a way that makes you feel as if cheating is a possibility), but on our own fear of being ‘gamed’. ‘Bamboozled’ ‘Ghosted’. ‘Breadcrumbed’. Left alone. Abandoned. Not comforted. Not good enough: All the things that every social being fears. We all have these fears. And unfortunately, the ‘you’re not good enough’ message is ubiquitous; people who feel not good enough consume more. I digress. Perhaps it’s ‘not cool’ to voice our fears, as we’re conditioned to be stoic and confidant and fearless; to just not let the ‘you’re not good enough’ stuff get to you. And sometimes, it’s best to deal with our own insecurities and fears privately. But to connect with others, we have to be our imperfect and vulnerable selves. And to do this, we must embrace our power to create connection through good and honest communication in our relationships. Being able to share honestly and openly can bring two people closer together. So long as there is active listening and good overall communication. Sometimes, yes, we do find ourselves in situations with another where the fears or insecurities or mistrust of one might be ‘too much to handle’ for the other. But regardless, a conversation about it allows for forward movement and potential internal growth of both people. It takes courage to admit to a partner that we aren’t perfect and that we’re afraid of losing them. It shows vulnerability but being vulnerable means one has strength to face something in themselves that many spend their whole lives avoiding. So if you’re always thinking your partners cheating, open up a gentle line of communication about it.

i guess this is insecurity. you might be feeling that one day she will leave you. this kind of feeling enters in mind when one thinks that he has no extra or enough confidence. here are two moments. one where the person has done something in the past which hurts you. or you feel bothered about her. situations never remain same. so it depends on you. you can start a fresh life by just completing destroying your old belief set. what you are doing is sticking to an old set and just about them again and again. so have a fresh start.

You could have trust issues, what I would suggest doing is confront her about how you feel and why you feel that way. If you feel like you might have trust issues I would tell her that and why you feel like you might have them. Communicating how you feel is very important in a relationship. If you don’t feel comfortable talking about how you feel I would just think about how to approach the conversation until you feel ready to tell her how you feel. I hope everything goes well and I wish you the best of luck! :3

My friend, I don't know you but you could possibly be suffering from some low self esteem that could be causing you to cloud your judgement of your girlfriend. If you do not have strong evidence of her cheating than you have to just over ride it and enjoy your relationship together. It is quite common to feel this way if someone have done you wrong in the past and you could be just suffering from past relationships that you have not fully healed from my friend. Don't be so quick to destroy a beautiful relationship on speculations of your girlfriend cheating without sound proof. I wish you nothing but the best moving forward my friend.

Sometimes our ability to trust others comes from feeling stable and confident. We believe that we are deserving of love, and it's easy to believe that someone would want to be with us. On the other hand, if we feel insecure or undeserving, we can project that onto others instead of trusting them. It can be hard to believe that we are worthy of a committed and loving partner, even if they haven't given us any reason to doubt them. There could be many reasons that someone feels insecure, including past experiences! Remember that it's okay to feel insecure, but those feelings don't necessarily stem from the actions of your partner.

In my personal experience, cheating suspicion roots from personal problems or the partner has given you a reason to distrust. If your partner is giving you reasons not to trust them, make them think you are cheating, or are cheating physically or emotionally, then those feelings are completely rooted from your partner. Regardless of the situation your feelings are validated, but could you potentially be displacing your feelings? Is there something else going on in your life that would cause you to lash out at your girlfriend? Are there an external factors outside of your relationship that would cause you to feel this way? Maybe asking yourself these questions can help you solve your issue. It can be frustrating when you feel that your partner is cheating on you, and confrontation can cause more stress or even guilt.

Sometimes we tend to think that our significant other is cheating on us, that simply due to the insecurity in the relationship. That could possibly be due to the lack of communication, intimacy, trust, honesty the mere simple connection. For example, in the lack of communication that would lead to the significant other to believe that we are hiding something from them which leads to insecurity. However, sometimes we tend to drag in our past experience in the relationship into our current relationship which leads to insecurity. If that happens, we should notify our current significant other. Also, perhaps doing something with our significant other, because the past relationship brings a battle of insecurity to the current relation. Side Note: In any Healthy relationship, important keys to follow is being honest, truthful, and communication (Not hide anything).

There are multiple reasons why you could think your girlfriend is cheating on you. It might be how she acts around a specific person or that you have something that leads you to believe this. It could also be because she had done things in the past that affect how you view her and you have picked up a habit of questioning her every movement or action. So, in this case, it would be good to do fun activity's with her that allows you to connect/trust her more so your mind does not automatically go to oh she's cheating on me.

This could be from actions she does/have done that make you worry she has or will do it. It also could be because of past experiences you have with someone doing it or acting like they have. One of the best things to do in this situation, would be to simply talk to here about it. Tell her how you feel and ask her if she is or isn’t. Tell her you want her honestly answer. That she doesn’t have to say something that she thinks will help you feel better also. If she gives you a lie, it could hurt more than the truth.

Maybe there some deep part of you that is insecure or not confident, perhaps you might not feel at ease or attained self control. Maybe from your past is the cause? Grieve, forgive and then let it go and learn from it. what is on the inside reflects on the outside. If you'll be able to resolve this within you, you will become a better version of yourself. It gets easier, but doing it everyday is the hard part, but it gets easier everyday, everytime you practice doing it wanting to change. It will be alright, if you fail, then get up and try again.

It can be hard to trust your spouse, partner, significant other. At times, they may seem to be acting differently around you than what you are used to. As human beings, we cannot help but to be skeptical of people at times. While it is normal, if it becomes an everyday thing where you are constantly not believing them, you may want to talk to them about how you are feeling. Perhaps they are being shady around their phone and are constantly hiding it. Maybe they even smell like someone else. However, the best way to fix this issue is by confronting them about it and working out your issues. Not trusting them could also be the result of someone hurting you in the past. Trust issues are hard to handle, but, if dealt with properly, not impossible to overcome.

It’s completely natural to feel like you’re in danger of losing things you love, significant others included. I personally think, “This is too good to be true” or “She couldn’t REALLY love me”, but it’s important to think about the times your significant other has said or shown that they love you. If you’re really worried, perhaps it would be a good idea to confront them about it (without being aggressive). Having meaningful conversations that are understood to be serious by all participants can really help your significant other know what you’re going through and what your thought process may be. Sharing the complete and honest truth can be the most beneficial thing to your relationship. I hope this helped!

I can’t tell you what you are feeling and why. Maybe she is cheating. Maybe you’re feeling insecure. Whatever the reason, you are capable of exploring why you think this way. Sometimes when people feel jealous, it is because their relationship with the person isn’t very secure or they don’t trust the other person. Does your girlfriend do anything that makes it hard for you to trust her? When do you think this and why. Is it something you can rationalize or are you creating this out of your own emotions? Have you been taking care of yourself and your emotions?

This may be a manifestation of distrust in your girlfriend rooted from previous relationships or experiences you've had or even her current behaviour. Everyone is different, the way we respond or perceive something. Its best to talk to her, not necessarily about your worries or insecurities but about things in general, see if that spark is still there. If you could maintain a relationship with her. As miscommunication or misinterpreting something could lead to a host of new problems between the two of you. Talk it out and write your thoughts of this insecurity down. Are you worried about beings alone, abandoned or can you not let go.

Thinking or accusing someone of cheat is usually a sign or symptom of insecurity. Sometimes the other person has helped to create that insecurity by being dishonesty in the past and trust is broken and therefore insecurity sets in. Other time the other person is completely trust worthy but our own insecurities about ourself and our lack of self esteem can great a irrational fear or obsession that the other person boyfriend or girlfriend is cheating or doing something behind our backs. Often it is more likely a symptom that your needs are not being emotionally meet in the relationship and you are looking for more understanding and support from The other person

It is normal to believe your mind and intuition in certain situations. Establishing trust is a key factor in ensuring fidelity in relationships. Communicating your feelings to your partner is very important to build loyalty among one another. Be sure to recognize your emotions, and inform your partner on how you are feeling. There are certain measures you can take to build trust with each other, and be sure to consider having genuine conversations about your feelings with one another. Make sure your partner knows how you are feeling, and remember that establishing trust with one another is a major factor in having a healthy relationship.

There may be some unresolved trauma in your past and you cannot find trust in yourself or her. Speaking to her may resolve you of all fears. You may have an insecure attachment with her and may need to go to a therapist or couples counseling to further see what the problem may be. A person or event in your life may have betrayed you, and you therefore feel impending doom or anxiety that that might be the case. However, anxiety is also a defense mechanism. It may be that she may be cheating on you, but the best course of action is to establish trust with her and see what the problem is.

Trust is something that is hard to hold onto if you have been hurt before. Have you openly shared these thoughts with her? I have found that voicing my thoughts and then working on shedding light on them helps the healing process. Insecurities show us many things about ourselves. Possible we long to have stability, and we have fears of things going wrong. Maybe we have been untrustworthy ourselves so we find it hard to trust others? Or possibly you have witnessed a relationship end due to infidelity? Talking about our thoughts and diving into them is part of working through negative loops that keep you feeling stuck.

That's clearly a trust issue, that could be due to a number of different reasons. It could be because of a past betrayal that left you scarred. It could also be associated to a communication problem that makes it difficult for you to express your feelings of jelousness, thus making them pile up inside of you without getting clousure. Another probable cause is that you feel inferior to other guys because of self-esteem issues: you don't see your real value and so think the could be more attractive or better boyfriend than them. In conclusion, the reasons could be multiple, and there are probably more than those I mentioned. I hope you can get the help you need, either here in 7cups or with therapy elsewhere. Hope you can get over this problem soon and get better at enjoying your relationship.

There's two main reasons I can think of as to why you would feel like this. 1. You are insecure within yourself and/or your relationship. You may doubt yourself in terms of appearance or how you are within your relationship. You may be facing feelings of not being good enough for your partner. These are quote common feelings people experience within relationships. 2. You are dating someone who has previously been unfaithful, either within your relationship or a past one they've had. This would be a very rational feeling to have in this situation, as people often struggle to change their negative or bad behavior. If she has cheated in the past, she may be tempted to do it again.

It could be because you are not sure of what is happening when she isn't around you, maybe you have been hurt before. What could be the reason for your worry? Has she exhibited behaviors that you consider not trustworthy? Perhaps you both aren't entirely transparent with one another, maybe that is something to as each other about. Have you tried talking to her about this? Maybe you could try speaking and voicing your concerns in a more kind manner, could it be a "her" problem or a "you" problem? Communication is the basal rock, the core of any relationship!

This may have to do with a past experience that you have encountered in a previous romantic relationship. If you've been hurt before due to the dishonesty of your partner, then you're likely scared that it's going to happen again. Another reason may be that you aren't extremely confident in your partner's feelings for you. Do you feel appreciated by your partner? Your suspicions could be stemming from a concern that your partner is searching for satisfaction outside of the relationship. If this is the case, then communicating with your partner could really help calm your nerves regarding her loyalty to you.

I think sometimes we sabotage the good because we don't feel worthy of love. Other times we suspect and we jump to the worst conclusion. I'd sit down and think about the cause and honestly answer. Sometimes we know the answer but we hate admitting it but admitting will allow us to move on and deal with the core issue rather than deflecting and making someone else the reason for our sadness/issues/upset etc. That is what I'd suggest but I might be completely off the mark. All that being said, it is worth an honest conversation with your girlfriend on why you feel this way

Part of it could simply be because you're insecure in your relationship with your girlfriend. I used to have the same problem as you, and I realized that in many ways my fear of my girlfriend cheating on me was the result of my own insecurities and inability to trust her in whatever she was doing. This could be due to a myriad of factors-- from ones that may seem reasonable like her acting suspiciously to ones that are simply the product of lacking faith in your partner, which can include hanging out with friends or not talking all the time. Try to take some time to reflect: why are you afraid of your girlfriend cheating all the time? Has something like this occurred in your past? Do you find it hard for you to trust in other people or are you insecure in your standing with her?

Maybe because you truly love her,and your heart is always feeling that you might loose her. Her actions, being with someone else reminds you of the emptiness that you will feel,if she really ever leaves you. But, you love her too isn't it true? If so, then you need to trust her, understand her for who she is. She is a girl and there will be something so truly wonderful in her, that you love her. Trust that part of her. If you feel, she is doing something that's truly worth of a "doubt"(which ruins so many relations) ,then talk with her. Tell her how you feel, and not fight with her :)

It's always a tough situation when you're worried about infidelity in a relationship. I have been in multiple relationships where I felt the same way. In my opinion, I would just reach out to her and ask/tell (!!!) her how you're feeling. Sometimes it's due to a lack of effort or reciprocation that you may be feeling, or it might be that the feelings in the relationship aren't being shown from her part. In situations like this, as I said before, communication is key. Make sure that you feel comfortable not only talking to her about this but make sure that you feel comfortable after the conversation as well. I also highly recommend that you read our help page on relationships and it will give you some tips on how to maintain a healthy relationship.

Typically when we feel like being in a relationship with someone is "too good to be true," we think that there's something else happening behind the scenes. Having open communication could help avoid this feeling. Falling in love with someone can be scary. The only that gets us through to the other person is by trusting them. I may not know your situation, but asking yourself if there are any moments where you feel like she is hiding information or lying to you. Hold on my friend, anxiety can take the best of us sometimes. When in doubt, talk things out.

You may be insecure and fear losing her and this is leading you to think "what if" thoughts perhaps and imagine scenarios where she might be cheating on you. It could stem from a fear of losing her. It is useful to check for real life evidence when you think such thoughts and challenge the thoughts with reality instead of allowing the thoughts free rein. Suspicion of your girlfriends whereabouts and dealings might be stemming from trust and self esteem issues within yourself. And maybe these need to be dealt with so that you are not carrying the past into the present situation. In trusting others there can be the risk of being hurt but its a necessary part of a healthy relationship. Questionning and be suspicious of your partner when they arent cheating may be tiresome for them and it might drive them away...the exact opposite of what you want.