Why do I always think my girlfriend is cheating?
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Most often jealousy is rooted in a form of insecurity. In these situations it's best to isolate and establish exactly what is the driving force behind your insecurity before going forward. Perhaps it would benefit you to discuss these thoughts with your partner, and try and understand what actions they are doing that fuel your own thoughts of inadequacy, leading you to suspect infidelity.
If you are always thinking your girlfriend is cheating on you, then talk to her. Be vocal, don't just assume and get to the bottom of things. If you still can't trust her or what have you then end it because you don't want to be with someone you don't trust. Your happiness is important too.
A better question to ask yourself is what gives rise to the suspicion that your girlfriend is cheating? Are there instances which seemed out of place and that you would like to clarify with her? It is best to talk these things out in a safe space so that you both can be clear about how you feel in the relationship.
It may be because of trust issues or paranoia of losing your girlfriend. Try talking to your girlfriend about how you feel in a way that's something you're having a problem with and in the way like expressing distrust towards her. She should be willing to help you go through this thought and listen to you without seeing it as a personal attack on her but rather a problem youneed to deal with.
Anonymous
March 27th, 2017 1:44am
In my experience, when you're getting the feeling that something is off, something's definitely wrong. While it might not be cheating, that feeling could come from a lack of communication, jealousy, or another problem. When my boyfriend cheated on me, that feeling of wrongness was definitely there, but I thought that we just weren't connecting like we used to. In any relationship, communication is key.
It sounds like you may have been cheated on before or are feeling insecure in the relationship because she already has a lot of social commitments. When do you feel safest with your girlfriend? Maybe it's time for an open dialogue about how you can be included in some of the stuff you would enjoy doing with her. And maybe find out what she needs from you. Wishing you the best in your relationship!
Anonymous
May 14th, 2017 5:50pm
There are many reasons you could think your girlfriend is cheating. There are certain behaviors that usually indicate cheating, such as lying, leaving for long periods of time with no reason given, miscommunications, suddenly having an STD...(these are all examples from my last relationship). I would try to talk to your girlfriend about your concerns. Her response will be an indicator as well (pay attention to her body language, if possible). Best of luck to anyone who is worried about cheating!
Anonymous
June 11th, 2017 2:32am
If you're not able to trust your girlfriend whether she is or not cheating, it might be a questionable relationship. You should work things out to gain trust in each other, or if you're wanting to put any effort towards trust in each other. It's not meant to be.
Well there is many reasons as to why you could think that. But, some signs to someone who is possibly cheating is they are distant, they aren't around much, they don't really feel like spending time together, they take a long time to reply to messages or more. I would just trust your gut or even try talking about it with your girlfriend to why you feel this way.
Well this could be for a few reasons. First of all has she cheated before, or have you been cheated on be someone else? This can lead to paranoia in a relationship and make it hard to trust people. If not than perhaps you are feeling insecure about yourself and your role in the relationship? Maybe your partner is more out going than you are and that feels threatening? If you can't seem to shake this feeling yet you have no proof to back it up. Perhaps you should consider talking to your girlfriend about how you feel. Try not to be accusatory but instead aim the conversation in a mature direction that let's her know how you are feeling and that you would like to resolve the issue. Remember that just because some people cheat does not mean all people do. Best of luck!
Anonymous
August 18th, 2017 1:51am
perhaps working on trusting is something you need to do. think, why do i not trust her? what would make me trust her? and try going from there.
You may always think you girlfriend is cheating because your trust has been tested before. If this is the case, you can not bring past relationships (romantic and not romantic) into the current one. You need to fully trust her, It could also be because you may have some insecurities you need to work though within yourself. Perhaps talk to her about these. Hope I helped, have a great day!
Perhaps you feel like you cannot trust them, or even those around them. It's perfectly normal to feel paranoid of that, but sometimes there is a point when it can consume you, which in this case it would be. It's always best to try and talk with your partner about how you feel and see if there is a reason or trigger that is making you feel that way.
Anonymous
November 9th, 2017 6:20pm
You need to ask yourself if you really have faith in her and if she has given you any reason not to trust her.
Anonymous
November 16th, 2017 4:36am
Sounds like you’ve either got some serious trust issues or she’s actually cheating on you.. maybe investigate this feeling?
Sometimes actions speak louder than words but sometimes you get anxiety and think the worse will happen. Just stay positive and just find out if she is.
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Ways are suspicious of your girlfriend cheating on you, is that right? Or that she MAY cheat some day?
I think the same way. There past is what makes me think they'll cheat and statistics prove it.
Anonymous
November 25th, 2017 5:18am
You might be feeling some anxiety towards your relationship therefore always jump to that certain conclusion.
It sounds like you are having anxiety about your girlfriend. Could you tell me more about why you think she is cheating?
Anonymous
December 8th, 2017 11:27pm
You may think your girlfriend is cheating on you because you have doubts about yourself. You may think that there's someone out there that is better for her than you. Or she may be giving signs that she's cheating. Talk to her about it and ask her it will make you feel better.
It seems as if you did not establish a relationship based on trust. Relationship between two people need to be based on trust. Each side need to feel appreciated and trusted.
May be you were cheated in previous relationship or her confidence and personality improvement making you feel insecured. It is difficult to say without the details
Its normal to be worried about the faith of a s/o in a relationship you are very invested in the best thing to do is to let the worrying go and spend more time enjoying the relationship.
If your girlfriend shows signs of cheating, then your thoughts are legitimate, otherwise, these feelings, thoughts, and images can be generated by feelings of low self-esteem, confidence, and insecurities.
Either you have experienced it before and are carrying it over to a different relationship, or maybe you might be right. Find out before you make accusations
We all have a part of ourselves that doubts people, this can be from trauma or past experiences.. Most of the time, we are just overthinking :) There is that few times though, that your gut is right... Personally I like to break down the situation, sometimes you see where your thinking is flawed or right! :)
Many reasons could explain this. Possible reasons include a lack of self-confidence, a lack of trust with or without a valid reason, or it could just be how you express your fear of losing your girlfriend. But only you have the answer.
Past experience often comes to our mind when we get caught in a similar situation. Talk to your partner about the situation.
We all have our own insecurities. Trust is one of the hardest things to earn in a relationship. The longer you are with a person, and you get know the type of person they are, does trust come. If you have been in a relationship for a while and you still dont trust her, then it may be on good evidence.
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