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I miss the relationship. I know he is not what he used to be and yet, I am very dependant on our relationship. I expected him to be more commited with the relationship but he has given up on the relationship and yet I am still haunted by the memory. So I think it is the relationship when we were still happy that I miss the most.
I can't speak for you and how you're feeling, but it's very possible that you're just missing the feeling of being with someone, instead of the person themselves.
Being attached to someone can cause you to see cloudy. Most of the times people miss the relationship or the idea of being in one, being with someone. It is up to you to open your eyes and look at it from a distance. That way, you will see the clearer picture.
Some people miss the feeling of being a team with someone in a relationship, but that does not mean they miss the person. Then sometimes people miss someone they were in a relationship but did not like being in a relationship.
both actually..the person mostly, since its the person who affect the relationship but still it have a thing too so both
Anonymous
November 11th, 2017 2:28pm
Alot of times you hear that you miss the idea of being in a relationship and not the person but honestly I think you definitely miss both cause let's face it, both possibilities are possible.
Anonymous
November 16th, 2017 7:34am
If you miss the person, you miss being around them and what they do and what you do together. If you miss the relationship you miss the attention
Anonymous
November 17th, 2017 6:45pm
I miss the person, if the person is with me I will get back the relationship. It is more about how the person treated me. You are left with a void when the person leaves you.
Possibly and most likely both considering that you wouldnt have had such a amazing relationship without that person
Anonymous
December 8th, 2017 1:07am
You miss the memories. The memories of both of you, how you guys used to be and how different it was back then.
It depends on the context. Sometimes we miss the person and their aspects but other times that connection is very important.
Sometimes it is hard to tell if you miss the person you were with, or the memories you two shared together. Try and think about what it is that you miss most, and takes notes and write them down. By doing so it can be easier for you to decipher what it is you really do miss.
More than likely you miss the relationship and have the feeling of belonging and the feeling of being wanted by someone
If I'd be honest I miss the relationship with the person. Neither can stand alone cause they're interdependent.
When we fall for someone, we often wear rose colored glasses... meaning everything they do seems better than it really is and they can do no wrong! When we are looking back at relationships, which if you will remember, ended for whatever reason, I feel like a natural part of the mourning process is focusing on all of the good and fun things you guys had together and did. And that's all fine and well, but some relationships are supposed to end. Remember why it did and realize that even if it doesn't feel like it right now, you will meet someone much more wonderful and suited for you down the road.
I don't believe its either. Although, i don't doubt that i can be one or the other. Some do miss the person but don't want the relationship and some miss the comfort of being with someone, but they don't want to be with that particular person. I think we miss the memories and the feelings they gave us the most. It can be very conflicted and confusing. Stay positive and always focus on the best you can be to move forward
Once a relationship gets over there is a reason behind it as they say...they are your "ex" for a reason we do miss them but the person they use to be during the initial period of relationship we miss those good moments we had with them
Anonymous
March 1st, 2018 2:44pm
It depends on the situation. Sometimes, if the person really shaped who you are, you may miss the person. But sometimes, you may miss the intimacy, and the things you did together that you don't do now. You'll only ever know if you go out with them again.
when you are in a relationship it is between you and the other person relationship is when two PERSONS are in love .so when you are thinking Do I miss the person, or the relationship? its the person
It really depends on the relationship, however more often than not we grow attached to a particular someone because they give us everything we need emotionally. And once again more often than not, we miss the things they provided us rather than the actual person themselves, we miss the sex, the late night talks, all that mushy stuff. We just become so reliant on this one person to give this to us, that when it's taken away we almost lose a part of ourselves.....shame it's only an illusion.
Anonymous
March 28th, 2018 5:27am
It depends actually.If you loved that person after a break up you probably miss the person, but if it's the opposite you could probably be missing the relationship. Like, you feel safe in it and like that feeling.
Both! They both mean a lot. The person means a lot because they keep you going! The relationship means a lot because it’s what joined you and the person you loved together.
Usually people miss the relationship. The feeling you get from dating someone and opening up your soul to someone, giving them everything, sharing all kinds of memories and happy times with them. It's hard when that's all taken away at once.
Anonymous
March 31st, 2018 7:08pm
Possibly both, you could miss the way the person was the smell and feel or you could miss the cuddles and kisses and having someone to share everything with.
The relationship. Sometimes it's hard to realize but often the fear of breaking up with someone is caused by a fear of living without a relationship, not without the person.
You miss the relationship because you needed someone in your life to fill or complete you.
I think this is a tough one, but i feel its more the relationship you miss because you could still talk to the person and it be fine, but the absence of the relationship is what makes you uncomfortable
Anonymous
April 7th, 2018 6:28am
this is a really tough question that i actually ask myself a lot. you more than likely miss the feeling of being in a relationship, being loved and just having someone there with you and for you rather than the actual person. but a lot of the time you may miss the person who you had all that with. and that’s the thing none of us wanna realize because we can often never get that person back and we have to acknowledge that. so next time just really think about that.
You can miss both. People often get confused with what they miss, some miss the relationship and search for another quickly to fill the gap, while others miss the person and think about them a lot. It's different for everyone.
Once upon a time, I thought I missed the person. But she hurt me, and she has hurt others, so it seems I might actually just miss being with her, rather than her herself.
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