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How can I stop thinking about my ex?

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Last Updated: 12/15/2021 at 9:55pm
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I specialise in respectfully helping people navigate their way through trauma and relationship issues. The adversities in our life can actually transform us.

Top Rated Answers
June 17th, 2015 4:53am
The best way would be to keep busy. Clean the house, go out with friends, or just watch movies or T.V shows.
June 18th, 2015 1:20pm
Make yourself busy. Love yourself more. Do something you've always wanted to do (any kind of activity). Surround yourself with people who love you and bring the best in you.
September 22nd, 2015 9:43pm
If you still think about them.. you still love them.. you can only get over them overtime. try staying active ... and hanging with friends
November 9th, 2015 2:13am
Try picking up different activities and hobbies best way hands down! Why? You will be distracted, moving on, and enjoying yourself in the process!:)
November 23rd, 2015 4:12am
you can stop thinking about your ex by doing alot of other productive stuffs like going out with your close friends, watching your favourite movies / TV shows, reading your favourite books, listening to your favourite artiste, sleeping, cycling, play your favourite games, eat, chill. there's so many things you can do! but i have to say this, it wont be easy to just stop thinking about your ex straightaway. it takes time, but it'll be worth the amount of time taken just to stop. show him/her that you're better without him/her! :)
November 30th, 2015 8:22pm
I recommend spending your time with your family and friends. Keep yourself occupied and avoid doing things that reminds you of him :)
February 23rd, 2016 11:26pm
Your best option is to stay busy. Whether its through school, friends or work, I've always found staying busy to be the best remedy.
May 30th, 2016 5:14am
Reading, spending time w/friends, exercising. You can join a club/s, learn new languages, watch T.V.
August 8th, 2016 9:29am
I think you need to find activities that keep your mind distracted from the ex, and when there is a thought of your ex, be conscious about it, feel the feeling and acknowledge the emotion, and let the thought pass like clouds. This is a form of meditation i learnt.
September 18th, 2016 7:52pm
Engross yourself thoroughly in an activity or hobby of your choice.. I love cooking so I spent hours searching for different recipes and trying different techniques.. I kept myself occupied by multi-tasking.. Helped a lot :)
September 23rd, 2016 12:26am
Keep yourself very busy doing things you love. You will think about them less and less. Until you just stop all together.
September 23rd, 2016 3:35am
Whenever we breakup it takes a certain amount of time to break-free from that relationship. Letting go can be very hard to do, and it does indeed take time. You should always focus on yourself, and be thankful for all the good times that contributed to the relationship, never be sad, be positive!
September 23rd, 2016 5:02pm
The way you can stop thinking about an ex is the same way you can stop thinking about anything. Unfortunately it takes effort if it's not happening naturally. Replacing with thoughts such as reasons why you'd benefit from stopping thinking about them can help. Also reminding yourself that time may help.
September 24th, 2016 4:19am
Keep your mind occupied, Keep your schedule full. Another suggestion is listening to music, write or long walks.
September 29th, 2016 5:50pm
What you resist, persists. Based on my personal experience, allow the thoughts to come and go. Don't try not to think, it will only make you think harder, Send them love and go about your life.
September 30th, 2016 2:30am
Go out and enjoy the world. Live in the moment and be yourself. Don't let your ex hold you back. You have to remember what life was like before your ex. Start doing things that you used to do before him/her.
October 4th, 2016 1:32pm
Do something that you like to do like a hobbie, go on a trip, ask why you broke up, and turn it in a good way.
October 5th, 2016 4:45am
Try fishing, knitting, crocheting, cross-stitching, play sports, learn to cook a new recipe , learn how to drive, go on a trip, meet new people, work hard on your studies/work. The list goes on...
October 15th, 2016 4:03am
Move on in life find someone or keep busy so you won't think of them and miss then that much I know it's hard
October 23rd, 2016 7:15am
Moving on to someone else. If u can't then try being happy with yourself. Keeping your mind active a by maybe reading or simply hanging with friends might help
October 27th, 2016 2:30pm
My previous boyfriend was my first and only boyfriend. I was excited and nervous to know what it was like to be in a relationship. We were an on and off couple every now and then. When we broke up my mind wasn't attached to my heart. My heart didn't miss him but my mind did. Weeks passed and it finally hit me. I missed him and all I could think was him and how we used to be. I had to learn to get out of the mind set of missing. I used that time by learning how to draw better and be a better person for my own sake. Be stronger for my own sense. Every now and then I catch myself thinking about us. I don't regret those moments with him. They are memories for me to cherish.
October 29th, 2016 4:44am
You need closure. Find out why you broke up. After that just try to be happy with yourself. It's very hard to do but you have to find someone or something that makes you happier.
November 4th, 2016 8:37pm
Try spending time with friends. Having fun and enjoying yourself can often help with taking your mind off things.
November 13th, 2016 12:41am
Thinking about ex's is a time monster. One of the best ways to not think so much about past memories and how painful it is to not be with that person anymore, is to take on a new hobby or volunteer position doing something that you truly enjoy and maybe have always wanted to try but never got the chance. It will open up new doors and expose you to new people. Stirring things up a little and helping others is a great way to not think so much! Horseback riding, archery, joining a choir, helping in a soup kitchen or food bank, adopting a dog or volunteering at an animal shelter- whatever makes you feel good and puts a smile on your face :)
December 1st, 2016 5:27am
Tell someone close about your ex. The sweet memories, the sad times, the reasons why you broke up, how you feel about your relationship and more. Just basically tell him/her everything about your ex. As vividly as possible, to get it out of your head. Next, keep away all of the stuff that reminds you of your ex. Be it the pictures on the wall or the sweet gifts from him/her. Keep them all away. You can choose to put it in a box and place it in the store room or just simply throw them all away. If the couch or bed reminds you of your ex, try to buy a new cover for it. Replace the bed covers and buy little pillows for your couch, just make it look different. Lastly, don't allow yourself to have the time to think of your ex! Busy yourself with things. Be it sports, reading, hanging out with your friends or even watching drama. Just do anything to distract yourself! And when time passes, you'll soon forget about your ex.
December 1st, 2016 7:29am
You can start off with living in the present rather than the past bud, this happened to me a few times and it messed me up bad I almost dropped out of school over one person! I know it sucks now but think now that you're one step closer to the one.
December 10th, 2016 3:14pm
This is something that I have struggled with personally and I know how tough it is. Honestly, it just takes time. I know that's not the answer anyone wants to hear but the thoughts really do go away over time. My ex broke up with me over a year ago and to this day I still will have occasional thoughts about him, but I no longer think about him everyday or all the time. It can also help to find a hobby you enjoy, or a fun way to occupy your time. Exercise, join a club or a class, do some art, set goals for your future. Find something that makes you happy and focus your thoughts and energy on something positive. Spending time with friends or family can take your mind off of him too.
December 17th, 2016 5:44pm
Now this can be really difficult as generally we hold alot of feelings towards the people we enter relationships with. Self care can be really important like keeping yourself busy, and taking up a hobby in the begining. Over time these feelings may subside and be less. If this.has been happing for a while then it may be worth talking to a listener or therapist for support in overcoming these feelings.
December 30th, 2016 7:28am
Find things you enjoy to occupy your time. Start a new hobby that doesn't have a connection to your ex.
January 5th, 2017 1:06am
The best medicine is your friends company. When you are busy talking and having fun with friends you'll forget about your ex in the moment. You will be talking about other things, thinking about other things. Keep doing this and you will realize that the world has much more to offer.