How do I tell my boyfriend that I don't want to be with him? (anymore)
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Anonymous
December 9th, 2017 10:38pm
approach him quietly and humbly and tell him that you dont wanna be with him anymore and you think its for the best
Most importantly you should narrow down why you do not want to be with him and what is making you unhappy in the relationship, maybe you can both sit down and speak about the problems and together work through it. But most importantly being honest with him about why you have come to the decision will help both you and himself in the future.
While this may be a tough subject, if you've reached a point where you're no longer feeling it, know that it's better for both of you if the relationship doesn't continue. Talk to him, communication is the most important part of anything. Listen to what he has to say and know that you're feelings are alright. It will be hard, but if you feel this is the best option, trust your heart and let him know too. It's better to be honest with him so he has a chance to heal and move forward.
Honest and direct reasoning goes long way to end or start anything. It can be communicated peacfully and amicably.
Anonymous
January 4th, 2018 5:24pm
Talk to him in a calm and respectful (for both of you) manner, as much as possible. And preferably alone, unless you think he might react violently or agressively.
Anonymous
January 11th, 2018 6:30am
speak to him about it and confront him about the issues you are facing. be gentle, but upfront. state your reasons clearly and hope to move on
Anonymous
January 20th, 2018 4:15am
Tell him the absolute truth! Don't just say, "We need to break up," no. Just say, "We need to talk. I think we should break up because ________" Honestly will make it better. No, breakups are NEVER easy but trust me, honesty is key with anything.
Just come straight out there is no point in doing something that does not make you happy do things that make you happy
Ultimately a relationship has to work for both parties. By staying with someone when you don't want to, you're just saving up trouble for later on. It's worth making time having an open and honest conversation with them, in a safe and controlled environment, to talk about how the relationship is going, and where you see the future. If you do feel like you don't want to be in the relationship, you could explain that you're feeling like you don't have much of a future. Perhaps they're feeling the same way, perhaps they'll work harder at the relationship.
Honesty is always the best policy even if that is a cliche. You should both meet in person as something like this should never be done over text. Sit him down and explain to him your feelings, if he cares about you he will understand.
If you feel safe doing so, I would recommend doing it face to face. Try to be open and honest with him to the extent that you feel comfortable, and try to set a non-argumentative tone.
Anonymous
February 3rd, 2018 11:30pm
In my experience, brutal honesty is the best policy. Be gentle of course, because someone else's feelings are in your hands, but be honest and upfront about how you feel.
Hello! Try to talk to him and address the problems in your relationship and why you want to break up with him. Be kind but stern.
You should be polite but straight about it. There's no easy way to do this, but you can choose to be honest as a token of respect for the man you've been with for a time.
Anonymous
March 1st, 2018 9:18am
Say its hard but you dont feel love anymore and you feel like he needs to move on but still be friends
Simply be honest with him. If you are no longer happy in this relationship, you need to be sure he knows.
Anonymous
March 1st, 2018 6:04pm
I would sit down with your boyfriend and have an open discussion about your worries and how your feelings have changed towards wanting a relationship. Be honest, kind and remain open and honest.
Anonymous
March 2nd, 2018 11:46am
Just tell him. Think about it, find a good place and try to understand him. Think what is he feeling and understand him.
You need to be open and honest. You need to make sure he understands even if won't accept it at first. It is far better to take your time and make sure he knows the reasons than to just offer and excuse and leave. You may not love him anymore, you may not have feelings for him but try to picture if this was happening to you and what you would need to hear in order to move on quickly.
Take him to something that he likes to do. Explain to him that you've had fun, but that you don't believe this relationship is heading where you want it to. You explain that it's been over in your mind for a while. If he tries to keep you around, explain to him that he deserves someone who actually loves him.
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2018 5:18am
Be brutally honest and open about it without being insensitive.
There is no plan or guide that will outline how to soften some sort of blow.
Anonymous
April 25th, 2018 5:44pm
i would just tell him but be calm about it say it soft and not mean dont keep leading him on that will just hurt him more
Writing it gently in a letter may soften the blow. You can be firm, gentle and honest at the same time. Good luck!
Be honest and upfront. He will aprreciate that more than lying, cheating or being deceiving. Just let him know the truth, it will hurt him either way but being upfront and honest hurts less than being lied and cheated on. Tell him when you felt this way, if there is a reason as to way, or if it’s just that your feelings faded. Try to end on good terms. Takes a while but you can do it
Anonymous
June 20th, 2018 6:59am
Hey there, you can tell him that you thought about a lot of things and finally you understood that you need to be alone in this period of time. That you want to break up because it is the best for you and you know that he will feel better too after you break up. Tell him the reasons why and maybe you can still keep in touch sometimes... don‘t be scared of what he will say, if he truly liked you, he will also accept your decision.
First of all try to avoid doing it over the phone, but i would suggest to just cut to the point and say gently what is bothering you
It's best to be honest even if it would hurt him. There's nothing more painful than breaking up with someone by telling a lie
Well you simply tell him what is going on, you don’t want too strong him along. You have a personal one on one conversation in person and you explain too him why you don’t think the relationship is working anymore
Let him down easily, but be truthful when explaining why you decided to break up with him. One thing that causes confusion in breakups would be lying to them to keep from hurting their feelings. Just be as honest as possible. Also, be clear on the reason why. If it’s not his fault, make that known. If he did something wrong, also make that known.
Anonymous
July 5th, 2018 3:04pm
In my personal experience the best way is to be upfront and tell him exactly what you are feeling and why, remember to stay calm throughout it all and realize you are hurting him but also remember you are breaking it off for a reason and stay firm in that reason. I hope this helps you in any way!
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