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I still have dreams about my ex, sometimes they're good and sometimes they're bad. What does that mean?

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Last Updated: 05/13/2022 at 2:35pm
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January 18th, 2018 7:19pm
Dreams are the mind's way of resting the brain. It's easier and more relaxing for the mind to think about things that are familiar or things that are imaginative. Thinking about the past in dreams is very common and does not necessarily mean that you still have feelings for your ex. If your dreams continue and they are upsetting for you, maybe you should evaluate if there is anything left unsaid between the two of you that you might like to revisit. It's okay, and completely normal if you do.
January 27th, 2018 2:23am
You might have good memories of him that sneak in with the bad, and your thoughts might be conflicted about him.
January 31st, 2018 9:01am
Having dreams about them probably means they're on your mind. Perhaps consider how you feel about them while you are awake.
January 31st, 2018 8:57pm
Dreams are normal and usually don't hold a lot of meaning. Try not too look to far into it and realize why your ex, is your ex.
February 4th, 2018 5:56am
there are three theories on the meanings of dreams: they come from your subconscious mind, they reflect your cognitions throughout the day, or they're absolutely meaningless. It's up to you to decide :)
February 8th, 2018 3:30pm
it means just one simple thing....uhh miss him\her as well as upset amd angry by their act. don't get worried due to all this lasts for a time only.
February 15th, 2018 6:31pm
That means that you've still not moved on, you're still focusing on him/her. Whether thiseans you still love them, or you just have trouble getting over them, or they hurt you, it you are still thinking about them.
February 16th, 2018 4:58pm
Was your ex a significant part of your life? For me it was. Whether it was a good or bad experience, I think all experiences are lessons to be learned and applied to your present and future self. Exes at one time or another were people present and active in your regular lifestyle, so I believe the subconscious mind is going to take note and remember those particular moments, memories and experiences with that person(s). I don't think it necessarily means that you need to jump out of bed and call your ex to let them know you had a dream or dreams about them, but maybe it's to help remind yourself of that time in your life and what lessons did you learn or what did that person help you achieve and learn to keep doing or never want to do again?
February 23rd, 2018 11:33pm
I would say that that means you have been thinking about your ex a lot lately. Some people dream about what they have been thinking about a lot and you could be having this. It is normal and especially if you and your ex recently broke up or you see them often, then he/she will be on your mind a lot.
March 1st, 2018 2:41pm
It could mean you could still have some feeling for them, or you're not over them yet, that is completely normal.
March 2nd, 2018 3:52am
It can mean you miss them and that's normal. It's a part of moving on and accepting that they're no longer a part of your life like they were
March 2nd, 2018 2:38pm
The people we let into our lives don't go away, not now and not ever. Dreams are a tricky subject to get into but dreaming about an ex can mean any number of things. Dreaming of a good time could mean you found yourself lonely and needed a little boost. Having bad dreams could be tied to the feeling of loss or any regret you might feel about what happened depending on how it ended. Don't dwell on such things, dreams are often random and have very little meaning.
March 7th, 2018 2:41pm
Dreams may not necessarily mean anything. However, it may be because that he's on your mind quite often and that it led you to dream about him as well.
March 20th, 2018 5:38am
When we spend time with people, we are near-certain to think about them more than others. With a strong bond like a previous romantic relationship, you are quite likely to think of that person or dream of them. Depending on who you are, dreaming of someone can quite likely mean nothing at all.
March 31st, 2018 6:32pm
If you dream that you want your ex back, then the dream may reflect waking feelings of actually wanting him back. Alternatively, it means that you miss being in a relationship and to feel wanted.
April 15th, 2018 8:39pm
It means that you are thinking of them and care much about them. It could be good or bad, but you care about them and may want to get back together.
April 27th, 2018 9:51pm
It means that you're still thinking about the past and you miss him. You need to forget about him and move on and either learn to live in solitude and peace alone or find somebody else :) . Live the present moment and never think about the past or future
May 6th, 2018 2:35pm
If you keep dreaming about the same person every night, it may be because you are concerned about them or worried. Often, you will dream about the things that you think about the most. Some people try to think about the same thing every night before they go to sleep because they want to dream about them, but in your case, if youre dreaming about how you want to get back together with an ex sometimes that does mean that you're still carrying a torch for them. But it can also just mean that "you miss being in a relationship" and feeling wanted.
May 10th, 2018 1:21pm
Perhaps you are still missing them, sometimes dreams are about things you cannot get off of your mind. In this case, maybe your ex is what you are thinking a lot about. It takes time to heal, be patient
May 17th, 2018 12:21am
Having dreams about people that left an impact on your life is completely normal! They may be bad because of subconcious fears, or because you miss them.
May 18th, 2018 5:33am
You're remembering the good and bad times you had with your ex. Your subconscious is telling you that you miss that person.
May 19th, 2018 3:16pm
i think you just really miss her and you feel that you left something with her and i think that you need to focus on something else for a bit.
May 23rd, 2018 4:46am
It can mean a lot of things, it isn't the same for everyone. It can mean you miss him/her, you are worried about your situation, or it can mean absolutely nothing, don't worry too much about it.
June 7th, 2018 8:31pm
It just means you are missing the relationship. That is completely normal, but don't make a rash decision to do anything without thinking it through. If you want to get back together, think about what good it will do. Does the good outweigh the bad?
June 7th, 2018 11:31pm
Maybe you still figuring out your self after the break up so you are still thinking about him but I promise if u try to become more positive you will get him out of your dreams for sure
June 9th, 2018 2:12pm
It could mean you may not be 100% over them. It could also be because they had some sort of impact on your life.
June 14th, 2018 9:18am
It simply means that you're reflecting on the relationship which is perfectly normal. When we break up with someone we go from having them be such a huge part of our lives to having very limited contact with them. Give yourself time to adjust and be patient with yourself.
June 16th, 2018 3:27pm
If you've dated someone for a while you probably have a lot of memories with them. Doesn't matter if you have parted in good ways or not; had a healthy relationship or an unhealthy one: They still have a (positive/negative/neutral) place in your memories. It is understandable to feel their presence sometimes, since they have meant something to you at some point. So I don't think you should have any concerns about your current state. I believe people should let time unfold things on their own...
June 17th, 2018 1:57am
If you are having dreams about your ex, it could mean that you have unfinished emotional ties to them on a personal level. You would need to work out where these feelings in yourself come from and why they still remain, in order to move forward.
June 17th, 2018 8:44pm
That means that your ex as well as your relationship is still on your mind. Like most relationships, they're not all bad nor all good. As such, your dreams reflect both bad memories or happy moments, as well as things you have considered regarding those thoughts. Your dreams are merely a reflection of what you are thinking about and may provide some insight into what you should spend more consideration on.