For me, I think it's only human when I have broken up with someone and I still have feelings for them. Relationships are strong, intimate connections with people. I feel sad when I lose a friend, so it's understandable if a relationship ends and you still have feelings for them. It's hard at first, but it got easier for me. I still have feelings for my exes, but they feel distant. I don't think time can erase the memories, but the memories eventually fade in time. And then it isn't so hard anymore. And sometimes that might be scary; the fact that the memories might fade into time; but it's not like they're gone forever and you've forgotten completely. I've just stopped living in the memories, and they've become little stories in my life. They make me smile still, and they make me sad, but they don't affect me as much as they used to. So, to answer your question, it's not about whether you should or shouldn't feel this way, but I think it is OK and natural. It is human. And I wish you the best, because you deserve the best. If you feel like you need counseling with a professional, please don't hesitate to seek them. They can be incredibly helpful through hard times.