I still love my ex. Should I feel this way?

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I still love my ex. Should I feel this way?
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amyssophie
April 23rd, 2018 2:08am
I love everyone's answers and yet I have a problem with it. Who says that love dies? Who says it goes away? Who thinks they honestly have the knowledge to tell you you're love is not still real, that's its this or that? Rubbish! Sometimes love really does stand the test of time. That being said, they don't always love us the same way in return. That's the part we must learn to live with. That's the part that keeps us up at night, makes us cry at random moments, keeps us very aware that its still there. Only God knows how your love story will be written....don't let others dismiss what they don't understand.
Anonymous
November 8th, 2014 1:41am
Well, yes. Everyone always loves their ex's for some reason no matter what and usually the love lingers for a long while. I think if you still love your ex, it's completely okay.
thesecretkeeper1115
June 25th, 2015 4:49pm
Loving someone is something that cannot be stopped. However, is loving your ex healthy for you? Does it make you happy? or does it make you feel resentful or pitiful? If you think you find meaning by doing so, then, it's always your choice. But, if you don't think it will do any good, then, you can always start by loving yourself again. Then, maybe, when you're ready, a new love (with your ex or not) will come to you.
AmazingSam
July 26th, 2015 6:48am
Its completly normal if you do. A lot of people have extreme difficulty getting over the person they loved. It takes time, and you should allow yourself to have time to just think and really find closure. And move on when your ready.
OceanBreeze
October 21st, 2014 5:41pm
It is definitely OK to feel that way. I still love my ex as well. However, I do not think it is wise to keep yourself hung up on him/her because this is your life and you should take control of it. Letting yourself stay in love with your ex will keep you distracted from all the other guys/girls that could be potentially better relationship partners.
Clobeans
August 4th, 2015 8:34pm
If you truly loved them then you will always hold a small part of them in your heart. People that you form close relationships will contribute to who you are as a person even if you had drifted apart. There is no wrong or right way to feel
Christe515
August 8th, 2015 3:52am
That's completely normal! Everyone goes through what you're going through, you are not alone. If it was a good relationship and it ended on good terms, take those good memories and experiences with you into the next relationship. If it was one that left a bad taste in your mouth, and realize that you are worth more
Kharisma
November 5th, 2014 5:26am
Love is a natural feeling. It is in our nature to love, and that is okay. Do not feel bad about these feelings, but more so learn from them
Anonymous
August 15th, 2015 12:15pm
It's normal to still have feelings for your ex. Everyone gets over their exes at their own pace. It may take some people a few days and other may take a few months or even years to get over their exes. It all depends on the situation and the type of person you are
lovelyLynx18
June 21st, 2015 7:30am
It is ok to feel that way for a little while but you have to let go of them sooner or later. It isn't easy but you have to think of what is best for you and them.
Anonymous
June 27th, 2015 9:37pm
It's pretty normal to still love an ex. You loved this person enough to be in a relationship so it's not likely the feelings will automatically go away once the relationship ends. The thing about feelings is there's not real wrong or right way to feel in certain circumstances. If you told me you sat in your room looking at old photos of your ex all day, then I'd tell you that probably wasn't a good idea. But the simple act of feeling is part of being human. Likely, those feelings will eventually fade as you put more distance between yourself and that relationship.
AlexandreSilva98
October 18th, 2014 4:38pm
Yes, it's usual to feel that way. The best thing you possibly can do is to go out and meet some people who will make you forget about her!
Olivia23
October 23rd, 2014 3:09am
You will always have feelings for your ex, but you have to realize that the feelings you have will always be there, how you react and acknowledge them.
Uniqueg
October 30th, 2014 8:54pm
It's totally normal, feelings just don't go away just because you guys aren't together any more, with time and support things should get better!
Anonymous
October 28th, 2014 10:28am
If s/he doesn't feel the same way. Don't push yourself into him/her. It might be bad at you and for him.
Kyra0608
October 29th, 2014 1:01am
It depends on how long you two have been broken up, if its only been a few days then yes of course! you where in love, its normal to still love this person, if its been a while since you two broke up, thats okay too! These things take time.
Anggi
July 11th, 2015 3:39am
I can't tell you what you should or should not feel because it's your feeling and not mine. However, if you've decided to end the relationship or your partner did then maybe trying to get over them is the best thing for you to do, unless there's a chance for you to get back together with them and that's what you both want :)
Anonymous
March 17th, 2016 6:25am
loving your ex is not a sin... but crying on the past and not letting yourself moving forward will let you face challenges..
Anonymous
September 29th, 2014 8:17pm
Yes, I still do love my ex but that does not mean you have to be with them. You guys can just be friends - just remember your broke up for a reason.
MrHector
June 27th, 2015 4:36am
Love is a complex feeling and it does not simply vanish. While we do usually forget our old loves, it does take time so residual feelings after a breakup, and even some time after that, are completely normal.
Manpreet
July 29th, 2015 7:21am
There is nothing wrong in this way. It is Natural with you because Loving someone is a quality in you.
OliviaSwan
July 30th, 2015 7:45pm
"Should" or "should not" isn't really the question here, since there usually aren't any right or wrong answers when it comes to feelings and emotions. It's normal to still love someone you once shared a connection with, even if that person has hurt you in the past.
mwhit00
August 15th, 2015 8:37pm
After being with someone, you will be emotionally attached to them.Don't feel bad about this feeling
annieverde6
August 16th, 2015 4:46am
Its completely up to you. Sometimes you can help the way you feel about who you love. Ask yourself this is he worth loving and keeping around?
Anonymous
January 9th, 2016 8:16pm
Being a human it's pretty natural to feel that way .. But again u should know whm to let in ur life and whom not ! EX became EX because of some reason!
Anonymous
March 13th, 2016 10:40am
Depending on how things ended, it's normal to feel this way. Someone that used to be a huge part of your life soon became someone that is out of your life. Be sure to ask yourself if you love him or the thought of him. Those are two different questions that you need to ask and evaluate. Just remember that the both of you broke up for a reason.
OrchidSpring
March 17th, 2016 3:18am
It is normal to feel this way. Anyone goes through this after a breakup. It'll take time and patience to learn to get over an ex.
CarmenCares
June 10th, 2016 9:14am
No one can tell you how you should or should not feel, even if they did it would not change how you really feel. If you still love your ex, contemplate if there were things left unresolved and if there was anything you would feel comfortable doing to reach out. If not, time will heal all wounds. Maybe a bit of you will always love them, and that's not wrong either. You can be stronger every day from carrying that love with you.
NMalmstrom
June 28th, 2015 6:10pm
It is okay to still love person you loved a month, year, ten years ago. You once had everything,it doesn't mean it is bad to still love him/her, you can't say it to your heart as a demand.
Sp00nman
July 1st, 2015 2:49am
Still loving an ex is a normal thing. Experiences you both have had mean a lot to you obviously more to you than the other partner. Relationships are a two way street, not a one way street.