I want to break up, but I'm scared that no one will ever love me again. What should I do?
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Anonymous
May 26th, 2018 12:50pm
If you feel like the relationship you're in at the moment isn't right for you, that doesn't mean you're not good enough for anyone. It simply means that they weren't the right person for you and your worth is never dictated by whether or not somebody loves you.
Never settle for less. It will make you regret your decision on a loop. Love and care for yourself first and make sure your needs are cared for. One day you will find that person who will see you as the most beautiful person you are!
- Take care -
Yours Truly
Viola.
You won’t be scared anymore once you already know what kind of love you deserve. You dont need to stuck yourself in a situation that you don’t feel is right for you. Just always remember that you are destined to someone.
Confidence and self esteem are the key. If you're confident about yourself you will be comfortable to break up and start over again. As they say: "If it doesn't kill you it will make you stronger" therefore, you'll have better opportunities the next time you date. Love is a universal language so be sure that out of 100's of millions there will be many that will love you in return.
Anonymous
June 7th, 2018 7:35pm
That's not true. If it's a good reason for you to break up, then go for it. If there is a problem in your relationship, you can't keep let it happening.
Anonymous
June 14th, 2018 8:03am
You should always listen to your heart and do what makes you feel better. As for the assumption that nobody will ever love you again, it is so untrue! There are many people willing to love you, you just have to find them!
Anonymous
June 22nd, 2018 11:42am
No, no. That's not true. If you don't want to be with him/her, don't force yourself to. Trust me, it's always better to do what your heart wants â¤ï¸ it feels so much better.
Do you think that it would be much better to stay in a toxic relationship rather than no relationship at all?
it's important to remember that one heartbreak means that you are one heartbreak closer to finding the person that you will be with forever. If you are unhappy, then do what your heart is telling you to do. Much love coming from me to you in this difficult time.
Anonymous
July 1st, 2018 5:48am
love is everywhere but before you look for a potential partner, make sure you spend a lot of time loving yourself and knowing your worth first.
Life’s too short to waste time on someone you don’t love. Everything you do in life should be focused on YOU,your feelings,your wishes and not on anyone else’s. Obviously you will find love again. There are 7 billion people in the world and why should you feel like just one of them is right for you?
Anonymous
July 4th, 2018 10:22pm
It’s okay. Because you will break up that doesn’t mean you won’t find someone else. I am sure there are many people who would love to meet you. At least imagine that you won’t feel sad anymore.
I know that this thought may scare you, but if you want to break up it means you feel no longer happy with that person. You need to get rid of relationships that makes you feel bad. Don’t be afraid. I’m sure you will find love again. Maybe it will takes time, maybe not, but I’m sure you will find it, don’t worry too much about it. You will be happy again and be loved.
It´s totally normal being scared and it´s valid feeling at that way, but I´m pretty sure that there´s someone else who will love you at the way that you deserve
If you're having concerns about your relationship, you should talk it through with your partner. If things aren't going well, the best thing is to end it. You will find someone else. If you are really worried, try going out somewhere new with your friends, meet new people.
Anonymous
July 11th, 2018 1:30pm
If the current relationship isn't working out, or is toxic, then a break is good to think about if it makes you happier. That fear of never finding love, though, is very normal. A lot of the time it will feel that way, but life is full of so many surprises. There's not always "the one", there's sometimes multiple and some will come and go, or maybe one will be your forever. It's always good to hope, love is incredibly strange, so finding another special one isn't impossible.
Anonymous
July 15th, 2018 9:55am
You should do what you feel is right. Breakups are heard but even if you don’t believe it, someone better always comes along to make you feel better
Anonymous
July 19th, 2018 12:30am
i learnt to love myself better first, only after loving myself i can show love to others. also, through figuring out what is the intention of breaking up
Anonymous
July 19th, 2018 7:20pm
Be brave enough to breakup a toxic relationship will not be better than having no one to love you for sure someone will love you
Don't just stay in a relationship because you're scared of what's coming next. You should never just settle for something that is just "okay" because it will hurt you in the long run.
Anonymous
July 27th, 2018 8:34am
List down the reasons why and why not you should break up. Remember to think of objective reasons as much as you can. Weigh your reasons and come to a decision and stick with it.
Also, list down the things that make you happy and the steps for you to be able to reach those goals. List down the things that you think are your best personal traits.
Listing down will help you clear your mind. Stick to your goals, do it and always remind yourself that you are a beautiful person.
You should do what you want to do! With close to eight billion people on this little blue planet, I'm absolutely sure you'll find plenty who love you. You should never settle or stay where you don't want to be out of fear, this is your life and you're the only one who can choose what to make it. It may not be immediately, but somewhere down the line you'll find someone much better. We support you, go for it!
First you love yourself then see all will love you so much and you are confident with you so make strong
There is someone for everyoneâ¤Don't go looking for love too much....let it come to you and one day you'll find yourself enjoying life with your soulmate forever â¤
Break up, let it happen. If they are not the one, they are not the one. That means when you break upp the one is more able to sweep you off your feet :)
I understand breaking up is difficult, I've always found it really hard. Although it often seems that it will be impossible to find love again, from my experience this is never the case. I've been in the same situation in the past and now I'm with someone else who loves me and I'm very happy with him. You've found love once and there's no reason why someone else will not love you in the future. You understand your situation better than anyone else and only you can decide what is best for you. Although it can be scary, it may be worse for you to remain in a realtionship you are not happy in out of fear.
Anonymous
August 11th, 2018 4:38pm
Listen to your heart, do what you think is best for you. If you don’t want to be in the relationship, you should probably end it. Not only can you hurt yourself by staying but you can also hurt the other person.
Fear of the future and the unknown is a normal experience. Many people feel scared they will never be loved again when they end a relationship. Whenever I break up with someone, I focus a lot on self-love and care. I'll get a massage, I'll have a spa day, I'll spend more time with friends. I remind myself that as long as I love myself, I will be attracting the right type of people. It is up to you whether you give into the fear, work on your relationship, or give yourself the chance to meet someone who will love you and you will never want to break up with.
Anonymous
August 22nd, 2018 2:01am
Don't be scared to break up. It shows that he/she wasn't the right one and there is someone better. Even if you don't find anyone within a year or however long and you start believing there is no one for you, there are people (and foods) that will keep you company. There has to be a reason for the break up anyway. If you have the feelings to break up, then do it regardless of the fear that's holding you back. He/she is obviously not the one. It'll be okay, again people will comfort you and assure you there will be someone else.
The first step is aswer to yourself what do you feel. If it’s the right moment to take this important choice. If you are for ex. Angry, depressed, anx, etc etc. For take this important decision you must be calm. My opinion this is the base of every choise.
Later you can examine your relationship and the problem inside the couple. Many people let them take hands to mental distortion or strange mind set and shoot again her/him partner.
For this resaons i say you: stay calm! Try to see your relationship like a new reletionship, in many way...
forget the past fighting and imagine what happened if she/he is clean! You risk to search love again and again and again like addicted! I hope that i can help you. Let me know.
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