I want to break up, but I'm scared that no one will ever love me again. What should I do?

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Anonymous
November 27th, 2014 7:09pm
Someone will love you again: You. You need to do what's most loving for yourself. Don't trap yourself in a relationship because you won't be loved again. You will always be loved by yourself, your friends, your family, and yes, by lovers. So many people in this world love you that I doubt you even know who all of them are. But the most important love is your self-love, and you need to groom that. Please take care of yourself.
Anonymous
November 25th, 2014 9:47am
Life is a continuous process, and so is love. If you're unhappy with your present relationship, leave. I'm pretty sure that in time someone will come in your life and fill that empty space in your heart when you lost someone. Don't rush. If it's meant to be, it will be. Sometimes you have to let go so that there's a space for better things
RavingSkittles
December 4th, 2014 9:07am
If you really feel that it isn't working out then you need to because staying with someone under fear is not the right reason to be with someone. you will find love someday everyone does.
Arkelight
December 27th, 2014 10:51pm
If someone has loved you before, another can love you again. In staying with this relationship you are robbing yourself of a truly loving relationship. Ask yourself why you don't feel as though someone will love you again, think of the best and worst case scenario of leaving your current relationship and think about whether the best case scenario is worth the risk.
SageBunny
January 2nd, 2015 9:32pm
If your relationship is abusive or unhealthy and you want to break up -- it's important to do so. Remember that there are worse things than being alone (like being abused or manipulated)! But it sounds to me like you're suffering from low self-esteem. Be gentle with yourself, and learn how to treat yourself with respect to make better choices -- you will attract love.
shiningDay13
March 19th, 2015 6:16pm
You shouldn't force yourself to stay in a relationship if you're unhappy. Your fear of being alone is unfair to your partner because everyone deserves to love and to be loved mutually. Before you decide to end the relationship, maybe you should have a serious discussion with your partner as to why you want to end things if the reason has something to do with your partner or their behavior. If the reason you want to breakup is because you simply don't feel love for them anymore, then it might be for the best that you end things so that both you and your partner can find someone who makes you both happy.
DipityEnigma
September 7th, 2015 11:57pm
Don't think negatively. You need to do what's best for you and someone will fall in love with who you are. It might not happen there and then but it will happen eventually. The one who loves you and will do anything for you is the one worth waiting for. Don't settle for less; settle for your ideal person.
smileitswhit
December 23rd, 2014 2:32am
you should not stay with someone you do not love. It's better to be alone then be unhappy and lead the other person on. and if you are with the wrong one you are more-than-likely won't be able to find the right one.
Anonymous
May 13th, 2015 6:24pm
Let them down easy and keep searching for "the one." There's someone out there for everyone. Remember to stay strong and be happy!
SoulJourney
September 7th, 2015 11:52pm
The most important love is self-love! Do what is best for you, and if that means breaking up, then do it. Remember that there are lots of kinds of love to sustain us in this world, not just romantic love. Friends, family, animals… Create love (starting with loving yourself) and you will definitely find it again!
Imrightheretotalk
December 21st, 2015 6:16pm
Dont be afraid love can be found but you must mend first and decide if what you have is worth losing if so dont hesitate and hurt there heart more when you leave
Anonymous
March 29th, 2016 2:27pm
if you want to break up with someone because they're not make you feel happy, just do it. someday you'll find someone new. someone will you, sooner or later
delicateSmiles70
March 23rd, 2017 5:31pm
To be loved is a great feeling, i understand. However, loving yourself is much more important because some relationships can get toxic just as you think yours has. In that case, continuing the relationship just because of your fear will not only worsen the relationship but will also decrease your self esteem. It is the most difficult thing to do,to let go, but if i were in your shoes i will do so for myself, because i deserve to be loved better!
Anonymous
November 7th, 2018 3:11pm
If you wish to break up with someone, but are too scared to, then I would say do the following: Over ten counts, take a deep breath, and then exhale over ten counts. You will be loved by someone, so you should have no fear of not being loved. Someone will always be there to love you and support, especially here on 7 Cups!! I know for one thing, is that I will always love you, and anyone, for ever and ever!! Your parents will always love you, your listeners and everyone here on 7 Cups!!! You should have no fear of the fact that no one would love you ever again, but there will be plenty who do love you! So Keep on Keepin' On!
compassionateWaterfall62
April 15th, 2015 6:12am
Break-ups are never easy to do. Simple, because there is someone else's feelings and emotions involved. I suggest taking things very slow, and actually explain to the other person open and honestly, that the relationship if no longer fit for you right now.
ViataEVerde
June 23rd, 2015 11:51am
Being in a relionship that makes you unhappy/is toxic is never good. Don't live with the thought that no one will ever love you again, cause somone sure will. And better alone than stuck to someone that makes you unhappy.
musicalScenery67
February 22nd, 2016 5:12pm
The same way you made your partner fall for you can include billon of other ways my dear and I'm sure you won't lose the sparkle
Anonymous
October 6th, 2016 12:00pm
If you are having these thoughts of doubt in your relationship, then there is something not right about it. You should be with someone you truly feel happy with and not question whether or not you want to be with them. As for whether someone will ever love you again, of course someone will. There is someone out there for everyone and if you haven't found them then you are looking in the wrong places
usefulPurple70
November 10th, 2016 6:56pm
If you feel that you will be happier breaking up with your partner, mentally and physically then do so, but you should not allow one relationship damage your prospect on love and other realtionships, one break up will not affect future realtionships.
Anonymous
July 2nd, 2017 3:25am
I know the idea of loneliness can be scary. But it's scarier to hold on to someone that isn't making you feel like your best self which is always the goal in a relationship.
Sunset316
August 19th, 2017 10:01am
You should break up if that's what you want to do. It's not fair to the person who is in the relationship with you because it's like you're leading them. Someone will definitely love you. There's someone out there for everyone and someday, you'll meet that someone. It's not right to hurt someone when you don't even love them.
KingAaron84
February 23rd, 2018 9:12pm
Don't stay anywhere that your unhappy. Take a chance and explore. The love you put into yourself will bring someone along that will love you.
Cpcoleman1WSU
March 1st, 2018 10:25am
You can almost always be loved again. I know it may seem like this person is the last who will ever love you, but there are 7 billion people out there in this world, about half of them are members of the opposite sex. You'll find them if they don't find you!
reservedTriangle2012
March 26th, 2018 10:26pm
I'm facing the same problem .. But you can't let that fear control you ! If you can't stay with this person don't worry .. you will be okay and you've got yourself .. love yourself .. and I'm sure you will be loved again ..
takecareofyou
April 14th, 2018 2:46pm
I had the exact same problem once,I knew that my partner loved me but I did not feel needed , I was quit unhappy at the time I think . I had these breakup thoughts quit a lot but it took my months to actually break up just because I thought that no one else would be as patiently as he was with me and I could never imagine someone loving my body and how I am as a person like he did. Then I remembered that all that really matters is my happiness and if I'm not happy with the relationship I'm currently in (or any other reasons ) then I need to let go. It's no good for anyone staying and trying to save something you already gave up / you not believe in . If you want to break up , if you have reasons to / if you feel like it , then do it. You'll find someone , just love yourself first
Anonymous
November 8th, 2018 5:01pm
Do what you think is best for you in the moment. If you’re not feeling like the relationship you’re in right now is the best thing for you that’s okay and you have every right to end the relationship. Just because one relationship ends, it doesn’t mean that’s the only relationship you’ll ever have. Don’t stress too much on what may or may not happen in the future when you have many more important things to focus on in the present. You know your situation and how you feel. That’s what matters and that’s whats for sure. The future is always uncertain and isn’t something to make too many assumptions about.
gabrielsgirl221
December 4th, 2014 9:08am
Do what is best for your own happiness. YOU come first. You are entirely deserving of love and even if that love doesn't find you immediately, it will come to you when you need it most. There is more than one kind of love and I can guarantee that you are loved already.
comfortableBeauty98
December 18th, 2014 2:50am
I would suggest that you take some time to introspect.. This is one of the biggest questions that haunts us.. Truth be told, if he\she isn't the one, but you're still with him\her, you are closing doors on other people.. Your current boyfriend\girlfriend loves you, fell for who you are.. If one person did it, why won't others.. However, while introspecting, do try to understand why you love your boyfriend\ girlfriend and why is it that you want to break up.. Many a times, relationships just go through a rough patch and the couple ends up coming out of it stronger than ever before.. Think and talk! pour your heart out with a 7cups listener..
Anonymous
September 7th, 2015 2:39am
Remember,everyone have their own soulmate. Maybe you will meet them today,next week or maybe in few years. Just carry on ur life with confident
kaaylanichole1
November 16th, 2015 3:44pm
follow your heart and your gut, they know you best, everyone has gotta love someone, theres more fish in the sea! :)