Is it still worth trying if he/she broke up with me several times?

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Anonymous
June 24th, 2017 7:56pm
You really have to ask yourself why are they breaking up with you? Is this something that you clearly cannot see, or is this their actual problem. Before you go blaming yourself though, always think about yourself first and analyze what you have been doing wrong or not seeing. If there really is nothing you can change... then it's time to let them go and refocus on healing yourself from the breakup.
ASilentObserver
July 13th, 2017 6:21am
It depends upon if you guys really want to give another chance to the relationship with a thought that you guys will better communicate, understand, trust and respect each other. Because most of the time reason of break up is either due to a trust, communication, respect or understanding issue. And, probably you guys go with your guts feeling to know what is better for you.
gunjank3
July 26th, 2017 8:58am
Yes, if she matters to you a lot and if you think there is still something in her for you. if she is very clear about leaving you and have have nothing for you then there is time to move on and let her be happy on their own.
Selena1
August 11th, 2017 10:32am
Depends on how you feel, life is about taking risks, if you feel you can give it a shot then do it ! Everyone deserves a second chance, unless you feel it wont be healthy , like there is no reason , like an issue that you can't manage to deal with together , in that case there is no point of coming back to each other , you can still be good friends :)
Anonymous
August 27th, 2017 1:56pm
To be honest, if you broke up several times, it means there is a problem which remained unsolved. If you solve that problem, you might find the answer.
Anonymous
September 13th, 2017 7:59pm
Has anything changed about what broke you up? Can you overcome these issues now? What has changed? Be fair and honest with yourself!
BetterTogether101
September 24th, 2017 6:38am
Maybe not. It is clear that the other person does not have an interest in pursuing the relationship, and everyone deserves to be loved and wanted in a relationship they involve themselves with. So that said you should not want to be in a relationship with someone who does not have an interest in being committed in one with you. You deserve better. However, if you truly believe that there has been a significant change in factor(s) that would give reason for the outcome in the relationship to have a different chance in success, then it is perhaps something you can consider and discuss openly with those you trust around you. And should you decide that it is weighted enough of a change to be worth pursuing, you can perhaps open the door to the person with whom you wish to resume dating and see what they think. It is possible they may not give it the thought it deserves and cast the idea aside and if so then at least you will have the closure you may need to be able to move on from the idea of trying it again after all these failed attempts.
Amandamarissa
October 10th, 2017 8:27pm
Only you know the right answer to the question. Decide that you'd rather be happy than right and look at the situation from all angles. Do they have the potential to help create a healthy and happy relationship with you?
CalmSea8
November 10th, 2017 11:17am
If there is a reasonable and strong problem behind breaking up, trying to resolve the problem may help. Otherwise, Nothing will change and you will destroy your life in that loop.
electricMelody47
November 23rd, 2017 11:52pm
That is something only you can answer.I can assist you to help you find the right answer, but only you can make that finall decision.
softParadise20
November 28th, 2017 12:34am
Loving someone who doesn't love you is a big issue someone outside this matter may tell you various times to forget about them but it's not that simple and easy cause those are emotions and emotions are hard to control and they don't let us think logically and right. So if we think logically and right there is a chance we meet another person and we love them and they love us. Those relationships are not healthy and are not useful. It's always useful to stay with the one you know they love you. Remember your heart will beat for another person. But this time that person's heart will beat for you too. And it's gonna be a healthy relationship. So letting go of someone we love is hard but it's important we focus on recovering and moving on. It's just they are not the one. It's better than trying to get them back again. We will sooner or later move on so it's better we make it sooner
Anonymous
December 8th, 2017 6:54am
I believe that it doesn't matter how many problems y'all have or how many fights y'all get or how many times y'all broke up I believe that if the love between both of y'all is still strong and it doesn't matter anything else if both of y'all are willing to settle down and out effort on it to go thru everything together then yeah is still worth it is still worth the try and worth the effort
Isentropic
December 9th, 2017 7:41pm
I am in my new path...I will do what i love to do...it is my life..i appreciate her... but we should concern about our well being...still I always respect and l9ve her... sheis so beautifull..fjkddfjjjkkf fsuok guoidsa fsawtuijnbkll jjojdsgjkk ghjhffbmcxsdhjsjstkddkshfsjtsktsjstsktsktss
Purpose1234
December 13th, 2017 4:23am
I dont think you should waste to much time on it just let it go and let things work there way out but you must keep moving forward
EmRivale
December 21st, 2017 10:24pm
If they don't want to be with you, it is often best to just let them go. Things happen for a reason even if they aren't going to go the way you want them too. You might find letting them go is best for you both, since it isn't fair to be in a relationship if you aren't happy. Consider their feelings as well as yours. Holding on too long might end up hurting you both simultaneously.
Anonymous
December 22nd, 2017 5:24pm
Yes if you truly believe in something, you shouldn’t give up. However, listen to your heart and focus on your happiness. If it’s ultimately going to lead to unhappiness, maybe you should let the relationship go.
SingedPaws
December 23rd, 2017 2:27am
No because it means the person is stringing you along, it would be best to find someone new who actually thinks you're worth their time
DestinyyXxXx
January 4th, 2018 9:21pm
Nah it really isnt if its happened several times do not bother ! You are better than that love yourself
confidentForest19
January 13th, 2018 1:14am
Maybe. It depends the quality of the relationship.If it is a abusive, stressful relationship that brings negative feelings , I guess no.
Anonymous
January 31st, 2018 5:28am
To be honest, I think not unless you can identify the problem and really change it. If you have broken up multiple times, there is some kind of issue that is getting in the way of the relationship.
Anonymous
February 1st, 2018 10:48pm
Personally, no. No one should feel they need to grovel to get someone back that doesnt care back....
JenCounsel29
February 2nd, 2018 9:26am
I can understand why that decision would be hard for you! I would make a pro and con list for trying again, versus not trying again and see if that helps clear up the answer in your mind!
healingWords30
February 4th, 2018 6:53am
One thing you need to ask yourself is is he/she worth fighting for. If yes then ask yourself again what are you/him/her doing wrong that makes you go apart? If you get the answer if the two you will be able to know where you need to stand.
Anonymous
February 7th, 2018 9:46am
no it's not worth you should try and move on from it and try your best to be happy and to find good people in your life that can be there for you and can make you happy
Hope39
February 7th, 2018 7:29pm
what made you break up several times before? there might be a pattern there, of reasons you break up over again. if the issues are not resolved then there will be no hope or things working out.
starryPanda93
February 8th, 2018 3:26pm
No defiently not! if you love that person truly just make them realise that but don't beg before them for attention because uhh don't need to beg infront of your loved ones.
Cpcoleman1WSU
March 1st, 2018 10:43am
Honestly it depends. Reading this I think the issue is with them, not you. You can try and keep being the best you can be, keep trying to get them help and *shudders* attempt to change them if you really want to.
Anonymous
March 1st, 2018 5:14pm
It depends . If he/she broke up with you for pathetic reasons and broken your heart many times it’s probably not worth it as you may just end up broken again in the end .
LockeLamoraUK
March 5th, 2018 10:02am
In my experience? No. If two people both want to be together, then they'll make it work regardless of circumstances. If one of them doesn't want to put the effort in, it won't.
Tlfettled
March 8th, 2018 12:32am
Not in my opinion.