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Is it still worth trying if he/she broke up with me several times?

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January 25th, 2017 4:54pm
In my personal experience, it is no longer worth the time and energy that is going into trying to make it work. I had an on/off again boyfriend for a while and there is a reason we kept breaking up. Our hearts held lots of emotion for each other, and that was hard to walk away from, but ultimately, both of our lives improved greatly for finally being able to put an end to the toxic cycle we were in. We brought out the worst in each other more often than the best, and no amount of love was able to change that.
January 26th, 2017 3:15am
That is up to you honestly and how you feel about the relationship along with why they broke up with you several times. More often than not when people break up with you several times, it is best to leave it be and find ways to move on and be happy for yourself. Sometimes those relationships work out, but often the individual who is breaking up with you needs to find out what it is they want and find themselves before deciding to get back together with you. Usually they are simply uncertain but on occasion they could also be using you until they figure things out because they do not want to be alone. It is one of those very complicated situations that you have to observe the signs
February 3rd, 2017 7:22am
I don't think so. Just imagining if this happened to me, I would question why he/she broke up with me and why he/she kept coming back. If this person wanted to be with me and was serious about it, a first break up most likely wouldn't even have happened. Why does he/she keep coming back after deciding to leave me? Did this person just not find what he/she was looking for in anybody else so then just settled to come back to me? Is he/she wholeheartedly considering my feelings when making that decision? How is this affecting me? Do I feel like my feelings are being played with?
February 16th, 2017 6:02pm
Its worth only if I and him are willing to let go of what we ignored/ did several times: Inner change first.
March 1st, 2017 10:12am
The answer is both yes and no. Like you need someone better in your life than this girl/guy. Why did they even break up with you? But if this relationship has been going on for a long time and if you two love each other immensely then you should definitely keep going. But if you think that boy/girl is not worth it. Leave it. You deserve someone better and you will surely get him/her at the right time. Try to find out if love still exists between you two
March 18th, 2017 12:38am
That is a hard one... My gut says no, but I truly believe that everyone goes through certain stages and can be "ready" at certain times when they may not have been in the past. For example, my husband I dated, broke up because we were both still getting over our ex's, then months later we reconnected and everything was perfect. It was all about timing for us.
April 7th, 2017 6:37pm
I think only you can truly decided if it's worth it. But you have to take all things into consideration when you do so. If someone is stringing you along, hurting you over and over again, are they worth it? Even if that isn't their intention, you have to consider you well-being. If someone is toxic to your life, can they really be worth it? It's such a personal decision to make, and a hard one.
May 12th, 2017 5:55pm
Actually it depends to the person. If you're still really love that person and willing to give a lot chances then why not? But if you have enough then learn to give up because maybe you're still holding on because of the years you we're together. Just think of a thing that worth fighting for so that you won't end regretting.
June 5th, 2017 9:54am
Well, in all honesty nothing is worth your emotional and mental health. If the case with your s/o proves to be emotionally or mentally draining then the answer is simple, it's not worth it. While I agree that relationships require time, patience and effort from both sides, it's not healthy for you to become a slave to your partners change and needs. Talk to your partner, communicate how you feel about the situation, i.e, then breaking up with you several times. They can offer their own insight of the matter as well. More importantly, you'll know where the both of you stand in terms of a relationship. If you think their perspective offers comfort and promise, then give it a try, at-least. If not then give yourself space and time to fully consider whether being with them is the right path for you to take in your life. Remember, sometimes relationships can be a 60-40 or a 10-90 rather than a 50-50. However, the result should always be a 100%
June 8th, 2017 3:54pm
Why does this person keep ending the relationship ? Is there something that needs to be improved ? Is it something you both wanna keep trying for . anything is worth it if both partners wanna make it worth and are actually putting forth effort
June 23rd, 2017 2:52pm
That totally depends on what kind of relationship you've shared so far. IF all the good memories out weighs the bad ones, there's no problem giving it another chance. But make sure he/she is making equal efforts as you, what's the point of chasing someone who doesn't wanna be with you as much as you want to.
June 24th, 2017 7:56pm
You really have to ask yourself why are they breaking up with you? Is this something that you clearly cannot see, or is this their actual problem. Before you go blaming yourself though, always think about yourself first and analyze what you have been doing wrong or not seeing. If there really is nothing you can change... then it's time to let them go and refocus on healing yourself from the breakup.
July 13th, 2017 6:21am
It depends upon if you guys really want to give another chance to the relationship with a thought that you guys will better communicate, understand, trust and respect each other. Because most of the time reason of break up is either due to a trust, communication, respect or understanding issue. And, probably you guys go with your guts feeling to know what is better for you.
July 26th, 2017 8:58am
Yes, if she matters to you a lot and if you think there is still something in her for you. if she is very clear about leaving you and have have nothing for you then there is time to move on and let her be happy on their own.
August 11th, 2017 10:32am
Depends on how you feel, life is about taking risks, if you feel you can give it a shot then do it ! Everyone deserves a second chance, unless you feel it wont be healthy , like there is no reason , like an issue that you can't manage to deal with together , in that case there is no point of coming back to each other , you can still be good friends :)
September 13th, 2017 7:59pm
Has anything changed about what broke you up? Can you overcome these issues now? What has changed? Be fair and honest with yourself!
September 24th, 2017 6:38am
Maybe not. It is clear that the other person does not have an interest in pursuing the relationship, and everyone deserves to be loved and wanted in a relationship they involve themselves with. So that said you should not want to be in a relationship with someone who does not have an interest in being committed in one with you. You deserve better. However, if you truly believe that there has been a significant change in factor(s) that would give reason for the outcome in the relationship to have a different chance in success, then it is perhaps something you can consider and discuss openly with those you trust around you. And should you decide that it is weighted enough of a change to be worth pursuing, you can perhaps open the door to the person with whom you wish to resume dating and see what they think. It is possible they may not give it the thought it deserves and cast the idea aside and if so then at least you will have the closure you may need to be able to move on from the idea of trying it again after all these failed attempts.
October 10th, 2017 8:27pm
Only you know the right answer to the question. Decide that you'd rather be happy than right and look at the situation from all angles. Do they have the potential to help create a healthy and happy relationship with you?
November 10th, 2017 11:17am
If there is a reasonable and strong problem behind breaking up, trying to resolve the problem may help. Otherwise, Nothing will change and you will destroy your life in that loop.
November 23rd, 2017 11:52pm
That is something only you can answer.I can assist you to help you find the right answer, but only you can make that finall decision.
November 28th, 2017 12:34am
Loving someone who doesn't love you is a big issue someone outside this matter may tell you various times to forget about them but it's not that simple and easy cause those are emotions and emotions are hard to control and they don't let us think logically and right. So if we think logically and right there is a chance we meet another person and we love them and they love us. Those relationships are not healthy and are not useful. It's always useful to stay with the one you know they love you. Remember your heart will beat for another person. But this time that person's heart will beat for you too. And it's gonna be a healthy relationship. So letting go of someone we love is hard but it's important we focus on recovering and moving on. It's just they are not the one. It's better than trying to get them back again. We will sooner or later move on so it's better we make it sooner
December 8th, 2017 6:54am
I believe that it doesn't matter how many problems y'all have or how many fights y'all get or how many times y'all broke up I believe that if the love between both of y'all is still strong and it doesn't matter anything else if both of y'all are willing to settle down and out effort on it to go thru everything together then yeah is still worth it is still worth the try and worth the effort
December 9th, 2017 7:41pm
I am in my new path...I will do what i love to is my life..i appreciate her... but we should concern about our well being...still I always respect and l9ve her... sheis so beautifull..fjkddfjjjkkf fsuok guoidsa fsawtuijnbkll jjojdsgjkk ghjhffbmcxsdhjsjstkddkshfsjtsktsjstsktsktss
December 13th, 2017 4:23am
I dont think you should waste to much time on it just let it go and let things work there way out but you must keep moving forward
December 21st, 2017 10:24pm
If they don't want to be with you, it is often best to just let them go. Things happen for a reason even if they aren't going to go the way you want them too. You might find letting them go is best for you both, since it isn't fair to be in a relationship if you aren't happy. Consider their feelings as well as yours. Holding on too long might end up hurting you both simultaneously.
December 22nd, 2017 5:24pm
Yes if you truly believe in something, you shouldn’t give up. However, listen to your heart and focus on your happiness. If it’s ultimately going to lead to unhappiness, maybe you should let the relationship go.
January 4th, 2018 9:21pm
Nah it really isnt if its happened several times do not bother ! You are better than that love yourself
January 13th, 2018 1:14am
Maybe. It depends the quality of the relationship.If it is a abusive, stressful relationship that brings negative feelings , I guess no.
January 31st, 2018 5:28am
To be honest, I think not unless you can identify the problem and really change it. If you have broken up multiple times, there is some kind of issue that is getting in the way of the relationship.
February 1st, 2018 10:48pm
Personally, no. No one should feel they need to grovel to get someone back that doesnt care back....