My boyfriend told me he hooked up with someone else when we were on a break.

Wow that is tough. Sometimes honesty or coming clean helps the offender to feel better but causes a lot of insecurity for the other person. Tell me more about what you are feeling.

I once had a boyfriend hook up with someone when we were on a break too. It is hard to hear when someone you care about does something that was unexpected. Your boyfriend told you what happened during this break, do think that means more than if you found out he hid that information from you?

Then he's isn't meant for you dear. The person who's so desperate to do something like that isn't worth bothering about. I respect your feelings for him, but do think about this once.

If he had guts to tell you that he hooked up someone else when you were away you should be strong enough to give up on him because you need to be with someone who loves you more even in your absence. So go girl,search for the right guy. Cheers! :)

It is really good that he was honest with you even though he didn't do anything good. Talk with him and clear things up. I'm not picking sides, but please remember we are human and we make mistakes

That's a tough one. Officially, if both parties were on a break, it indicates a temporary lack of commitment. However, relationships are sticky and just because both of you were on a break does not mean that your emotions were on a break as well. In other words, I can only imagine how hurt and conflicted you must have felt upon discovering that he hooked up with someone else during this time period. Personally, I would have a lot of reservations of returning to the relationship because I would think that he doesn't miss me that much if he could hook up with some other girl like that. Even though I understand that rebounds can happen, I would still think the action to be immature and badly timed. Nevertheless, a lot of relationship decisions are based on feelings. So if you still feel like it's worth it to pursue this relationship, you should do it. Basically, do what feels right to you.

I know how you feel. My gf did the same. You deserve someone who respects you in or out of relationship.

There is a very thin line to this situation, technically u guys were on a break. Most importantly when u guys were on a break were u guys sure that u guys will get back together, that the break was just a time being thing. If yes then why would he hook up with someone.

At the end of the day, you were on a break so you cannot hold him to anything, however, the fact that he did has every right to affect how you now feel about him. If you felt that you could not hook up with someone else on the break suggests that you two may think about the relationship differently. Address it with him if need be so you can find out why he did.

In my personal experience once being unfaithful happens on either side of the relationship, things are never the same no matter how hard you try to forgive. Trust is something that once broken, its incredibly hard to get back. It took me a while to learn to respect myself and what I deserve and leave people on the past that have broken my trust. My trust was broken time after time, and eventually enough it's enough. When it happens once it usually happens again, save yourself the hurt and respect yourself and know you deserve someone who wouldn't do something like that in the first place. And later down the road when you find that person, you'll be grateful you waited for them to treat you how you deserve to be treated!

Do not stay with him. He is at fault. Never go back to a cheater because they will cheat again. You deserve better and are a beautiful person who deserves a caring and loyal person.

Well...at least he is honest with you. If he loved her more than you he wouldn't talked to you about this.

As objectively as you can, decide where you want to "draw your line in the sand" for any romantic relationship. Then, ask yourself if he has "crossed the line."

Although people do make mistake, cheating is not okay under any circumstances. Leaving someone is a hard thing to do, but it would be better for yourself in the long run. never settle for less.

Of you were on a break, then that's completely okay. It may hurt... a lot... to think about. But you have to remember that you were on a break and therefore not dating at that point.

I'm sorry to hear that. You shouldn't continue a relationship with someone who did that. In my opinion someone doing that just proves that they didn't like you as much as they claimed. I mean you being on a break must of been cause you had problems. Him doing that to you just proves why he isn't right for you.

I can see both sides. He thought that you were in a break and were probably over. I can also see that you still wanted to be together and felt replaced. I understand. I would talk to him about it! There's no harm in trying!

My person opinion: A break doesnt mean it's the end of a relationship. Its giving space to each other but that doesn't give you the right of dating/hookig up with someone else. My boyfriend and I took a break as well and remained in touch but we didnt date/hooked up with anyone. I dont think that taking a break means that you can date/hook up with someone else. But then again it's my opinion you can have your own as well! I hope you're okay now

When you are on a break you are free. Of course, normally it is expected to take some time alone to realize about your real feelings. Meeting other people or having other sexual partners during a brake is not always the best or healthiest way to solve problems during a brake. But you can’t blame him for that. Just take this as a fact, extra information about him which may help you taking the proper decision wether he is or he is not the person you want to share projects with.

Well, is he guilty? but still you should think is he the one for you? is he deserves you? because if he was sincere with you.. he wouldn't have done this.. and if he did that when you guys were on break.. then he could do again that thing behind your back.. think about yourself. #goodluck.

Unless you both agreed to rules during your break that prohibited sexual activity with someone else then technically you're both free to do what you want. Take a break for a relationship is like a mini-break up. Breaks rarely provide anything beneficial. If you're going through a rough time it's more important to face the issue(s) head on and work together to solve them, rather than distance yourself from each other. This is why I usually don't recommend 'breaks' during a relationship.

You deserve so much better. It's difficult to hear, but if someone was stupid enough to walk away from you, you have to be smart enough to let them go. Even if you love and care deeply for this person, you deserve and should want to be with someone who will be loyal to you, and who will appreciate you. Never settle for what you don't deserve.

You should ask him if he still talks to her and if you have any suspicion that it was more than just a one night stand you should confront him

If it does bother you, then talk to him about it, if doesn't then just let it go. Sometimes when we were on a break, we tend to try and spend some times with otgers company, fr there we are able to learn things and able to missed the things we used to have. It can be thats the reason why he hooked up.

I can't imagine what that must have felt like hearing it. Cheating on someone is really one of the worst pain one can inflict upon someone else. "On break" can mean different things to people, when deciding on going separate ways for a while, I imagine it would be nice to make clear what you plan on getting out of the break and what things might or might not be okay during the time away. You are, however, allowed and are valid to feel the way you do - whether it be upset, angry or any other emotion. Communicate how you feel and I hope that you can take the steps you need to take in order to feel okay ❤️

First of all appreciate him for his honesty. Not everyone does that. Then it's your turn to be honest. Tell him how you feel about hearing it. Your anger or disappointment or sadness, make him understand how you feel. Ask him how he feels about it and wether he will repeat it or not. Reassure him about how you are going to take it and move on with life.

I would say maybe move on. If he really loved you, you have to question if he'd do anything to risk your relationship whilst on a break.

That is awful to hear. For many, breaks can mean different things, e.g we are still together but we are having space a part, or we are having a short break up. Perhaps this wasn't clear for your boyfriend? Talk to him, see what he thought a break meant. Did the hook up mean something to him? Why did he do it? Get more information for you to be able to make an informed decision on your relationship

It sounds like you feel a little betrayed and the situation can feel quite painful. Often times when people go on breaks we might hope that they don’t really move on to someone else or mess around, and perhaps stay loyal to us instead even if we are taking a little time apart. Do you think you could personally forgive him and maybe between the two work it out? Or does it feel like deep down it kind of hurt you a little too much to keep continuing the relationship. Take time to think about what you might want to do, perhaps talking to him and being honest about your feelings and seeing how he responds. Even though he didn’t try to hide it and told you the truth it doesn’t mean it’s any easier to receive the news, it can still be quite difficult to process. But just remember that you are worthy and have a little time for self-love, don’t let his actions make you feel any less valuable, take a little me time and see what you feel is the right thing to do next. Take it easy, sending you warm hugs!

It sounds like this really hurt you to know, and while he was right to be honest with you, it might be a good idea to re-evaluate your relationship. Most importantly, it's ok if this is a deal breaker for you. He can be great and amazing as a person, but it sounds like you guys just may not be working out, be it due to communication issues, personal baggage, or life circumstances. And while some couples can come out of a break and make things work with time and dedication, sometimes that doesn't happen, it's ok to walk away if that is what you need.