Spying on ex's social media - since my breakup I can't stop from monitoring. Is that okay?

Everybody gets a bit curious. Have they changed their status? Have they deleted the pictures they have with me? It's completely normal. When I broke up with my boyfriend, I was spying on his accounts for about 3 days, but then I just let it go. It'll be a process, but letting go of spying will also help you let go him.

First off, this isn't healthy even as a coping mechanism, but if you feel as if you can't change it at all, then at least try to browse healthily. Search for their happiness and be happy for them if they're happy!

i think prying on what your ex could be doing by browsing her social media pages could easily turn into obsession, and you may find yourself consumed, anxious and even paranoid; thinking of all the possibilites of where she is, what she's doing and who she could be talking to. i don't know if it's a question of it being okay or not, but more if you think it's a healthy for you to be doing, and what you could be doing instead.

In this day and age it is almost like an addiction to stalk every single thing that another human being does. When you date someone you are quite used to seeing their every move. An "internet footprint". However when things go south what do you do? Unfriend? Unfollow? Block? Probably all of these for our own sanity. At some point you goota stop. You dont need to know who he's going to the movies with. And you dont need to know who she parties with. Past is better left in the past and this habit has to be curbed like ripping off a bandage. If hes blocked force yourself to keep the person blocked

Breaking the emotional link with your ex can be hard and spying his or her profiles on social media it's a way of keeping this link alive. The good news is that the sooner you broke this kind of links, the faster you will heal your wounds. You have the power to decide your recovery speed ;)

it's not okay to be obsessed which is basically what you are. you should try to move on because that's what is best for you.

It's normal for me because you still have feelings but be sure that you will stop doing that eventually and start to let go of things that can't stay.

Yes that is okay, it is normal. Everyone probably does that because you are use to knowing what they are doing all the time. You will quit over time.

no that is not an okay thing to do, you have to let go and realize that you have to let go and let things be, and spying on people is not a good thing.

Its really not ok not to mention an invasion of privacy that may or may not be against a law. You should put yourself in their shoes and ask yourself if you would want to be treated that way and how you would feel if someone did that to you.

Typically its not a healthy habit to continue digging into someone else's life. Feelings of depression can quickly set in when you see that they have moved on.

spying on ex's social does not affect any one else just you make you truly Hurted it will make u tierd psychologically and physically, such as that opens up old wounds again, this will make you forget to make yourself better and stronger, it will make you always live in remembrance of past .. and u Deserve to be Happy and cheerful person , dont lose the hope :)

It's pretty normal, a bad habit most people tend to have, you miss them and are focused on what might be going on in their life. But it's important to remember that you have to eventually move on, as they have.

I think it is . But to be honest you must still love your ex. Do not feel guality about that it will pass.

I understand your situation. It is perfectly normal. You just have to give yourself some time. And eventually you’ll move on.

No its not. Then whats the point of breakup. You had a breakup because what you wanted is peace. But by doing so you are simply worring about it. And by doing so you will only lead to an unpeacefull mind.

If you keep picking at the wound, it will never heal. It might be hard, but it will save you so much pain if you stop focusing on what your ex is doing, and focus on you. Put yourself first!

Yes, it's okay to check up on their social media every once in awhile to see what they're up too. A lot of people do it!

How does it make you feel? How would you feel if someone did the same thing to you, assuming you didn't have any feelings anymore?

It's normal that we check out how our ex is doing from time to time just because this is a person who we once deeply cared about, but if this effects your everyday life, it's best to find someone to talk with about this.

you should not do it because what he does is none of your busness i did it once and i got pummeled k

It is okay. It is natural. But if you want to move on, you should control yourself. Its best if you stop it or block him and get a better life.

No, it is not okay but it is normal if you steal feel for him but, it might not help you from moving on

That is not OK, because seeing it and comparing your life to theirs will only increase the pain that you feel when they move on. I would suggest blocking them, or removing yourself from facebook for a while so you do not feel the temptation. A goo;d way to feel better is to distract yourself with friends and hobbies!

It's going to make it a lot harder for you to move on from the relationship. It would be good for you to take a break from social media for a while and stop checking up on them.

To answer your question "is that okay" is a difficult one, as it depends on what your reference point of what 'okay' actually entails. What would be a more productive question could be something along the lines of "is this conducive to me being able to heal from this break up", or "do I feel this is a positive action in my life to be taking, or does it feel like a negative action which I am taking." When we use the binary terms of 'is something ok' it all depends on what you define 'ok' to be, and what you are comparing it to. If you transpose the word 'ok' to 'healthy', and ask yourself if it feels healthy, see what answer you come up with. If you swap it with the word 'satisfying', see what answer you then come up with, then try the word 'productive'. This is a good exercise to gain a perspective on behaviours which we can find relieving, however may be somewhat maladaptive in the long run.

Its common to cope with a breakup this way- Its hard going through breakups when you really cared about the person you were with.

As long as the other person does not experience discomfort in any way from you checking on his or her social media, I would not think too bad of it. You clearly are not over said person and need more time. However, to get over a person quicker it is most likely better to not remind yourself of that person too often.

if you want to move on. is not okay then because its like you touch the wound again and again. and then you cant forget him. but if you think both of you can get back together and you dont want to move on its absolutely okay

As long as you aren't doing anything illegal, it's okay.