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What can I talk about with my boyfriend?

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Last Updated: 07/23/2019 at 11:50pm
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Top Rated Answers
brightElementary
October 25th, 2015 2:12pm
Things you both are passionate about, like the same anime show or same musician or same hobby. Anything that makes you both feel comfortable. Conversations that end in a cuddle ;)
Braveheart66
October 25th, 2015 7:31pm
if he is your boyfriend, you can talk to him about anything under the sun :) talk to him about what he likes about what you like, your dreams aspirations
mbvsicairos
October 28th, 2015 4:25am
You can talk about whatever you feel like talking :), communication it is something important, and any topic would be full of interest between you two!
TiredWithJoy
October 28th, 2015 4:26pm
Music, Sports, Family, Friends, Jokes, Birthdays. Make him feel heard, support his feelings without judging.
aalrightyy
October 29th, 2015 4:26am
Talk about your favorite things. Talk about the two of you and what makes you two happy with each other!
Anonymous
October 29th, 2015 9:39am
talk casually, more than the mainstream "baby chats", be casual that sometimes is more interesting and different talk about his interests, your interests random things random issues.
Jessica042314
October 29th, 2015 3:38pm
If your close enough try talking about your feelings. Tell things about you that he may not know. Make jokes, laugh around
lxrre
October 30th, 2015 4:37pm
Your day, sports, things you wanna do, plans for the future, his interests, what makes him feel alive, how are his parents
Anonymous
October 30th, 2015 6:50pm
The bounds of conversation topics are specific to the relationship context. Ideally, the boundaries should be wider than a close friend but narrower than family.
HakunaMatata96
November 1st, 2015 2:50am
You need to find common ground. Find out what he likes to do, relate it to stuff that you like to do. Ask open questions that you will be able to have a discussion about to allow the conversation to flow. Maybe avoid questions that can be answered with a simple "yes" or "no". For example you should ask "what do you like to do in your spare time?" rather than asking a specific like "Do you like going to the cinema".
Anonymous
November 1st, 2015 2:53am
Absolutely anything and everything. Your boyfriend should be someone you completely trust. I don't think I could ever be with someone I had to hide feelings or thing from. I like it when my boyfriend is also my best friend.
lovelyEnergy89
November 4th, 2015 3:52am
A boyfriend at the best stage is someone so you should be able to talk with about anything, it's sometimes tempting to hide the more "crazy" or "weird" parts of you because you fear your boyfriend won't accept them. But a boyfriend is only right for you if they can accept all of you and if it's love he'll want to explore every bit of your thoughts and ideas
Anonymous
November 5th, 2015 2:57am
Talk about things you guys like. what you guys like to do, what you guys like to eat, favourite kind of music
BookLovingKitten
November 5th, 2015 7:51am
You should not have to limit who you are around them and be able to talk about anything. If you have to limit yourself then they are not the person for you. Just not your ex-boyfriends as that could bring up feelings of jealously, inadequacy and resentment in your boyfriend. Unless your ex hurt you and if may affect your relationship, then your boyfriend has to know so that he can support you.
paul1982
November 5th, 2015 5:07pm
This can depend on a lot of factors. Age, ethnicity, religion and the amount of time and type of relationship are all influencing factors but, in the beginning if you talk about what you have in common and what brought you together you shouldn't go far wrong?
Anonymous
November 6th, 2015 11:00am
You could talk about things you both enjoy doin, your life, your thoughts or about music you two both like.
gaurdianangel36
November 7th, 2015 8:17am
Anything. Age and how long you have known him may be a factor. Also it would depend on what you have in mind. Anything you dont want repeated might be saved until trust has been developed and always make it known if you want something kept private. At times something might be repeated because they thought it was ok or not a big deal...it might be to you and if so its better to voice that
Anonymous
November 8th, 2015 4:35am
Well, I'd think that if he's your boyfriend, you've already taken the time to get to know him for who he is. It's never a good idea to get with someone and not really know them, unless you're willing to go through the awkward moments of getting to know someone. You can talk about anything honestly. Be yourself.
Anonymous
November 8th, 2015 6:48pm
Oh my goodness there's so much you can talk about! Whilst every relationship is different, communication is so important and you should be able to discuss anything with them! Tell him about your day. Tell him about the funny old man you saw on the bus who reminded you of your Granddad or how in class you read a poem that made you think differently about something. Tell him about a song your mother used to sing to you when you were younger or about a film that you want to watch with him. Talk to him about his plans for the day or for his life. Talk to him about all the things you two are going to do together in the future. Talk about all the fun you're going to have.
Alwayshereforyou11
November 8th, 2015 7:37pm
You can talk about you interests, hobbies , dreams , places that you wanna go to , what you love about each other , and also the names of your children .
sweetlinda22
November 11th, 2015 12:35am
you can talk about the best part of your day or the worst part. you can talk about plans you both have for the day or week. be yourself and express your thoughts as random as they come, from what you ate at lunch that you can't stop thinking about, what profession you always thought you'd end up in, to how each your butt is (lol) . Chances are they want to know what goes through your mind, and how open they can be with you in return.
musicalDew34
November 11th, 2015 1:28pm
Positive things... tell him how much u love him.. and how u never wana loose him so that he may tell u these things in return as well.
CoolVerse
November 13th, 2015 2:49pm
You can always talk a lot of things under the sun. Topics like hobbies and dislikes that make you bring closer together and learn from each other. Sometimes in a relationship we must know our partner.
kxylie
November 15th, 2015 4:55am
Get to know them better. Ask them anything you would like to learn about them. They're favorite sports, foods. And if you guys have anything in common you can talk about that
chamomilewizard
November 15th, 2015 7:58pm
You should be able to discuss just about anything with your boyfriend, unless it is offensive to him or another. You CAN talk about your problems with your boyfriend! You should be able to do so without him judging you.
ProudBohemian
November 15th, 2015 8:28pm
If you don't know him well you can ask what's his favorite movie or things like that. Show that you are.interested in knowing him
Anonymous
November 17th, 2015 4:16am
I suggest you test the waters and try and find out his interests or what he's okay with, There isn't a manual for this but I'm sure he'll be happy to discuss with you
bratgurl14
November 18th, 2015 1:28pm
you can talk to your boyfriend about what ever you want to no matter what it is
Anonymous
November 20th, 2015 5:32pm
about llamas or any crazy things. you don't have to be deep but just be fun and outgoing. talk about how much you love him. how much kids annoy you. how much you like his new sneakers
Makarios
November 21st, 2015 6:16pm
Gooday, What do you like to talk about the most? What interests you? What don't you like talking about What sorts of conversation brings joy or sad feelingstory to you generally