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What's the best way to stop caring about someone who doesn't care about you ?

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Last Updated: 05/17/2022 at 3:45pm
What's the best way to stop caring about someone who doesn't care about you ?
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Top Rated Answers
Anonymous
April 6th, 2016 2:27pm
Keep yourself busy with other stuff. Love yourself first. Be a little bit selfish. Do the act of kindness for others.
Shailaa21
June 8th, 2016 4:01pm
Surround yourself with the people that love and care about you the most. People that bring positivity into your life.
Anonymous
April 4th, 2015 3:14am
move on... remember someone who really cares for you and remember some fun stuff you did with person who really care
Anonymous
September 7th, 2015 10:48pm
By discovering yourself, when you discover your talents, hidden areas of your personality u have time to focus on you and thats how you realize you are worth more than that person thats makes you stop caring for them and start taking care of yourself
kendrita2
December 11th, 2015 5:30am
The best way to stop caring about someone who is your world is to change your world. Find things that blow your mind away. For me, that's yoga. For you. it could be anything that keeps you busy until you can find yourself again.
clh2os
December 17th, 2015 6:47am
Sometimes we cannot stop caring. But, if you care, you can learn to accept and respect that individual's emotions. It may seem difficult at first, but often we have to let those who we care about go and find their own way.
paul1982
December 27th, 2015 6:49pm
The best way to do this is to realise from the start there is going to be no instant fix. Chances are you will always care about this person but, in time, the intensity and type of caring may change. Acceptance of a change of situation is the key, although it does take time.
musicalDew34
January 7th, 2016 7:24pm
Simply ignore them...forget about them..make some new friends and replace them and start caring for your self
Anonymous
March 24th, 2016 9:54pm
It is hard to stop caring for someone but it is good to distract yourself with other activities or events. You could also find someone who shares a mutual care for you so you get the same treatment in return
Anonymous
March 26th, 2016 6:47am
Start to care about yourself and you will see that your value is worth more than that. Easier said than done, but eventually you will have to think about yourself.
delicateHorizon73
June 8th, 2016 6:55am
Find other people who you care about and care about you. Someday it'll pass but it's still okay to care for someone.
Anonymous
December 16th, 2015 11:05pm
If someone doesn't care about you, you can still care about yourself! Chances are, you have probably been ignoring your own needs while trying to win someone else's attention. So try shifting that attention to yourself. Treat yourself to a meal, buy yourself something nice, talk to someone who does care about you.
Zoey24601
December 30th, 2015 9:18am
Think of the energy that it takes to care about that person as if it were a physical substance. Remember that you are wasting energy on someone who doesn't deserve it; energy that you could be using for someone else. Why give that energy to someone else that will return it? Why not use it for yourself? Some people aren't worth it, so please don't waste your time or energy on them.
Anonymous
August 19th, 2018 11:00am
To start caring about yourself first. Take good care of yourself and you won’t be dependent on anyone else to meet your needs. Living with someone you don’t trust to help you must be very stressful and depressing. We can only change how we feel and think. Trying to make someone do something to help you become stronger and listen and work with you when they have no desire to do so, is only going to make you feel worse again. Be strong and depend and believe in yourself. with time and practice you’ll be closer to fulfilling your dreams you want and deserve. Never give up!
warmheartedJet3319
January 31st, 2019 11:13pm
I really wish I had the answer but I am struggling with the same thing. I guess you just have to move on because there are better people out there. You don’t deserve that nobody does. My best answer is that if he/she doesn’t see how great of a person you and he/she isn’t the right person for you. It might hurt and you might be saying to yourself how do I make he/she like me but you shouldn’t say any of that. You have to move on and find things that make you happy and most importantly spend time with you best friend.
ButtercupBoo
September 15th, 2020 5:34pm
I have did that so i will answer this from my experience. It's not easy. It's painful. It takes quite an amount of time, depending on the person you are. It took me a while but what helped me is self-love. No matter what you go through because of other people mistreating you or hurting you, if you love yourself enough, you heal quicker. I was sad and mad because that person had given up on me, and it took me a while to realise that i had given up on me too. Giving yourself up is the worst thing you can do. Be there for you. Love you. Support you. And never blame you for things others do to you. ❤️
Sunisshiningandsoareyou
November 17th, 2020 8:08pm
Breakups can be hard and a starting step In moving on is to accept the fallout and stop caring for the person, which is also the most difficult part considering the memories ,happy moments, the habit of that person in your life and the attachment with them. I guess, the person about whom you want to stop caring has already given you enough reasons as to why you should, considering you're thinking about it . So keeping In mind those reasons, the way they treat you like they are unaffected by you, and how you would agree that you will do so much better emotionally once you stop caring about every little action or word of theirs, slowly distancing from them ,not just via talking or meeting but also distancing emotionally, reminding yourself to stay strong and take all the time to process any emotions and do what's best for you . It's so very okay to keep yourself first, because no one else will , and You really gotta do you! ❤
EmpatheticEar
January 15th, 2015 4:14pm
Remind yourself that they are not worth your time. Focus your attention on and spend time with the people who do care about you.
perfectdisasterxx
May 7th, 2015 10:04pm
Try to avoid seeing or talking to them if it's possible, block their number/social media and take up new hobbies to distract yourself
gracefulUnicorns50
July 6th, 2015 7:19am
The best way is to try to forget about the person completely and yes. Its not easy try to do things that will take your mind off of things like excersizing or finding someone who does.
karlie12
November 2nd, 2015 9:28pm
Understand your self worth and that you deserve someone to care for you in the same way you do for them!
calmPicture51
November 9th, 2015 4:08pm
forget him by removing any thing makes you remeber him . like deleting his phone number . and make new friends .
peacefulNutella97
December 9th, 2015 3:19am
The best way to stop caring about someone is to stop thinking about them and keeping them in your life. This is easier to do if you block them on any social media you can and stop trying to stay in contact with them. If this person is someone that you still have to see daily, the process to stop caring can take a lot longer. Focus your time and energy on a new hobby of some sort, and use that as an outlet. If you devout your time to something new and keep busy, you will not have a lot of extra time to continue to think about the person who you don't want to care about.
AmazingOutcast
December 9th, 2015 7:21pm
Care about yourself,and put yourself first insted of others who wont
Anonymous
December 9th, 2015 8:23pm
Find a person that you know that they care about you , you will forget about that other ignorant person, ignore them, don't talk to them and don't think about them, meet new people too
Imhereforyou1005
December 11th, 2015 6:52am
Once you care about someone so much, it doesn't really ever go away (in my opinion), though it's your choice if you still want to or not. You just have to accept that they have moved on and so you have to move on for theirs and your sake. Everything happens for a reason :)
leejanelle
December 12th, 2015 8:22am
Unfortunately, we all have those people in our lives who we feel such stong emotions for but the feelings are not mutual. The best and most healthy way to get these feelings to go away is to not think about them or that person. That may come as a struggle especially if you have done everything with that person. The best thing I can suggest is to surround yourself with people who will help you distract yourself from that person. And soon, that will come as a natural.
Anonymous
December 13th, 2015 1:17am
Just stop all contact with them and don't look at them, message them, or anything. Then after a while of not talking to them you will start to move on and not care anymore
Anonymous
December 16th, 2015 7:55pm
Try to concentrate your mind and time on somebody/ something else or you could try to start a new hobby or even join a new class ( language, art , music)
Sexxy15
December 16th, 2015 9:52pm
The best thing to do is lean on your friends cause they truly care for you.