Why do I always think about him or her?

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Last Updated: 07/20/2019 at 7:53pm
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November 25th, 2018 3:54am
Well, I am assuming they were a large part of your life at one point. A large part of your heart. They being someone you cared for makes them someone hard to forget. You think about them because you cared for them. You probably still care for them, which is not a bad thing at all. But by judging the amount you cared for them, I feel its safe to assume they cared for you. Saying that, I am sure they wouldn't want you here worried and thinking of them in a way that makes you sad. It is okay to think about them, any person that has a person close to them does. But make sure when you think of them you think of them as a person who cares for you and wants your smiling.
April 11th, 2019 5:26am
People who you once shared moments and memories with may be hard to stop thinking about, it was a different time in your life and you probably wish things could be different, but sometimes you have to accept that they aren’t and this is where you are. Life gets so much brighter when you accept the fact that nothing and nobody is permanent in your life and on the end , you can only make yourself happy. But i totally understand where you are coming from, it can be tough, but i believe you will push through and eventually no longer think about the person, seeking closure may also be a good thing to try out if you haven’t already, it can be especially difficult trying to forget something or someone while there are still open wounds.
June 8th, 2019 4:25pm
You always think about him/her because they are the person that makes you feel warm and safe. They are the one you want to spend time with, no matter how you feel. They are always on your mind because they make you feel wanted and understood. They get you, regardless of how weird or broken you may be inside. Despite having seen you at your weakest and your most vulnerable, they still stay by your side. They value your company as much as you value theirs. So of course you will think of them. How else would it be anyway?
July 5th, 2019 9:49pm
You may feel disconnected from yourself. Do as many things that make you happy as possible to try and find inner stability. I cannot tell you exactly what to do but I think you finding your own path will only add to the benefits of self observation. Remember that you are important on your own and don't need validation from anyone. You often think of this person and I think it is important to evaluate which occasions specifically make you think of them and try to find your own coping mechanisms from there onwards. I hope I've helped in some way.
July 20th, 2019 7:53pm
Because these people literally become a part of you. You pick up on their habits and quirks, and you adopt them. That could be slang, unconscious hand motions, certain methodical ways of doing things, etc. Now, whenever you catch yourself biting your nails (something you never did until you saw him do it), you remember where you learned it. We mirror the people we like, and then when they’re not they’re to show us what to do anymore, we’re lost. Our character was once defined by exactly what they did. So they’re always on our subconscious, whether we register it or not.