Skip to main content Skip to bottom nav

Why do I always think about him or her?

190 Answers
Last Updated: 12/09/2021 at 5:47am
1 Tip to Feel Better
United States
Moderated by

Jennifer Geib, LCSWR

Clinical Social Work/Therapist

1:1 chats (up to 5 days/week). - My therapy is non-judgmental and focuses on emotions and motivation to accomplish your goals or overcome your struggles.

Top Rated Answers
May 25th, 2016 10:07pm
There's a theory that says "When you think about someone a lot and you can't get them off of your mind, and you can't even fall asleep because they're always on your mind, It's because they could be thinking about you too" Which means, that it could be the start of something beautiful :)
April 21st, 2016 5:05pm
He or she may have been a significant part of your life. Letting go of someone you once loved and shared many valuable memories with is extremely difficult. Since he or she is not by your side anymore, you resort to latching onto memories that fill that empty spot. Best way to stop thinking about him or her is fill that empty spot with someone or something else you love.
April 20th, 2016 9:05am
It happens when you're in love. You simply can't get that person out of your head. Believe me, I've been through it too.
April 6th, 2016 11:29am
Because you dont have anything else to do. Keep yourself busy and everything will be OK. Thinking doesnt change anything, You will end up hurting yourself.
April 16th, 2016 9:23pm
maybe because you have fallen in love with him or her and so you think about them all the time but you cant ask them because your too scared
April 20th, 2016 6:22pm
Because you to shared moments together and laughs that no matter what they will never be erased. You too shared a friendship or relationship that no one understands but you because you felt it. You know it was real and the things you to shared together. That will never change.
July 11th, 2017 8:58pm
Well, that is a good question. I'm actually in the same position right now, and it's probably because you do have some kind of feelings towards this person, some hopes and maybe you imagine them as being a part of your life in the long run.
June 15th, 2016 10:07pm
Because sometimes people leave imprints on your heart, your soul and your mind. They are meant to stay with us forever. We are molded by all of our experiences and interactions, whether they are good or bad!
July 7th, 2016 7:05am
Whenever I would find myself thinking about this one guy, it was because I couldnt get the image of him out of my head or the thought of us or the potential of us. Literally, you might be thinking about him because you have feelings for him or maybe you want to talk to him. Or maybe hes just that great.
August 26th, 2018 11:29am
moving on is a slow process , you can not fast forward it. It will take time to fully understand for your heart that the person is gone, who gave you so much love at a point is no more part of your life. Don't fight the process it will only make it worse. understand it. just give some time. Thinking about that person doesn't always mean that you are missing that person. sometimes it means that you are feeling the emotion. that love and security that person gave you. you just want to feel those things again.
May 29th, 2016 8:04pm
Probably because you like them! It could ever be as friends, or it could be romantic attraction. It depends on the way you think about them. Ask yourself, would you like to go on a date and kiss this person?
June 19th, 2016 6:31pm
Because you care about them and love them. They become the centre of your universe and everything about them makes you smile. Their eyes, their hair, their voice, their silly faces. Every word they say to you becomes important and will leave you smiling for hours. Once you find them, losing them is the hardest thing to experience
April 2nd, 2016 4:19am
You always think about this person because you are somehow attracted to him/her. The person is special, like no other you have met
April 7th, 2016 6:45pm
Well first of all, why do you think him or her is always on your mind? Think about it and think about how this is going to go for you. Think for yourself, whether or not this is HEALTHY for you. Then start doing things you love and interested in. In addition, you'll be happier in the long-term and him or her might be more interested in you.
April 3rd, 2018 1:21pm
Hey! It's very natural to miss a person you were once related to. You have spend endless, priceless moments with your partner which can't even be expressed. Maybe you are not with him now but once he/she was crucial part of your life. Don't feel bad or stressed out if you think about your ex. Time is the best medicine it heals everything. With time you will not think about him/her when you will get someone more loving and more caring. And yeah every person holds a place in our lives which can't be taken by someone else.
July 15th, 2020 1:25pm
I remember those days when I was in love with my fiancee 10 years back. I met him in school and it was crush at first sight for me which eventually turned into love with each passing year. Even though we weren't that close 10 years back, I used to think about him every single day. Receiving a text from him used to light up my mood with a bright smile on my face. I used to indulge myself in some work so as to avoid thinking about him but used to end up thinking about him the minute I was done working. The reason why we think about a particular person is that they have impressed us in many ways. When we are impressed with someone's personality, we tend to like everything about them. With constant thoughts, we automatically get attracted to them. If the attraction is just an infatuation, it fades away with time & we stop thinking about them or it might also get transferred from one person to another so we start thinking about that other person. If it is love, it lasts longer than you could have ever imagined & you find yourself thinking about them continuously for many years, no matter what your relationship status with them might be. You find yourself doing things for them which you could never have ever imagined doing in your wildest dreams for someone. I remember doing things for my guy which I never had ever done for myself. If your emotions for them are strong and only developing more with each passing year? Its intensity alone can tell you that you are very much in love with them and it is not an infatuation. Although you will know as to why you think about them journaling about your feelings/emotions might also help you understand better. For eg: Writing about all their trait which that makes you think about him/her is a great way to acknowledge what you admire in them the most. You might also want to write about all those feelings that you can associate with them whenever they cross your mind. Wish you the best!
June 17th, 2016 9:40pm
Probably because they mean something to you that you haven't resolved or feel complete with. What is it about that person that you think of. Once you resolve that, you're thoughts will move on.
August 21st, 2016 1:57pm
Perhaps you need closure, be it a word you never got to say or something you never got to do. Whatever it is, i suggest you go ahead and do it, for the sake of nothing but your own comfort.
October 5th, 2016 6:43am
You feel a connection with this person, or you want something to happen with you and this person, you might want to become close to this person
March 15th, 2017 7:49pm
Getting over/ past someone can be hard. Whether it's a breakup or that person had left your life just know that there are so many other people that are there for you.
March 24th, 2017 6:48pm
You think about it because somewhere you want yourself to be accustomed with the feeling that you had when he was here. It means that you are unable to accept the present. Once you have accepted it, it will go away. You can also try to divert yourself into hobbies so that your mind will be preoccupied.
March 9th, 2018 5:36am
because you have a system of desire: you want someone to empathize, sympathize with you, you want to be accepted, you want everything you've done get accepted, confirmed and affirmed. you want someone to communicate. you want to talk, to confess. and most of all, you want to satisfy your sexual need. if you don't want these, then you won't want that person,
June 15th, 2016 12:40am
Because they left mark that has made you think differently in good or bad sense but still makes you stronger minded.
July 17th, 2016 9:31pm
because that person is an example of where you lost your happiness, and where you're not going to find it again. Nothing that took away your happiness is ever going to give it back without consequences
July 24th, 2016 2:04pm
You love him/her and you most likely want her more than anything/anyone in the world. But sometimes, it's best to let go, and that's for you to decide.
August 10th, 2016 7:35pm
This is difficult and not sure whether my reply will be an answer as such but more of an insight. You're thinking about them all the time and you just need to think about why? and the situation surrounding it. Do you have a crush on them? Are they single? Do they already like someone? Have they recently gotten out of a bad relationship? these are things that need to be considered before action. If you know them, form a friendship first, it's the best way in my opinion rather than jumping in.
February 24th, 2017 4:19am
Probably you love her or him. When we like someone, we always think about this person, always wondering how he/she is doing.
February 25th, 2017 7:55pm
you are still there in the past and you use that relationship to avoid focusing on what you really want yes, you can recall good things, good scenes, good memories, what you loved that's investment but if you gravitate around negative or unfulfilling scenes or feelings, then you invest in your future frustration be very careful what you wish for i mean, where you look at (same thing :D) because if you decide to look at good things then it comes natural to avoid all bad things from that moment on and you must avoid looking at bad things to save time and attention for good things, past or future, real or imagined, doesnt matter it's vital for us to see the good, imagined or real investment in future positive
June 15th, 2017 8:39am
Well, clearly that person means/meant a lot to you. You keep thinking about them to register them completely in your brain because that gives you pleasure. Or if you're thinking about them after a bad experience, then you're trying to make sense of what happened...trying to figure out what you missed, or what went wrong on whose part.
December 8th, 2017 11:37pm
Make beautiful, amazing, new plans... :-) they help you to put other things into your mind too! Thinking about people you want into your life is normal, but Albert Einstein used to say that we should tie our lives onto a goal, and not people