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Why do I feel so alone in my relationship?

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Last Updated: 03/05/2022 at 3:29pm
Why do I feel so alone in my relationship?
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September 1st, 2017 6:57pm
Communication, I feel, is the key to nearly every relationship issue. Ask yourself some questions. Firstly, does your loneliness truly stem from your relationship, or are you unhappy with yourself? If you believe your issue is related to your partner: have you clearly, respectfully, and empathetically communicated this need? Avoid the mindset along the lines of 'if they really cared they would ask me what's wrong' or 'they should know how I feel.' This is manipulative and can lead to negative friction or even resentment. No person can read your mind. Try letting your partner know you would like to talk to them. Don't surprise them or demand they respond immediately. Maybe they need time to think or are bust at the moment. Once you have a calm, safe space and plenty of time (preferably when you are both in neutral or positive moods), let your partner know how you feel. Try to use 'I feel' phrases versus point fingers and assigning blame. If your partner is completely unwilling to talk or treats you negatively or with disrespect, you should consider seeking counseling or aid for emotional abuse. Lastly, please remember that no matter how much you love or care for your partner, they will not be able to fill every void within. Consider whether or not maybe you actually need more support elsewhere, such as friends and family.
September 9th, 2017 9:57pm
Probably due to lack of communication. For some reason you are no longer negotiating your differing personal and emotional wants and needs. That is normal. People change over time. Talking and being honest with each other at every stage in the relationship is absolutely paramount.
October 8th, 2017 6:32pm
You feel alone because communication, transparency and trust are missing. You maybe feel alone because your partner is not giving you enough time or maybe you are not sharing your thoughts with him or her. It is a matter of open communication with your partner in order for you to feel secured and despite of challenges you still feel like you are not alone for the battle.
October 14th, 2017 4:07pm
Depends on many reasons. Maybe you don't talk too much to your partner and don't have any excitement in your life as well as in your relationship. Be careful people attract to a happy people so cheer up with your life. Talk to yourself about what is going on with you. It'll help you a lot.
November 13th, 2017 3:24pm
You may feel that you induvidual needs are not personally being met. If that is the case, my suggestion would be to have a conversation with your partner openly,and discuss your feelings. I wish you the best.
December 30th, 2017 6:09pm
Sometimes in a relationship our expectation is that our partner's love will get rid off our own loneliness but you don't feel alone sometimes even though your partner is not with you. What makes us feel lonely is not lack of love or care because you could feel all of these and loneliness at the same time. Sometimes we all feel lonely but to say that it is because of our partner. For example your partner doesn't give time to you enough wouldn't be totally true. To understand why do we feel lonely, we have to find the thoughts that makes us feel that way. The solution is not dreaming about that the perfect love would solve it. But knowing ourselves and finding when we don't feel lonely or when we feel lonely may help us to understand us to find the answer for us.
January 6th, 2018 2:19pm
Sometimes people feel alone in a relationship when they’re the one putting in the most effort. If you feel comfortable try talking to your partner about it.
January 20th, 2018 12:01pm
Maybe because you don't connect to your partner emotionally. It can be because you are the one who is in the relationship.
January 31st, 2018 6:18am
There may be a lack of communication between you and your partner that is making you feel as though you are by yourself.
February 2nd, 2018 10:10pm
Maybe because you are not letting the other side of your relationship know that you are feeling lonly and you need more attention, also keep doing new things with your partner and do it together. You won't feel alone if you keep your relationship cleae to the other side
February 4th, 2018 6:02am
Likely because the effort you put in is not being reciprocated. If you feel you are doing more work, it's time to have a talk with your partner, and an open, honest discussion with yourself. always do what's best for you.
February 7th, 2018 5:38pm
The reasons could be many but the most important reason is the lack of communication and misunderstandings that happen to come in our way of relationship. Sometimes all we need to do is to TALK and TALK!!
February 8th, 2018 3:25pm
it might be because you might not be getting sufficient time with your partner or he\she has not till now reached the level of your expectations.
February 15th, 2018 8:10pm
Loneliness can arise when you feel like you aren't being taken seriously or your concerns are ignored.
February 21st, 2018 8:11am
Think about what determines this loneliness. Did you invest so much energy and love in this relationship, that you now feel depleted and that you don't get enough back? Do you feel that the time you spend together is not enough? Do you feel that you cannot be open and can't discuss some things, that you are not spiritually intimate? There can be many reasons, and each of them need to be discussed openly. There is always space for improvement. Your partner may not even be aware about your feelings, so you need to openly express your expectations. Even if you have some bad past experiences, don't assume that this time it will be the same and your partner will not react to your concerns. Maybe this time it can be a step forward in your relationship. Don't give up!
February 24th, 2018 10:09am
Cause you have not told your partner everything you feel unconfortable with. If theres something in your mind that your struggeling with just tell him. afterwards you ca talk normally again without this unconfortable feeling of being lonely. once you stop hiding you wont be feeling alone.
March 8th, 2018 6:06am
I have found that when you are feeling alone in any relationship you aren't getting what you need out of it. Maybe ask yourself am i giving but not getting anything back?
March 30th, 2018 10:49pm
You may feel so because you think your partner is so busy in his work that he is not giving enough time to spend with you.
April 12th, 2018 3:12pm
It is hard to find someone who truly understands what you're going through,and someone who' ll be willing to make some effort to know you better. But when you find someone like that,he'll appreciate having you around and you will feel loved and won't feel alone.
April 27th, 2018 6:45pm
Communication gap is one of the reason. And be open to your partner.share your happiness worries problem you won't feel alone n if you still feel alone...then the problem is with your partner. He is not into you if he makes you feel that way.
April 29th, 2018 6:19am
It’s very common to feel lonely if you feel emotionally or physically ignored by your partner. If you don’t believe that your needs are being met, and that perhaps your partner doesn’t care anymore, it is extremely easy to feel alone in a relationship. This can be related to feeling unloved and undervalued, and being insecure in the partnership. It can also creep in if you start to believe that your sexual needs aren’t being met. And this in turn, can cause loneliness and create an invisible barrier between partners.
May 2nd, 2018 10:43am
Maybe your not connecting enough with your partner or you need to share some of your activity with him/her so you could spend more time togather
May 5th, 2018 4:11pm
Relationships are very complicated. They can be about more than just two people caring about each other. One of the things I've learned is that communication is very important, in fact, probably the most important key in maintaining a healthy relationship. If you're feeling alone, I recommend telling your partner(s) you're feeling alone. Chances are, it's something you can figure out together. Sometimes we feel alone in relationships because our partner(s) doesn't understand, or know what's going through our minds, which leaves it up to us to make that leap and take that chance with telling them.
May 19th, 2018 8:28am
you expect more than what you are getting. probably he/she are not giving you enough time or care or love as you thought.
May 20th, 2018 2:30am
you are putting in the effort he or she is not making up for. talk to them about it and if it doesn’t work out tell your partner what you think should be done
May 27th, 2018 8:05pm
It could be you are looking for the other person to fulfill a need that only you can fill. We are responsible for how we feel. You have to become comfortable with yourself first. If not, that void will always be there.
June 1st, 2018 6:50am
If you feel alone talk to your partner with it. Sometime I feel alone too cause I feel like the other person don’t care but if you talk to them about it they care don’t worry.
June 14th, 2018 12:24pm
One of the reasons could be lack of communication. You should increase your interactions and conversations with the person with whom you are in love. The more the couple who are in relationship communicate, the better.
June 14th, 2018 6:28pm
Communication is the key in a relationship. Sometimes you can feel alone because you can't talk to your partner about things.
June 21st, 2018 1:09am
Maybe because your partners have been working to much or maybe you are passing through some difficult time which you need more attention than usual