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What does depression feel like?

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What does depression feel like?
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StarrySky1980
March 17th, 2016 5:18pm
Depression isn't just about feeling sad, it's a big mix of emotions to the point where you feel numb inside; you feel like nothing matters and you don't care. No motivation. Nothing.
Anonymous
March 18th, 2016 9:54am
Depression , is a combination of feelings that sometimes is very hard to interpret with words..However , mostly it carries the feelings of sadness-hopelessness-guilt-blue-misery-boredom-tire-irritability-aggravation-some severe cases..disgust as well .
warmheartedGlobe8527
March 19th, 2016 6:31am
It's like being sad but extremely and for a long time and often gives people weird thoughts or/and feelings.
SoialWorkerAllan
March 24th, 2016 2:33am
Depression affects the mind and body and you get into this slump where it becomes serious enough to affect your daily activities
bluewhalesong
November 10th, 2017 4:32am
Depression to me is like taking a soaking wet sponge and wringing it out. That middle point of the sponge are my feelings being twisted back and forth. It is the hardest kick in the stomach without you throwing up. It is wanting something physically painful to happen to take ur mind off the invisible pain. It is getting hit & mangled by a train but not lucky enough to die. Instead, you lay there like twisted wreckage ignored by all & rendered useless but being alive to experience all the broken bones, ribs, & torn flesh but not able to stop the pain. It is a life sentence that never ends. It is a being in an abusive relationship that you cannot leave. It is floating in an ocean all alone, you don't die but your one step from it.
Swiftie777
December 2nd, 2017 7:56pm
I feel afraid all the time. I feel worthless and like I am a burden to my family and everyone. I feel like there is something inside me thats burning inside me that has taken away all of my inner peace. I feel restless all the time. I am extremely fearful off the future. I am constantly second guessing everything in my life. I want to run away and die because it's seems like the easiest option
Anonymous
January 9th, 2018 9:16am
Feels like not having much will to do much and everything appears a chore ...
RedReborn
January 25th, 2018 5:24am
Depression is a weighted blanket the gets heavier the longer you carry it. No matter how hard you try you can not remove it but it can get lighter.
VeRzose91
February 20th, 2018 6:52am
Depression feels like you can't concentrate on other stuffs. Once you tried, you feel like its only you hands and eyes are cooperating. But you mind is somewhere else and your head is a little bit heavy.
Anonymous
February 22nd, 2018 9:30pm
It feels like sliding down into a deep well where all your energy is sapped away by the cold and the dark. You know you are in the well, but you can't get out on your own and are losing the energy to keep trying. No one else can see the well, feel your weariness, or feel the numbing cold but you, so they don't understand why you don't just climb out already, into the sun. They lose patience with you and blame you for falling in, when you did nothing on your own to get there, had been fighting to stay out, but now that you are there, you don't have enough strength left to climb out.
Anonymous
May 3rd, 2018 8:23pm
It feels like no matter how hard you try to think better, act nicer, meditate, sleep well, pray, or any other coping mechanism you use, you still feel down. and even if you feel better for a moment or an hour, it always goes back to the same dismal feeling, and it gets heavier and heavier with the feeling you can never escape now will you ever be good enough or be able to manage it.
Anonymous
May 29th, 2018 2:05am
It feels like your body is a prison and its filled to capacity with an overwhelming amount of sadness and confusion and pain. It may leave you for a day or two, but it will always come back. It feels like no matter how much you cry let it out it is still at the same severity as before. It feels like every day is a nightmare that you can't wake up from. Sometimes the sadness and pain is so overwhelming that I don't eat for a whole day and have chills and shakiness and feel like im about to throw up for the whole day. It is something that can only be understood by living with it, but not something you will ever or should ever be proud of or flaunt and something you would never want someone else to experience.
Karrar
December 22nd, 2019 9:39am
It feels like you can’t really do some sort of stuff you used to do and for the normal people they feel happy or sad depending on their situation and if they see a depressed person they think that these people are trying to cause drama or they are negative or trying to fail and not caring if they are in college or in work, so to the normal people you can’t really blame them because they don’t know the pain you’re dealing with and the thoughts that comes to your mind and that you actually cant stop it in any way ,it feels like the happy part of you that used to enjoy life has ended and died and it feels like a castle with a lot of doors that everytime you’re trying to get out through one of these doors you ended up facing a wall these doors lead to nothing but a walls of bad thoughts and negativity ,and once you be able to break on of them you will be you will finally get out of this huge castle of pain and suffering.
sympatheticPeach9041
January 6th, 2020 5:25am
It feels like you’re trying to tread water and you try to keep your head above the water but every time you realize you can breath you start drowning again. You can’t breath but you hear the muffled voices of life above you, and you’re unable to do anything. Once you are above water something pulls you right back down. You wonder what is trying to drown you, and start to blame yourself for not knowing how to swim. The worse it gets, the colder the water and then you’re numb and too tired and hopeless. Until you resurface again. And get dragged down again. And again.
Anonymous
January 20th, 2020 5:11am
Depression feels like that moment when you’re underwater and the world is silent, and you feel at peace. But then you come to the realization that you cant breathe, and you begin to struggle for air, and as you make your way to the top, you realize you’re all alone, even with people around you. depression feels like when you lay awake at night, its 3 maybe 4 am and it’s completely dark in your room. no noise, just a blissful silence & you enjoy it, until all your thoughts come rushing in and the blissful silence becomes loud with thoughts.
alextair
January 22nd, 2020 3:19pm
People feel depressed for one of the following reasons: 1) They lack vision or they don't have a satisfying goal in their life to head to. 2) They feel that they deserve better life than what they currently have and feel powerless as they cannot change their present. Lets start with 1, you have to have a goal in life something to achieve something to work towards and look forward to, if you had previously had a goal and worked towards it but didn't work out because you couldn't achieve it you need to understand that it is ok and you need to set new goal that feel satisfying for you. Then my second point is very straight forward if you feel you are not happy with your current life look at people who are less fortunate than you first then get up and change your life because you can do it and you are not the sum of your circumstances as you might think. I hope this helped and good luck!
Riah2532
March 3rd, 2020 5:52am
Depression feels like a lack of light, a complete lack of emotions. Except, for emptiness. Just mainly a lack of feeling... and just a black hole. That is all it feels like to me. I have had that feeling, I know it all too well. The thought of never being okay, never being able to smile, or laugh. Just the feeling to constantly wanting to not exist, or breathe, or function... like I said, a complete black hole. It isn't an ideal way to live, but I must say, it is easy, and has no complication. But it truly doesn't have to be that way.
Anonymous
March 22nd, 2020 9:41am
Depression is complicated it’s different for everyone in a way.. for me personally when I’m depressed I feel like there’s a hole in my chest or heart I feel like a piece of me is just missing. I feel hopeless and negative any positive thing said to me I will turn down I feel some sort of constant sadness that I can’t control personally I isolate myself and try not to be around others... depression doesn’t mean your crazy.. it just means your going through something.. and that’s okay.. never be afraid to reach out for help don’t be afraid to ask for help and trust me I know you think no one understands... but so many people understand.
HeyImLala
April 9th, 2020 5:39pm
It can feel like lots of different things. I suffered with depression throughout my teen years. It sometimes felt as if I was numb, that I didn't care about anything anymore. I didn't want to get out of bed because I didn't want to face the day. The thought of going outside, made me feel even worse. I felt like I just wanted to hide from everyone. I didn't have motivation do do anything, even putting normal clothes on, so I would stay in my pyjamas all day. I would stay awake till the early hours, sometimes 6am and then sleep all day and not wake up until the afternoon, sometimes 2/3pm. I'd often just feel this sense of sickness in my stomach and just generally feel so low. You feel like no body understands you, and sometimes, you can't see when it will get better. Then comes the self criticism and feeling like a failure because you've stayed in bed all day, due to depression. You feel like people will think that you're lazy, but in fact it's due to depression. Depression wants you to stay in bed all day. You know that you have a lot of things to do, but you don't do them because you feel like you're unable to, and then you stress about not doing them, which leads to feeling stressed out.
BeesOnFlowers
April 22nd, 2020 10:07pm
Personally, I feel depression as a type of lens that seems to be glued to your face. In my own experience, I found that there is a kind of adhesive that comes with that feeling, like you are aware that there is something altering the way you see because you can see that not very many other people have the same lens on their face. Things look darker and warped as if it isn't truly what is in reality. You feel dampened and almost claustrophobic in your own sight, but there isn't much that is able to remove the lens from your eyes, so you sit and watch others see things that are pretty and inviting, while you only see the warped and distorted version of that thing.
beautifulDreamer7211
June 23rd, 2020 10:08pm
It feels like nothing matters anymore, and all the good parts of yourself don't exist anymore. Emotions are either numbed out or felt to the extreme. Things that used to be simple soon become impossible. It's like running a marathon with sprained ankles, or treading water with weights attached to your ankles. Eventually, you stop having hope for your future, which is the worst pain of all. However, there is hope. There is a crack of light that you catch glimpses of every so often, and you have to hold on to it. Everyone needs to know that they're loved and worth getting better.
Anonymous
July 21st, 2020 3:49am
Depression feels lonely... It's boring. Sometimes I would find myself crying in bed, thinking why oh why do I not have friends to talk to about my problems? Your heart would hurt so much. You wont feel like eating (at least for me). Some people eat more when depressed, I couldn't. When I'm depressed, I'm just depressed. I was desperate not to feel depressed though, so I tried antidepressants. That didn't help much. I felt fake smiling in front of people, pretending to be happy when the truth was I wasn't. What helped me was talking to someone about my troubles.
FawkesCare12
October 8th, 2020 4:55pm
It's truly different for each and every one. So I'll answer from personal experience and from what others have shared with me. There are days where you just want to give up and weeks where you don't understand or see the point of anything. Sometimes you feel excruciating, physical pain and at others you feel nothing and everything seems blank - like you know the world is moving but as if everything just passes you by. In the rare occasion that you feel this sense of happiness, there will most definitely be something that drags you back to that sense of hopelessness, so it's basically reliving a cycle. Sometimes to others it may seem as though whatever happened isn't that bad, but the thing with depression is that all logic is thrown out the window. When you feel blank, you think crying will help. But when you go through that uncontrollable crying spurt, you realize that's not much use. Sometimes you just get angry for no reason and just lash out at somebody. Then you start feeling guilty, questioning your self worth and well the cycle all over again. The worst part is just when you feel you have some clarity and that you have beaten it, that whole depression mood sets. Everything from brushing to walking to talking seems so impossible.
CreativeCasey
October 13th, 2020 8:17pm
Depression feels different to everyone that it affects. To some, it may feel like overwhelming sadness, to others it may feel like nothing, like a dark hole that is hard to get out of. Often it feels like a lack of motivation to do things, including basic daily things. It may be difficult to get out of bed, remember to shower, eat, etc. Depression to me feels like emptiness, I tend to space out and lose track of time feeling like I cannot do anything. I get really sad some days and others I just skate through life like a zombie without feeling anything throughout the day.
Anonymous
June 1st, 2021 6:17am
Depression is classified as a mood disorder. It may be described as feelings of sadness, loss, or anger that interfere with a person’s everyday activities.It’s important to realize that feeling down at times is a normal part of life. Sad and upsetting events happen to everyone. But, if you’re feeling down or hopeless on a regular basis, you could be dealing with depression. Depression is considered a serious medical condition that can get worse without proper treatment. Those who seek treatment often see improvements in symptoms.
ShrutiScarlet
June 6th, 2021 11:58am
Its relative. It's different for everyone. For me personally, depression comes in phases, it starts with crippling anxiety and sadness. The sadness where you just feel like you feel as if you have died, you feel like death is better and your will to live is questionable. You feel this overwhelming sense of anger and sadness with no rational reason. You feel pain and hurt, panic and anxiety. Then comes a phase where u just go numb. You feel nothing but tiredness to your soul, it leaves you not even having the energy to breathe. You feel like the world has collapsed but you are under the debris with no feelings of pain or hurt but emptiness and darkness. Something along those lines.
Anonymous
August 2nd, 2021 2:09pm
For me depression is a bottomless pit. You feel such isolation and loneliness. You feel as though if you seek help, you'll be wasting their time, you feel such a burden onto people. I fell out with a friend at university, and I spiralled into depression and an ED. I couldn't face getting out of bed for weeks and I binged-eat and smoked just to feel something. I went to the Drs, but they just put me on medication and I wasn't offered therapy etc. It was a terrible time in my life. I felt rejected. It was not until I contacted the university mental health support, that I started to build blocks out of the pit.
Anonymous
September 27th, 2021 3:20pm
Depression feels like losing control over your emotions. It's like feeling hopeless, sadness just overwhelms you. It's hard to feel happy, even when good things happen to you. It isn't something you get over the next day, all the pain you've been feeling for so long just consumes you. When you're depressed, it's hard to find anything that matters. I question myself, and I wonder if I'll ever feel better. It's like nothing matters anymore. Depression can be such a lonely feeling for me at least since I feel like my friends don't take me seriously. The overwhelming thoughts and emotions can feel excruciating at times, and there are days when I feel like giving up.
Angelx28
October 21st, 2021 11:37am
Depression is a serious mental health disorder that makes you feel as if you're trapped in darkness with no way out. Many people believe that depression is simply sadness, but it is much more than that. It negatively affects your thinking pattern. You begin to feel sad, low, and empty. You may even be struck by loneliness. Even when surrounded by people, you feel as if you have no one. You feel compelled to isolate yourself and avoid contact with others. At the same time, you feel bad for acting in this manner, even though it is not your fault. You feel as if you're losing or have lost yourself. Because you don't feel like yourself, you're constantly wondering who you're becoming or have become. It's undeniably painful to go through. It becomes more difficult when you are confronted with hopelessness. The sense of hopelessness hits you so hard that you feel as if you're constantly sinking in the darkness and will continue to sink because your brain convinces you that there is no way out. You tend to lose interest in previously enjoyable activities. You are bombarded with negative feelings and emotions, which at times, get so overwhelming and painful. Happiness becomes a rarity for you. It is possible to lose motivation. It becomes difficult to concentrate on anything. This frequently disrupts studies and work. Depression can make you feel as if your life is meaningless. You begin to feel lost or stuck. It can also have a detrimental effect on your self-esteem. It can make you feel useless, worthless, and not good enough. No matter what you do, no matter how much you try, your brain would constantly tell you that you’re not enough, or that you’re a failure. You start to feel horrible about yourself. Depression can also interfere with your daily life by affecting your sleep routine; you either sleep too much or too little. It can also affect your appetite; you either eat more than usual or feel too exhausted and low to eat. Suicidal ideation can be triggered by depression. Anxiety can accompany depression, worsening the situation. It is extremely difficult to handle both depression and anxiety at the same time. It is not necessary that you will experience every symptom of depression. Keep in mind that everyone is unique. Everyone has a different experience with depression, and each one is valid.