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What does depression feel like?

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What does depression feel like?
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yechuri95
January 1st, 2016 6:13pm
Its almost like the end of the world and its like someone is eating us from inside and nt leaving us alone
tessak15
January 1st, 2016 6:20pm
To have both is like constantly worrying about everything while simultaneously caring about nothing.
HakunaMatata2k
January 2nd, 2016 4:55am
In a nutshell some of the key things you will experience is daily feeling tired and being afraid of any dangers around every corner. You never want to fail in what you do and your anxiety makes you worry about this but then depression lacks your motivation to complete any tasks you've set yourself. It's also like wanting to have a really good group of friends yet you're too scared/do not want to socialise and lack any self confidence to socialise at all. One moment you care about every little mistake you make, and then the next you couldn't care less about whether or not you wake up in the morning, It's dark but it's true, they're some things anxiety and depression can do to you.
Anonymous
January 2nd, 2016 6:13am
Anxiety is, in one word, insidious. It's something that you don't realize is actually a problem until you've been suffering from it for quite a while. It commonly leads to physical symptoms such as muscle tension, headaches, sleeping problems, and nausea, and many people will first assume that these symptoms have a physical cause rather than a mental one. Anxiety makes it difficult to focus, and it makes you excessively worry about even the stupidest of things, and no matter how much you want to, you can't stop. I don't have depression myself, but I have a friend who does. She's constantly struggling to complete assignments on time due to a lack of motivation. Her sleeping schedule is horrendous, and she often forgets/doesn't care enough to eat -- she started regularly meeting friends for lunch so that she could ensure that she'd at least eat one meal a day. Other common symptoms of depression are a loss of interest in formerly pleasurable activities (anhedonia) and a general lack of energy.
ryanccomety
January 2nd, 2016 12:31pm
At one moment, your depression is telling you that you don't care what happens. Then the next moment, your anxiety is screaming and clawing at you to do something. Having depression and anxiety is a constant war inside of yourself. Though, there are no winners.
Leah2016
January 2nd, 2016 7:41pm
It is not a nice thing to experience and upsets people and their lives talking to people can help alot
arthurka
January 2nd, 2016 9:41pm
It makes it more difficult to lead a normal life, you feel very conflicted and sometimes you feel tired and just need to sleep and sometimes it just keeps you awake all night!
Anonymous
January 3rd, 2016 9:14am
It's like... you're in a trapped box that only you can see, no one understands it and you try your best to get over it but you always end up in the box again. It's like you are chained up to this box.
Anonymous
January 3rd, 2016 3:24pm
I saw something online a while ago. "Depression is not caring about everything, anxiety is caring too much about everything". When you have both, it can be similar to cognitive dissonance, where your mind has conflicting beliefs. Your behaviour can seem odd, and can sometimes actually frustrate yourself and others. You might say one thing and mean something completely different. And it applies to everything, not just when talking about mental health.
Yourfairygodbro
January 3rd, 2016 9:45pm
Having depression and anxiety is like feeling like the world has the best things and it wants to keep them away from you, its like you know you deserve the best but you don't have it and like you're never gonna have it. But if you try harder than anyone else, you're already better than everything.
shiningWinter67
January 6th, 2016 2:46am
A prison with no where to go which gives constant mental torture to keep you on your toes. Not once can you let your guard down.
SoberHulk
January 6th, 2016 10:58pm
Depression feels like there is nothing good in the world. It is a complete empty and hopeless feeling. It is hard to be positive and envision anything good with major depression weighing on you. Anxiety is the feeling of being very nervous for no apparent reason. You feel very uneasy and uncomfortable. It sometimes makes it hard to sleep or hard to be around other people.
positiveLove82
January 7th, 2016 4:07am
Depression and anxiety make you feel hopeless, not good enough, scared and feeling like it will never go away. It's an awful feeling and that's why I have such compassion towards people who suffer from it because me, myself suffer with it daily.
Doc3Mar
January 7th, 2016 11:13am
It sucks. Especially at first. And the middle part. You have good days and bad days. I learned what my triggers were for anxiety and depression and try to work around them. Its not necessarily being completely broken and anxious 24/7, it is more like just going through the motions day by day.
Anonymous
January 8th, 2016 10:58am
Having both of these problems together is very difficult. Depression causes mild anxiety alone, and having GAD or social anxiety disorder on top of the depression seems to only make things worse for the person who is suffering. Depression causes feelings of nothing, loneliness, anxiety, and sadness at times. Anxiety causes depressive episodes to be escalated due to the nervousness of being depressed in the first place.
Anonymous
January 8th, 2016 3:36pm
Depression is a type of sadness you anger you get sometimes randomly. And anxiety is like being worried about something a lot
IAmReallyFreya
January 9th, 2016 11:34pm
It's a big struggle, but it can be managable. In my experience, it feels like you're afraid of being a failure, and you're scared of wasting your life away, but you have no motivation to make changes, or live life to the full. But, with the right support you can get through it:)
TheLoreWriter
January 10th, 2016 6:16am
One way to put it is like this. Depression can make it so that you can't care enough about anything, while anxiety will make you care too much about everything. Having both together is unbearable. Depression has many different faces, as does anxiety, but from my personal experience, there are two big ones in depression. One side of it is when you can't feel happy, and nothing helps you feel anything positive or good. You're not just sad, you're incapable of seeing things or feeling things in a good way. It's why when people say cheer up, or that "you just need to decide to be happy", that it can drive me nuts. The other side to this is when you can't feel anything at all. Positive or negative, the feelings and emotions are muted if you can even feel them. It can be difficult to get past either one, but once you find something or someone that makes you feel good about yourself, it can be what you need.
Anonymous
January 10th, 2016 10:43am
It is like having an herd of elephants running over your chest and also over any thought of yours which has the slightest positive background. And when the elephants are out of sight they just leave emptiness
Andrei2090
January 10th, 2016 7:02pm
It is both a heavy and empty feeling. Imagine a black and white, silent movie, in which you are its spectator, all while living inside it all.
ThatSweetGuy2511
January 10th, 2016 7:33pm
For Depression... It's the feeling of not wanting to wake up and take on the day everyday. It's the feeling of hopelessness and sadness. It's the feeling of everything closing in around you as you struggle to fight your mind daily. It's the feeling of loneliness even if you have many friends. For Anxiety, it's the feeling that you're in danger, it's like you are losing control of your life and you have constant racing thoughts along with physical pain. Anxiety can turn minutes into hours... It feels like there's no way out...
Meowitslavender
January 13th, 2016 3:15am
It is like having the worst of both worlds. When fear and hopelessness collide, the outcome is never pretty. For those of us who struggle with both, it is a constant battle.
mike251
January 13th, 2016 5:21pm
It is debilitating. You continually think negatively, you lose hope, and you see no way out or no way to get better from your condition. It is a tragic disease to have. I have went through both of them, but eventually made the decision that I did not want to feel this way anymore. Depression and Anxiety make it hard for you to come to that realization, but if you do just get fed up with poor feelings you too can overcome it. Remember that they are only temporary, if you tackle them. Some people; however, have diseases that predispose them to these conditions, and should seek medical help. The majority of people with these conditions can be helped with CBT, which is what I used to help myself overcome the grips of Anxiety and Depression.
blissfulGrace86
January 13th, 2016 5:33pm
Hell
allthelove99
January 13th, 2016 7:48pm
Not fun. The two contradict each other and are sort of opposites in a way. Depression makes me lose all my motivation and I simply feel low and useless and lethargic and pointless. There's guilt and feelings of hopelessness too. When you have anxiety and depression together, its like you have two voices in your head, the depression saying: "Hey, don't go to school today. There's no point. It's pointless. You're worthless." ; and the anxiety saying: "But this is the third day. You've probably missed so much and you're probably failing everything and will flunk out of high school." They work together and make beat you down. If you have either depression or anxiety, it's a good idea to get help.
bubblyPainting40
January 14th, 2016 2:24am
I always worry about everything. I am often paranoid for no reason. Sometimes it can be a look or a simple statement and in my mind it becomes something else.
Alika3113
January 14th, 2016 7:42am
Anxiety is when you care too much about everything and it all builds up inside you until it's all you can think about. You can feel it in your chest and throat. It's like drowning but watching everyone around you breathing.
thereness
January 14th, 2016 8:07am
Depression, It's like drowning, and you don't even need water to feel it. And the worst part, Everyone around you is breathing and telling you to learn how to swim.
Anonymous
January 15th, 2016 10:12am
It can be very overwhelming and lonely, as there can be a lot of negative thoughts on your mind for a lot of the time. However it can be overcome, and the good days feel triumphant
Anonymous
January 15th, 2016 12:02pm
For me depression and anxiety is like having a wall in front of your face. Depression is more like indifference to the world. And anxiety is a loss of control. It's like an inability to process everything. The world keeps spinning and you cant keep up. You're in a dream that you can't wake up from. Your body is asleep and your eyes and mind are awake.