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What to do when you're lonely and have no friends?

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Last Updated: 06/01/2020 at 4:44pm
What to do when you're lonely and have no friends?
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Top Rated Answers
unbrokenlikeme
April 24th, 2016 10:37pm
Do something that you really love, something that makes you to feel calm and safe about you're doing :)
greatfulHeart
May 15th, 2016 8:58pm
Go on the intdrnst and talk to strangers, or on 7 cup there are plenty of listeners out there willing to talk to you
JUSTYOU121
May 20th, 2016 12:54am
I listen to music and watch movies to relate. I do what I love which is painting and I love to work hard
nlpinspiration
May 20th, 2016 2:38pm
I ussually start connection with my inner world, or some self care technique. That is how the time can be used.
Anonymous
May 22nd, 2016 8:23am
Try making new friends and if you fail in doing so try enganging yourself in useful activities you are interested in and try spending most of the time with your family
samsNeptune
May 25th, 2016 11:09pm
I usually go on Tumblr or Instagram and find people to talk to or talk to my internet friend. I may also listen to music or try and write something as a creative outlet. I sometimes take certain song lyrics and make a story out of those.
ElizabethLovesYou
May 26th, 2016 3:23pm
I don't think anybody truly has no friends. Sometimes, you have friends without even realizing it. If you find yourself missing social contact, the best thing to do has to be reaching out. Loneliness is an emotion no human being should ever have to experience. You deserve better than that.
Anonymous
May 29th, 2016 8:04am
Being lonely and having no friends need not be looked down as a curse. It could be taken up as an opportunity to learn more about yourself and investing time in the betterment of your weak points. Being lonely is not an insecurity but an opportunity.
hopenauer77
June 1st, 2016 10:00am
Watch movies, eat lots of junk food make friends or achieve your goals you have set out for yourself.
saddandelion22
June 2nd, 2016 2:20am
Being lonely and being friendless can be very tough. I myself have gone through these. To occupy yourself, you can read books, listen to music, watch movies, write how you feel, the possibilities are endless. And you need to remember that there are 7 billion people in this world, and there are a lot of great people and eventually you will find your true friends.
Helpfulhedgehog21
June 2nd, 2016 4:05am
I enjoy going on the buddy project and chatting with someone who has similar interests. It's a great way to meet people
Anonymous
June 4th, 2016 6:40am
when we are lonely and have no friends , we should definitely try to go out and make someone , like people around you , in your neighborhood, see people around you and try to talk to them , i too had this problem of mingling with other people but i soon learnt that if we refrain from talking to people then we will lag behind , so its better to talk to people rather than sitting and lamenting about having no friends.
Anonymous
June 6th, 2016 8:48pm
I has faced this problem multiple times over the years. The only thing I can say for sure is that at that point in time, the issue about not having friends and not having a food social standing and not being popular enough may seem huge and may very well dominate your entire thought process. As in, you'll be thinking about that and only that all the time. At such times, you much remember that family comes first and muat focus on bring your family closer instead of pushing them away. Next, try to initiate conversations with people you are comfortable with however difficult it seems.
honeybooxx7428
June 12th, 2016 3:28pm
when you're lonely and have nobody to talk to you should get involved in things such as youth groups etc. You would be able to communicate with more people roughly the same age, like you. It'll be a fun way to interact with other kids/teens, easy to get to know people and a good way to keep your child safe from the streets etc.
ladycat946
June 23rd, 2016 5:03am
You can try to do an activity you think you would enjoy, trying new things like playing a new sport, begin to paint, watching a new movie, etc. The main goal is to challenge yourself, and get out of your comfort zone to keeping you entertained :)
BabarUetian
June 29th, 2016 12:13pm
I used to come to this site and talk with strangers here help them and support them in their daily life problems and make them my friends so i feel better. Thats what i do when i feel lonely
Anonymous
July 1st, 2016 12:10pm
It is very often I find myself with no one to talk to. I usually listen to music that makes me smile and reminds of a beautiful place or time. Sometimes I watch funny videos that remind me of all the happiness in the world
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2016 8:21pm
I always find something that makes me happier than friends like hobbies. Reading, dancing, watching videos and or listening to music on a daily basis.
Shikamaru42
June 1st, 2020 4:44pm
There's two options, really; find friends that will stop you from being alone and thus lonely, or stop being lonely when you're alone. That might sound harsh, but it's what it comes down to. And a lot of people don't intuitively see the second option. Now, to make both feasible, I would recommend you try to think of a few things you like doing or that you have always wanted to try or that at least sound kinda sorta interesting. Then try to find ways to do these things more or less regularly. Some of the things might be group activities, some might be typically done alone. The former can help you find friends, the latter can help you get more out of your alone time and, over time, feel less lonely when you're spending time with yourself. My working theory is that both these "pillars" are important for a healthy life, so don't be afraid of combating loneliness with single-person hobbies even if it sounds counter-intuitive, but try to have at least one of each kind. If you're struggling to find group activities that interest you, get creative with interests you already have; e.g. reading can be a group activity if you're in a book club. Once you've made a selection that sounds good to you, there are different hurdles to overcome for the two kinds of activities; group activities are hard to start (cause you need a group that shares the interest) but usually easy to keep up if your group is sufficiently motivated. There's schedules and appointments. Single activities are easy to start but hard to keep up (cause humans are lazy). A simple and rather reliable way to keep up single activities is to treat them like group activities; use appointments and schedules to organize them. Make them your job, and be the friend that gets sad or the boss that gets mad when you don't show up. A good way to start group activities is offered by the modern miracle that is the internet. There's groups and forums for everything. E.g. if you're looking to found a book club, go on reddit, post your request on r/books or a similar subreddit, and chances are you'll be good to go in no time. That's all I have. Good luck! And remember that being alone doesn't have to be the same as being lonely. Single activities are also important, and they can be great fun.
comfortableMoment03
April 27th, 2016 4:17pm
Join Meet Up, prepare delicacies at home, join hobby classes/fitness club, join NGOs, write articles,poems, work
JohnCena11
April 28th, 2016 12:50am
Find a hobby
Anonymous
April 28th, 2016 6:47pm
You can try be more productive, for example, focus on your career. Or maybe start a new hobby, try to become a master at something, like playing the piano or drawing. If you become excessively lonely, you should read a book on how to make friends and be more likable. Having friends is very important because they will be there for you when you need them or simply because they make you happy.
Anonymous
May 4th, 2016 11:05pm
Every person has a time to enter our lives. To make friends start being one. Be confident and make friends. And dont feel lonely because there is always someone who loves u
ShatteredPain
May 12th, 2016 9:16pm
Try to make new ones. Talk to other people, find out their interests. Who knows? Maybe you guys will have something in common!
NicolePereira
May 14th, 2016 7:01am
join a club, play a musical instrument, dance to wii music anything possible to keep urself happy, (:::
KaylaAayla
May 18th, 2016 7:11am
I usually take part in one of my favorite hobbies, typically video games where I can connect to strangers who share the same interest as me. This helps me avoid isolation and has the potential to develop friends.
Anonymous
May 18th, 2016 1:48pm
I read books. I talk to myself. I write. There's nothing in this world which can give you more happiness than talking to yourself.
JasonT
May 19th, 2016 2:05pm
Fins ways to make friends. e.g. you could join a support group. If this isnt an option for you, try finding a way to distract yourself. Maybe you could try making youtube videos?
Anonymous
May 19th, 2016 5:05pm
its up to you i used to struggle with that but then a found a small group of people just like me and then we became friends
LucyInTheSky
May 20th, 2016 12:49am
When I feel lonely, I come to 7COT to talk to my regular people or I take a walk to the park. You never know who you might meet!