Skip to main content Skip to bottom nav

Why do people think that I'm depressed to get attention?

42 Answers
Last Updated: 03/02/2020 at 9:23am
Why do people think that I'm depressed to get attention?
1 Tip to Feel Better
United States
Moderated by

Stacy Overton, PhD.


I am an enthusiastic life-long learner and also a professor of counseling. I have a passion for peoples stories and helping to guide and empower the human spirit.

Top Rated Answers
February 13th, 2015 10:44pm
A lot of people just don't understand depression, and don't know how to react when they meet someone that's clinically depressed. Try not to blame them for their ignorance; it's simply a consequence of the society we live in. Know that here, on 7 Cups, you're in a safe space, filled with people that understand and are willing to take you seriously.
April 19th, 2016 2:33pm
Some people just don't understand what depression is. They think that we are overreacting. They think that we want attention. I believe that it is a lack of knowledge. If people have not experienced depression, they think that we are making a big deal out of nothing. However, those people are ignorant in regards to depression. They don't know what it's like. This is mainly why I think people tend to think such things. We know what it's like, her on 7 cups. Many of us have experienced depression so know that you are not alone. We are here for you and we know that no one pretends to be depressed for attention. It's a real struggle and you deserve all the help that you can get. We are here for you. We understand you.
June 23rd, 2015 8:19pm
Why do u care about people , sometimes all u have to do is just mute the whole world and live for yourself you're not born to please people and I hope you find the right person who doesn't judge :)
August 4th, 2015 1:45am
They don't really think that, they just want to think that because believing you are actually depressed scares or overwhelms them--also, they're probably in the habit of dismissing & invalidating you and if they started taking you seriously now they would have to admit they were wrong the whole time. Essentially, they are lazy cowards.
December 21st, 2015 9:43pm
People suffering from mental health are still poorly understood by people who are unfamiliar with these issues. Depression is a complex problem that invades all sphere of the life of those who suffer from it and it's hard for most people to really understand what goes on into your head. Ignorance is the root of all jugments.
April 11th, 2015 10:05am
Because they've never been depressed and cannot relate to it at all. Since it is an alien concept to them, the idea of people faking it to get attention is a plausible explanation to them.
December 7th, 2015 2:45am
That's only because they want you to snap out of your depression. They believe that they are helping you
June 30th, 2015 1:12am
the symptoms of depression can manifest themselves in a very external manner and the extra noticeably you are displaying may lead people who do not properly understand the problem to think you are doing it for attention.
January 25th, 2016 8:53pm
Because they are not depressed and they don't understand you. It really amazes them the fact that you're revealing you're sad because people use to pretend they're always happy. Being sad is normal. If you feel like crying, do it, you have feelings. Ask for help and advice and you will feel better. I'm always here!
June 7th, 2016 6:18am
In my experience, it can sometimes be because we DO need attention, and needing attention should never be seen as a bad thing. We all need attention, care, and support in order to cope effectively with our emotions, especially when we are dealing with something as difficult as depression. Alternatively, it may be because of the stigma surrounding mental health issues, or because of a misunderstanding on the part of those who imagine you're seeking their attention. They may also have their own issues that they're dealing with which cause them to lash out at you unnecessarily. Whatever the reason, please know that this is definitely not a "you" problem! This is someone else's problem.
May 28th, 2015 6:06pm
Some people might have issues with the idea of things like that. Especially with people on the internet and in their weird "Cool kids trends" that involve pretending to have mental issues that make people perceive different veiws.
December 22nd, 2015 5:12am
Because they are uneducated about depression. I think a lot of people are afraid of depression as well, so they aren't sure how to respond.
December 29th, 2015 1:41pm
Most of the people don't understand depression, and it's a difficult thing to talk about, they are not really judging you, it's just something you don't understand when you're not going through it. Just acknowledge that they might misunderstand you and what you're going through.
January 11th, 2016 10:35am
Because people don't know what it's like. They only see the fake parts of you that you can muster. They can't know what you're going through. So they make an excuse. They tell themselves that it's just for attention because they've never had heart-wrenching depression.
January 12th, 2016 2:25am
Because some time they see this outgoing person and have issues of their own so it's easier for them to put some one else down then face their issues.
May 30th, 2016 6:01pm
There are lots of negative connotations associated with depression, such as attention-seeking. This is due to some people being uneducated and not understanding depression for what it is. Usually these people have only seen social media where people have uploaded pictures of their scars or dramatic paragraphs where they romanticise mental illness, which leads them to believe that this is what everyone suffering from depression is like, rather than the minority.
August 15th, 2016 8:57pm
Sadly there is a minority of people in the world who pretend to have a mental disorder to gain attention which can cause even more stigma against depression and the people who struggle with it. The best way to deal with it is to explain to these people that you have genuine struggles with it and need support.
September 19th, 2016 11:30pm
A lot of people who think people who say they have depression are asking for attention because they do not understand it themselves. They do not realize that it is a disease that should not be taken lightly.
February 19th, 2018 7:40pm
Some people may not understand depression so they think you are doing it for attention. Some people are just awful though. It helps to ignore those people and focus on the people that really care.
September 21st, 2015 5:09pm
When people don't understand they make up excuses to account for people's behaviour. Sadly this is one thing they assume which is WRONG!
November 24th, 2015 11:30am
People think this because they don't understand. They haven't been through what you are. Just ignore them.
January 26th, 2016 5:56pm
Sometimes people around you can't deal with things they din't understand, like depression. It can be scary for people, and they feel the need to rationalize it in some way. Saying that it's only for attention is a way of doing that.
May 10th, 2016 5:07pm
They probably have never had depression themselves, so they don't understand that you're not trying to get attention.
June 28th, 2016 4:08am
They don't understand depression so they think that you're seeking attention. You should teach them about depreasion to gain an inner sight
July 12th, 2016 4:03am
Some people just don't understand depression. It hurts when no one understands what you are feeling. I wish everyone could understand that no one with depression is doing it for attention; it would make getting help so much easier.
August 8th, 2016 8:07am
Because they never feel what you feel, pe just because they like to see you in this situation. Just try to show they that you really need help or just tell someone who you trust the most and ignore the rest of peoples.
August 8th, 2016 11:48pm
Perhaps the people that think this never have experienced depression, maybe you can share pamphlets with them if it is appropriate.
August 23rd, 2016 8:09pm
Mabye people think that because they really dont understand what depression is :) Try , for instance , explaining to them what depression is and what a serious issue can become without the proper help :)
October 18th, 2016 10:30am
I get to hear this on daily basis, lol. Nobody can understand you tbvh. Let them be in your shoes and then they'll know what really being depressed feels like.
December 12th, 2016 12:38pm
Maybe they, themselves are lonely and looking to bring up others to get attention. People can be insensitive about themselves and others. They may not be secure in themselves, especially if they are young or in their teens. People don't know what to believe, and sometimes believing something that is negative or not true can be a trend. The lesson is to not let other people's beliefs of you define you, as well as your disorder if you have depression. Be defined by the things that are beautiful inside, because you are beautiful.